A Generation Of Sexless Men | Asmongold Reacts

rise of in cells I I see these videos pop up and I [ __ ] I love watching videos like this because I will always have a lot of things to say it's your chat it's real yep here we go the video of my subreddit yes a video of twitch when I was 10 years old I had my first real crush it was fourth grade and summer was approaching there were rumors spreading around about a girl in my class named Maddie who apparently liked me or rather more than liked me as a young kid who hadn't yet been conditioned by the internet societal Norms or proper manners I decided to confront her about it is it true that you like someone I said she replied simply yes after asking her who a thousand times in the hallway in between classes she told me I was starting to sound like an owl stormed away but eventually she did open up about her feelings towards me and I told her that I had a crush on her too but then summer hits and I no longer had any way to see her other than romanticizing her yearbook picture in my room oh I didn't have a phone and at most I'd be lucky to see her online in AOL Instant Messenger now how many of y'all remember that as the first few weeks I had AOL Instant Messenger too yeah abso [ __ ] lutely man yep aim exactly aim ASL weeks of Summer went on I couldn't bear being away from her for any longer so I decided to look up her house phone number in our school's directory and give her a call after around nine Rings it went to voicemail and I left one explaining that it was her classmate Cole trying to talk to her I then proceeded to call her another five times because I had no conception in my head of what I'm surprised his parents let him do that I'm gonna be honest like if yeah my mom would always be sitting next to the phone she's like who are you calling no you're not calling him ah he's not coming over today uh nope not him creepy guy would be like a lot of times yeah I was being that creepy guy finally she called me back after a few days and she said to me my mom says you need to stop calling me it's getting weird she hung up and we barely spoke to each other again as I was reflecting back on this story when I thought about the idea for this video yeah I wondered how radically different this interaction was from what most 10 year olds do now and not just 10 year olds but people of all ages it's clear a lot has changed in terms of dating and how we interact and form relationships in the past 15 years with kids in single digit ages having access to any information they could possibly desire at their fingertips On The Rise and individuality becoming more realistic the landscape of intimacy has morphed into something scary the number of sexless men between 18 to 30 years old tripled from 2008 to 2018. and yes but also the uh Graphics in video games have also tripled from 2008 to 2 2018 so whenever you think about it it makes sense yeah it really does make sense like once you once you put everything into perspective here I I've showed this graph before too there's a lot of guys and this is the thing right is uh there's a lot of guys that they don't really do anything they just sit around all day and uh they can't get a girlfriend because they're losers I don't know I can't think of anybody like that offhand yeah I can't think of a single one wow 18 to 30 years old tripled from 2008 to 2018 and I can only imagine that I got much much worse when the pandemic hit the of course has come the rise of the involuntary celibate movement or in shorts a group of men who are convinced that they cannot and will not be able to form a relationship with women ever due to all the problems brought upon by the modern dating Market well I think it's also like guys they don't really have a girlfriend and like you know in middle school and then you don't have a girlfriend in high school and then it becomes like a thing because like you didn't do it and so now you feel like you can't do it but you want to do it but you can't do it and so like it turns into this like weird Paradox of like getting your first job or something like that where you need to have experience but in order to get experience get the job you have to have experience but you can't get experience if you can't get the job it's like one of these situations and so you have a lot of guys that get put in that position for you know whatever reason it could it could be a hundred different reasons much of these men's assumptions are based on facts I'll read something uh he's acting like this is a self-diagnosed thing no one calls himself an incel it's mostly an online label used for slander so well I mean number one you contradicted yourself because you can't say no one calls themselves an end cell and then say it's mostly used I don't think that's true there are a lot of incel subreddits so people that talk about being in cells and they say that they are in cells yes this is not something that you would do if you had your real name attached to it but I think that people often seek out these conversations in a Anonymous setting rejecting their trauma as a way to cope with the fact that they're fat lazy and socially awkward today I want to explore that question the ways in which dating and marriage have changed and what young men struggling with loneliness can do to improve their current situation so they don't end up an in-cell because that is a very very well number one you have to make more money number two you have to get taller and uh number three uh did I mention making more money oh [ __ ] okay yeah yeah so then yeah again dangerous and lonely path that you do not want to tread on more choices more opportunity first off we need to deal with the elephant in the room online dating as I was doing research for this video diving into the depths of Internet forums YouTube videos and stuff oh yeah I found a common theme throughout almost all of them most of the data collected had to do with dating apps like Tinder sadly this is where a lot of researchers and incels seem to be basing their ideas off of before I was doing research I thought that well I think it's also like a lot of guys they want to date a hot girl but the girls don't want to date them because they're like uh they're ugly right it's like these guys they want to date a girl that