Why They Can’t Come Back (If You’re ‘Waiting And Hoping’)- Getting Your Ex Back

hi everyone it's Susan from Sue's new Internet thank you for coming to my channel and for my YouTube family thank you so much for your kind words thank all of you who subscribed that means a lot to me I want to talk about something today that has been a really current issue with a lot of my consultation sessions and so honestly sometimes I think these things are like an epidemic that I am seeing the same thing happened to an entire group of people that I'm working with the case I'm talking about is the person who was into u into u into u into u both gon can't do a relationship I'm confused I don't know or even the partner who is making future plans with you when you sustained a breakup when somebody who was there and they pulled you into you being there as well and they suddenly leave you the progression of emotions that we go through and the process of us handling this is often depicted by a ditch that we fall into and it can be for quite some period of time where we are waiting we're waiting and hoping and we are convinced that if we just keep keep thinking about it and keep waiting and hoping and trying to analyze what went wrong and were we deficient in some way and did we not give them what they wanted we're picking at ourselves and we're picking at the situation so we are ruminating we're obsessing we're fixated on them on the relationship on getting them back we're waiting and hoping and waiting and hoping and waiting and hoping and this seems at the time like the correct behavior because we know enough about metaphysics about the power of thought to know that if you're thinking about Grandma you know just the thought comes through your head about grandma then grandma calls you right we know how it is that you suddenly think about a person and you hear from them we do understand that thoughts are things and we do understand that not only do our thoughts affect now we feel about ourselves and how we feel about who we are in the world but also how others perceive us and how we connect in our ethereal way with them okay so here is the problem that happens in every other construct were you to think about somebody they would think about you as well or they would get a sense of you right so we're hoping it applies to the one that got away and it's actually the opposite and I think those of you that watch all these videos oftentimes when I'm talking to you in consultation you'll say always like the Australia story where you're out on the water and the guy finally sends you a message yes exactly it is the protocol for you if you are wounded and aching and waiting and hoping you must move I know you've heard me say this before but I'm going to tell you why again for reasons scientifically that we cannot explain at this moment that we will have words for in the future what I do know that happens is when the person who has lost interest when they are flooded with our obsession our fix our fixation our rumination they somehow are propped up psychically by this energy and the only moment that you can jar them into a response is when you withdraw it and invest it in yourself now why this works don't have the language for it does it work absolutely do I know it works yes and when I urged my clients to do it and they can commit to it kind of like a diet you got to stay on it you catch yourself when you're going off and you correct yourself for some reason the absence of your energy and the willingness for you to move forward is the thing that catalyzes their intrigue or their interest again and let's face it where you were when it fractured it wasn't working for them maybe it even wasn't working for you but when it broke this was not the correct combination so you don't want to wait here frozen because that place didn't work you must move forward and it's a win-win here's why one you move forward you count your blessings you look at the ground gained you tell yourself wow I went this far I got this much this is amazing you focus on the winds you move forward you're thankful for what you had it's not the way you would have liked another outcome but you know what this is fine and you look to the future and you invest in yourself and you look for the positive and you focus on the positive and you try to be present to life to those moments to the smell at the air to the to the the way your your little animal you're kidding or your your puppy feels to the eyes of somebody that you love you try and focus on these things and as you slowly move from that big ditch that holds you in place of waiting and hoping suddenly your obsession your mental energy that you were just leaking to this person your vital life force has evaporated and then they feel a difference they feel your absence and only then do humans sometimes realize what they've lost one it is the right movement for you to move forward and to move ahead to when you do that then and only then can the reconfiguration have a possibility of showing up again new and different you have to be different you have to have a little psychological space from where you were you cannot be in the same place I've watched people lose months years waiting and hoping and they are so frozen in place and so miserable that we're that person to accidentally run into them they be only confirmed that I the right decision they're exactly where they were when I left them and that's that was not appealing to me so if you were in this situation it's counterintuitive in every other way you're energetic thought would be helpful to create a connection in this specific instance where a person was hot and then went cold on you where they were all about you and they lost their interest if it was a relationship that broke up your only hope of having a second option to know them again is for you to move forward and even if it doesn't happen it's what you have to do anyway I hope this makes sense to you I do know that it is true and I do know that it works and I have watched this happen in so many cases and you will too the UM the kind of the common way to say this is they come back when you don't think about them or they come back when you don't care to I'm just being a little more specific about why that happens but it is true so it's to your benefit and it's to your ex's benefit embrace the new and enhanced you be grateful for the time you had with them move forward in optimism and hope and confidence of what has been achieved and then the likelihood of a better future is right in front of you and the likelihood and the greater possibility of them reexamining of this is also there as well Susan winter pursues no internet thank you all of you that subscribed thank you for your notes for your messages thank you those of you who work with man magnify it is so cool it's so great I worked with two gals from katana I didn't even know that that could happen it was so amazing and thank you those of you that come to my consultation page for the longer 45 minute sessions that's great my very best to all of you take care now

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Length: 8min 35sec (515 seconds)

Published: Tue Oct 16 2018