The FASTEST Way to Spot a Narcissist

do you want to know the fastest way to spot a narcissisticity you can instantly shut them down in this video I'm going to give you the fastest way to be able to figure it out so that you can maybe repel them as quickly as possible [Music] hey there welcome back to my channel I am Rebecca zung I am an attorney I've been recognized by U.S news as one of the best lawyers in America I am also a globally recognized narcissist negotiation expert and on this channel we talk about all things narcissism so that you can spot narcissists be able to interact with narcissists from a powerful place be able to take back your power be able to shift that Dynamic with narcissus I've written a couple of best-selling books I have another one actually on the way so that you can actually get everything that you need to be able to start learning how to become the best version of yourself and my new one is called slay the bully how to negotiate with a narcissist and when and I'm so excited so excited to tell you that you can actually get it now even though it's in pre-order and when you pre-order it you can actually get early access to the entire manuscript and get access to tons and tons of bonuses and you can do that at slay the bully.com so go check that out at slaythebully.com all right so in this video we're going to be exploring the fastest way to spot a narcissist and be able to get in and out of this situation before they may even realize that you're on to them which is a pretty cool thing all right so narcissists I know they can be so charming and that's the thing A lot of people are like what if you're just dealing with a jackass well here's the thing narcissists don't come off as jackasses at the beginning they come off as amazing they come off as maybe the perfect person on the planet making it challenging to figure out that you're actually dealing with them and identifying them at first glance so so in this video I want to equip you with the essential tools and the knowledge that you're going to need to recognize their traits right away all right so let's get started so the first thing you need to do is understand what it is that you're dealing with when you're dealing with a narcissist a narcissist has no sense of self on the inside they feel totally and completely empty inside you know it's a very very fragile ego that you're dealing with it's constantly on the edge it's almost like a glass it's very empty inside and so they they're they need as much as you can feed them from the external sources always needing to feed this Beast always needing to feed from the external can you feed me from here or can you feed me from here and let me explain what I mean from by by that I call it Diamond level Supply or coal level Supply Diamond level Supply is how they look to the world how they look to the world how they look to the world co-level Supply is can I control and debase and demean others how they look to the world they will protect and defend that at any cost that's going to be more important to them than relationships than anything you know because their relationship with themselves is more important than anything else so they've got this grandiose sense of self and they they need to exaggerate their their achievements exaggerate their talents and need to constantly highlight their attention and their validation for themselves so that's going to be more important than anything they need to discuss their uniqueness their achievements and how special they are especially in comparison to to others so that's the first thing that you'll notice the second thing is this lack of empathy they struggle to understand or care about other people's feelings many times they they've taken on this ability to maybe mirror what it looks like to care about other people so they'll they'll be like oh yes I see what you mean so they know what it looks like to pretend to care about other people but they don't actually care deep down inside they don't actually care about other people other than themselves they completely disregard anyone else other than themselves they don't they're they're not able to form relationships true real relationships with people they don't truly care if somebody is sick or if somebody's mother died or if somebody has pain or something like that they want to do things for others because it might make them look good to do that you know bring a a basket of something for somebody who's in the hospital because it might make them look good to do that but they don't actually care about that person or feel anything about that person they'll do these things to manipulate for their own gain so that's that that you know complete lack of empathy as far as red flags and the behavioral patterns you know they they go after people especially in that love bombing stage you know whether it's a business relationship or a personal relationship they move that relationship along very very very quickly you know they want to get that to that next stage as quickly as possible so whoever it is they make it seem like it's a perfect match you are perfect we are soul mates I can't believe how wonderful we are where have you been all my life everything is amazing they can't keep that up for very long because they don't want to have to keep depositing in for very long because they want to start taking withdrawals as soon as they possibly can because you know they want for themselves as quickly as they possibly can you know they want to meet the family or they want to become business partners so they want to do things as quickly as they can because they don't want to have to keep up this ruse of doing something for another person for very long because they're they're looking to when am I going to get something out of this deal that's the one thing you'll see they're pushing rushing rushing let's go to Vegas Let's Get Married let's move in together let's get our checking accounts mixed together and then they're starting to push the people that you're close to out of the way and you're going to start to see that devaluing start happening right away you get to start to see little digs happening right away and excessive self-centeredness always bringing that