goes to the gym every day meanwhile they've never been to Planet Fitness even like this is just what happens and I think that there's a lot of times where it's like yeah a guy can get a girlfriend but the girl that he wants to date is like way more attractive or higher status and he's not able to do that yeah this seems like a pretty good idea to see where dating is in the modern world okay I feel like most of my friends in real life have at least tried online dating but what I found shocked me the percentage of adults who use Tinder above the age of 18 in the United States by April 2020 was only 13 not that much 17 of men have used Tinder and just seven percent of women have used Tinder now I feel like yeah that's about right and I feel like if you add in all of the dating apps right you're talking about like Plenty of Fish uh uh I don't even that those are the only that's the only two that I know what are some Bumble uh is that another one okay hinge match yeah match.com Okay Cupid yeah uh yeah there you go Farmers yeah Christian Mingle Farmers Only grinder yeah you put all of these together and you're probably going to be looking at like 40 to 50 percent I'd say somewhere around there where only 602 respondents for this study but let's just give them the benefit of the doubt and say it's closer to 20 total who have used yeah sure I think it's probably after the pandemic and especially like whenever you consider Tinder is effectively in this conversation interchangeable with any other dating app that means 80 of the dating markets over the age of 18 has not even used Tinder once eighty percent not only that but 80 of the people on dating apps like Tinder are men and only 20 are women it's complete yeah of course it is like it's the same like yeah [ __ ] obviously like personally I've never used Tinder before I've never used any of these dating apps I didn't really get into it it's not my thing uh if they're like back in the day if there was a hot girl I would just find her on Facebook I would just message her like hey you're really hot uh you know do you want to start talking and that would be it so it's like I I would just use social networking sites as dating apps but it's like I never did this I just didn't get a dating app exclusively for this completely skewed in women's favor meaning they have their business options that they can choose from on these apps when you take 20 of people on a dating app and you allow them to choose from a pool of 80 of people on that app it's no wonder that pretty much only the above attractive guys are getting swiped off women have endless choices on these apps whereas men would be lucky getting even one match exactly what I've heard from women and what I've seen on most of these dating apps from like my friends showing me or something most men's dating profiles are not exactly optimized when a woman no they don't men Max it at all like they have like a picture of like uh it's like them with like a popped collar and a Bud Light or something like that and it's like the the thing is like yeah I love [ __ ] um you know I like [ __ ] [ __ ] I got a [ __ ] problem and it's like this guy and he's like 110 pounds and he's five foot nine and he's wearing a 3XL t-shirt guess what uh you're gonna have a hard time finding anybody but if you go down to some of these like [ __ ] these ratchet ass clubs downtown I'm sure that guy could find a girlfriend he's just looking in the wrong place and can only judge you based on your appearance and some lines in your bio then the main determiner as to whether she's gonna swipe or not is your looks and the same is for us guys so if you add most not the same for us guys any guy so like this is my assumption that if you are looking at dating profiles obviously first thing you look at is Shihan if you've all right established that you look at does she have any kids and if the answer to those questions both is like yes she's hot no she doesn't have any kids that's a yes it's that simple men being bad at taking photos of themselves onto the fact that women can get the cream of the crop guys even if they're just average looking then you can convince an average looking or above average looking guy that they're way uglier than they are because they aren't getting any matches these apps completely distort who and what you actually are like in reality when this happens and since this is happening more oh that's so [ __ ] true man I'm gonna [ __ ] hit you guys with a red pill man there's some people that I meet them in real life they don't look the same way they did on the internet I tell you that's a fact some of them I didn't even recognize them I didn't even know what dude they were we see more and more men running to online communities to confirm their biases the human brain naturally will look for things to confirm how it feels about reality in that present moment and so you'll get a guy who in real life is actually not too bad looking reading all these black pill and insult read the posts about how it's over for even average looking guys and a bunch of stories similar to what she just went through on a dating app and he will I've been on these subreddits before I've I've read I've readed them uh multiple multiple times and it it sucks I mean the thing is like it's always funny to to meme on it but there are a lot of guys that are in like a bad position you know it just sucks I mean they feel like they have you know they have low self-esteem I think like the the worst one for guys I would say is probably being short because if you're short there's nothing you can do about that right like for me I'm a skinny [ __ ] guy I'm a very skinny guy and uh I'm gonna be honest whenever I was growing up I felt uh really self-conscious about this if you go back and you watch a lot of my old videos you'll see that I never even show my arms in my videos because I was self-conscious about it back then I didn't like being very very skinny it hurt me a lot I even used to wear a um a shirt in the pool right and this would bother me quite a bit but uh you know now that I'm older and all the people that you know I felt were at a healthy weight then well now all of them are fat and I'm not so look who's winning now yeah they've got yeah so I've got no problems with it now I'm not