The Most Eye Opening 10 Minutes Of Your Life | Matthew McConaughey

[Music] what better subject to study than ourselves what better subject to interrogate and investigate daily what what what's the one character that we that we should never get bored with chasing to figure out but also what's the one it's also the one character that we can't get away from ourselves it's the one person that we can't get rid of so i have enjoyed and not enjoyed investigating myself through through my life i write about this in the book i don't you know to form a personal style or to know who we are or what we want that's hard to do so i have learned to by process of elimination get rid of the things you go well that is not me or that is just a fad that's not going to ever be classic that go that does not feed me um that may be for instance there are certain pursuits we go yeah that may be an immediate green light that's just plugged into a battery but that that that light's going to go out because that battery's going to die that's not truly uh solar-powered green light so how to style this finding those things where we go oh that's a solar-powered green light that's that's who i am and who i am not so we figured out who were not first i found that i was able to figure out who i was uh by process of elimination um it's also you know i'd rather be a good man than a nice guy that that that that happens later and that that come that's part of style you know i i've always said this i'm i i'd rather have an than a dork why because at least i know where the stands the dork's trying to be everything to everybody that he thinks they want them to be i don't want to be that i don't i don't really enjoy being around that person because i can't trust them and when i've been one i couldn't trust myself so style is also about you know once you do find your frequency on something it go forward if you're a non-tyrant and don't ask permission and that's the not giving a damn part i've found that the world will actually acquiesce and go yep i'll give you a green on that green light on that if you actually go forward and mean it like you're and you're gonna do it by hook or by crook and not ask permission you know it's a trick but it works in our life i mean sometimes if something is number one on our list and we've got to have it oh we need it we need a lot of times we don't get it think about it whether it's that girl or whether it's that friend or whatever it is man if you make them the number one thing in your life they kind of go like well what else did you have going before you you came to me you know what i mean i want somebody who had had their together before they came came to me a little bit if i'm your everything then i'm probably a lot of times people go or situations will say no we don't want you because you need us too bad um something about taking that trip to germany got that need out of my mind and the idea of getting a a job or an agent in hollywood became subliminally number two on my list of priorities just by sure that i kind of forgotten about it it wasn't thinking about it all the time well that allowed me to relax be involved in a meeting with an agent where they accepted me to then go out on auditions and actually get them because i was like i really want this but i don't need it and there's a very there's a big difference and hollywood is is in fame there's a game in hollywood it is an affair it's not necessarily marriage um and there's a game to play and it's better to be better to want it and not need it in many ways and i think especially today not just in enacting a career but in all of our careers athletes everything is with so much room to be objective what are we on our phone there's a jumbotron immediate response when we put something out we may be becoming too objective or measuring too aware giving too much credence to awareness of oh how am i perceived you know kids these days it's what they put out how it's received if it's got enough thumbs up they have a good day if it's gotten a thumbs down they have a bad day so their entire our being and our attitude and how we feel about ourselves is more reliant we're letting it be more reliant on what other people think about us today than ever before i say leaning to the subjective i don't give a damn about what anyone else thinks i've done it but but i'm gonna chase down and do what's true is to me and then it's time to pop out sometimes and read your reviews or have a look at the jumbotron or watch that watch that performance on playback it's okay but but but if you're thinking about the result or thinking of in the third person too early i don't believe you do near as good or true of a job in the first person subjectively that you could do i do think uh that there's great value in being alone and if we are alone and we get bored and we don't like the company ding may that light go off to say that does not mean we need to pick up our phone to get some attention or go to the bottle to to to to to ease the anxiety or go online to get some feedback to entertain yourself no it's actually a great time to say no sit here in that discomfort long enough to go okay until you come out the other side to go all right i'm good with me again now it's part of that i write about when i'm about traveling in general ideally you don't go to a place you don't i always say that don't i don't want to leave a place i travel to until i get to the point of going ah i could live here this could be my existence and soon as i get