The sexual revolution normalising big age gaps | 60 Minutes Australia

let's hear it for older women at last they're getting a slice of the action blokes have always chased after younger women and got away with it now older females are fighting for equal rights and getting them they're called cougars for reasons that will become obvious but don't think they're just celebrities like Demi Moore and Madonna these days more than a quarter of all Australian marriages are between older women and younger men add to that the older single girls who just want to have fun and you've got a real sexual Revolution as Carl stefanovic discovered the Cougars are out proud and on the prowl yeah [Music] Jen and Jeff make a handsome couple on Santa Monica Beach good looking fit and full of youthful energy I thought you were coming with us I was gonna come with you so who would guess that Jen is the older woman and not just by a few years but by nearly two decades nearly 50. in less than a month couple weeks 50. I know I'm like what [Music] is a twice divorced mum a superhuman 50 year old that has no problems keeping up with her super buffed boyfriend Jeff pickle who at 31 is just four years older than her only son because we're trying to get you nice and tight into phone Jen's proud to be known as a cougar an older woman sexy and Savvy enough to catch and keep a much younger man it's not all about with an older woman and a younger it's not all about just the same you know mold them into sort of the little boy into the man I I don't want to date someone that I I have to be a teacher to or a mother to what do your mates think of Jen let's put it this way any guy that says that haven't had a fantasy with hooking up with their friend's mom or something their hot mom you know is lying to you so they think it's really cool some of the females are like oh well you know I mean she's still older though I mean she can't be that good in bed like you know it can't be the same it's a social phenomenon sweeping the world here in Australia more than a quarter of all marriages now unite an older woman nice with a younger man the pressure was two months Melbourne couple Alison Ewing and Scott McDonald are about to join them three and he is 28. did it occur to you that he was younger than you definitely and Did You Know by how much no no that was quite a shock it was after I'd already kissed him and then he told me and I was like what I thought you're at least like you know five years older I was hoping when you found that out were you thinking oh that's the end or were you thinking or how can this work definitely I thought it was like impossible impossible but still wanted to be around him yeah I was shocked um but because she looked about 30 so that shocked me but um I didn't really think that long down the track we were just enjoying each other's company so so hold hold it like that and jump like that okay four years on they're still together but it's taken some compromise and you're gonna avoid the spiky thing Scott had always lived with his parents Ali was divorced with three kids she wasn't on the prowl for a younger man love happened by chance tell me how you feel about the word cougar Allan I hate it how do we have to get a silly name it's like wow Ali there's a predatorial aspect to that word isn't there yeah why do we have to get that label I think it's just a little fun I I think it's just a fun word that they use to to make out that girls have come so far that they can be on the hunt for men when you know 50 years ago it was that would be crazy to consider that I am Stacy I am 40 years old and I am the cougar cougars far from being Coy about it internationally women have embraced the cougar Revolution I'm into older women that's the bottom line celebrities led the way with A-list Stars parading their younger trophy boyfriends call me a cougar call me an old lady doesn't really matter to me in fact Jen even competed as an older woman on the dating show age of love vying for the heart of 30 year old Australian Toy Boy Mark philippousis her body's just ridiculous she didn't win that love match but she still scored her younger man good morning models he was a star in America's most smartest model still inside of me I have the mature side but I have the side that likes to have fun and we call them our adventures I'm captain fun and he takes me on these you want fun to come to me cheers to cougars cheers now that the inner cougar has been Unleashed there is no holding back my name is Lucia and I'm a dating and relationship expert it's a powerful shift in the dating jungle what do you find appealing about younger guys definitely the part of it is very fair and just the energy to go go go all night long these women are cougars in training and I've got a front row seat I'm very scared tonight coach Lucia will teach them some of the basic rules of dating a younger man like don't pay on the first date okay if you can order is taking you somewhere they call you the queen of the Cougars yes what's that about well I'm the top cat I'm the top cougar I'm the leader of the cougar Revolution well what is the cougar Revolution it is uh attractive sophisticated women over 40 who exclusively date younger men and do they do that in a cougar-like fashion is that how it's done these days