complaining anymore but the fact is that even back then I could have just gone to the gym I could have done something about that if you're really skinny or you're really fat Jeff was really fat Cody was skinny they both went to the gym and they both worked out a lot and then they have a much better physique both of them right like that's something that you can do you can do that if you want to do that uh you know if you don't have a lot of money you can fix that but being short bro like that's you're [ __ ] like you're just straight up [ __ ] it's crazy to me how somehow it's less it's less socially acceptable to make fun of a woman's weight than it is to make fun of a man's height I can't believe that you know maybe that's an in-cell take from me but I always thought that was a little bit of [ __ ] I think there's no hope and if you think there's no hope for you and that's the mindset that you're giving off to the world yeah then yeah nobody's gonna be attracted to you in real life but we're going to be talking about the impact of the rise of mental health issues soon we need to stop basing and correlating online dating statistics with real life it's been shown that the majority of people are only on dating apps as a confidence booster anyways it's a tool for validation not for True intimacy and connection okay this is crazy I feel like I mean I feel like a do guys do that or is that a girl thing like bro I never even heard of that before like did people actually do that [ __ ] like yeah it it both damn that's nuts guys do that yeah they think like oh yeah I could maybe I don't know I never heard that before most women can choose from the top percentile of men on these apps oh yeah plus they can only judge you based on your looks plus they're only on there because they want a confidence booster and not because they actually want you then why the hell are we taking evidence and statistics from dating apps well it's also the opposite too because like have you ever been working at an office and there's only one girl there that's around your age and every other every other person there is like 47 with three kids and so this girl is proportionally way [ __ ] hotter than she would naturally be in like a an average environment yes at the RS exactly yeah there was definitely one of those there for the IRS for me a hundred [ __ ] percent yeah and so it works the opposite way too it's like if there's only one girl there well I mean [ __ ] you know I I guess we're gonna have to simp for her now Warehouse syndrome seriously in the first place men my advice to you if you are an average or below average looking guy right now just don't use dating apps at all don't stand a chance but here's the good news the online that's actually not true I mean like again I'm an ugly dude okay like I'm gonna be honest I I think I'm a [ __ ] ugly dude and if you just send a girl a message like you will automatically be above the bottom 20 of guys if you don't send your dick just don't send a picture of your dick and you're automatically over like 20 or 30 percent of guys if you don't ask for nudes within like the first probably 10 minutes of talking that's another 20 so just get good at talking to people that helps a lot yeah confidence does big work yeah it does is not real life that is a phrase you'll be hearing me say throughout this entire video and the online world is completely screwing up your mental health that is why I want to talk about something that I think so many of you could benefit from or you step your feet into the dating world is this a sponsor and you try to pursue something meaningful which is therapy and specifically online therapy with the sponsor I [ __ ] knew it better help if you like I can tell now because the way that I can tell with YouTube videos is you look at the time it's like at about the first third into the video so like you've already got them on the hook like people are interested in the video because if you've played the video this early if you if you played the [ __ ] ad this early ah [ __ ] you know people might click off of it because they're not as invested but like if you go into right here that's whenever things are going to get serious yeah and it's like whenever they say and you know what else is going to help you with X Y or Z thing you [ __ ] know 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it you got to have to work harder that's it yeah there's some reality in it man now obviously a lot of people it's the same thing as in video games right it's like well you know like we have a you know we have a let's say a fury Warrior who's doing a lot of damage in our next raid so like Fury Warriors are actually really good but like if you actually go and you look at the statistics Fury Warriors are really at the bottom of the meter so like just because you have like one Fury Warrior that does really well doesn't necessarily mean that it disproves the rule completely destroying the way reality actually is and so if you can really open up to someone like a therapist and someone who can actually help you overcome this trauma and all of your bad mental health habits that you have in your low self-esteem then you can start getting towards the path of being someone who naturally is confident and attractive on betterhelp you can start communicating within 48 hours and the service is 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why is this happening are women becoming more selective in real life and not just dating apps I think it's also because uh you can't make a living as easily now as you were able to back in uh [ __ ] 50s or the 60s so it's like obviously uh marriage rates are going to go down because it's harder to settle down and make a living people are saddled with insurmountable student aid debt and you know people like my parents I think got married whenever they're like 27 or 28 or something like that I I feel like yeah a lot of people's parents probably got married younger than than maybe you did I think there's a lot of reasons economic and also social I feel like that explains no kids not marriage decrees I feel like kids in marriage are kind of hand in hand with a lot of people women becoming more promiscuous only choosing the Chads in tyrones as attractive men are commonly referred to true