Add to Heart | In any romantic relationship, be secure in the Lord | Ptr. Marty Ocaya

[Music] good afternoon elevate and welcome to the online youth service come on wherever you are right now let's worship our wonderful wonderful guy searched the world but it couldn't fill me man's empty praise and treasures that fade are never enough you came along and put me back together and every desire is now satisfied oh here nothing better than you lord there's nothing better than you lord there's nothing nothing is better than yours i'm not afraid [Music] lord you've seen them all [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] is not a place [Applause] [Music] nothing is [Music] [Applause] foreign nothing is better [Music] you turn [Music] [Applause] [Music] you're the only one [Music] you're the only one who cares for there's nothing better than you lord there's nothing better than you lord there's nothing [Music] [Music] is [Music] [Music] you're the only one who came [Music] the you're me only one who can turn it all around lord [Music] we'll lift you up we raise your name that is 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and what not to say and may you use his words mightily father god to for us to hear your message father god we praise you we thank you in jesus name we pray amen amen am i there there you go so thank you albert that's one of our campus missionaries good afternoon good day to everyone i'm back i thank you guys for praying for me and my family my wife just gave birth last week so we have a new addition to our family but before i show the picture of the new edition i just want to greet everyone happy valentines belated okay i know it was late already but i hope you had a wonderful valentine's week and of course we are still in this loved month so let me show you the new addition to our family this is baby samwell okay so that's a new addition to our growing family i really praise god for the strength he has given to my wife of course and to us as well and to you guys who have been praying for us thank you so much for praying uh it was uh i think this was the toughest for my wife but praise god he helped my wife bring out this wonderful baby so baby samuel so we're continuing our series and again this is the love month and uh our series entitled add to heart and the reason why we want this to become you know this this this is our topic and we have different topics we talked about last week uh about labels why it's very important to put labels and to make it clear right in the word that in the world that's there's so many unclear things right it's very important to put clarity in certain things so as we continue this series the reason why we have this is because our desire so look at this our desire is for each one of you to avoid unnecessary pain when it comes to romantic relationships right so we want you to avoid unnecessary pain wait look we are marty so you mean to say there's such a thing as necessary pain definitely there's such a thing as necessary pain meaning to say god will allow us to experience pain in certain areas when it comes to romantic relationship for us to learn and grow but the thing is there are unnecessary pain that we could have avoided for example unnecessary delays sometimes because we entered in a wrong relationship we have unnecessary delays right or sometimes because we entered a a wrong relationship or a not right in not in the right way we have unnecessary tensions we have unnecessary conflicts and we want you guys especially you guys who are still single our young people still studying in high school college or even if you've graduated already but you know it's not yet the right time or that person is not the right person we want you to avoid unnecessary pain okay so can you tag your friends there sabihim as a principle i don't want you guys to get hurt i don't want you you are necessary of course there is what we call unnecessary necessary pain but we don't want you to experience that that's why we have this series because the truth about all of us is this we add to our heart when i say add to our heart we uh we enter into a romantic relationship uh or we try to pursue a girl or we try to you know get to know this guy or whatever that is we add to our heart even if we are not sure why do we do that why do you add to your heart even though you're not sure why do you add to your heart even though you are not secure you personally you're not in you're you're not secure you're insecure why do you do that why do you add to your heart even though you're not ready have you ever asked that question because that's a very important question to ask living in a world right now where young people high school and college students they just want to enter a relationship left and right they don't care what the world says in fact if you read if you watch vloggers today the popular vloggers there are a lot of vloggers that would tell you just enter look at us look at our relationship we're living in in this house we're not married but we're happy and those are all lies they may be happy externally but that's not secure it's not secure and that's why we want you to avoid unnecessary pain because a lot of people nowadays they enter into a relationship they add to their heart even if they're not sure even if they're not secure and even if they're not ready why do you do that for some people look at their reasons some of them would say i want to be happy korean marty devo we live in the word they like that i just want to be happy can you just let me be i i want to be happy and this guy makes me happy