Want Change? Start with Yourself

ideas for personal change number one root out the judgmental thoughts that you have root him out what does that mean it means identified the judgments that you have about yourself and others get in there get aware right now right some of you all when you talk about judgments you know you judge yourself too harshly some of you are awful to yourselves and I say that with love but you're awful to yourself you talk down to yourself you mess up and it shuts you down for three days because what you say to yourself our judgments shape the quality of our lives you and our being unaware of them doesn't work right if you you've judged your sibling in a certain way and you haven't explored that that comes into that relationship with your sibling and it can cause years or decades of strife whoever judged one of your siblings and that led to years of problems something they did they did something when they were young you grab that you judge them you identified them with your judgment and that label that identification with that label shaped your family's relationship for years that's important stuff to be aware of that's important stuff to be aware of well so notice I said two things judgment of self and judgment of others personal change whew remember the first gain of personal change is awareness awareness being aware of our judgments of ourselves and our others how does that show up it is the thing that you say that defines or explains a judgement is something that you it defines or explains oh well that's sibling she's the one who and then you define and give her a label oh you know that person on the team every time they do this they they do it because these reasons and you explain the reasons those are judgments definitions and explanations are judgments how do you define yourself those judgments there aren't there for those who are in a significant relationship you have a partner lover spouse wife husband girlfriend boyfriend other what judgments have you made against them that aren't fair I keep bringing up problems it's hard to improve our lives unless we get super aware of the judgments we've made about other people if we want to change society too we better get really aware of that you know we gotta get really aware of these judgments about other people and not just this we got it really really really aware about judgments we've made about other people you know I came on here y'all immediately some you know you judged my background is it good or bad you judge my intention is it good or bad you know you judge a haircut bad but you know you got to figure out at some point that you we unconsciously quickly I like a shirt I don't like a shirt he's funny he's not he's this he's that we is so automatic it's so automatic but the fast the better you get at slowing down that autumn acity the more conscious you become because stimulus response most response is judgment lab you understand that stimulus judgment is more accurate so because right response is second judgment is first so it's really stimulus judgment that's the that's the the process of information comes in we interpret we take our interpretations and we filter it now through our identity right if you all teach Sami taught taught the thought ladder before or the ladder of interpretation information comes in we interpret it as good or bad we interpret it through our identity what does it mean to me then we set an intention then we do or do not take initiative that initiative loops back to the top of ladder information comes in this is the ladder of interpretation or the thought ladder if you are to tell me that the information comes in interpretation which is judgment identity what does it mean to me judging the relevancy of me of that 3 me intention okay what do I want to do with said information initiative I do this behavior in response those all those levels happen here's why that if that sounds over complicated here's why it's hopeful it means there's a lot of rungs in which to pause contemplate think and imbue consciousness versus an immediate response so I'm asking you examine your own mind your own bias your own interpretation ladder your own judgments against yourself and with other people right the better we get is a society of not immediately judging people and examining our ladder of interpretation where it came from the faster we will root out racism but without that process we don't have hope we need people to look at their judgments and where they come from and how automatic those things come from with people unconsciously and the more weak slow down that ladder of interpretation imbue consciousness into it the more likely it is we won't need jerk judge anybody based on the color of their skin their background their demographic their life experience and will remember that truth we all walk difficult paths that the human story is always a story of struggle and a story of progress some have it easier than others but at the same rate everyone has struggle and everybody hopes for progress and once we realize that we can slow down a little bit listen observe seek out an understanding of the information other people have seek out how they're interpreting things seek out how identity plays a role seek out their intention seek out their initiative it's powerful its powerful getting away from knee-jerk reactions against ourselves - I mean some of you all you get so mad about how many you get so mad about yourself based on how many emails you posted or emailed to responded to how many social oh I didn't post my Instagram today I'm a loser I'm like whoa dude the piece of information that you didn't put up something on social media leads to your identity being a loser let's revisit that ladder of inference here holy wait not popular enough information interpretation not good identity loser whoa let's see you are if I could give a gift if I could give a gift I would remind you of the complete magical quality of your existence I would remind you how special and unique and valued and important that you are and important you are I would remind you to recognize your blessings and I would remind you that you are stronger more capable and more valuable than you probably give yourselves credit for can I get an amen on a Friday at least one during this whole dang thing