My Girlfriend Tortured, Stabbed and Starved Me | This Morning

so let's start the beginning of your story because you you met her at college in 2012 you're both 16 this was your first relationship but what was she like how did that relationship begin it was fine it was good and it was it seemed normal and everything was going very well and then it all started to go a little bit but the work there was sort of science what they warning signs early on she she liked game playing with you'd go on holiday and and she'd disappear for long periods of time so she was she is an intelligent woman but but she used that against you yeah it was academically very bright she got a lot of A's went to university obviously and I wasn't of that type and I think she used that quite a lot in what way what did she do just to belittle me say you're dumb you're stupid you're Vic all the time and you you moved into her family home and the emotional peace steps up here and there was an incident where she told you that your grandfather had passed away yes I remember I was sitting in the bedroom upstairs and she come in to the room and said oh my mum's just got a message on her phone I said okay what's that your granddad's died how it just me and my granddad's but like there he's watching her now he's probably but no I mean yeah she let you believe that but for a long hours to two hours I was crying for and I was just kept saying sorry I didn't say bye and ice and then as she even said you only go dance what's my mom about it so by then you start thinking it's real Wow and then about half hour after that she said why do you care I said what do you mean it didn't happen it's not true she she isolated you very cleverly from your family and your friends she took your phone away from you yeah closed down your Facebook page open up another Facebook page yeah and and that was one that she was in control of the 2016 you move in together and this is where the the physical abuse starts and I mean this this started off where she'd be hitting you over the head with bottles and yeah yeah and knives were used also in what way how did she decide if I was lying in the bed and should wait till hours of sleep and just hit me on the head with a bottle I managed to get rid of the bottle well I know and then she moved on to a hammer started hitting me with hammers everywhere like my shins arms head and then I managed to throw that hammer in the field opposite so far it's over but then everything she could find to hit me with [ __ ] of woods yeah she made you made you sleep on the floor yeah I slept on the floor for about eight months with I had to wear my own clothes that I wore in the day I probably wore the same clothes about four days because I couldn't take it off because and I was putting clothes on top of me as my quilt and add closes a pillow and you were too scared to complain or do anything about this yeah there was nothing I could do I had no way of contacting anyone and if I did do it I would have I she told me if I ever tried to leave she'd kill me and and these things just came out of nowhere there was enough there wasn't anything that moved the button to make it happen she just I don't really understand why but then it just developed into work more when did she when did she burn you um she started stabbing me before that with a knife and she wouldn't stop she would hit with a knife as if it was a weapons you hear said leave big gashes and never left untreated and then after it was November time we went to go and watch a concert and I woke up because she was pouring boiling water onto my back it was like an alarm call of yeah yeah and and and of course you you've back is scolded and you normally need to get a medical attention she left I remember walk around the city centre and I said I begged Oh should we just go to a pharmacy I need cream I remember having a t-shirt I I nicked Korea want to split on my hand I wasn't desperate payments dropped it all over my arm and yeah horrendous well you were obviously you know you in hospital who do and have a look at the damage to your wrist when the knife yeah but she got you out of there I wouldn't let you have that in case you told anybody what was going on here and it was the neighbors actually it was that it was the screaming and the shouting that that the neighbors complained about police came around didn't they yeah the police come around a few times just ask questions and I sort of brushed it off I said even when they I had a massive gash on my wrist I said I did it to myself and they had to take me on face value but eventually they did it was one police officer that got you into the back of the car and he turned off his camera on his vest ya know he he come the week before when this happened and yeah they said if it was a centimeter over way I would have probably died yeah so the police officer that finally for the first time you could trust and tell your story yeah and tell him the truth I mean the relief of having that release were you still scared I don't know what I remember saying he got me in the car yet questionably in the house we know it's not you doing it to yourself and I saw the other he sat me in the car and he said you're not getting out of this car until you told me the truth and I said I'm doing it to myself and he goes you're not he switched his body camera anyways you're gonna tell me now straightaway so as soon as I knew that no one else was watching it just me and him yeah it come out yeah and I said please just go on the neighbors and accusations and don't say it's from me from there it's been only and so yeah and so you did take it further and and then as we said at the beginning of this interview she's just been sentenced um how do you feel about her now I don't need to waste my energy thinking about her right there's no need for that we've had we've had conversations sadly we've had conversations like this before on it and this one won't be the last one whether its domestic abuse on a male or female whoever whatever the combination happens to be other but people always saying you look at social media listen well why didn't you get out why didn't you tell somebody I asked you that question it's such a difficult you you know you'd only understand it with your in it yeah yeah this is impossible to explain you

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Length: 6min 57sec (417 seconds)

Published: Wed Apr 18 2018

Reddit Comments

[u/[deleted]]

Poor bloke. I hope she goes away for a long time.

[u/pindab0ter]

Is it weird to be surprised at how well these hosts are dealing with the situation? They're being sympathetic, understanding, asking questions that go into detail without feeling like they just want the 'juicy stuff'. Well done I say.

[u/lending_ear]

Poor bloke. My heart breaks for him and anyone else in that situation. He is right it’s impossible to explain why someone doesn’t leave unless in that situation. Abusers systematically break a person down bit by bit. Isolate them and make the abused dependent on them. It’s usually very subtle at first. When they know they have you at your lowest is when the physical abuse comes in. It’s such a harrowing feeling to believe you genuinely have nobody, deserve the abuse and have nowhere to turn and even if you do - they may come good on their threats to murder you and sometimes they do.

Fuck that bitch and any other abusive POS out there.

[u/Captainweirdo54]

After being in this situation myself I feel lucky that it wasn't to that extent just watching this started making me feel anxious

[u/mdgraller]

"How do you feel about her now?"

"I don't need to waste my energy thinking about her. There's no need for that."

Savage. But major props to this guy, glad he made it out. He's quite brave for coming forward like this and if you don't understand why, scroll to the bottom of this thread and look at the kind of things people say about men being abused.

[u/[deleted]]

It doesn't say in the video, but they have two kids together, and at some point he developed a brain condition due to the abuse.

I assume that's why he stayed in this situation. I can't imagine any other reason why he would.

[u/mrunacknowledged]

I really do feel for this guy I’ve been in an abusive relationship not to the extent of this guy but my ex broke a rib and my nose on two separate occasions we were together for 8 years engaged for 5 and she made me feel like a useless piece of crap and you feel like you love them and that everything will be ok everything will change but it doesn’t! I got out of it and I’m now changing my life day by day I have an amazing girlfriend who’s aware of what happened but I’ve never told any of my family this information purely because I never wanted to look weak.

I completely feel for him.

[u/31TonBallZack]

This same shit happened to me for 5 years--except she was never prosecuted. Now, thanks to social media, I can see that she and her [new] husband seem happy. Fuck me. I kept hearing from her and believing that it was my fault. And now that she appears happy and stable it just makes things worse. Domestic abuse is fucked up. Still recovering from this shit.

[u/danielpackard]

It’s quite simple to explain. Of course on some level it’s impossible to explain. It’s an intense experience with many layers.

On another level, the deepest level, the reason we stay is because we don’t feel worthy of more.

When I was in a relationship with heavy neglect and occasional verbal abuse, I could list all these reasons why I stayed.

But deep down, it was because of low worthiness.

Once I healed and felt worthy of more, I only attract good people and I always stand up for myself.

If you are reading this, just know you are worthy of 10/10 love. But it’s up to you to get that love from the right people.