What Are You Ashamed Of? (strangers answer)

i'm ashamed that it took me 18 years to spend today with my daughter i'm ashamed of being sort of friends with a bully he's mean to me as well i don't really hang out with him but he like hangs out with me and i hang out with his friends that are not bullies but they say he's mean too but we're afraid to not play with him because then he might bully us more than he does don't be friends with people who are mean to you no matter what they tell you they'll give to you or anything this is our first date in 18 years so why did it take 18 years um her mother and i were young and we were in different relationships and uh you know some secrets are left secrets for a while and then they can't be secrets anymore so is this the first time you guys have met [Music] so how does it feel hanging out with your dad for the first time definitely not shameful it feels like long overdue for sure well i'm ashamed of when whenever people leave me out and playing the game and and there was this kid his name is um he's in my class and whenever whenever i'm playing soccer with him he he just leaves me out so so i just walk away and and he's just laughing and i don't really like it how does it make you feel it makes me feel really sad okay do you make sure that you don't do that to other people yes that's good that's really good buddy you're so brave you know that i waited a long time to go back to school and um i guess i'm ashamed that i'm not in a place in my life where i could help my family more calling my mother a hypocrite when i was a teenager for wanting to live with my uh boyfriend at the time why is that the first thing that came to your mind because it was uh i am ashamed of it is that your mom right there she's crying too they never apologized for it it made you cry i am ashamed of my depression and anxiety and what it makes me do to myself physically and mentally [Music] i'm ashamed of my scars and actually pull out my hair due to the anxiety and i have to constantly cover up and buy makeup to cover it up because it's very noticeable if i don't style my hair a certain way and yeah i just really wish i had never started doing that because it would have saved me a lot of time and money if i hadn't started doing that do you have any advice for like other people who are maybe going through it um seek help it's really hard for me myself to seek help but it doesn't have to necessarily be like going to a therapist it can just be like going out to like the park with a friend or a co-worker and just like letting them know like just being honest about how you're feeling is the best thing you can do to people because it gives them like an idea of what you're going through and you don't have to suffer in silence in high school i wasn't a very nice person and i think it had to do with a lot of myself being very insecure so i was mean to a lot of people and if i can go back i would like apologize to a lot of people i'm sorry guys i'm changed i grew up i'm mature and i'm a lot more secure about myself and i'm sorry i brought a lot of people down just to make myself feel better i think i'm ashamed probably of how long it took for me to like be myself like i'm i'm gay and that was like it's a really long process for me i think it took a year i was even dating somebody and like didn't tell anybody and like it was hard and i was really ashamed at the time and now i think i'm ashamed that i was ashamed i don't know i guess like my body sometimes um i feel like i've done a lot to get over a lot of things that i used to be ashamed of that i'm not ashamed of anymore that's good so [Music] the list is shorter these days i am definitely ashamed of feeling like i never accomplish what i should be accomplishing on a day-to-day basis feeling stuck and just makes me feel very uh unfulfilled and feeling like i'm not putting in as much effort as i should be into what needs to be done that i'm not brave enough to talk about my religion i'm catholic so a lot of people are very anti-catholic so i guess i'm very shy about standing up for what i believe in so i'm not very good at talking to people i'm pretty ashamed of that kind of weird so not really good at interacting with people overall yeah not being good enough what do you mean by that you know you have like does you just feel like you're not just good enough for anything i have no family what is that i have no shame okay why do you say that well i don't think i should have any shame for being who i am or doing what i do i'm proud of who i am i like myself i'm ashamed of how often i fake meditate one thing that i'm very ashamed of is the fact that i you know with my girlfriends i tell them that i you know updated and everything i know all about dating and the truth is i've never dated i am single [Music] i'm ashamed of letting my son know how his father and i met which is how on tinder i'm so ashamed of my skinny legs but they don't bother me that much because i got some amazing fragrance you know when it's the um i'm 30 now no so my my hair is like it's not growing too much so when it's like it's a lot of people and it's windy especially when it's low or another it's like with my hair it's like and i see that my you know it's not a lot of her he's like i'm getting old you know that's why i put the hats when in the wind now i can tell you it's like i don't know self and like self-conscious you know problem but this is not a problem you know but this is now there are surgeries and stuff but when it's wind i guess i get shy i get like they don't have much hair so that's my shame eh no medicine [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] he is my stepdad but he's raised me and so he's my father figure but i don't even though he like he is my father and i talk to him as if he's my dad i don't say it to his face i'm ashamed i have to be afraid of who i love yeah what do you mean by that [Music] oh no i uh i have a lot of pain in my life and i feel like i'm undeserving of love and so i have a lot of fear behind that i don't know how to explain it [Music] when i was very young i let a family member pressure me into trying drugs and [Music] i should have never done it but it's just hard when somebody is like in your face and calling you daves and then many years later it comes back to bite you in the butt because you're trying to tell somebody don't do drugs and then those same people that were pressuring you into trying it are telling you that you have no business telling somebody else not to try drugs because you've tried it so don't do drugs you know what for the first time in my life i actually have no shame i had i carried shame for the better part of my life and then i worked on myself and my issues and my secrets and all that and now i'm actually at a point in my life where i don't feel a lot of shame so i'm actually happy about that that's perfect um can i ask you a follow-up question yeah so how were you able to get past that i went into therapy i went into sexual abuse therapy to actually be specific and i'm not ashamed of that anymore i used to be very ashamed of that so that's i went in for for a few years probably two and a half and i feel like like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders that you would not believe my name is theria and i'm the owner of this channel i'm also the person behind the camera and i thought i'd take a minute to thank all the subscribers i've gained so far and maybe ask new viewers to hit the subscribe button if you like this episode or if you're a fan of my channel in general that would mean a lot [Music] thank you

Channel: Thoraya

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Id: F2AdB7a58Cw

Length: 11min 13sec (673 seconds)

Published: Thu Apr 11 2019