to that point then i'm like okay you can go now i can go that's the same thing in the personal journeys stick with it till you get through the discomfortable to uncomfortable times until you go you know what i can spend time with myself i could do this i could do this forever well then it's okay to go re-engage pick up your phone go see your friends go have a drink what have you go look for those things that are other relationships in life but hopefully not until there's great value in not doing that until you go i'm good with me and me for right now there's a responsibility to freedom and that there is freedom in responsibility you know and that earn your way there we remember the stuff we earn the stuff we experience more than what the teacher tells us or what someone gives us for free we just do we broke a proverbial sweat on it whether it's mental or physical or whatever we we built it we we understand we felt how we got it how we achieved it how we got what we wanted those stick with us whether we forget them intellectually they were written in our lineage and they build resilience and they and and they build a healthy true optimism going forward to know that oh no i've worked for something before and achieved it delayed gratification oh there are choices i can make today for myself that will pay me back later in life mailbox money as we call it entertainment industry um roi there are specific personal choices we can make and they're worth considering look i'm all for hedonism i'm all for immediate gratification too sometimes it's like yes dude it's halloween eat all the candy you want go for it it's not gonna become a habit day to day there's certain nights where you're like hey guys tonight we're gonna blow it out the walls are padded and we got nothing we're off work on monday let's go you know i mean certain times to say that's okay but there's you know i where is the selfish choice the selfless choice where is what we want actually what we need whether it's what we need actually what we want where is the best choice for me the best choice for weed where's the best choice for we the best choice for me that's the place i believe the hunt talk about honey holes that's the real place to go forward in trying to find tea ourselves up for those green lights in the future and although i and i mean the simple things let me bring it down they're really simple you drink coffee i do do you prepare your coffee put it in the filter and pour the water in the coffee maker the night before not for myself but ironically i do for my wife because you're teeing her up for what a green light the next morning so she doesn't have to come in and go where's that filter she can just come in and go press the button you're giving her a gift to her future self you're making something easier for her it's a very simple thing but it's a great little simple metaphor so there are choices we make if you're going to say right now i'm going to lie cheat and steal to get what i want and i got it i got an immediate green light for me that's a battery-powered green light that's not a solar-powered green light why because now everywhere i go i gotta look over my shoulder to see if someone's there that i lied cheating stole from and when i'm doing that i'm stealing who's time my time now i'm not freedom i'm not free i don't have the freedom i didn't create freedom in my future because i chose to be it make an irresponsible act that i left crumbs i've now got reasons to look over my shoulder and the more things we do to create in our in our future that we got to look over our shoulder the more of our most precious thing we have in our life's time that we're stealing from ourselves so it's not puritanical it's just like it's actually self-serve it's a very selfish choice um and and i'm a fan of the word selfish i've read it helped redefine it but i believe that there are selfish choices we can make that are the most selfless that there are selfless choices that we can make that are the most selfish choices those two are not a contradiction and we see them that way responsibility of freedom and the freedom in responsibility life's more than just straight saturdays with as much cake as you want to eat it just is you will see how long you last doing that if you really do it you won't last how long um there we we responsibility is is appreciation of a past it's building of a lineage it's investing in ourselves it's investing in something we started to build yesterday that we want to take into tomorrow that gives us freedom so to actually have true freedom we have to take certain we have to be responsible more responsible for certain things for ourselves who we are constantly investigating interrogating our better selves to say i'm going to be a little bit better at this tomorrow knowing that we never land we never we never there's no there's no ta-da moment and that is one thing i think we all got to watch because we all are so result oriented oh if i keep doing this i'm going to get to that place of pure enlightenment i'm going to go tada bullet no you don't can it be a small ascension of evolution yes but there's no ta-da moment we're always chasing yet and if we can get comfortable and understand and laugh at and be ready to work hard the fact that we're all just achieving our way to the unachievable and that's as good as it gets and that's pretty damn awesome [Music] you

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Length: 11min 38sec (698 seconds)

Published: Mon Feb 22 2021