Your Husband Might Be Having An Affair...

Janice is in Dallas your question for Ken Coleman Janice thank you for taking my call okay so I am currently in Dallas and my husband is still in Florida my guess is a job opportunity in aviation back in February and I moved out here my husband moves me out here it supposed to come in about here with me he owns a construction company in Florida but he changed his mind so I'm stuck on if I need to if I should move back and throw away this career opportunity I'm currently in or if I should stay here and have come out here I got before can't answers I got ass gotta say you understand how weird that sounds right I know I'm going to move with my wife but I changed my mind yo this isn't a career question it's a marriage question well I'm making fifty two thousand dollars they're gonna pay for my pilot's license all the way to my commercial which takes years his business fluctuates in income and so I'm not sure if I should be staying here and have come out here and started his career out here and build his business or if I just need to go back there and everything may be already decided that before you moved yeah why did he change his mind what is he telling you the reason is there's no opportunity in Texas for real estate markets dried up yeah for old Texas economy it just sucks you've gotta be kidding me that's absurd I make 50 right now have you been married Richard and have you been married yes we've been married for six months his business right now he's adding trying to get another dump truck babbling this is not a business problem you have deep problems in your marriage don't you I don't know well you've been married for six months your husband is saying he can't go do construction in Texas because the economy's bad which is a load of horse manure if there's something else going on here kiddo yeah you've been in Dallas for three months so of the six months you've been gone for three you guys have been together for three months and he doesn't want to come to Texas for a completely ludicrous and laughable reason yes well this is a wake-up call for you this is a wake up fella yeah I just don't know what to do there's just the business has so much debt and I'm just worried it's gonna go into bankruptcy he keeps adding more and more debt the business no and you didn't sign on any of it did you no but my name is on the company that doesn't matter doesn't harm me unless you sign for the deal unless you sign for stuff did you sign the debts did you sign any of the debts no no but he's adding more trucks and this one this new one that he's won again is already a hundred and thirty-two K and he's already got over 100 250 K in business at home are you I'm going to be 24 soon I'm sorry honey okay something's going to go by by him or you in Dallas and it doesn't sound like he's very committed to you if you were my daughter I'd be putting my hands around his little throat right now because he's being stupid number one number two he's lying something's going on because I really want to grow in my career I got this opportunity I wouldn't choose I wouldn't choose career over marriage but I'm afraid I may have already made the choice for you yeah if your marriage is going to end you need to stay there if you can save your marriage you want to save your marriage and he wants to you're gonna go back to Florida and I want to what he keeps making all these financial decisions for that's not just financial decisions honey he abandoned you he lied to you and he's lying to you again there's something going on back home and I'm afraid to say it out loud because I don't know what her name is there's no explanation for this it makes no sense at all let me just tell you I told Sharon long time ago if she ever leaves me I'm going with her that's good let that one sick kid you know and so if I moved to Dallas she's coming or vice versa you know I understand deployment understand sometimes you're separated by job on purpose but this is different this is this has nothing to do with your career kiddo this has do with your marriage you need to sit down with Pastor immediately with a marriage counselor and get somebody into this it's not a couple of doobs on the radio like me and ken because we're not qualified to help you I'm just a guy sitting here feeling like a dad ready to strangle your little husband right now because somebody's knocking not on his little head but I can just I smell trash them all the way here so you need to get some marriage counseling immediately with a good pastor and then based on what's gonna happen with your marriage you will make your career decisions am I missing something Ken no absolutely right he made the commitment to go there for her so his only reason is so crazy that nobody would have a brain would believe it so he's got to come up with reasons why no opportunity for those doing construction Oh God you really need to come up with a better one than that son you know he's a coward yeah cuz you come up and excuse that bad Aaron coward no he's not you know he's a kid oh my gosh he's a little boy I'm sorry honey please get some marriage counseling and not from my guys like us we're not qualified but I've just been down a whole bunch of these roads over the years with friends family and everything else and I've watched it happen and I don't think I don't think this is going to end well so I think you're probably going to end up staying in Dallas it's my guess but um it's not about the financial decisions that he's making that's that those are secondary they're there they're the symptom in this situation you know Kent interestingly in sidebar financial problems and career problems are both oftentimes from not really the problem they're oftentimes a symptom something else going on in it absolutely the case if you look at this he keeps adding trucks he's a young guy as you said and he wants this business to grow and he thinks well I'm gonna go get more and more debt try to build it faster I've heard you tell us I've heard you tell leaders I don't know how many entree leadership conferences I've heard you use this line you want people to be on the cover of slow company it's so there's something that drives a young entrepreneur to try to do it too quickly and you try to scale too quickly and you take debt because you think that's the way to do it and you wake up and you've ruined you know that first venture so there's always something behind it driving bad decisions so I did the exact same thing when I was just yeah not counting the abandoning my wife part but Wow [Music]

Channel: The Ramsey Show - Highlights

Views: 521,786

Keywords: the dave ramsey show, budget money debt cash, real estate, insurance, how to make money, dave ramsey, save, credit card, compound interest, buying house, buy, snowball

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Length: 7min 57sec (477 seconds)

Published: Mon Jun 03 2019