I'm sure it's the argument that you want to make but that's not the entire story what in sales fail to realize is that women now have more of an opportunity to not be forced to be in a relationship with a man that they don't want to be in a relationship with less than that's definitely true right it's like if you had a kid with a guy because you know it's harder to get contraception back in a day you're going to have like a much bigger reason to stay with the guy whereas like now whenever you can get birth control a lot easier it's like you're not gonna have to worry about it right you want to break up with them it's not a big deal it's like you have any uh there's no uh there's no strings attached and a hundred years ago marriage was pretty much a necessity for women they had less flexibility with the jobs that they could pursue and the amount of things that they could do only if they were married is pretty astonishing it's something I first found out when I interviewed people on the streets about modern dating when we were younger in dating I mean you had to get married if you wanted you couldn't check into a hotel room unless you were married you couldn't get an apartment unless you were married and so a lot of society kind of dictated that you I couldn't get a job you know like my first teaching job unless I was married so holy [ __ ] that's crazy so it's less pressure is it really a bad thing that what the [ __ ] dude that's so weird oh my gosh it was crazy yeah what the [ __ ] women aren't forced to date and marry just anyone now a lot of men like to use the statistic that 50 of marriages end up in divorce as an excuse to not even bother trying to find a partner but divorce rates have been dropping steadily probably due in part to the fact that women are no longer thinking to themselves oh [ __ ] if I don't get married at some point I can't do anything yeah it doesn't have to be like a uh a [ __ ] like oh I have to get married at 25. just marry a dude who I don't even find that attractive but it's worth it anyways like are we seeing that as a bad thing now I still think marriage is set up to be much more advantageous to women but the reason I'm using that example is just to show how much more freedom that women have now oh yes 100 like yeah because like if it's back in the [ __ ] 1800s or the 1900s it's a lot harder to go and uh you know like do go on your own as a woman like I'm not talking about like nowadays right nowadays women have a lot of options obviously like there's always going to be problems and setbacks Etc but you know in general women have got it a lot better than they did back then and uh holy [ __ ] it's a much different thing now to me I've always said that I think that marriage is best for the uh the kids and uh you know I'm an advocate of marriage one day I hope to get married if I ever have a girlfriend or something like that and I want to take it more seriously I would absolutely get married and it's not even a question to me now I know that there are some people and some guys that are like oh well this is you know like you're going to get taken advantage of et cetera I feel like there's a lot of girls like here's the thing is that like if if you're a girl and you have a kid with a guy and then the guy leaves you it is way [ __ ] harder to get another boyfriend it's way [ __ ] harder and you have like all of these [ __ ] problems right with like uh you know your boyfriend getting along with your kid and all this [ __ ] like a lot of guys I mean let's be honest boys how many of you guys if you see a girl that has a kid she's automatically off the menu how many of you guys feel that way call them projects yeah you're not going to play somebody else's saved game yeah it's very very common me me me me me right okay so that's one of the reasons why they have marriage yep that's one of the reasons so I I don't think it's as cut and dried as it's more advantageous for uh for women than men I do however think that probably in terms of child custody that is true uh yeah I mean I don't know I think yeah is it the same for single dads uh I think it is much less the case for single dads Because in in a way like most moms are more involved with their kids lives like single parents like you'll get most average there are way more single parent single moms with a kid than single dads with a kid but I do think that yes uh of course it would probably be the issue uh with anybody yeah for sure not true there are a lot hunting single day uh there are a lot of hurting of hurting single dads oh yeah yeah for sure it's not there are there's never gonna be this isn't a 100 situation I just think it's a it's a trend that's all in that regard oh yeah yo real quick it's totally [ __ ] fine if you don't want to date a girl that has a kid that's fine that's totally fine then don't do it yeah then don't do it like that's it yeah I I it's a preference yeah you do a date whoever you want much money as men don't have the option to choose when they want to settle down and with whom perhaps in this case we can now make the argument that women have the ability to be more picky but maybe they've always been like that but they just never had the opportunity to use that so now the men who lack desirability and I don't think that's a bad thing like to say that like women have the ability to be more picky I think that's probably a good thing because it's agency I think everybody should have agency over their own future Heather are being exposed because they can't just force women to marry them and I don't yeah at all yeah I was thinking about this the other day you know because like back in the day people used to have like six wives what [ __ ] 3 000 years ago got rid of that how did this happen like what [ __ ] idiot got rid of this where did this go away like I really I mean you think about this yes it's like it used to we used to have that and now it's gone how the [ __ ] did this happen Christianity [ __ ] that people like incels think for example a common argument is that most women want a guy she says six feet or over if you're a guy below six feet then don't even try that's a common saying among communities like the incels oh yeah black pillars but if you really go past all the traumatized guys spamming that in the comment