I mean if I if if every one of us and this is what our I always tell you when I bring my own personal values in versus just what we know from research but here's my own personal value if we all just sat down one on one with more people of more diversity and had conversations about the stuff they've been through in their life and where they're coming from and we had the guts to have that conversation more we would slow down the speed in which we judge others because everybody here if I sat down at your dinner table after I bought all that food and I brought that good attitude and we had a real conversation somewhere through eating that food or a parade the food or maybe there's some wine if there was some wine I'd be talking the whole time oh my gosh get me on alcohol don't peek give me caffeine or alcohol the kid never shuts up tell you what but if we sat down and we broke some bread or for the keto people we had some steak listen if we had some steak or some bread or you don't like that if we had some broccoli we had some broccoli and a juice okay he has a broccoli and a juice I promise you I'm gonna learn about your hardship I'm gonna discover that you had pain I'm gonna understand that you've been unfairly treated somewhere in your life I'm gonna understand that you have family history cultural history and if we can each do that for one another we slow down that judgment and you've heard me teaches before right remember two or three months ago that hashtag I started judge less feel better yeah I was teaching that in a personal development context for ourself like let's note ourselves less will feel better but I mean that culturally now let's slow it down let's slow down the judgments that's number one rude out the judgment understand it and slow it down I'm not telling you the outcome of that I'm not telling you to judge anything right or wrong I'm just saying slow it out be conscious be aware number two number two you got a study history I know this is the most boring part of what I'm gonna talk about for people but I listen if you know anything about me there's three things I read every single week for twenty years I've never missed every single week I read personal development I read leadership or business and I read history every week there's always three books on the mantle there's always three books somewhere around those types of topics I've read a book a week on those topics every week for this is my 23rd year I more than anything I'm a student of history I know we have some history dorks here I just think if we don't understand history we're doomed to repeat it and I think it's important that when things happen and we don't understand them we always go out there's history there when I saw a lot of you know when I saw a lot of white influencing white influencers friends peers who said didn't they didn't understand why people are so mad instead of me judging them I just thought you know I hope they study more industry I didn't say they didn't study any history i just thought i hope you know i hope they'll study a little more history because everything that we see has historical context and once we understand that it doesn't mean we can predict the future it just means we understand context feelings what's worked before what hasn't worked before you know it's just like hey listen this huge conversation and false dichotomy that happened online of our protest good or bad which was a misinterpretation of people not understanding because they were associating or judging the style the values in which protests happen right I think we can all agree looting and breaking into and hurting someone's storefront that had nothing to do with a certain problem maybe is not a productive activity right especially if you are sore front if we can step into the Golden Rule a little bit which I always encourage people step into the goal in the rule here step in the Golden Rule step in the Golden Rule and it won't but the only reason I bring that up is because we know from historical analysis of movements that something like violence against others or looting tends not to move the conversation forward in which policies get passed faster that creates the regulation the structure and the leadership for change I'm not here to tell anyone how they should feel or act I'm here to say as a human I hope no one is violent against me I'm here to say as a person who's owned a store I hope no one breaks into my business and hurts it I say as a hopefully leader in humanity in some way I hope we treat each other with kindness we obviously that has not been the case and if you didn't catch what I'm saying here this isn't a conversation of just this move we have people from around the world who are not in this exact movement that we are experiencing where I'm talking about in the United States we have lots of countries around the world one what is going on in America they can't they can't conceptualize what's happening and I get that because remember the historical context right if we haven't studied the history it's hard to understand it's hard to know what worked and what didn't work right I urged all of my friends from every background if you didn't read the lead-up of the history from 1960 to 1965 with the Civil Rights voting act in 65 64 the legislation 65 legislation if you haven't read that it's hard to understand how we're gonna get systemic change right now that's an important time in history that has some clues doesn't have all the answers and it doesn't say we got it right they're just clues history is full of clues about what might work and what might not work and so for those of you this is a great time to study some history this is a great time to study some history and I know that's not the most exciting part of today's ILOG but if you're really confused or you have been shocked or surprised on any angle of what is happening in America right now history will inform you way more than social media posts okay why is history important because historical analysis always gives context and multiple viewpoints if it's good writing so I think it's important to like social media it's like to try and understand something from a social media post super-hard history much more broad deep and multifaceted which i think is important okay number three this is really hard this