conversation back to themselves needing constant admiration needing constant praise and then maybe you start to see whether they didn't have good relationships with people in their past there's always maybe something wrong with an ex or something wrong with their former step children or their former business partner or something there's always something you know where their life hasn't been fair or maybe they make themselves out to be a victim you know they disregard or dismiss other people's achievements or experiences and then they start using now gaslighting on you they start manipulating you you start to find out things about them things about their past or they're starting to lie to you and they're starting to disregard it they're starting to disregard that reality you're starting to see wait a minute I'm now catching you in situations and they're actually starting to say you know what what you're seeing that's not true that's not reality you're blowing things up you're blowing things out of proportion all of a sudden you're now starting to be calm victims of that reality you agreed to pay me back that money I lent you that never happened I never said I was going to pay back this way you know we agreed that was to be part of the partnership you know something like that you're now starting to become a victim of this gaslighting you're now starting to become part of their warped reality and they're starting to Future fake you oh come on you're gonna see it's all going to be better why should we talk about this let's not talk about this now let's focus on the future they don't ever want to start taking responsibility for current they only want to ever talk about future because they don't ever want to have to take responsibility for their past so they disregard your feelings so that they don't ever have to take responsibility for how they impacted you or how they treated you now you're starting to see this lack of accountability because they don't ever want to have to take responsibility for their actions so they start to shift blame they start to shift blame onto others or onto you there's that lack of remorse that lack of remorse as far as body language goes you know you'll start to see at the beginning you know they might be all into you they might be dominating you they might be it's at the beginning it's it's all consuming it they suck the air out of you they suck the air out of the relationship because it's just so all-consuming even if it's in a business relationship because I know for me when I was in a business relationship with a narcissist it was like that it was you know several emails a day it was calls a day because they're so excited about it and they don't give you a chance to think they don't give you a chance to breathe they don't give you a chance to take a moment to think about whether or not this may be the right thing or or not and if you do try to hesitate they're right there with reasons why to to dismiss it to bat It Away by the way if you if you guys have seen this I'd love to to have you comment below I've seen this and what other examples you've seen and as far as body language goes you know boundary violations you know even if you've said hey today is not a good day to come on over they end up showing up anyway uh because they're like oh I'm so excited I'm so excited about what we're up to or what we're doing or whatever I mean I was just dropping some thing off I know you said today's not a good day I'm not staying I just wanted to drop something off you know because they want to like just sort of make it known that I'm here I'm doing you know they ignore your boundaries they ignore social cues they ignore your your preferences you know they're right there those are the kinds of things that you're going to see with narcissists right at the beginning of the relationship if you are a person that maybe wants that or you know maybe maybe that you find this flattering maybe this is kind of what you needed at that time or whatever it will work on you and obviously it works for a lot of people because you know they end up getting a lot of people in their web in their Lair into their situation because they are very Charming they know how to mirror you they use those mirror neurons to kind of figure out what it is that that you want and become that it worked on me it worked on a lot of different people and so but now once you become equipped once you become knowledgeable you can start to see it almost as a third person and you can start to go wait a minute I know what's going on here and not allow that to happen with you again the next time right you know once you get out of that though they do become Public Enemy Number One and you go into that discard phase and you start to see where they turn against you and that's when they start filing unnecessary motions refusing to give documents to you say they want to settle and they never do and rack up the fees and blame it on you and all that sort of thing so that's when it can get kind of hairy you know that's where I come in and I can help you with all that sort of thing so it makes it difficult definitely not impossible and I know how to win so I know how to help you so that you can get to the other side so that's why I'm here that's why I do what I do I promise you that it is something that you can get through but not alone not alone so that's why I'm telling you make sure you definitely grab my free Crush my negotiation prep worksheet go to winmynegotiation.com and get that it's a free ebook it'll help you tremendously and it's a 15-page e-book it will help you a lot to get started with your negotiations for sure get that get started with that and also join my free private Facebook narcissist negotiators with Rebecca zung that will help you a lot too make sure you have subscribed here to this Channel and the next video that you should watch is how to know when you're being used by a narcissist how to know when you're being you used by a narcissist so remember that today is a great day to start negotiating your best life and I will see you in that next video

Channel: Rebecca Zung

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Length: 14min 52sec (892 seconds)

Published: Sun Jun 18 2023