10 Ways to Beat Your Distractions, Increase Productivity, and Enjoy the Process!

i hope you guys enjoyed this episode brought to you by our sponsors at athletic greens to receive a free one-year supply of vitamin d and five free travel packs with your first purchase visit athleticgreens.com impact theory enjoy the episode this video was brought to you by our very own impact theory university for more information be sure to check out the description below [Music] hey everybody welcome to another episode of impact theory q and a today i'm going to be talking all about the very important topic of how to avoid distractions if you want to get anything meaningful done in your life i promise you the ability to keep yourself on task to not chase the squirrel or the shiny object is going to be the key to you actually making use of your time and efficiency is my obsession it's one of my secret weapons my superpowers if you will and today we're going to be talking about exactly what you need to do to make it one of yours all right so first question up is i find myself jumping around the day feeling scatterbrained even with my to-do list and non-negotiables written down i struggle from project to project finding myself getting distracted by doing chores around the house running errands to then finally feeling overly exhausted before the end of the day it's not just simple tasks but being distracted during conversations and just about every aspect in my life i literally feel like a dog spotting a squirrel it's the struggle of beating distractions and keeping my thoughts aligned my boyfriend always says to me close down some browsers what are some tips to stay focused on one task at a time and beat the majority of distractions please help in all caps okay so number one this is not a sexy answer but i have a feeling this is going to come up a lot you want to make sure that you're optimizing your cognition so you want to make sure that you're getting sleep when you are tired it is crazy the way that you become scattered things that would have been easy to keep your focus on suddenly you're going to have a hard time your diet needs to be on point you cannot imagine how much your diet impacts your brain function another one getting exercise one of the things that they'll prescribe for people with add adhd is exercise just getting out there putting in the reps there are huge rewards bdnf which is a brain-derived neurotropic factor something that is like miracle growth for your brain i forget who says that is not me but i think that that is a very apt adage and it's going to be something that helps you so this part sort of applies to i'm sure every question that we're going to address today you want to make sure that you get the basics down and then the last part which definitely speaks to this in particular when you find even something like a conversation you find that your mind is wandering some of this is just training yourself to focus so we live in this eternally distracted society where we're constantly seeking those dopamine rewards that you get from checking your phone or whatever and you didn't list that as one of the things that is is your problem but meditation is the answer sort of regardless of what the impetus is regardless of what it is that you find yourself being pulled towards whether it's the squirrel as you say or something else training yourself to be able to extend the period of time where you're focusing on one thing is going to be extraordinarily helpful and it can be as simple as just coming back to the breath this does not need to be a grand spiritual thing that you do though i think there are huge benefits to meditation on that side but just training your attention learning to apply your attention to the thing that you want to focus on is a skill all of this stuff is a process and once you understand that it is a process then it becomes something that you can train and so sitting in a noisy room it doesn't even need to be a quiet room in fact it might be better practice certainly as you get more advanced to do it in a noisy room so that you learn when something pulls your attention that you have control of bringing it back and in a meditative practice that's focused around the breath you would just come back to the breath in a more mindfulness approach you would use any sensation that you can to come back to this present moment it could be the um the noise that you heard of reminding you that you're there in that room it could be if your feet are starting to tingle because of the way that you're sitting it's you know feeling your back against the couch whatever using something that is in that moment to remind yourself to be present to be there not to let your thoughts drift and you'll find that in the beginning like man every three seconds my mind is wandering i'm going to something else and it may even take you minutes before you even realize that your attention is wandered and in that moment you bring yourself back to the breath you give yourself some grace you don't panic that you have let your mind wander and you just keep doing that and day after day you will find in the beginning it's every three seconds and then it's every 10 seconds and then you might be able to stay focused on your breath for 30 seconds one thing that i did a lot in the beginning is i would just count my breaths and i would find in the beginning i couldn't complete a single breath cycle and stay focused on my breath for the four parts of a breath cycle