is really hard the first part outcome use your voice use your voice share your feelings your ideas that's outcome now let's talk to the earlier training of movements outcome must also have values so here would be what I would suggest from literally 100 years of communication theory on conflict management it is undeniable it is not my opinion it is not black is not white it's not from any country it is global research on conflict management negotiation and policy change when you speak when you seek to share your feelings or your ideas if you can do that without generalizing without accusing without speaking for others without assumptions and without condescension then you are scientifically scientifically more likely to get to a speedier resolution that you are both happy with then if you do not this is the same research in marriages it is the same research in hostage negotiation it is the same research in policy change it is the same research in congressional debate it comes down to communicating well when we hold a position it just does and it's even better when we can allow our position to be formed based on values but the outcome and the how to have a little bit of flexibility if you will so what I said let's talk through a few of these generalizations I just had a conversation with my coaches yesterday our certified high performance coaches I love you all I see some of you out in here what's up CHP see these are the people that I certify in high performance coaching high off and I had a company if you'd missed it I talked about this for a little while and I think this is important generalizations poised and progressive debate when you say all black people are this all police officers are this all women are this all you know this demographic is this it's so wrong that it immediately opens you up to a losing position and immediately closes off conversation and let me just give you a metaphor because I don't think this land sometimes when I talk about it because again and I also know that some people think I'm talking about myself here in this debate I'm not I am talking about research and communication is hundreds over hundreds of years or dozens of fields of study so please don't think I'm taking anything personally here because this is not about me I hope that you felt that entire way throughout here I'm trying to make this about your life your family your leadership how you are showing up and I'm trying really hard to do that Jen Asians let me I don't think I'd do a good job of talking about this because I try to do it sometimes like when I say all you know white people and black people that's very that's contextual right now all police officers that's contextual right now but let me give you this completely different kind of metaphor and to show and illustrate how bad a generalization is in thinking imagine if you were talking to a friend and you said all cars all cars are built this way immediately that is an ignorant argument because all you got to do is stand on the corner for a minute watch a Tesla go by watch a Honda Prius go by watch a Ford f-150 go by and watch a Mercedes fancy van go by and immediately you're like you know what they're not like star they're not I had a friend yesterday who said Brendon I haven't been a leader in this community here I've never had this accusation or I've never had that or I've never been pulled over I've never had this and all week I've been talking with community leaders of diverse standpoints and and what has come up is the the real frustration in the fight we're having so much right now is against generalizations generalizations that's a big part of the fight we're having right now and I know how easy it is to react against that right I mean we're having debate in our country right now that that it's so polarizing I had a friend last night huge community leader runs a nonprofit that does over 40 million dollars of real social impact in the world he's black his wife is white and he said you would think with what you're seeing in America right now that it's forgotten about entirely interracial marriage you would think the conversation in America right now forgot that there's other countries forgot that there's other ethnicities forgot other demographics and he made the argument so well cuz he said no it's really important right now the focus must be black lives matter so I just wanna let you know that was communicated and that is clear and I personally believe that if you haven't seen that great meme online of the house on fire meme that which is that conversation between all lives matter versus black lives matter the reason that is if you haven't seen it it's beautiful because it's saying listen this is the current specific but we're not saying all these other things don't matter we're not generalizing that out we're saying this is specific problem and we're talking about the specific problem right now we're not talking about these other specific problems this is what we're highlighting right now right just like please remember when we were talking about Kovan 19 you would have thought that no other diseases in the world existed how many followed I'm talking about because the focus right then friends the focus right then is on Kovan 19 they're not saying AIDS research isn't important they're not saying that cancer research is an important they're not saying that these other things these other health maladies around the world are not important they're just saying hey coab is a real problem right now that is how we might think about the generalizations that have been made right now in which we want to generalize everything but sometimes there's a specific thing we should talk about right now the specific context is black lives matter it doesn't mean that all lives don't matter it means we're working on a specific issue and a lot of people ever understood that it doesn't make any other issue wrong it doesn't exclude it's it's called the exclusion fallacy if you've ever studied debate the exclusion fallacy it's where we pretend someone else's position isn't correct because it doesn't include everything else right it'd be easy to say Brendan it is so wrong what you did today in your little life guests there Brendan it's so wrong what you did because you didn't even talk about the horrors of cancer