or this girl makes me happy so let me just be happy hollywood would say that sometimes even k drama would say that i'm watching a a k drama recently and the the story revolves around this person desiring to be happy i love my life i want to be happy that's what this person is saying for some people their excuses i deserve it you have to understand my pastor marty i've been hurt many times my parents weren't there for me my parents are separated i don't feel loved and then there's this guy who expressed concern spends time with me chats me every day until maybe 2 am nobody has ever given me that attention oh guilty but you get what i'm talking about some people they say that i deserve it i haven't experienced this game high school i deserve it some people that's what they say for some people they say others are happy why shouldn't i be happy right if there are people who doesn't love the lord they're happy i want to experience that and i think having a relationship will allow me to experience that and again that's a misconception that i want to deal with as we go on with our topic today for some people this is what they say i want to take a risk for the sake of my happiness again it revolves around happiness i know what you're saying kuya mars i know i'm not yet ready or i'm not sure if this is going to lead to marriage why would i let it go why would i stop it even if i'm not sure if even if i'm not secure even if i'm not ready why would i stop it i'm going to take a risk back i'm at work another reason is i believe this is going to work right young determination okay marge you're you're getting me wrong i know in a hindi time that maybe god is saying that but i can make this work i can balance it i know what to do even if my parents say no even if i'm not yet ready even if i don't know if this is gonna lead to marriage i'm gonna make this work right and for some people the reason is this i've gotten hurt many times just like this i deserve it so please just let me be now you may have all of those reasons or maybe none of these but maybe you have your own reasons that even if you're not sure even if you're not secure even if you're not ready you want to enter in a romantic relationship and here i am to tell you it's going to be problematic you know why this statement centered on the word happiness we live in the world that people all maybe majority are looking for happiness in the wrong place or they're placing their happiness in the wrong foundation why is that very problematic and some people would say this how can something that makes me happy become wrong and some people that's what you would tell your friends your d group mates maybe your parents maybe your loved ones who is against your relationship telling you how can something that makes me happy become wrong look at this chart happiness in the wrong foundation equals disaster have you ever experienced disaster in your life for example maybe if you live in the marikina area and then it got flooded because of undoi or recently last year when it got flooded that's a disaster what's the feeling when you experience a disaster when you experience a disaster it's uncomfortable there's no peace there's that uncertainty now what's gonna happen i don't know there's the devastating feeling why are we experiencing this that's what happens when someone places their happiness in the wrong foundation what are wrong foundations if your happiness is in that person that guy or that girl that's a wrong foundation if your happiness is in the relationship that's a wrong foundation if your happiness is in money that's the wrong foundation if your happiness is in marriage it's having kids or being successful in life those things are wrong foundations wait a minute you know foundations the majority of the people in this world problematics of the world not today because their happiness is in the wrong foundation definitely it's gonna be a disaster and a problem nothing even if we know this as long as we don't change the foundation [Laughter] but foundation so even if it changed my own happiness small let's say i'm going to be happy because of this wrong parenting foundation it will end up in a disaster until we change the foundation that's the only time the equation will change so if happiness is in the right foundation then definitely there's gonna be certainty it's not just blessing it's not just gonna give you happiness because here's the thing this one i tell you it's gonna give you happiness temporarily it's gonna be give you happiness maybe for a season but then when the going gets tough when you realize that your foundation is not secure then boom there's disaster but when your happiness is in the right foundation i tell you in the long run and for the rest of your life there is certainty all of us are here's what i know all of us you know that this person will be for your for the rest of your life you're going to marry this person when you know that this person will not cheat on you the because of the certainty will not deceive you or not will not manipulate you will be faithful to you certainty but that only happens when your happiness is in the right foundation that's why our message for today but before i say that let's look at this thing first one of the major problems of putting happiness in the wrong foundation is we tend to make the wrong things right because we put our happiness in the wrong foundation in a twist way right we tend to do that that's why our message today is this in any romantic relationship be secure in the lord can you type that there type is a type box youtube and it's