The Key To Dealing With Social Anxiety

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I'm glad it helped you. But most people won't suddenly be social anxiety free from ONE video. Especially if their social anxiety is absolute crippling

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This video is helpful but therapy is better.

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"Put yourself in the other party's shoe and think about what they may be thinking of in their minds"

*I think that they are thinking about me*

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Your problem wasn't significant at all if a 5 minute video superficially describing a related issue cured it.

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Wait you did not actually lie tho.

Saving this

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Thank you for Sharing this. I am going to start this tomorrow. How long ago did you start this? How long unt you noticed any change?

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Thanks

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Thank you

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Improvement pill here a very interesting study was conducted in 2000 at Cornell University by Professor Thomas Gilovich he took groups of students and randomly selected one individual from each group he then told the rest of the students to show up to a certain room at a certain time to work on a quote-unquote project it's very important to note that all of the seats in this room were positioned in a way so that everyone was facing the door he then took the singled out individuals purposely stalled them a bit and had them wear a t-shirt with a well-known person on it such as Martin Luther King or Bob Marley he then told that individual to go to the room knowing that they would be late and also knowing that all of the other students would look up at the door and notice who was coming in this experiment was supposed to replicate an embarrassing event the singled out individuals knew that there were the only ones who were late and they were led to believe that everyone else noticed by the fact that everyone looked up when they walked into the room after the experiment the researchers asked these embarrassed individuals how many of the students do you think remembered the incidents vividly and on average these singled out individuals reported that 50% of all the other students would be able to recall the event and the shirt that they were wearing because well they messed up and they were absolutely sure that a large chunk of people in the room noticed but what the researchers actually found was that only 10% of the students in that room were able to recall the event and the t-shirt five times less than what our embarrassed individuals thought what this experiment discovered is what's called the spotlight effect we humans often overestimate how much others care about our negative and also positive actions we think that the spotlight is on us that everyone is looking at us and judging us when in reality the large majority of people simply don't care and this is a very very important concept that you need to internalize if you are struggling with social anxiety see the main reason we feel anxious around others is because we feel like they're watching us and judging us we're scared to act how we want to be ourselves because we don't want to risk people looking down on us we don't want others to dislike us but in reality the large majority of people simply don't care that much about you I know this sounds like a bad thing but it's just human nature most people are stuck in their own heads and are thinking about themselves not you the moment you internalize this concept and genuinely start believing in it your levels of social anxiety will drop significantly but of course this is much easier said than done how in the world can we get ourselves to truly truly believe in the spotlight effect well today I'm gonna show you a simple two-step process that I personally used to drill this concept into my own head step 1 you need to become more aware of your own thoughts the large majority of us are oblivious to the fifty to seventy thousand thoughts that we have on average every single day which is why you need to start building a mindfulness habit like meditation where you try to clear your head and try to focus on one thing like your breathing when you build a mindfulness practice like this you will become 10 times more aware of how you think and you will also start to notice that the large majority of your own thoughts are about yourself past events future concerns worrying about what others think that sort of stuff you'll notice that less than 1% of your own thoughts will be about other people that you come across randomly throughout the day step 2 once you've started becoming more aware of your own thoughts you can start doing another mental exercise one that I like to call the swapping shoes exercise this is when you go to a public place and pick out a random individual then you focus focus focus and you try your hardest to imagine what's going on in their head imagine that you're in their shoes living their life what problems are they currently facing what are they currently worrying or stressing out about what sort of insecure thoughts are going on in their head what other things do you think they're thinking about allow yourself to really imagine being in their shoes and also imagine what sort of thoughts are going on in their head by doing this exercise you will start to condition yourself to believe that others spend the majority of their time thinking about their own problems and themselves which is actually true the more you do this the more you will internalize the spotlight effect which in turn will allow you to start feeling less and less social anxiety as you start to realize that people just aren't paying that much attention to you it might sound a bit sad to realize this but in reality you'll feel a huge weight being lifted off of your shoulders you will feel free this episode is sponsored by 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Channel: Improvement Pill
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Keywords: how to overcome social anxiety, overcoming social anxiety, overcome social anxiety, social anxiety, how i overcame social anxiety, social anxiety treatment, tips to overcome social anxiety, social anxiety cure, how to cure social anxiety, how to reduce social anxiety, how to deal with social anxiety, how to overcome anxiety, how to beat social anxiety, social anxiety disorder, social phobia, overcome shyness, how to get over social anxiety, improvement pill
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Length: 5min 31sec (331 seconds)
Published: Sat Oct 05 2019
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