you did a whole live cast for two hours and you never talked about people dying of cancer you are like well you're right I didn't talk about it but that would be the exclusion fallacy to make my arguments wrong because I also didn't cover every other topic under the Sun and I bring this up to you because another hook that you're going to get in your activism or your leadership when people say well what about all these other things and your job is to help people not try to take a problem and generalize everything but be specific in what you're talking about specificity is what makes a debate become productive agreeing on specifically what we are talking about if we don't agree on specifically what we are talking about then we start throwing in biases and arguments from every other language every other conversation every other issue no one can address every issue in every conversation can I get an amen on a Friday you know it's like I I you can't you can't I had another black leader we was talking with yesterday he said that she had been hammered because she did an hour-long broadcast kind of like this and again she's a person of color and she did not bring up economic disparity so she was using examples and she didn't bring up what she was attacked for she she was talking doing a historical conversation she did not bring up the Poor People's Campaign that Martin Luther King was seeking to initiate after the civil rights legislation so his look if you haven't studied Martin Luther King's last two years of life he had a major value pivot from just equality and he really decided his life's work was to take on poverty my friend who brought this was having a conversation about that time she was attacked viciously for not bringing up poverty in her conversation so was she wrong now you could say yes or no right but that the issue there is you need to understand his leaders and this is really important I hope you hear me here then this goes to all diverse leaders here you must always be prepared that when you make an argument people will attack you for what you had excluded that is you you must realize this because once you realize that you don't get angry and defensive and you can acknowledge it instead and when you acknowledge what was left out and why it was left out you can now de-escalate deescalate deescalate that accusation it's why it's so hard to speak up for any any of us black white any other demographic is really difficult is because we know and that's what's that my fear is is everyone knows no matter what they say it's not enough and the reason we are hearing what we are saying is not enough is because we didn't include a comprehensive analysis and discussion of every issue Under the Sun but once you know that's going to come you can breathe I know how it feels I trust me I really know how it feels so you know you do what you can in every aware I you know for those who've ever intend to our live events you know I try to have diversity on our stages when I'm not the person training but I don't always have a woman I don't always have a person of color I don't always have a non-american speaker I don't just doesn't happen because I'm training to a specific curriculum and I have to explain that to the audiences and it's difficult and you're not going to get it right every time but what you need to know is you will be accused every time and you know that's what happened to my you know black friend yesterday of being attacked because she didn't in other people's opinion appropriately or comprehensively enough discuss poverty and economic injustice but she was specifically she had one hour and she was going down this Lane and so here is what's important for you all know that when you use your voice please listen to me very closely on this one this will help you so much when you go to use your voice know what Lane you're gonna play what's the specific thing you're and discuss and now here's the magic move you frame the conversation at the very beginning of your post or the variability video and you let people know you aren't going to be able to take on everything that today's conversation I'm gonna take on this little piece it means I probably won't get to discuss this this this and this and I'm gonna stay here when you do that you diffuse that inherent part of people that wants to blame that you didn't cover everything raise your hand if I won't come out here because you saw me do that here at the very beginning of our discussion I said listen I I can really only talk about this and my experience I wish I could have this person on or that person on but I chose to do this because that's what we're a contract was I'm not here to take a political stance I'm not going to talk about this type of politics I'm not gonna go here cuz that's just not what I'm here for so I'm gonna stay in this lane here's we're going to cover today oh my gosh you have to remember to do that leaders you got to do that in your conversation with teams you have to don't leave your family because if you just bumble into an issue and you don't set the frame around what part of the issue you're gonna take on you're going to get pummeled in debate so setting the frame helps avoid the impulse to generalisation and I know this will really help you in your communication and in negotiation this is everything when you go to negotiate a deal the first part that conversation has to be about what you're not gonna negotiate they would follow oh you want to pay who if you are if you are some of you know I had to do divorce mediation and this was a pivotal three years of my life and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do because I was I was what would I be I be 20 21 and 22 years old and I was doing court you've heard divorce mediation so here I am a 20 year old kid I'm not even in a relationship no one wants to date me I'm completely failing in dating but I've gotta mediate a divorce you know what I was taught to do in that situation at the very beginning of the mediation you have to tell the couple in conflict what you're not gonna discuss today and if you missed that part of mediation you're done that is gonna go super nasty sideways ah and some of you've been there before so in other words you have to talk about specifically what will be included and excluded in your argument