section I should watch this but if you 100 black pill beliefs in one video oh that's a good one I should definitely watch that that's a great great idea really go past all the traumatized guys spamming that in the comments section question what they are spamming an ability that most people don't have the capability of doing and look at real life that is not the case at all a study published by Rice University showed that 49 of women want to date a guy taller than them I love how guys act like this is women being [ __ ] uh picky and it's not fair but meanwhile they're like yeah I want to grow with a really big boobs yeah I think that's yeah that's it's yeah we've got to have that uh absolutely yeah and they're like yeah but these [ __ ] superficial hoes only want tall guys the average height for a woman yeah there it is five foot four and the average height of a male is five foot eight this means that as long as you're five foot five and over you still have a chance with the average women and even if you are under five foot five you still have 51 of the dating Market that's willing to date you you absolutely so long as you have what is considered to be desirable to most women in real life and don't worry I'll be going over why most men are not desirable these days and how you can be more dessert I think that whenever he goes that it's going to be like a checklist of things that I do you know like it's gonna be yeah basically I I've told people that I've I've crafted my own Infinity Gauntlet of being an incel right uh never shower play video games all day uh live at Mom's house uh let's see what are the other ones uh balding and uh let's see is there another one a done wash hands yeah yeah bad teeth that's that's a minor thing yeah I'll have to think of one more yeah I'm sure I can think of one yeah oh I'm not social completely anti-social yes I have The Infinity Gauntlet the Exodia at the end of the video unrealistic expectations and the change in social values yeah can we all agree that the pandemic a lot of things up loneliness and mental health issues skyrocketed people that's crazy man like I've had no problem my life did not change at all during the pandemic nothing changed at all like I was fine could not interact with each other in real life anymore for the past couple years until this day many people still haven't fully recovered from what used to be much more extreme and they rarely go outside this trend was already starting to become more prominent but the pandemic just sped it up tenfold yeah no longer are teenagers interacting occasionally through AOL instant messenger and having to get their fix of actual social connection through real life my generation was probably the last one where we at least had a childhood and some teenage years I think there's also like the reality where have you ever talked to a girl online and then you met her in real life and she was like really [ __ ] annoying and you realize like it's not worth it yeah it's like this is like I thought this was going to be a great idea like this is really fun this is really [ __ ] annoying like I don't want to deal with it and I think like if you have a few of those circumstances I think it'll cause guys to lower their standards a bit because maybe the uh the standards are uh holding them back yeah my wife that's great man I'm I'm happy for you without a smartphone but now the virtual world makes the real world go round so what happens when you take the majority of kids growing up and give them unlimited access to a device where every app is designed to keep you on it for as long as possible that highlight drama negativity what's wrong with the young men getting cheated on women getting cheated on tweets about really bad relationships it starts to give everyone both men and women completely unrealistic expectations you get a whole generation of people spending half of their waking hours in a reality that does not at all reflect how things actually are not only that but it's so easy to feel like you're getting some form of connection by interacting with people online or watching videos of others or to use it as a distraction from working on a version of you that is unmotivated unappealing and unconfident it's something that I explained in detail Love Is Dead the love shortage for men there's a couple key problems first there's dirty websites having access to this type of content at such a young age will absolutely shape the way most men view women and how they think oh that's definitely true right I mean I'm gonna like being treated on a sub yeah I had to change that so uncomfortable the thing to look at but like uh just in general yeah absolutely it's like you you [ __ ] grow up and you know you spend all your time on these weird [ __ ] websites then by the time that you're 25 the only things that you're sexually attracted to are animals that don't exist yeah that's a [ __ ] problem that's absolutely a [ __ ] problem man conscious level your brain is going to be focused on all the wrong things and you'll never be able to go beyond superficiality you'll just be thinking of creepy ways that you can get her to do stuff with you but the even bigger problem is what happens when men get rejected a couple times if they haven't been taught at a young age how to approach women be more confident and handle rejection which is the situation that most men find themselves in then they will hate themselves and others and when this happens they will start to think that they're just destined to never find a girl who likes them all the skies know the complete destruction of self-esteem that a girl's rejection can have on us you're still stuck in that mental stage of basing our worth based on whether that girl approves of us or not in some cases men can get completely traumatized if their situation is bad enough so naturally these guys go to the Internet for advice or for some sort of confirmation right and and the thing is if you go to the Internet like that yes that happened to me I was very upset about it and uh it is is denied 115 times well it was a it was a long time it's a numbers game yeah it was it was awful Man simply stop caring well the way that I kind of got over that is uh it's instead of just trying to talk to one of them you'll talk to like five or ten