a facebook page nothing just say to your friends in any romantic relationship if you are in a romantic relationship make sure that your security is in the lord your foundation is in the lord if you are trying to pursue a relationship make sure that your security is in the lord if you're in the waiting stage majority of the people right now listening you're in the waiting stage right now you're still waiting you're still studying make sure that your security is in the lord when your security is in the lord like what i said earlier it means that your foundation is the lord it means the hindi or hindi worried it means the kind of single majority of your friends are having a relationship it's totally okay you're not gonna use your past to make an excuse to enter a relationship you're not gonna make your your your situation right now how difficult it may be as an excuse to enter a relationship why because your security is in the lord so what's our message in any romantic relationship what be secure in the lord what what does that mean arabic being on look at this here's my definition of security in the lord security in the lord means that i trust his will so i trust his will and if i truly trust his will i'm gonna seek his guidance in every aspect of my life so when it comes to love life i trust him okay i shouldn't pursue any girl who doesn't love the lord i'm not gonna say yes to a guy who doesn't love the lord i'm not gonna do sexual immorality i mean all those things i'm gonna wait i'm not gonna be i'm not gonna deceive i'm not gonna manipulate i'm not going to enter a relationship i'm going to seek his guidance yelling a i'm going to trust his will so when my security is in the lord i trust his will and i seek his guidance in every aspect of my life and problem question is we say we trust his will but we don't seek his guidance or maybe we seek his guidance but we don't follow him we don't obey alumna not the clear path step by step but we don't go to that path we go to our own route and that's disastrous it just says that our security is not in the lord but in the relationship that's why when your your security or my security is in the lord i trust his will and i seek his guidance look at this passage let's read psalm 46 verse 1 and 2. what it means when your security is in the lord god is our refuge security foundation strength and ever-present help in trouble what's the result if your security is in the lord when you trust him seek his guidance you follow him the result is this therefore we will not fear gus in life you're not afraid that even if you're still single and other people are getting married you're okay that even if you crush smokers you may get hurt but you're not devastated that's what it means when you will not fear because did you get this i hope this is getting into your heads and in your hearts that you're realizing that sometimes our tendency is yes we say our security is in the lord pero soprano it's okay to get hurt but it's easy to let go you're not devastated you're not afraid though the earth give way and the mountains fall look at the description of the psalmist he's saying even if the things in this world is crumbling apart because my foundation is the lord i'm totally secure the heart of the seas even if this is happening it's totally okay look at this passage where we're going to focus at psalm 15 guys read it meditate on it we're gonna study this in a while but look at the last part of verse five whoever does these things i'm gonna explain what these things are will never be shaken oh because i'm gonna get a classy life that i'm not gonna you know a lot of people you by nila lord they easily get swayed they easily get deceived they easily get get hurt with other things why because they compare they look at other things their eyes are fixed on the things in this world they don't look to jesus constantly they don't look to jesus constantly depending on him because whenever we does these things what are these things later i'm going to show to you you will not be shaken we need to have a strong heart in a world where it makes our hearts weaker do you see that the world tries to make our hearts weaker why it gives us other options other foundations apart from god which will never be fully secure if you want to be not shaken okay what's our message in every romantic relationship be what secure in the lord so let me explain that let me explain what this means when you say you are secure in the lord i am quality in life how does that show physically what's gonna happen in the way you're late with people what's gonna happen when you try to pursue a romantic relationship what's gonna happen when you try to wait what's gonna happen when you try to interact with this opposite sex what does that mean when you are secure in the lord are you ready so if you're ready let's look at this and let's study psalm chapter 15. let's look at verse one five verses lent up they're so powerful verse 1 the psalmist says lord who may dwell in your sacred tent who may live on your holy mountain because the psalmist is saying that if you stay in the presence of god there's absolute security that's what he's saying so who may stay in your tent who may live in your holy mountain so senior qualified to do that who is qualified to not be shaken what kind of act what kind of life look at what he says verse 2 the one whose walk is blameless no the word blameless here it means that you are right you are whole meaning to say there's integrity meaning to say you are a righteous person you are consistent at home and outside following the lord you're