great lawyers all know this if you're talking to a jury you'd better get that out real fast it's called framing the debate what's included what's excluded because if you don't do that they will attack you for both what you exclude it and what you chose to include super smart you gotta be aware is this helpful y'all this is like oh my gosh you if you're going to talk the kids about what's going on you're like okay hey kids to die um let's talk what we think about when a police officer over uses their power and attack somebody but let's not talk about presidential politics let's not talk about this topic let's just try to aim here and have a productive discussion here and you know what may be over here and then tomorrow over here it is about that specimen specificity will change your life to see what you do is you generalize so if I ask you why aren't you healthier it's easy to generalize oh well I'm lazy I am I'm lazy I'm lacking self-discipline I am a fan of Netflix I am and I am i oh my goodness you know what always follows after I am a generalization and those can be dangerous in our identity so what do we after specificity if you say why aren't you healthy let's talk specifically about your diet right now guess what we have a productive conversation for 10 minutes that say okay let's specifically talk about your sleep we talk about your sleep oh that's productive let's specifically talk about your workout oh but if I go to you and I say let's talk about your health we won't have a productive hour how we follow so when you make things specific you make them productive write it down would you make things specific you make them productive you also protect yourself from that conversation of why didn't she or he do all this other stuff okay so use your voice to share your feelings your ideas without generalizations number two without assumptions about other people's backgrounds because about assuming you know I had a great conversation with someone who attacked me online and I was open to what they said and I shared some information about my background in that area and they called me defensive and I said I'm sorry if it felt defensive I was trying to explain that I have experience in this area and here's what it was but it doesn't mean I know everything and I'm open to learning and they had assumed that I didn't know anything about this topic we were facing equality right now without having any understanding of what I've taught trained worked with nonprofit leaders for 20 years of my life I don't I haven't done enough and I don't know enough and I'm not done but I'm also not ignorant to the situation in act I'm also widely networked and informed in the actual leaders of this movement so yeah I'm a white guy and I'm a scrawny white guy and I'm annoying as hell and I deserve all of the vitriol towards myself but in this area I'm actually pretty informed for a dumb white guy and so I let that know I explain that with Grace and a pluming but still open but this person made the wrong first move which was assuming something about me without asking without asking we had a prominent media personality a person of color yesterday who said all of her friends are asking how they should deal with this and she was making this joke to say I'm replying back and she was I just because I'm black I don't know how to create social justice reform and she was funny about it because she said what because that person is this it's the same thing as we can't just because a person is of color doesn't mean they've rented that everything about anything in the civil rights movement just because a person is a police officer doesn't mean that they're quick to violence when you make assumptions ah we get in trouble we get in trouble if you're going to assume something about somebody assume that they've struggled a lot that they've had pain and hurt in their life and they want a better life that's a safe one anything outside those bounds is not what you lead with I'm not here to say that we can't assume certain things structurally historically no we can't but at an individual level here's my suggestion to you even if those you're like don't agree with me no we can assume these things about people Brennan Brennan that's okay here's I want you to hear what I'm saying don't lead with that argument if you want a productive conversation that leads to shared outcomes you can make the assumption but if you lead with the argument of the assumption it doesn't open the door for conversation and if you want to sway someone's opinion or someone's actions on something you got to sway the door open at the beginning in the conversation not closed you want to make a change in someone's thinking you got to make sure that that your thinking is open first super hard that's super hard okay next big idea accusations accusations be wary of accusing people of any specific intention or malice accusing people of intention or malice right that's where you say to someone who you don't know and you did not observe or you don't have history with accusing them of something is a slippery slope it shuts the door of conversation but it also it's it's it's it's very dangerous because again it's by the way all accusations are built on assumptions always know that all accusations are built on a set of assumptions all arguments are built on a set of assumptions not all assumptions are good not all assumptions are bad but they're all dangerous all assumptions are dangerous because there's always a lot of holes in them and do you want to go out to sea with a ship with a lot of holes in it well then don't ship your argument with a lot of sumption zin it who that was like one of those quotables it goes on a fridge somewhere you know what I'm saying so I don't even know what I just said there but I heard the ship thing and there's holes in the ship and then the ship became the argument in the next sentence it was like metaphorical and very useful at the same time I just want you to have a little fun at this and be wary of your accusations you know accusations are built on assumptions and assumptions have a lot of holes in them and it leaves you open to a lot of debate and I think there's ways to be very productive without making accusations I guess anyone and if there's accusations to be made make them as statements