right the inhale the inhale hold the exhale the exhale hold those four parts that's my meditation practice very simple four part what they call box breathing and it's just box breathing those four parts make up the four sides of the box and i couldn't make it through a single breath without my mind wandering and then i would get to the point where i could do 10 breaths and then now i'd say my record is probably somewhere around 16 or 17 breaths i don't think i've ever made it to 20. um but that's a pretty long time when you're breathing slowly i would say it's you know maybe two minutes something like that it's a long time at least for me to be able to keep my attention totally uninterrupted on one thing and so that might be helpful for you and just tracking where it is that you're losing track of the breath where you're like was it four or five i you know i don't remember where i was and just continuing to extend that out so this is a great reminder that everything in life is a process and you can get better at flexing that muscle so starting with that that would be my recommendation if you find yourself constantly being pulled away all right question number two what's a strategy i can use to help resist the distractions that come before i even start working i feel like i'm letting these distractions in because i have so much self-doubt that it hurts less to pretend i don't have the time to start oh my god that is amazingly self-aware i love that it's going to be a lot of fun to answer even when i know that's not true my phone and the internet in general are huge problems for me when it comes to keeping focus on my work sincerely thank you for all you do okay um the key here is going to be one the self-awareness that you've already displayed i just cannot tell you how far ahead of the game you are that you recognize that you're lying to yourself that is really the beginning step so always being honest with who you are where you're at what is true for you even if you can't say it to the outside world always being willing to admit it to yourself is so unbelievably powerful um that was something that i i had this really big crisis in my early 20s where i realized i was telling everybody that i wanted to be successful but the way that i was acting was like i just wanted to feel good about being smart and i didn't know enough to be successful if i was always trying to be the smartest person in the room and so they came into conflict and i remember i remember the room i was in when that occurred to me that hey if what you want is to just feel smart you need to quit this company get the hell out no judgment if that's what you want to do fine i don't want to live in this sort of sketched out world anymore of where i talk this big game all my ambition all the things i'm going to do but in reality i spiral out of control the second i feel stupid and i mean it was devastating i would lose days to being upset and traumatized and thinking badly about myself when um something would occur that made me feel dumb so anyway i would argue for bad ideas just because they were mine i needed to feel smart and i realized okay hold on this is this is a thing so no judgment be honest with yourself and that opened the world to me once i wasn't trying to pretend that i was a certain way and i was just really honest with myself about who i was at that moment i was changeable and i was willing to believe that but in being honest with where you're at now you can put together a plan of action so going back to what i was just saying in the first question everything is a process so now you've got the self-awareness now you know what you're lying to yourself about now we can begin to craft strategies rule based strategies for getting out of that rules are i think underutilized in people's lives and this is something that i use on a daily basis and the rules that i have laid out in my life allow me to stay on track so for instance you have a problem in the morning of facing an inadequacy okay so you know something about yourself um that you're you like the out of thinking that you don't have time so that you don't have to face i set a goal i gave that goal a deadline and i missed that deadline and that means punch line of punch lines that i'm not good enough which is true if you add the modifier yet i'm not good enough yet now the thing that's going to let you off the hook and allow us to slot in some rules because you're not fighting against yourself you're now working for yourself to achieve the things you want to achieve is to understand you actually can get good so it's what i call the only belief that matters the only belief that matters is that if you put time and attention into getting better at something you'll actually get better at it not because you're special not because you're brighter than the next person because that is the physics of the human mind that's just how the mind works the truth of being a human is that if you apply energy into practicing something and that practice is well done you will as an inevitable consequence of that time and energy have a deeper skill set that skill set has utility it lets you do something in the world that other people cannot do okay so if we know that's true now we don't need to seek a distraction because when we realize oh we're not good enough yet all that does another layer of self-awareness it lets us know the thing that we need to get better at and now if i apply my time and energy to that thing i will actually