no that is the myth that these cougars are on the prowl for these younger guys but actually it's usually the other way around it's usually the younger guys that are hunting the Cougars did you hunt Scotty no not at all so Scotty you did the hunting yeah yeah I was a cougars is there male cougars I'm sure there's both sexes of cougars most of Scott and Ali's friends have accepted their relationship you've known him for a long time do you ever think that Scott would end up with someone who was a little older no it kind of came out of the blue but I think that's why it's worked um you know often the best things are unexpected um no he never had desires or fetishes to be with an older woman for this generation the social stigma of being the older woman is long gone is it hard to find a bloke out there these days I've got one and he's six years younger you're a baby cougar I'm not that young and why not men have always got away with dating younger women for an older guy and younger woman but then why is it so taboo the other way around in and it's really interesting to me that what a cougar standed for back then has changed so much since that term you know it was uh conceived I mean now it's almost cooler to be in a cougar relationship what do you think it is that they have decided to go with a younger bloke it's generally the last baggage absolutely and he's not complaining about oh my back all my indigestion [Laughter] so I'm really worried about the older blokes what happens to them now you know it's been the other way around for so long you know the older guys dating the younger women and women over 40 generally being forgotten about so now things are turning it's Payback that's right [Music] the tables are certainly turning those big age gaps are no longer just for the boys meet Anna Drucker and Alexander merman she's 56 and he's just 25. a difference of 31 years sometimes there are days when I say wow you you know it sometimes boggles the mind but nonetheless yeah it's there I'm almost in it's still loading the world so yeah Anna and Alexander found each other in the virtual world playing an online game called second life actually I think you're Sarah Palin hair oh my God they met in person two years ago and despite the age gap of three decades have to take those glasses off there was instant chemistry we immediately uh hold hands went to the car represent actually like two minutes after we met immediately kissed yeah there was an immediate physical attraction you felt as if you knew each other really well straight away yeah how do you explain that I can do you find on the streets that people notice your age difference at all no no I don't think so well sometimes I do in fact Anna has a son 10 years older than her lover and has on occasion been mistaken for Alexander's mother I mean I'm older than his mother you ever have a year so it's not a lot you're older than his mum yeah but um how old is your boy 34. I'll run that's my age there you go yeah I will put all of my bad Mrs Robinson jokes aside and get on to business back in Australia the movement is gaining momentum Monday is cougar night at this matchmaking party run by fast Impressions what is it about the older lady that appeals to you 40 something professional divorced and knows exactly what she wants what is it about them the young colors that you like um they're rather Carefree they're certainly energetic and willing willing to yeah so it's a trivia night plus you've got to dress up as a rock star it all sounds like a lot of fun but when your partner is over a decade younger the advancing years are a major concern do you feel at all pressured to keep looking younger or as long as the pressure is on yes but I'm not gonna let it like rule me I refuse to that would just defeat the whole purpose of being in a relationship where you're happy and relaxed so I'm not going to let that take over [Music] for Anna and Alexander it's even more confronting when he's 39 she'll be 70. 20 years when I'm not around uh I I I hope that he has a who gets married and has has children and and will be able to you know say that this was you know a marvelous time that we had together you know that I don't like this your next wife talk stuff I don't like about like thinking about the time when she will be gone will ever come [Music] and aging presents another challenge for these couples the cougar generation of women have had their children their younger Partners still hope for a family of their own I'm not gonna lie it would be disappointing if we found out biologically she can't have children and we can't have our own but um as far as the future um from here it looks rather bright putting my shades on right now oh you treat me [Music] would you like to have your own kids um maybe maybe we've considered it but we'll see are you trying to do that right now just gonna see how it goes you're in it for the long haul yep that's the plan yeah hello I'm Nick McKenzie thanks for watching 60 Minutes Australia subscribe to our Channel now for brand new stories and exclusive Clips every week don't miss out on our extra minute segments and full episodes of 60 Minutes on 9now.com.u and the nine Now app

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Length: 14min 8sec (848 seconds)

Published: Fri May 12 2023