at a time and then based off of that you know whichever one is going better you just focus on that one instead like that's what uh you know again I get me and Cody to come back and to Cody to come over at some time and we'll talk about uh what what it used to be because that's what it was like I mean obviously like I'm not saying I do that [ __ ] now or anything but I'm saying like when I was like 20 or 21 like 22 19 absolutely [ __ ] absolutely without a question not anymore no I can't bro I can't like you think I could [ __ ] go and like DM like 20 girls like oh hey you're really hot no they're gonna post that [ __ ] on Twitter I'm gonna look like an [ __ ] I can't I can't do it remember who is that guy that holy [ __ ] that body of yours is insane I don't want to have that happen to me yeah that's not gonna [ __ ] happen no way Adam Levine yeah that guy that guy looks like a [ __ ] fool man no shot I'm going to put myself in that position because they are in a state of mind that is looking for reasons as to why it's not their fault they got rejected because they lack the ability to take responsibility which is a trait that turns off a lot of women anyways they eventually find themselves on these forms or videos that talk about how men are screwed if they don't have a ton of money six-pack abs and by the way women have these same [ __ ] groups and these same support groups by the way well I don't want people to think like this is some kind of like toxic male trait women do this same [ __ ] men are trash and on all of these videos the majority of the people in the comments completely agree with what the person is saying oh absolutely and of course they do because they don't want to take accountability for the fact that they are not just because that it's because a lot of the guys that are on the [ __ ] internet it's like whenever I was dating Izzy I didn't have a lot of time to be on the internet commenting because it's like whenever you have a girlfriend especially with Izzy it's like you had to do it's like 20 extra daily quests every single day right it's like we had to go out uh and we had to oh it's it's Sunday we have to go out and buy candles all right and so then after you buy the candles it's like well there's this nice restaurant full of a bunch of food you don't want we we're going there and I'm bringing my friends oh great and you're paying for oh great that's this is what a wonderful time and then get home oh well you never watched anything with me all right well now we've got to watch a show together and before you know it um and then I want to get on the game she's like well I'm gonna go to bed so you've got to come to bed okay all right so I never would have had any time to comment and complain I wouldn't have anything like what yeah there's nothing there's when would I ever get onto the internet to watch one of these videos yeah so yeah it's it's so many dailies ties they don't take care of themselves and they're socially awkward and have no game this creates these pale Bubbles as I like to call them where people can't see a real objective approach to reality and dating outside well I think that the problem with the the black pill and the red pill stuff is that some of it is true right it it is [ __ ] true if you're ugly and you're short you're gonna have a harder time it's a fact like that's it and it I think it's just it's not contextual it's it's sometimes it's not contextualized around the fact that like sometimes you can overcome these things too whatever pill content they're taking whether that's black or red pills yeah there's a bunch of guys coming together all projecting their trauma and playing the victim because they got rejected a few times or they had their women cheat on them whatever but with that being said I know that I'm gonna get attacked for that in the comments there are some things that these pill people would ever say that are in fact true but when it happens when I subscribe to that ideal and you think this is the only way that reality is then that's when reality starts to get skewed yeah and you get to a very Doom and Gloom mindset if you take it too seriously and you're just so invested in these online things and what everybody is saying in the comments like yes dude yes that's how it is that's how it is like go assistant bro what this guy's delusional there's actual statistics he's ignoring are you a person or are you a statistic there are a lot of statistics that you by the nature of the fact that you exist you have already overcome he's right and that's what I'm saying is that it is true outside if you consume enough of this content it'll start to shape your worldview oh yeah give up hope bro look at this graph this random YouTuber made that said my jawline isn't perfectly aligned so that I can get girls bro look at the all these guys in these comments that I don't realize our basement dwellers with zero experience this content is not real life but if you believe in it enough then you'll approach every potential situation with a girl with the mindset of what's the point of even doing this by the way I think that accelerationism will lead to it becoming more like real life and more superficial ideals and things that are uh artificial will become more valuable and these extremes and these types of uh you know if you don't have X Y and Z you're a nobody I think these are going to become more and more common and way more prevalent because online life is merging with real life I I think that saying online life is different from real life today is a much more gray statement than it was 10 years ago and ten years before that it's a much less gray statement as well hey she's not gonna like me I'm so ugly everything sucks and that is gonna be unattractive and of course she's gonna reject you then and then the cycle is going to go on and on of course we should take a responsibility for our trauma and where we're at as men but I do think for a subset of women their expectations of what they think they deserve has also gone completely Haywire now that oh we've always seen these we've seen these uh you know the pictures of the single moms that want a guy that makes over 240 000 a year and she has like three different kids with four different guys somehow that happened yeah it of course