improve so okay cool now i need rules to make sure that i clear that space for me to actually get good at that thing now the only catch there is it needs to be something that you're actually excited to get good at right like imagine that world where you're truly world class at that thing right the only thing that stands between you and being world class at anything you care about maybe not the best in the world but world class is time and so if you like that thing you're excited by that thing then you put these rules and so a simple rule may be i don't check my phone under any circumstance for any reason before 10 am i don't know what your rule is going to be it depends on what time you wake up but for me i don't take meetings before 10 am the way i say to myself is i don't let anyone control my time before 10 am i don't take meetings from anybody on the team at impact theory i don't even take meetings with lisa unless there's something really like high time pressure that needs to be dealt with so i am in my own cocoon i have my important things list and then that's another rule that i go down my important things list in order i always put the highest priority thing first and then i just work my way down also another very important rule that anybody who's familiar with me will know and have heard me say a bazillion times i get out of bed in 10 minutes or less and this morning i struggle with that because i struggle with it every day but because i have a rule i actually get out of bed so that is the key get that rule set figure out what you need to do don't touch your phone don't allow distractions and remember that you're not good enough yet you can get good so get excited about the thing you're pursuing which should make it a lot easier to avoid the time wasting things that are taking up your time now let's talk about athletic greens the all-in-one daily drink to support better health and peak performance with so many stressors in life it's difficult 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impact theory again that's slash athleticgreens.com theory and get your free one-year supply of vitamin d and five free travel packs today all right guys give it a shot take care and be legendary all right question three speaking of adhd i have adhd which by the way welcome to the club i did as well growing up uh and i suppose i still do now but i manage it so i have adhd and i work an office job where i sit down for eight hours a day i'm a very physical person and all my jobs i had prior to this i was always active in moving which works best with my adhd i tend to get bored and fidgety doing the same thing all day and just sitting i'll put music on or a show in the background get up for short periods it becomes really difficult to stay focused any suggestions okay so we already talked in the first question about things you can do to elongate the time you're able to focus on something so i would run through all of that the diet the exercise meditation all of it okay now to push this farther and to give you another way to think about this sometimes instead of pushing back against the way that we are we can lean into it so finding a way to structure your life such that you have a job that actually lets you do that so if you know hey i need to be moving around i need to have a high degree of physicality in my job all of that find a job that lets you do that you've already said that all of your past jobs sound like they were more suited to what you're doing now so that basic question what does the ideal job look like for you i'm guessing you've taken other jobs in your life because you wanted to move up right so you want to make more money you want a better title whatever the case may be and so recognizing that where you're at now may not be fully suited to where you want to be so what are the things that need to change and i think it is very instructive for people to ask the question who's living my ideal life and that doesn't mean who's making the most money it means what person's life do you want to live the real day-to-day grind of it and when you identify what your dream job is now we need to go about figuring out how we get that job and so very quickly a question about managing our adhd and figuring out how to stay focused actually becomes a question of how do we get good at finding the right job and so if you think about orchestrating your life and most people live by the law of accident i want to repeat that most people live by the law of accident don't let that be you right you bump into somebody they know there's a job offering or it's closer to where you live or it's you know easier for you with the kids whatever and so you bump into these things it's like oh yeah cool i'll make that little thing and instead of designing your life you end up just responding to sort of little bumps along the road that end up leading you down a path that was never a conscious choice you want to sit down and map out okay we know that we have we need a job that meets certain criteria and one piece of that criteria is that it allows you to be very physical and get that energy out okay so take control of your lives i cannot stress that one enough journaling is hugely important recognizing where you thrive where you don't thrive what are deal breakers so it sounds like eight hours behind a desk is a deal breaker for you so map out those things take very strict control of your life and remember this may be one of the things that that has led me to