UnPHILtered: What To Ask Yourself Before You Divorce

[Music] well you know I'm yeah we choose the stories that we do here based on how broad their relatability is and by that I mean if if we do a story like this you can bet there are ten thousand letters that have come in and obviously custody is a it is a big thing and uh and I admit I've never been through a custody battle we've been married 42 years and I just and had we ever split up I would never have even had the nerve to even suggest taking the kids and your mother always said she would go with me oh yeah my mother said if we ever get her divorce she was going with Robyn and she was serious but I thought we'd never been through this but listen I I know that it gets emotionally charged and I know people's feelings get hurt and most people divorce before they should I've you can tell when you're ready for divorce when you have no unfinished emotional business you shouldn't get a divorce when you're upset you should get a divorce until you have turned over every rock looking for solutions till you have examined every possible Avenue of rehabilitation and you shouldn't get a divorce when you're angry you should get a divorce when you just you're a pathetic it's just like I'm I'm done I there's I don't I don't feel one way or the other that means you've done everything you can and this is a highly emotionally charged situation they didn't finish their emotional business so they're still running their emotional agendas and the child's caught in the crossfire and that's what's so tragic about the whole situation and you would think they would be able to see I mean when you say it out loud and you see it on video you would oh my god I'm doing that so my point is seriously in Georgia in a lot of states but in Georgia it's presumptive if the child says I want to go here they're at 14 go unless there's something that says not and there are 17 factors in one of them does do they disparage the the spouse the ex and if they do that's a toxic environment you don't put the child there so that's got to stop or the court will never allow it they'll appoint someone like me that's a forensic psychologist to come in and evaluate the situation I hope they really hear what I'm saying and take the help because if the help says they're not playing the game then they will report the situation and I hate for that to happen [Music] you

Channel: Dr. Phil

Views: 176,914

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Length: 3min 58sec (238 seconds)

Published: Fri Oct 05 2018