blameless it doesn't mean you're perfect but you're whole who does what is righteous the word righteous here is in the standard of god righteousness in god's eyes righteousness in the standards of god so when my life is blameless and righteous it means i'm not going to be shaken that's one part of it who speaks the truth from their heart focus number one when i say that my security is in the lord i desire to please god i want to start with that point because the other points will be impossible if your desire is not to please god now you grew up in church you attend sunday school you attend elevate you attend a sunday service but your heart doesn't desire to please god your desire is to please yourself your desire is to you know you know to please the lust of your flesh and when that's your desire the other things will be difficult but if your desire is to please god because i'm blameless and righteous to please god it starts with that in fact that's the main part of this message that we need to focus on the other things automatically when i desire to please god if my desire is to please god muswina because it starts in the heart i've asked one of our musicians who played earlier to share his testimony of how you know so many things happened in his life entered in many relationships tried to please his own flesh but eventually he realized it was empty and eventually he learned this lesson and eventually he encountered the lord i mean this person grew up in church this person grew up in church peru in desire to please god but somehow that all changed so let's all welcome mr renzo good afternoon i grew up in a christian environment and i was heavily influenced by my family and the christians around me i attended sunday school and also got exposed to the youth ministry at a young age i served in various ministries and was active especially in the music ministry as a bachelor's kid my parents raised me with godly values and principles however i wasn't able to live these out because i did not have a relationship with jesus being in the ministry and hearing many testimonies instead of longing in my in in me to explore wealthy things at the age of 15 14 i started using and selling marijuana and was into cocaine and other drugs i smoked two packs of cigarettes a day i often went to parties and got drunk and i was engaged in sexual immorality i influenced my christian friends and relatives into doing vices despite actively serving in the ministry i was living a double life showing people an image that i was a godly and faithful servant of the lord the reason i was still active in the ministry was because of the pressure i had in maintaining a pastor's kid image and also my underlying intentions of flirting with women it's commonly known in our church as evangelical and disciple chicks having these intentions gave me the desire to constantly be in relationships and flings i entered into my first official relationship at the age of 15 and still had multiple sexual relationships with other women i had an excessive desire for being in relationships but i was never satisfied with any of them while searching for satisfaction in these i yearned for for fulfillment in one of one relationship instead of many dating became my life i never felt complete unless i was with a girl that i wanted to be with i unknowingly placed my security in all these relationships whenever things didn't go my way i felt like it was the end of my life because of this i eventually felt so lost i couldn't stand the thought of not being with a person that i liked and i was always willing to risk everything just to get here i became obsessed with the thought of relationships there was a void in my heart and i wanted to fill it with real love and contentment no matter how i tried that void could not be filled all my relationships got worse to the point where they affected the people around me especially my family conflicts and issues followed me everywhere in every church satellite that i went to and served at i was branded from a pastor's kid to the guy who had a girl in every satellite my double life was still blind my double life was exposed but it wasn't enough to open my eyes i was still blinded and took it against the church and the lord and label them as condemning people soon after the consequences of my sinful life caught up to me when my sexual relationships with church members were consecutively exposed it felt as if i wanted to vanish or kill myself because of the shame that i have brought upon my family and myself the pastor's kid image was gone and i altogether stopped serving and distanced myself from the lord from the church from my family and to the lord despite my sinfulness god used my family to pursue and love me unconditionally which finally made me see the love that i was looking for so desperately in the in the chaos both my immediate and church family reached out reached out to me and walked with me consistently when i was in multiple relationships that's when i felt the most alone however when i had nowhere to turn to that's when i found the comfort of love himself that's when i knew that my security should be found in him i was compelled to surrender all my vices and ungodly relationships to the lord god replaced my my romantic relationships with real love from my family accountability partners and discipleship group the love that i felt from these people led me to see the love of christ and prioritize my relationship with jesus galatians 2 20 says i have been crucified with christ and it is no longer i who live but christ lives in me and the life which i