yeah there's gonna be delusional women too yeah it is easier than ever for women to get validation from hundreds if not thousands of guys simply just by having a social media presence they will only want the best of the best and they think they deserve that and here's the thing about even below average looking women they'll get the attention because guys who have been brought up by dirty websites who are controlled by what's in their pants and haven't had a father figure to tell them how to actually interact with women will simp over any woman if it means they'll even get a lick of attention back from them we blame women apparently this guy uh this yeah this guy goes on Twitter and YouTube and twitch a lot yeah for having unrealistic expectations but the reason they have unrealistic expectations in the first place is because of us men with that being said here's what is extremely important to understand a woman with unrealistic exercise here's what is extremely important to understand he moved up and I thought he put a chain on in between the different cuts it freaked me out with unrealistic expectations due to social media attention are probably strongly overlapping with the women who can pick the cream of the crop on dating apps like Tinder which is most likely a very small subset of women oh this is what I was talking about all the data all the stories on Modern dating and women they're based on a minority group a group of women who you shouldn't even be focused on pursuing anyways who won't go beyond superficiality and develop a deep connection with you who won't support you and who are in fact deluded and just want a guy with a ton of money who's super attractive and in the top one percent of men these are the women that are highlighted in red and black pill videos because they confirm broken men's biases and they make for good controversial content oh absolutely would you guys ever date a guy shorter than you oh absolutely not the lights at the end of the tunnel everywhere I go when I look around in public I am astonished at how many average to below average looking men have girlfriends the typical threes and fours that don't stand a chance according to black pill YouTubers are having tons of success with finding a partner and getting laid it does not at all match up to what that's definitely [ __ ] true it always surprises me too being told to men on the internet see whenever I saw that and I thought to myself wow so it is my personality yeah it makes sense yeah I thought so okay all right yep 100 percent it's not just how I look it's also because I'm an [ __ ] damn card I'm getting hit coming both ways here [ __ ] plenty of my friends in real life who don't have that great of a job who don't have a good physique and aren't necessarily that good looking have girlfriends you know why because the women that are highlighted and complained about on the internet represent a small subset of women in real life and even if it is true that women can be more independent and more selective the pool of which they now select from has a greater chance of you getting picked so long as you can heal what all this Doom and Gloom and artificial love has created is much less competition with the men who are actually taking care of themselves that's what I've said before is like if you if you actually if a girl mentions to you that she's interested in something and you don't say you know like like let's say let's say a girl mentions that she likes certain video game and you don't automatically quiz her and contest her on being a fake fan of that game you've already beaten 10 percent if you don't send her a picture of your dick you've already beaten twenty percent if you don't call her a hoe you've already beaten you know 15 if you don't bring up Andrew Tate in the first date you've already beaten five percent you know if you don't talk about your uh political views and like how you think women are hoes nowadays that's another 10 right so it's like I I learned this whenever I would take uh algebra tests because obviously like I mean I didn't do anything in the in the class we would bang on the wall and then they other people on the other side would bang on the same wall and we do like you know we do that then they do that and then we do and then they do that and you know like that's what we would do in algebra like we never [ __ ] gave a [ __ ] about the class and so anyway I had to break down and look at like what do I have to know like I write my name on the page that's five points I turn it in on time that's 10. uh you know I show my work that's three points so then I do things that I have no idea about but I show my work so I get three points on each one and you build up that 71 in an aggregate but you actually have no [ __ ] idea how to do anything but you just get the 71 you're not trying to learn algebra you're trying to get a 71 on the test two different things actually going out and talking to women in real life most men these days have low testosterone they don't take care of their bodies and they're depressed if you can heal whatever social or relationship trauma you went through in the past have an optimistic attitude start putting yourself out there more and gain more social experience genuinely take care of yourself and have goals and Ambitions you will be miles ahead of the majority of Modern Men and don't send them a picture of your 19 20 years old ready to give up on women entirely you know how ridiculous that sounds you don't even know who you are yet you don't even have a personality yet you've been rejected like three times you've never had a girl like there's plenty of people that have been directed like 40 50 times by that point let's be honest friend or maybe you've just had one and it ended really badly and now your world view is completely skewed and you're just a Doomer of course most women aren't going to be very attracted to you if your mental health is in Ruins start there stop spending all your time analyzing black pill grabs and what your sexual market value is and start spending time of your low self-esteem and social anxiety watch videos that uplift you and help you to gain a better understanding of yourself realize that you have way way more potential and power than you think if you can start to develop