have a career a life that has certainly led to a tremendous amount of joy in my life and looks like from the outside um impossible to obtain i am an unreasonable person and i set aside all of my lacking elements all of my that's a weird way to say inadequacies i set aside all the things that i'm not good at because i know it's all a process i can get good at anything that i point myself at right the only belief that matters if i put time and attention to getting good at this thing i actually will get good at this thing so i just set all of that aside okay cool yeah whatever i'm not yet good enough to have the life that i want my ideal life but i'm gonna get good enough and from that i plant a very unreasonable belief inside my soul which is i can have any life i want and now i just need to write out exactly what that is and then i'm going to march fiendishly down that road using the rules that we talked about in question two my ability to stay focused that i cultivated from question one okay this is real this is actually how i live my life all to now that i have this glowing ember of determination in my soul to live a life that everybody else thinks is absurd beyond my reach which it certainly is every time i begin in a journey but i know what i want i've hand crafted the life that i desire and i know the realities of who i am and what needs to be true in order for me to move well through the world right as somebody who was diagnosed with adhd as a kid i fully get it and so i have tailored my life to that momentum is everything to me because i've got to always be moving i've got to always feel like i can have tomorrow be wildly different than today but i take responsibility for the fact that i have to build that and it's not going to happen by accident the life i would be leading if i led my life by accident would be radically different it would not be tailored to the things that i want so don't be afraid to want don't be afraid to spend an inordinate amount of time thinking about what you really want and then don't be afraid to be unreasonable in accepting nothing less now you could get into a whole thing about pursuit acquiring your goals is far less important than sincerely pursuing them but that is beyond the scope of this q a all right so with that i'm going to move on number four my question is i'm a small time youtuber just started making videos for a few weeks now i've seen a lot of videos on how to grow your channel and what you should and should not post all these things have created so much noise in my mind that i need to do a lot of things and have to put an ample amount of effort to become successful in it this noise is distracting me from being myself and i just want to know if i should do what other people are doing as well even when i don't want to how should i overcome this okay so while this may be slightly outside of the the scope of traditionally what people think of as distraction i really like this idea of the all the different voices in your head whether it's your parents whether it's your friend whether it's other youtubers also creating the sense of distraction of i don't know which path to choose now self-awareness there is no question that it's one of the most important things that anybody could develop in their lives becoming aware of translating how you're feeling about something into words that you can articulate i don't think there's anything more powerful than journaling for developing self-awareness which again self-awareness is about translating how you feel into an understanding of why you feel that thing okay so that's going to be the journal process this happened made me feel some kind of way this is why i think it made me feel some kind of way and then you're going to get better and better and better at that until you're able to identify exactly what it is that's bothering you in real time now that's going to be facing a lot of insecurities admitting things about yourself that you may not want to admit but that's going to open a lot of doors for you because at least you now understand your motivations okay so now with that in mind we've got all these voices that are raining down on us but we've spent the time developing self-awareness so when somebody tells us hey you should do this to grow your channel and we're like oh that makes me feel some kind of way oh i don't like that because i know the day-to-day grind of doing xyz thing i won't enjoy doing that so okay cool or the number of people that have given me advice on how to grow impact theory university that i have ignored because i don't like the way that being a hardcore salesman like that makes me feel and just being honest that that means that i won't generate as much revenue from impact theory university as i could but to me doing things like giving it away to people that can't afford it yeah that makes me feel the way that i want to feel and so being honest with myself about why i'm feeling the way that i'm feeling and the real world consequences of that is incredibly important so as you get this advice on what you should do to grow your channel if it doesn't feel right identify why it doesn't feel right and then steer towards what does feel right because doing things that make you feel better about yourself that you love the difficult process of doing will be far more rewarding because here is the god's honest truth the struggle is guaranteed the success is not nobody can guarantee that your channel is going to grow not the way that you