of observable behavior you know to conflict management right if you haven't so you conflict management it's as simple as if your spouse walks in the door and you know they've been leaving the house a little bit of a mess and you had to clean up that mess and they come in the door and you say to them you know what you don't care about me you don't care about this house you're lazy how do we share and spread love when we make these assumptions about other people instead we make observable statements I'm sorry we make statements of observable behavior instead we can say you know when I came home today I noticed the vacuum cleaner was out that's observable I came home vacuum was out you didn't have to say you're lazy you don't care about me you don't love those are all accusations and assumptions instead we observed we've noted what was there and that's really important especially in times of crisis like a lot of the the inability for some people to understand the black lives movement came from when unfortunately media or people portrayed what was happening with police brutality and sometimes wasn't specific in describing observable and made inferences or made assumptions or accusations about and they combine two very dangerous things accusations with generalizations ah when you do that it closes productive debate you know it's why and I got hammered for this and I'll always share with you I'm sharing a little doubt my experience in this one is you know I came out day one and I said all officers involved in the killing of George Floyd need to be arrested and immediately I've got people saying how can you blame police or why do you think all police are bad I'm like I didn't say how police are bad those men that killed that man they should be charged I could observe they did this that happened okay let's start the conversation let's start the process right let's start the process of examining what happened and I recognize that even saying that creates feelings for people but my effort was to try and be very specific and not trying to accuse all police of this not trying to accuse George Floyd of that just saying in custody that man died that that needs that need a Pilates action that's that's the law if a person is killed in custody that needs actually and so Wow do I understand how that can create vitriol cuz I can't trust my side I got it and so in any wiggle room that I might leave that it might sound like an accusation or a generalization or assumption I open myself up and I think it's really important for everyone to hear this if you're going to make what you think is an accusation just describe what is specific leave their that others can observe don't assume intention don't assume background don't accuse with generalization say what you see say what you see because now without guessing all the stuff behind what we see we can start the conversation with what we both observed not what we both fear not what we been conditioned by everything so again I will come back to specificity and I wanted to know if you want productive debate accusing is be very careful and begin this applies to your families this applies to your spouse's buys your kids if you're having conflict with your kids listen to your judgments your generalizations and your accusations against them you want to forgive my language piss off a teenager start accusing a bunch of stuff and watch what happens with base impulse they will light up they will get ready to burn the house down those who have teenagers know exactly what I'm talking about once you man you you litter accusations on a teenager and your pepper and more you got understand this this applies to your family as well okay last piece here I think this is important and on this pursuant condescension condescending be very aware I would love for you in each and every one of you who posts on major issues of the world to read your posts three or four times and just ask if you're sounding condescension condescending to any demographic or group and I will share openly with you I promise to share some things I've learned in this process I think I've gotten this one wrong several times over the last years and what I mean by that is it wasn't intentional but sometimes for me if I you know it's very difficult for though for those of you who have academic backgrounds or you conduct scientific research and had any of it you know collaborated or corroborated or peer-reviewed you know how important it is to share where you draw your research from right to share like what holds up if you will your evidence your arguments and in years past because I come from that I come from you know an an academic research base in years past when I explain that to people I genuinely did not understand the way that I was explaining it sounded not only defensive that it could sound condescending as in like I know this you didn't you don't and while my intention wouldn't be there I've been busted on that in the past even recently and deserved to be because I just I hit Send too fast or I'd say it too fast and you have to listen through that filter and I'm learning to do that more it's like how do you I faced this years ago right when I started teaching business how do I explain I know how to give some advice to beginning businessperson and at the same time not say to them hey you might not know this because when you tell someone they don't know something even if it's true it sounds condescending how many know what I'm talking about he's like the slippery slope and I wanna let you know I don't know how to navigate that a lot of times I might not have navigated it in this I'm sure some of you feel like something I said today was condescending and I just hope that you know my heart enough and my values enough of inclusion and conversation it's hard it's hard it's hard for me as a student of history not to get really upset when people do things that we know doesn't help and when you tell someone they're doing something that doesn't help that sounds condescending even if it's fact-based how do we know I'm talking about oh it's so hard and I just wanted to I don't know the answer I don't have it right and all I can ask you to be is just be aware of it

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Length: 50min 50sec (3050 seconds)

Published: Sun Jun 14 2020