now live in the flesh i live by faith in the son of god who loved me and gave himself up to me for me by god's grace i am now living a life that is pleasing to the lord holding on not to the things of this world but his promises my security is no longer in in relationships but in jesus in my current season i do my best in christ to not act upon my emotions because i am deeply rooted in the love of christ i am not rushing to be in a relationship being secure in christ doesn't mean that it's wrong to like and pray for someone i encourage you all not to act on your emotions but to pursue the person you like in the best way possible which is to pray for them my greatest weapon besides jesus is prayer and transparency to my accountability partners he is indeed the god who restores relationships heals broken hearts redeems lost souls fulfills promises secures our identity satisfies our whole being and loves us overflowingly he is true love let me close with this verse and in him you have been made complete and he is the head over every ruler and authority colossians 2 verse 10 i am renzo or completely satisfied secured and madly in love with jesus christ to god be all the glory thanks brother you see that in that story that even he grew up in church he was a pastor's kid but the desire wasn't to please god and of course he experienced those unnecessary pain and sometimes those and i believe those unnecessary pain can wake us up and by god's grace that lead him to repentance to turn away and to pursue god but i'm not saying that unnecessary pain some of you you haven't experienced that pain in my experience y'all testimonies are not here for you to follow their examples in past examples but to learn that you can avoid those things from happening in your life so it starts first with a desire to please god he learned that ramsey learned that that i need to place my security in the lord not in the relationships and look at what what this passage says in psalm chapter 1 verse 1 blessed is the one who does not walk in the step of the wicked or stand in the way that sinners stake or sit in the company of mockers meaning to say your friends are not following jesus they're not loving the lord and they are not drawing you close to god don't associate yourselves with them not saying that don't talk to them but don't live the kind of life that they're living instead your delight my delight should be in the law of the lord in his word in the bible and spending time with him why because if our delight is in the law of the lord and meditate on his law day and night then that kind of person you or me you're like a tree planted by streams of water meaning to say the tree is beside the stream of water which is absolutely secure for the tree which yields its fruit in season why there's nutrients coming from the water and whose leaf does not wither whatever they do prosper just like psalm 15 verse 5 you will not be shaken when your foundation is in the lord whatever you do prospers i'm not saying you're going to be a millionaire i'm not saying that but you're going to be secure that's why first part if you want to be secure if you say you are your security is in the lord then my desire should be to please god what's our message in any romantic relationship and tao be secure in the lord so what's number two so it means number one my desire is to please god it starts with that one and my prayer is if that's not your desire you ask god the night lord changed my heart because my desire merged my desire is to please other people myself my lust please change it over hold it completely because it starts with that one if your desire is to please god what's the result of that what's the next part look at verse two the one whose walk is blameless who does what is right who speaks the truth from their heart okay here's the meaning of that speak what is right and it makes me speak what is right when you see the word truth it is based on god's truth meaning to say there's a truth in your heart and a truth in a specific situation know the truth in every situation that you are in for example in this kind of relationship that you're trying to pursue or this girl that you like what is the truth truth about your heart meaning to say do you really love the person or whatever do you really like the person or you just like the company truth about your heart you need to be honest you need to evaluate it you need to evaluate pinagi guys you have to process you have to think why because it's commitment they don't think about it they don't process it they just feel it what if you don't feel it anymore right you need to process it so think about the truth about your heart and then the truth about what is right so now that you let's say you you thought about it you prayed about it you talked to god and and it has revealed in your heart now i want to marry this person in that situation you're not yet ready to get married because you're 14 years old so what's the truth about the situation the truth the truth is i'm not gonna court i'm not gonna hurt this girl or if you're the girl and there's this guy courting you're not gonna say yes you're 15 years old you know you need to study you know that you're still young you know that next year you're not gonna get married yet right it's gonna take a long time and here's the thing uh and advice go on why we we don't encourage long relationships that you're in high school the longer the relationship is without commitment the harder it gets the longer the relationship is without commitment equilibrium boyfriend and girlfriend committed in the eyes of