want it to but i can guarantee that it's going to be hard so if you know that something is going to be hard and the outcome is wildly uncertain then you want to make sure that what you do you love the process of and i intimated earlier that sincere pursuit should be the thing that you emotionally reward yourself for if you show up every day unafraid to make a mistake to put out a video on youtube to see what works what doesn't work to try things to be courageous in the face of putting something out there and people coming after you saying it's garbage or whatever all the things that will inevitably happen to you if you're on youtube long enough but rewarding yourself for being courageous enough to do it for not succumbing to the noise to refusing to be paralyzed by indecision for in the face of a tsunami of distracting voices and differing opinions that you knew in the end the only thing that matters is action there's a phrase that i think about often and that is action cures all if you have a problem i promise you thinking about it isn't the solution taking action is hey like you i would go watch a bazillion youtube videos but i wouldn't watch a bazillion youtube videos on how to do something before i tried it i might watch a couple videos but i mean literally a couple videos and then i would immediately get involved in that thing and you will find that in doing it and trying to pull it off you learn infinitely more you now have context for what you're learning you now will maybe steer your education in a different direction i just cannot stress enough you've got to take action you've got to take action and in that all that din that noise you're going to begin to realize like wait a second these people don't even know what they're talking about because i'm actually out there doing it these people do know what they're talking about so i'm going to be listening more to them but action cures all like that has to be the mantra that everybody lives by i cannot tell you that the thing that has propelled me forward is i'm so unafraid of embarrassing myself i know that when i get started on something i'm going to look stupid and my willingness to look stupid and not try to pose or look cool to go out there get kicked in the face embarrass myself recollect myself and move forward that's how i keep winning and irony of ironies is if you recognize that you should never judge yourself through the lens of a moment you should only judge yourself through the lens of a lifetime or more practically three-year movements ten-year movements when you start thinking like that then it's like i laugh because all the people making fun of me on a long enough timeline i will beat them all and i really believe that going back to me being a very unreasonable person i know that i will win on a long enough timeline i can be anyone at anything because i have the only belief that matters that if i put time and energy into getting better at something i will actually get better now most people can't do it most people cannot get their ego out of the way most people can't eliminate the distractions most people succumb to the paralysis of indecision they're so afraid to be embarrassed that they let that noise right the the very well-defined sense of distraction from other people's voices stop them from growing from learning from trying from taking action now if you take action and recognize i'll get better these guys can make fun of me they're never going to stick with it they won't be able to deal with the emotion of getting embarrassed of failing at something of recognizing that you truly aren't good enough yet now most people don't have the word yet that you do you will use that as a weapon and i know people hate it when i use war language but i love it you will use it as a weapon that you will wield in your quest for success it works so well action cures all number five what tools can i use to help shut off my brain from the millions of ideas when i've chosen one to give all my energy and focus to i left my job as vp of a major food company after 10 years a year ago to start my own business and i struggle with being my own boss now that i only have myself to hold myself accountable but this business is my livelihood and my future and my passion project all right i love this man i can relate to this heavily all right i've always said that the thing that sobers up entrepreneurs faster than anything is to have your house on the line when you've got a wife kids just rent to make whatever even if you're a solo flyer but you know you've got to eat all of a sudden you become real sober about either something is working or it is not and when it is not working man you better make a change and make a change asap there's some real clarity to that now i would say that you want and i can predict the the kickback i'm gonna get on this but this is the truth and because i live it every day as 50 cent said i came in the game humble can't nobody tell me now you want to tie your identity to your success it's dangerous because oh my god if you end up failing you're going to have to backtrack real fast and get your identity back out of that but we're going to save that for another class for now i'm going to tell you hey the fact that it's all writing on the line the fact that you said you were going to do this and now baby it's put up or shut up let that ride on you now be very careful don't let it create so much pressure that you become paralyzed because that does not serve you we do and