Things I wanted to say but never did...

how could I say something that I want to say now back then you know what I mean you can't like I'd have to say it now and I'll never get a chance to that's tragic is there a specific scenario you're thinking of yeah my brother my parents lied to us our entire lives and uh my parents bullied my brother into committing suicide and I'll never get to tell them I'm sorry but I didn't know that they were lying to me and they were using me to argue with him you know up I wish I would have told my brother I loved him and that he had a community that cared about him Beyond his drug problem before he died of a fent all overd I wish that I had told my brother that I forgive him um my brother caused a lot of bad things that were associated with his substance use disorder and then he died of a fenel overdose and I think in my heart I know that he knows that I love him but I wish that I had told him that I forgive him um I wish I would have told my brother that it's not our fault that he's so angry and it's not our fault I wish I would have told my brother to love his two children and not hate them or push them away something I wish I said but never did H like when I be going around around town you know I just be chilling here and there I'll be seeing a beautiful woman I'll be so scared to talk to her because like I don't know how to explain myself you know and try to get to know the girl what makes me nervous cuz she was just so beautiful and I just can't talk to it's hard for me to talk to cute cute women you know I get nervous they made me smile I can't I can't think right that's really why is this so is this in general or is this like one specific person you're thinking of shoot it's one specific person if you had the chance to talk to her what would you have said I would have asked her how was her life going you know how was she doing stuff like that I would have told my high school computer science teacher who was like really old um that she's cool and that I'm sorry for disrupting class why do you think that came to mind like why I don't know I just thought of her and I've never thought of her but she was probably like one of the nicest teachers I had and that was probably one of the coolest classes that I got to take so I wish I said you to a bunch of people um it's something I've never said to anybody and there's people in my life that have been in my life that definitely deserved a you so I wish I would have said that to them what stopped you from saying it being the cool girl the chill girl being too nice and um yeah basically that I just I never was I never express anger I let people just stay in my life I wish I would have said sorry more often it's okay if you're not okay when did you stop loving me I wish I said I love you one last time wish I told my son I loved him more before he passed away I love you I love you I'm sorry and I love you I love you Dad yeah yeah I mean he left when I was younger but you know I gained peace with myself on that I forgive him and I love them so yeah I wish that on December 3rd I'm 1999 that I had told my mom good night and that I loved her because the next morning she um went into a coma and didn't wake up and I've always wished I had said that I love you I've met several people in my life that I really did love okay but I just wasn't brave enough or mature enough to just go ahead and take the risk of saying it you know lots of times I don't think we really communicate how much somebody means to us you know we're just a little scared you know nearly every every body is wearing a facade to some are just wearing it to a greater degree in other words really showing people what you really really are and how you are vulnerable being vulnerable is is what we're fearful of I believe so how about now in your life do you tell people you love them exactly for sure and I tell them when I don't like them I will tell you the truth now for what I think is the truth if the truth is it as I perceive it I'm feeling pretty sad right now as lost my mom on Friday and uh I came down to the beach so that I would be close to her you're the best mom ever that's what I would have said I think we were meant to meet today huh right I think so um I wish I had said to my best friend that um I actually liked her but she left I don't know it was I was just nervous to her um I don't know she was really pretty um she made me feel welcomed and I didn't feel um nervous around her uncomfortable I just felt nice with her uh the week before my dad died I was playing the piano at home and he came in and told me how proud he was of me and I was being silly and I made like a kind of silly joke about like ew gross and I always wish I just said Thank you and we've had a nice moment something that I wish I could have said was to one of my friends when I was a teenager he uh died in a car crash our senior year of high school and I it's kind of funny but like I owed him $20 so yeah I just wish I could see my friend tell hey man here's 20 let me get you a cup of coffee or something like that but yeah I I wish I could just tell my friend goodbye something that I recently wished that I had said but hadn't yet was I have this group of friends that I really like them all and I've known them for a year now and it took me literally an entire year to like ask them to hang out individually I think I just thought it'd be awkward like it'd be a weird thing to ask and then I was like oh I shouldn't do it it's easy for me to just not do things I don't know especially if I feel shy or something like that I just realized like I want to be closer to these people so I have to just make the effort and I finally did yesterday so I feel really good about that and you're hanging out with them today yeah I wish instead of saying I do I wish I would have said I don't on my first marriage you're married again but on your first marriage you wish you had said that oh um not married at the current moment probably never will wrong hand oh first time she was so young I was very young and foolish and didn't really know who I was marrying or what I was getting into and he was a bum yeah and the second one oh and the second husband yeah and they were both named Phillip I should have learned from the first Phillip biggest thing I've learned from Marriage um to not do it again but I suppose it it works for some people um yeah I think when children are involved when children are involved yeah well it all depends on who the father is though yeah but what I at this ripe old age I don't think I would marry again I don't see any um any point to it we're old enough where marriage was expected at a certain age right and this generation luckily aren't expected to necessarily get married yeah when we young I mean to be uh oh my God to be pregnant and unmarried was a shameful yeah ruined your life and your children's life do you have the same Outlook as your friend here my sister your sister oh sisters you just ask for you're only interviewing one person yeah I've been married twice MH second husband second husband and it's working yeah okay yeah I personally don't think you should be allowed to be married before 35 you don't know what you're doing God you don't you can't really decide you have a difficult time picking out clothing little on a husband right when I first was going to get married my first marriage I remember probably not as old as I thought she was but an older woman elderly woman she was probably 40 or something telling me and she said well just think of it this way it's like finding your favorite meal and then eating it for the next 60 years get tired of it yeah right any ending thoughts for your segment I would say if it isn't working out if the effort outweighs the pleasure it's time to move on you know it's like a bad date you don't keep going on the same Bad Day right well yeah don't marry anyone named Phillip I I did it twice what do you think of marriage um that's a good question come on let's turn the camera around I'll answer but uh let me see what are my thoughts on marriage or what are the benefits of marriage I um or can you see any benefits of marriage I think it's beautiful I do believe that like I don't know I'm I'm like a sucker for love I do believe that like if so was I you're young yeah um I do I do believe in finding someone and like and the whole like the the thing you said about like finding your favorite meal and eating it every day I'm personally the type of person where I could eat my favorite meal every day so like I guess it just depends on you I could see myself falling in love with someone and like never getting bored of them but I also get your perspective too maybe I'm just naive you know no a romantic and that's a wonderful thing to be it's just great yeah hi everyone thank you for watching I'll be posting bonus footage from this episode on my patreon that means more answers and extended cuts of each answer if you want to 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Length: 11min 52sec (712 seconds)

Published: Thu Oct 05 2023