Woman Breastfed Her Daughter Until She Was Nine | This Morning

thank you for coming back cause we're here when your daughter was five and it has carried on and you've got four daughters yeah you one is 31 and the youngest we can talk about is 90 marital all voluntary breast feeding counselor so how long did you breastfeed the other babies a couple of weeks sort of a month and then six months with the third one right okay and so as far as your youngest is concerned what is it what's happened for it to have extended beyond what you did with your other children it's information I found out the actually children generally if they're allowed to feed they will carry on feeding for much longer than it's generally seen as normal most moms stop it's off maybe twelve months they've made me come back to work whatever the World Health Organization recommends to to and beyond so it's that and beyond bit that they even they are saying it's up to mums well the NHS guidance reads babies get most of the nutrients they need from breast milk or formula until they around six months old breast milk will carry on protecting them for as long as you carry on leading so that that's your theory behind it yes you mean yeah yeah their immune system doesn't become mature tools of maybe six or seven something like that so they're still getting those benefits you know there's nothing in breast milk that suddenly changes because the child gets to a certain age in fact it actually just improves and appears itself towards that child how does it how does it work then what's the arrangement and should it I don't refuse but I don't offer so it's all it's all her choices she would just come up to me she won't even ask she'll you know I know that she'll just come and sit or used to come and sit and have a cuddle Amin eat and I want a feed and what about now when was the last time you it's probably a good couple of months ago now so I think she's finally finally stopped and is that a relief to you no it's fine it was her choice yeah yeah yeah and it's such a gradual process as well you know if we were going maybe a couple of weeks in between a feed mm-hmm and think so it wouldn't be a day it wouldn't be like a feat with grown up when I think of breastfeeding I assume it's like a nightly feed or a morning or staggered throughout the day it was probably 30 seconds maybe up to a minute longest feed was maybe a bedtime which was maybe up to five minutes can I ask a question is it is it easy to produce milk nine nine years on yeah it's supply and demand well ever you breastfeeding you're gonna carry on producing milk even if you have a gap of two months or three months yeah yeah could you buddy adjusts I don't know that I'm producing milk because I haven't been able to express or anything for years but I used to ask her you know you still getting milk yes cuz I'm and do you think she might just been saying that cuz she just no the contact no no she would definitely tell me and as far as expressing cuz I know a lot of people say to you well why don't you express it in a cup mmm it's not as easy as they said like I say I haven't been able to express anything for years lots of moms don't get on with expressing and pumps and things so it's not an easy option about her teeth occasionally have been problems exactly what I rode full set of teeth mm-hmm yeah and there have been days when I've got yet that's just hurting a little bit because a lot of people have said oh I'm doing this it's me that's forcing his feet I'm not gonna force a child to feed um if it's gonna be painful and the word day is one of like and can you just readjust could you do the beginning and things and so but it's something that she wanted to do has it made you feel closer to her and I know obviously you're treating all your children yeah they're saying you love them all the same but has it made you feel closer to her yes I would say it would do and her to me as well we have a really really close bond out of all all my girls I would have said she's probably the closest thanks yeah so what's wrong with that then well I my feeling is that as as parents as mothers we have evolutionarily speaking we've got one job and that one job is to raise our children to grow up to be people who can live without us who can be individuals who can live independently and who aren't reliant on us as their mothers and I think that if you are still breastfeeding a child when they're nine that that flies in the face of that basic job that we have you've said that you think it's more about the mother's emotional needs yeah and I do and I say as somebody who I breastfed my all three of my daughters the first two until they were one and my youngest daughter until she was passed her second birthday and I stopped feeding her at the point where she was able to ask me for a feed and in the biskits island the supermarket you know she tried to help herself and I thought God you know this is getting a bit much now and I had to stop and think well why am I still feeding her because she she can eat with a knife and fork she could you know drink with a cup and so I had to think well actually she's my youngest and maybe I'm trying to keep her a boat into that and hold on to that and so it felt right at that point to stop do you think you know society does put sort of an age limit on a lot of things you know that certainly I shouldn't be having a dumb a you should be potty trained by this aids do you think this is what's happening again with breastfeeding yeah yeah mums just stop being listening to their instincts their child's instincts just trust your child to know what they want for their bodies you know we're really good at knowing what we need but what about once out of that goal what about friends at school do they know that but I'm not sure I'm not sure because it's not the sort of thing that kids talk about kids don't don't go into the playground go oh did you have a couple with you my own now though they may do now but I think it for kids it's more of an interest of like oh you were in the papers or you were on TV or oh you're still breastfed and that's a bit strange it's not you'll see the other mothers at school yes they're fine with it yeah I've not had any comments in real life something that you know I've all been on social movements so for you I mean let's you know let's play this a little longer you said it's been a couple of months and you're thinking that maybe that might have been the last one which is a bit of an emotional thing you know that's you know maybe this is not gonna happen again and if you're not planning on having any more children then maybe that might be the last time forever but if it isn't and if if she comes up to you in a couple of days a couple of weeks I'm and carries on and then carries on what point do you say actually this is this is now inappropriate you're 32 nature takes over mother nature is really good if she comes and ask me tomorrow whenever because I've not been here at home or whatever then that's fine but as I say nature tends to take over once children get their start we've got almost like a full set of adult teeth the Josh ape changes so mother nature is is saying actually you don't need to breastfeed it any longer so they lose their latch naturally their immune systems become mature so they don't need those extra new to you but nutrients if it is just a bonding thing for like your say you're unaware of really how much milk she could be getting surprised if she is getting any milk and she loves me nitrous I trusted to tell me well I mean I I spoke to a midwife yesterday about this and said to her how you know how realistic do you think it is that you would be able to produce milk you've said that you you feed your daughter maybe once a month now she said it like you said milk comes it's supply and demand so it you know she was very surprised to hear that you could go as long as a month between feeds and you're not produced and you're still producing milk I know that when I stopped feeding my daughter she about two weeks later she fell in and had a bump and so my instinct was to pick her up and try a feeder just to comfort me and there was nothing there and I mean and she didn't know what to do she just you know thought I'd gone mad that I was even trying to do it's different for every month oh well they've been told I was gonna say he's like say then but you know we are all in everything we do in our lives that other people are very happy these days to judge you you get judged very quickly for anything you do and if it works for you and if it works for your daughter you're not doing anybody any harm and that's my final question do you think it could be doing any harm yes I do I I'm you know I'm sorry to say this my son here next to you but I do I think that what you're doing is creating you talk about this great bond that you share well you can have that bond you know having I could on the sofa and reading a book or watching TV together you don't have to have her doing an act that really is associated with being a baby I think you're allowing her to roleplay rather society's way of seeing children and now she lights and quite young and that's a society she has to grow up in and exist in and you know I'm sorry I think that she is going to find that difficult among her peers and people do you've had a hard time on social media I dread to think you know one's never had any negative comments whatsoever she's the most independent little girl I know you know we have arguments in the house because usually our older sister wants to help but do things and it's like no I want to do this myself she's grown up to be fostering independence for a bottle what if she was saying mommy Adil that's a replacement for a breast so do you think it's something that she would feel embarrassed about if you know like you say it's not it's not maybe a question that would be asked but no no cuz she just sees it as it's it's a feeling of security love comfort bonding time with mum we we have to leave it there but it's fascinating all get to your comments a little bit wait for all of those to come in but thank you both thank you us you again thank you you

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Length: 10min 23sec (623 seconds)

Published: Tue Nov 13 2018