god and that only happens in marriage let me repeat that committed in the eyes of god and that bible biblically only happens in marriage if there's no marriage that's not commitment in the eyes of god sony boyfriend and girlfriend process lanyon it's not commitment in the eyes of god the longer it takes for you to get married the harder it gets that's why boyfriend and girlfriend relationship in high school college and damning nanga airing roller coaster situation relationship ups and downs ups and downs hurting one another unnecessary pain unnecessary delays angeline maxello insecurities girls and even boys why because there's no commitment in the eyes of god that's why what's the truth in this that situation you have to think about it there's truth here so if that's the truth speak what is right i'm not yet ready to be in a relationship i cannot entertain your courtship yet that's the truth what's the truth as a guy i'm not gonna court anyone yet because this is not what god wants that's the truth i may like the person you may like the person peru i only lord for you because the person doesn't love the lord then i'm not going to entertain this relationship i'm not going to pursue that girl that's the truth you see it's based on god's truth not just on what you think is true in your heart sometimes you know we always base the truth on our feelings on what we think is right in truth you have to understand there's absolute truth there's the god of truth and he knows what is true be secure in the lord verse three so first is what's the first one desire is to please god so if my desire is to please god and shinabine so i will speak what is right in this situation that's number two number three is this whose stone utters no slander who does no wrong to a neighbor and casts no slur on others or dishonoring other people hurting other people who despite despises a vile person or evil person but honors those who fear the lord almost sometimes even if we are already followers of jesus we have fun with people who doesn't love god when you say have fun when they're sinning against the lord despise a vile person [Applause] birth almost seriously lord honor because he that person is committed to god that girl is committed to the lord i like these preachers i've been a preacher in prayer my prayer for my kids is that they would have boring testimonies but changing your prayers have the lord lord i pray that my kids will have boring testimonies why because it means that they will not have to experience unnecessary pain and that's what i like about for you guys that's what i like for you guys that you will have boring testimonies if you're in your teen age years 14 15 years old i pray that you will have boring testimonies that when you get married you're [Applause] i pray that that's going to be your story now it doesn't mean if nina boring your testimony disqualified god know god can change that but again my prayer my desire for my kids testimony because i know that's honoring to god who despises a vile person honors those who fear the lord who keeps an oath even when it hurts and does not change their mind what's number three you honor other people right if you are if your desire is to please god and your security is in the lord if your security is in the lord of course you desire to please him you speak what is right you may get hurt a little but you're totally secure right because you said what's right and then your your response it's just to honor other people keep honoring them don't do anything that dishonors god's creation don't do things that dishonor god's creation what are those things that dishonor god's creation sexual immorality that's so evil against god i mean recently this season in our christian life in the christian world our community as brothers and sisters in christ have been really hurt because of christians leaders who failed in this area do you know that when you do this your family your christian community also gets hurt that's why don't do anything that dishonor god's creation dishonoring sexual immorality especially when it comes to what i'm saying here is when it comes to romantic relationship we live in a world now i didn't we didn't go all the way but you do certain things that you know it is dishonoring to god avoid those things it hurts people if you have done that again god is the god of grace but don't bring it back to that kind of state anymore learn from it grow away from it and into god's holy presence his will his desire for you deception that's dishonoring ah is you know some people they dishonor others they deceive they say lies and even girls can be like that that's deception if not deception manipulation you're gonna do this whatever that is okay manipulation that's dishonoring i'm saying certain things that dishonors god when it comes to romantic relationship or drawing someone away from god if your relationship with that person is throwing you away from god or drawing that person away from god that's a dishonoring act you have to let it go if your security is in the lord then you won't do these things these things are done by insecure people these things are done by people whose security is in the flesh and not in god if it's in god i'm not going to dishonor them doing these things you will not be shaken if you avoid these things and pursue you see this you will not be shaken what's our message in any romantic relationship can you read it again with conviction can you read it wherever you are be secure in the lord so number one my desires to please god number two i speak what is right number three i honor others