believe that which moves us towards our goals so we want the pressure but not so much that it causes us to crack not so much that it slows us down or um you know puts us in this death spiral right you never allow yourself to say the words i'm out of moves you're never out of moves you're never out of options right there is always something else that you can do number one rule of being an entrepreneur avoid a mortality event the name of the game is to stay in business long enough to figure it out it is very okay to not know what you're doing right now it is very much not okay to stand still the only wrong move in life ever is standing still indecision will kill you mistakes will not now we can get into the idea of dent the car don't total the car because of course yes you could make a fatal mistake but those are usually pretty easy to spot if you ask yourself hey if this fails do i go out of business if the answer is yes don't even attempt it move on to something where the answer is no far better to take incremental steps towards your goal to stay in the game long enough to figure out exactly what direction you want to be taking those steps in than to do one sort of big put it all on the roulette wheel embed it all on black okay that we do not want to do stay in the game tie your identity to that success be all in while i don't encourage people to burn the ships to the shore i actually encourage people keep your day job you've already burned your ships at the shore so you need to be honest that behind you is the flaming wreckage of your previous life now probably good to hold a little nugget in your head reminding you that you can always get back to that because you have the skills and skills have utility but for now we're going to close the door on that that's going to be the break clap break glass in case of emergency sort of notion for now we want to make sure that since we left our previous job it's do or die so let's do now personally i respond well to that i love that i love having things right on it but i'm very careful not to let that overwhelm me so the whole notion of overwhelm is outside the scope of this question but i think you're in a powerful position but you have to embrace the do or die mentality so get in there get after it all right number six working from home offers quite a bit of distractions one i didn't think i'd face is board eating during the work day where do you think board eating stems from how do you curb this habit all right board eating is all about dopamine so what happens is you start doing a task that task is difficult it has a high cognitive load okay and when you think about the brain is about three pounds and yet it consumes about 20 percent of your calories so it is a tiny percentage of your overall body weight and yet calorically it is wildly demanding so thinking actually is hard and so when you get into something and you're thinking about it and you hit that sort of either it's boring it's difficult it's forcing you to face your inadequacies whatever it's the antithesis of the dopamine reward that you would get if you just pick up your phone or god willing that you can go eat something and eating is one especially if you're wired like me eating is one of the biggest dopamine rewards that you're going to get it is truly a drug-like effect if that's you then you need to put in parameters around your eating you need to remember that you have a goal you're working towards something and this is critically important to understand going back to construct your life you should be pursuing a goal that matters to you okay your goals should be exciting and honorable okay exciting and that you're amped up about it even failing at that thing is fun and i think that's one of the most important questions anybody could ask themselves what could i do and love even if i were failing now you're always going to prefer winning at something that you love over losing at something that you love but there really are things in your life that are interesting enough to you doesn't have to be some deep passion but they're interesting enough to you that as you pursue them they give you more energy than they take now that doesn't mean that you don't have overhead in your life we all have it it's a great concept from jeff bezos that no matter how much you love your job there's always going to be overhead there's going to be some percentage of your job that you don't like i never need to work again and yet i'm running a company where 30 of my time 30 a full 30 of my time is i hate i don't just dislike i actively hate doing it 30 of my time is stuff that's fine it's important it needs to be done not necessarily thrilling and then only 40 is stuff that i'm ecstatic about but i'm so excited by what we're trying to build and i'm so sustained by the 70 percent that's either fine important but needs to be done maybe not the most thrilling but fine and the 40 that i absolutely love that i'm more than happy to slay the dragons of the 30 of things that i hate and for whatever reason i'm unable to outsource to somebody else so i've got this exciting goal it's honorable i'm trying to help other people is what i mean by that so it doesn't just serve me it serves others which is a huge dopamine reward for um a social animal okay that's critically important so when i have that impulse to stop doing the hard thing and to go get something to eat and i have even found myself getting up out of my seat i'm literally three steps towards the kitchen