Why Are You Polyamorous Now? | Eating With My Ex: Rose and Matt

why are you pulley amorous now when I was his night was very our relationship was very exciting it was very some things started to go wrong because we were having communication issues and that start to not trust each other when Matt and I were together I didn't know he had any mental health issues after me and rose broke up I realized that something was right and I started to help and was eventually diagnosed with bipolar disorder thank you so Matt if you're bipolar has been diagnosed earlier do you think would still be together I think it's a possibility because I think I would have changed the way we talk about things and the things I would aspire to I needed to avoid and need to tell you about like I very would have dealt with things very differently things going on with money and my work situation and obviously my health for starting to deteriorate at that point and you know we talked things over and and she decided you know she couldn't she couldn't cope with anymore you so I'd come home like I'd be like a zombie and I think I had put a strain on our relationship as well you'd like you for your home yeah and I still I'm dreading going back into work on Monday night if Buffy Bastide to crush me a little bit I felt trapped by it was like what I'm going to do I hate this and I'm trapped there are certain things that you weren't telling me like we weren't communicating very well and so I kind of started to not trust you as much as I did in the beginning my mental health was influenced in the way I communicated with Rose the feelings I would have I couldn't quite understand I couldn't express them and I would act erratically so I imagine she found it really difficult to understand what I'm doing and why I'm doing it it just turned into like a shame spiral for me the worse it got the harder it was to say anything and I didn't have the words to explain some of what going on I think that the thing that most people miss with Bipolar is it often looks like just depression and/or anxiety but that's really obvious to see a lot of the time but they don't have these it's the hypomania it just comes across as me being in a really good mood and being really my best self and charming self you don't always know said doctors don't often notice it because the patient feels good why would they report that there's a problem yeah and a lot of people just don't talk about it because they worry oh my friend is going to think I'm weird are they going to think I'm high-maintenance it's so much closer to home than you realize like it people just don't realize how many people they know close to them may have something I'd say I've learned to be a bit more patient with people and kind of understand them a bit more and get to know how people tick and how they feel rather than just assuming things actually communicate with people and have you seen me change since my diagnosis yes you've become more reliable I think more reliable likes your friends and little things like your timekeeping has got a lot better yeah and you've become more sort of determined as a person like determined to work hard and to get things done and to get what you want done I'm in a much better place now receiving medical treatment and I'm currently polyamorous so when that told me that he fully amorous but at first it was quite like weird and weird things here so I kind of thought I was he not happy just with me when we were together so Matt why polyamorous now cameras now for for a few reasons and the top one is to do with my mental health I wouldn't say o-once polyamorous people have mental health issues but more that they're more aware of them I think because there's so much communication that has to be done after our relationship before it's so rare to find a relationship like that I don't think I could find that on one person again so you know that's a compliment to you Matt seems happier now being polyamorous not seen in on a moment because I'm still putting my mental health first and finishing treatment do you think we will always be friends yes I think we'll always do they're friends I can't imagine not being friends with you me too yeah me too and I want to say thank you and I'm sorry HAP for how difficult it was for you so I really did put you for a lot of times and if I could still be friends with me after all of that there's a lot of title character and I really am grateful here in Matt's apology to me about his behavior when he was suffering with mental health problems as it was really lovely to hear that hear him say sorry I know that Matt and I will be friends forever my advice to any couple dealing with mental illness is it does get better and it won't always be easy as you learn to understand what's going on to find it easier to communicate and the more you communicate the better it gets [Music]

Channel: BBC Three

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Length: 5min 46sec (346 seconds)

Published: Mon Jul 03 2017