that's what it means when my security is in the lord number four second part who keeps an oath even when it hurts right like see albert albert you know host then promise and does not change their mind when it comes to romantic relationship and god has led you to pursue this girl or to say yes to this guy in the right time say let's see right you keep an oath when you know that this is from god but some people they don't know how to keep an oath look at the next part who lends money to the poor without interest who does not accept a bribe against the innocent one connection is a love of course this has many application but when you look at it in a romantic relationship you don't cheat because these are cheaters they cheat other people they're not faithful in other words number four you are committed you are faithful that's what it means in any romantic relationship since it leads and it should lead to marriage when i make a promise that i know this is right in god's eyes i need to be committed to that promise and i need to be faithful kayanga we don't advise that you get into a relationship at an early age why you need to think about it you need to process it you need to make sure now now even if there are times in a feeling do you see that that's what it means when your security is in the lord there are a lot of people right now they're not they don't know commitment they just know feelings they just know anything goes whatever is though how the wave is going how is how it's flowing that's how i'm going to move that's not a sign of a committed person if you're struggling with that then you need to grow in this area before you enter any relationship committed you need to be faithful and finally before look at this person look at this who despises a vile person keeps an oath that's what it means even when it hurts does not change their minds this is what it means when you say now okay i'm not going to cheat i'm going to be faithful i'm going to stay in this right path what's our message again in any romantic relationship b secure in the lord you know when your security is in the lord and here's the last one so let's have a recap before number five security in the lord means my desire is to please god it means i speak what is right in god's standards in every situation it means i honor other people it means i'm committed and faithful because my security is the lord if god says you keep your promise to this person i'm gonna keep my promise committed and faithful and finally dedicated god yes desire to please god in constant dedication to god meaning to say i'm always dedicated to you lord my life is dedicated to you secondary lung sucking spouse sucking girlfriends having boyfriend second lanyan primarily my life is dedicated to you for the rest of eternity why balika is a verse one because who may dwell in your sacred den look at what the psalmist is saying the psalmist is saying i want to be in your sacred tent lord i want to be where you are i want to be in the center of your will and that is a sign of a man or a woman dedicated to god if i'm in the center of your will if i'm in your holy mountain definitely my life will be fully secure i want to be dedicated to you that's why we need to put our security in god you see a dedicated person will not be easily swayed tagalog and if i'm dedicated i'm not going to be easily swayed i'm not going to be swayed by my emotions by my feelings why because my conviction is strong i [Applause] seriously you want to experience that kind of security then make sure that you place your security in the lord make sure you desire to please god make sure you speak what is right make sure you honor other people make sure that you're committed and faithful and that your whole life is dedicated to god what's our message be secure in the lord we're about to close so these are the things that i want you to remember when i say you are secure in god because we live in the world they don't place their security in the lord their desire is not to please god they are afraid to speak what is right when they know this is what's right they don't honor others they just honor their own lusts they're not committed and faithful and above all their life is not dedicated to god this is a formula of disaster because your foundation is not in god but if you're following this then i believe your foundation is in the lord that's why we need to be secure in god you know why this is hard as we close the reason why placing your security in the lord is hard is because we don't see what god sees and we don't know what he knows look at this statement when our security is in the lord all right so let's say you put your security in god they say you try to do these things your desires to please him sometimes we feel uncertain why uncertain you don't see what god sees what you see right now is what you see for example this guy or this girl or this relationship and for me what i see is what is secure for me that i trust that's why it's quite hard why we feel uncertain but the truth is still certain what's the truth the truth that he's good he knows what's best he is faithful that he wants to protect us union truth right so this truth is still certain even though the situation feels uncertain it's just like what happened to my newborn son okay you know that my wife gave birth recently right so last week she gave birth after a couple of days the doctor discharged us so we're about we're going home right so it was it was okay everything seems fine but then the next week last monday we went to the doctor for a checkup by the way this is the picture