like what am i doing and i sit myself back down so it is crazy how fast you can slip into autopilot that there is some part of your brain that's telling you to pick up your phone and look at it to um check your email to go get something to eat i think everybody feels those distractions understanding that's your brain crying out for a little dopamine hit you've probably trained yourself to do that either through frequent eating or through uh just training yourself to look at your phone constantly which they are designed to take over that mechanism to shorten people's attention span to make you crave that next hit and so we're living in this crazy world of digital distraction where we're trained to have this shorter and shorter attention span to crave that dopamine more and more so now you're going to have to do things to unwind that rules around eating have been very helpful for me so i eat two meals a day that's it period end of story and i know when the day begins exactly what i'm going to be intaking so my calories are always planned out except for saturday saturday i go pretty hardcore sunday i don't even worry about calories but i limit the options like i don't eat things with sugar on sunday but i do on saturday so having rules that are extraordinarily strict in fact here is here's a great name for you guys to remember around strict rules bright lines i don't remember who coined that phrase i think it's brilliant so in your life you need bright lines what are things you allow yourself to do and don't allow yourself to do and if you know hey this is what i'm allowed to eat through the day that's it or even these are the times that i'm allowed to eat i have very strict timelines around when i eat so i eat my first meal usually around 8 30 9 o'clock and i eat my last meal brace yourselves i eat my last meal around 1 30 p.m and so i have a nice 17 to 18 hour window where i'm not eating and i do that for a whole host of reasons but i don't violate those rules and so once you put those rules in place sticking to them becomes far easier because this is why jaco willing says discipline is freedom when you know i don't go outside of these lines i don't break these rules these rules are hard and fast they are bright lines now there's no you know maybe i should maybe i shouldn't it's like me and getting out of bed in 10 minutes or less i never want to every single day literally every day of my life my brain is kicking up excuses why today i shouldn't have to get out of bed and 10 minutes less even i am startled that after i've been doing this now for more than 20 years even 20 years in i still have to fight every day but i have bright lines so there's no excuse so literally when i think oh well today you don't have to for xyz reasons my conscious mind i've repeated it so many times is this is a bright line there are no excuses there is no reason there is no if ands or butts you get out of bed in 10 minutes or less full stop period end of story and so therefore i get out of bed but you have to know what you're striving for you have to know why you're doing all of this why you're putting in all these rules and it has to be something you're actually interested in you're actually excited about otherwise why why are you limiting your life like this why are you narrowing things down okay why not go get the dopamine hit from the fridge you have to have a reason right you've got to know why you eat a certain way or don't eat a certain way you've got to know why you're working this hard you've got to know why you push through the difficult things okay nietzsche's quote the person with the right why can survive almost anyhow okay you have to know what your why is you've got to know why you're pushing through all this stuff but once you have that you'll be able to slap some rules on this and get to the other side identity is another key component of that i'm the type of person that follows the rules i put and i put rules in place to get me to my goals it'll be something like that and that becomes a core part of your identity when to feel good about yourself you must adhere to your rules and you love feeling good about yourself so much that you adhere to your rules even when it's boring painful difficult that's when things get really really interesting all right guys on the other side of distraction is an extraordinary world just waiting for you a highly constructed world that truly is your dream life put that unreasonable belief in yourself that you can do this you don't have to be good yet just believe that you can get good and trust me my friends not only can you get good you can get extraordinary and speaking of getting extraordinary if you haven't already be sure to subscribe and until next time my friends be legendary take care hey everybody thank you so 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Channel: Tom Bilyeu

Views: 74,706

Rating: 4.9423075 out of 5

Keywords: Tom Bilyeu, Impact Theory, ImpactTheory, TomBilyeu, Inside Quest, InsideQuest, Tom Bilyou, Theory Impact, motivation, inspiration, talk show, interview, motivational speech, Q&A, impact, distractions, efficiency, self awareness, box breathing, breathing exercise, ADHD, ADD, insecurities, process, noise, action, taking action, meditation, mindfulness, breathing practice, cognition, optimal cognition, rules, beliefs, pressure, boredom, digital distractions, social media, entrepreneur, success

Id: 01u7cI6uPHs

Length: 40min 30sec (2430 seconds)

Published: Sat Apr 24 2021