the right mindset towards life and then clean yourself up take care of your skin go to the gym get a good haircut dress fashionably socialize with this is getting to be a bit personal yeah this is this is a bit this is I don't know about this video guys yeah I don't know about I think this one's I think this is a [ __ ] video yeah I mean I got I don't know what this is yet what the [ __ ] keep flexing that social muscle so you can start to get more comfortable in social situations and have more confidence when you're there put the damn phone down and look around you see how many average and below average looking guys are still pulling girls because they have high self-esteem they have game and they lean into what they like and the interests that they're pursuing and for the love of God please get rejected more often rejection is the greatest thing that can happen to you if you can reflect on rejection properly and see what you did wrong then eventually you will become completely indifferent towards it and when you're going to a situation or a potential that's probably true mindset of I don't really give a [ __ ] how this goes that is attractive and you'll have a higher success oh I definitely think that's true like to be detached from the outcome of things gives you control over them I I think that's in general true like generally whenever I play a game whenever I'm doing anything if I don't care about what happens I play better the more you care the more you lose for me yes of her being attracted to you and if after all of that you still get rejected 30 times in a row then that's the point where you need to start thinking about changing the way you carry yourself realize that women are not these mysterious creatures they're just a human being with the same insecurities and wants as you oh Cole I have passions in what I'm interested in but nobody my age likes what I do bullshits you're just not looking in the right places yeah there's plenty of girls that like stupid [ __ ] like I always get surprised about this like yeah there's plenty of girls like stupid [ __ ] games and like getting involved these dumb ass [ __ ] things like like I remember I watched JoJo's Bizarre Adventure and I was like man this is a show about men by men for men this is all about men this is absolute complete testosterone there's no [ __ ] women that would ever watch this show and then I find out that there's a bunch of girls that love JoJo's Bizarre Adventure and I'm thinking to myself wait what the [ __ ] do you mean like what there's like yeah what is this it didn't make any sense to me at first so many girls like Jojo yeah I was like what the hell the people you can find for anything that you're interested in and simultaneously that'll be like the best place for you to meet a girl that you have a better chance of matching with oh but nobody my age goes out or even talks to each other in person anymore okay well then find the right people those people are in abundance if you look in real life oh cool nowadays women are just just stop you're looking for women in the wrong places whatever you're gonna say you'll find the room that you want if you don't like going out going to a bar is probably not where you're gonna find a woman that you want and if you have a shitty mindset towards life and yourself and you hang around with people like that then you're gonna attract women like that too finding events of things you're interested in taking care of yourself and not being awkward not needing a woman to make you happy in the first place having a growth mindset and getting I think that part is pretty important right is like if you have uh if you feel like you need somebody else to make you happy and you can't be happy without somebody else I think that's a big problem injected over and over will eventually lead you to find a woman that you can connect with you are way more attractive than you think if you can just escape this mindset cycle of hatred and doom stop making excuses stop playing the victim do what you can with the genetics that you've been given with and you can do a whole lot more than you think I promise you that and improve your body language and communication skills because this is not I can't wait to read the comments on this one that's real life thank you to all my patrons on patreon if you don't know what this is oh I can't wait to read these comments here we go exclusive content plus you can talk to me one-on-one over the phone on there if you want to check that out Link in the description patreon.com Cole Hastings leave your comments below I'm very open-minded and I'm interested to see what people think of 5 000 comments on this one that's going on with the modern dating market and that is it for this video I hope it helped you I hope it inspired you and hope it made you feel a little bit better about yourself that's it I love you guys peace yeah I think that was a good video when I was 10 years I I do I think that was pretty well pretty well done pretty open-minded yeah I I don't know you guys think that was like decent enough advice overall yeah there you go turn uh 85k 50k comments is nothing no I think 5K is a lot it's somebody who um I do YouTube videos I would say that it is a good amount uh yeah I thought it was a good video it was pretty well put together I think especially like not needing somebody else to make you happy is super important I refuse to find the concept myself forth as a man is based on how much sex I'm having yeah I think that's definitely a negative thing but a lot of guys get into that too man really said the online world's not the real world needs to get offline to the real world and best way to do that is therapy online therapy that is pretty [ __ ] funny um and also I think that online life is much more like real life now than it was maybe 10 years ago I think nowadays like being online like online used to be like a separate place and now it's like an additional place where it's like you were a different person on the line whereas like now most people are who they are in real life online but they're just uh a little bit different I think so and I think that'll that will continue to be the case [Music] foreign [Music]

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Published: Fri Oct 14 2022