so we we went to the doctor for a checkup and then the noticing doctor baby have a test today so we did a test just to check young level they call it the jaundice the billow bearing level that billy believer in level that's causing the the yellowish color so there's the checkup and then they saw that it was quite high doctor said go back the next day if mata aspara you need to be admitted so the next day we were praying the lord please but surprisingly it was high it became higher so last tuesday we got admitted we had to admit our baby he needs to go through photo therapy just so that the baby will have you know normal levels so of course we it was inconvenient for us it was uncertain we were quite you know somehow disappointed the lord why are you allowing this right the next week long side of the stay coming on right during the first week and stayed longer so that you know they found out that it's high and it could be treated right away but why the delay so we had those questions it was uncertain and not just for us also for the baby because phototherapy it looks like this so there's that blue light right it's not it doesn't blind you but it stresses your eyes so you need to put a cover imagine how uncomfortable that is to babies so every time we put that covering on his eyes he would cry why because uncomfortable and he wanted to see things in fact every time you remove it for him to rest talaga his eyes are open he wants to look at things and then when we start covering it again he would cry it's uncomfortable because you don't see it you don't see anything there's uncertainty know i believe just like us we don't like it when we don't see it we don't like it when it's uncertain we don't like it if we don't know what's gonna happen in the future if that guy is the right guy or that girl is the right girl or what's going to happen to my romantic relationship it's so uncertain but god is telling us to trust him put our security in him you know what we realize especially with my story the reason bala while there was a there we had to move early we had to we got discharged earlier and then we went back to the hospital the nurse told us that two hours after we got discharged during that first week when my wife gave birth after two hours there was flood in the other room the room beside us because there was they were working on something and then there was a pop and then flown in water and it went to our room if we hadn't lived or left that day it would have entered our room and it entered the room and it would have given us so much stress so we didn't see that but god saw that so by god's grace we got discharged in the first week and then we went back he protected us from that and then in this case why did he have to put that that cover in on his eyes because that was necessary for him to recover yes he doesn't see what's happening but that was necessary for him you know what i realize when it comes to a romantic relationship when there are uncertainties uncertainties are necessary so that we constantly place our security in the lord uncertainties are necessary so that we constantly place our security in the lord our tendency is if you're a blind person you're holding on someone who's not blind because he knows the way if you're a person who's struggling physically and you need support you are holding on to someone who's not struggling because that person can bring you to where you want to go or where it's safe for you it's the same way with our romantic relationship we don't know for you singles out there you don't know you don't see what god sees you don't know why god doesn't want this guy or this girl but god knows you don't know why he's allowing the pain to happen but god knows you he knows your weakness he knows your struggles he cares for you he desires to protect you and he wants you to constantly place your security in him that's why my challenge to you in any romantic relationship i beseech you my brothers and sisters be secure in the lord can i pray for you guys let's pray father thank you so much for speaking to us it's still the love month lord it's a very very relevant topic to all the young people and even to those not young anymore but thank you for reminding us that you're the god that gives security that in you there is absolute rest absolute security but yes lord when we place our security on you there are doubts sometimes we feel uncertain because we don't see it we're blinded we don't know what's going to happen in the future but you know we don't know how this is going to all work out but the truth is it works out every time we depend on you so i really pray for everyone's listening here and even those who's gonna watch this later on i really pray lord that you open their hearts that you reveal to them if there is anything they're placing their security on apart from you if it's money for a person a relationship a thing whatever that is lord if they're holding on it too much and that is their security lord reveal it to every person so that we will change our foundation and make you the foundation of our hearts thank you so much for speaking to us i pray lord for everyone listening i pray especially for those who whose hearts are not dedicated to you yet i pray that today will be that day that they will decide to dedicate their entire life following you holding on to you thank you for your promise thank you for your grace and love and your mercy we worship you and we bless your holy name in jesus name we pray amen and amen god bless you 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Published: Sat Feb 20 2021