The Biggest Men-Child Red Flags - AskReddit

mommy still runs his life women what's the biggest man-child red flag they'll always find some way to push the blame onto others it's never their fault i know a guy like this only started to lighten up mid-thirties but nothing was ever his fault you lost a 300 because you gave someone's order to someone else but it's not your fault because he told you his name which led you to pull up someone else's name yeah no your fault what's that you're behind on your bills but it's not your fault you didn't get enough money from your deadbeat renter you have 20k in your bank account not even accruing interest because it's not in a savings account because you are too lazy to set one up pay your damn bills on time instead of whining then again i knew a lot of people who acted like this but they usually mellowed out when mommy and daddy or grammy and pappy didn't help anymore he doesn't know how to do a load of washing dated a guy like that once we had just moved in together and he mentioned not having clean clothes so i showed him how to use the washer and dryer and he looked at me and said but that's a woman's job laughed my butt off and told him to enjoy wearing dirty clothes then unsurprisingly i didn't stay with him long after that i was 17 legally emancipated at the time and this was 17 years ago i was not the best decision maker and he didn't seem like a crappy guy when we started dating some things you don't learn about people until you live with them incredibly irresponsible puts off things indefinitely until someone else does it for them probably the type to complain their mother girlfriend slash wife is an egg because they have to resort to that to get him to do stuff you can't force someone to be responsible i really wish i hadn't wasted over a decade of my life with that guy people aren't going to change if they don't want to and he was happy being a man child women people if you are reading this and you have that bad feeling in the pit of your stomach because the guy you are with treats you badly because he doesn't want to deal with his own problems leave you are stronger than you know and it is beyond a doubt worth it to have a better life without him when they're all over a girl then she rejects them and suddenly she is a grotesque demon it's a mark of maturity to recognize that people are not obligated in any way to feel the way you want them to entitlement prevents people from working together to solve problems and situations in a relationship this particular red flag means that when things go south they're going to point to you to fix it because they are incapable of pointing towards themselves mommy still runs his life my ex's mom used to try to run everything like what time we had holiday dinners etc she held menus hostage like only made certain foods on certain holidays and not the day after god forbid so if my family wanted to do something on that day too i'd have to miss out because he didn't want to sacrifice his only chance to eat that meal that year i tried to ask him once to negotiate for a meal to be an hour earlier as i had to work early the next day and he told me he would try but never actually asked about it i understand that those dishes took a long time to prepare but she was never willing to compromise even a little bit and guilt tripped the hell out of him if he didn't do what she wanted and he never had the guts to stand up to her big factor in our eventual split living like a crackhead eating like a 12 year old doesn't want to progress complains endlessly never assumes responsibility but would say things like i'm such a jerk i'm so stupid i'm a mess like yeah okay and what will you do about it now michael and i don't mean going in on the occasion kid meal or snack i had a peanut butter and jelly sandwich the other day it was glorious i'm talking about the adult who refuses to eat anything other than chicken nuggets and french fries and pizza but veggies are yucky grow up you little throws a tantrum when they don't get their way like a child screaming in a store because their mum wouldn't buy them a toy so they never grew out of that only acts nice because they want something in return everything has strings and an underwritten contract known and read of a few breakups that happened because turns out after they moved out of their parents place they treated their partner like they were their new mother or father doesn't offer to help clean up after you cook for him go straight to couch my husband cannot wrap his mind around one cooking one cleaning his idea is you get it dirty you clean it up no surprise that his mother did all the cooking and cleaning growing up bugged me for the longest time and then he started cooking and will get mad at me if i try and clean so now he cooks and cleans the dishes i have more time for taking care of the rest of the house and it's working out okay would not recommend this system though filthy apartment floors never swept or washed toilet smells like hell's urinal piles of dirty laundry few or no kitchen utensils garbage hasn't been taken out and who knows how long kitchen littered with gatorade bottles and fast food and frozen meal containers nasty sheets and posters of scantily clad models or scarface movie posters as the only decorations one that a haven t seen mentioned yet is pick up artistry covers all manner of insecurity immaturity and lack of personal growth by doubling down on the objectifying of women c not so bad to get rejected by a girl if she's just one of 20 meat socks you're pursuing at a time basically anything from the red pill community these people think they're some special enlightened class but if i catch them using that kind of language or pick up strategy it's an immediate red flag here's a thought red pillars if you weren't such insufferable genitals maybe you wouldn't have to overcompensate for your 95 rejection rate i know a guy who constantly complains about being single he's 33. he'll crush on one girl for like six months without showing her any sign of interest finally work up the nerve to ask her out get rejected and pine after her for another year or so hoping she'll change her mind despite being objectively very unattractive not having a career relying on friends to rent him space well below market value he only ever aims for girls that are innate or higher he has ridiculous criteria too refuses to date anyone taller and he's like five feet seven inches or older than him wants to marry into money expects his future wife to be a homemaker raising their five to eight children thinks any sex other than missionary position with the lights off is gross he's had girls interested in him before girls who are out of his league and never pursued anything because they were a couple years older or a couple inches taller than him yeah he is a complete man-child and i'm positive he'll die alone finances man children typically either don't work or else they work part-time at a minimum wage job they'll call in on weekends because they want to party and they're just too lazy to actually put an effort to work more unless they're rich and are used to daddy buying everything for them they never have much money they're always broke when it comes time to pay rent or the electric bill but they mysteriously always have money to buy video games or weed can't keep a relationship going because they are more in love with a fantasy version of the girl they were with so whenever a problem actually comes along instead of working through it they get upset and bail because she wasn't who he thought she was and he doesn't want to actually put work into anything my ex straight up said this to me in a fight like i had been going through depression at the time coupled with stress and lots of other factors my sex drive was pretty low we used to do it a lot but that was also during the honeymoon period of every new relationship i suppose anyway he said i was falsely advertising for what i was offering in the relationship selfish too i think for not having a high sex drive due to depression which he knew i was struggling with and was supposedly supportive of self-identifying as a butthole unbelievable self-pity mixed with probably fake self-judgment i just get so scared that i'm a loser or i feel like a failure entirely designed to play on your compassion when he's being challenged on some horrible selfish lazy piece of poop he has done every time he broke a promise instead of being sorry for the hurt or problems he'd caused it was all about what it might mean about him and he would get really attacking and horrible when i didn't reassure him and make it all better how involved his mommy is in his life good relationship with mom keeps in touch family holidays healthy boundaries maybe calls for advice on when cooking something complicated or wtf to do with silk good mom stops by the house all the time stocks his fridge brings him meals does his laundry buys his clothes cleans his house and has him over for dinner three nights a week bad mommy is telling him who he should and shouldn't date what jobs he should have what he should be doing with his money or is still holding the apron strings after say 21 worst a man who makes no effort to keep his home clean who can't cook even the most rudimentary of meals and who sees absolutely no problem with this it shows a pretty marked immaturity that i don't have time to deal with not to mention that he'd better not even think that i would automatically be glad to do all this for him just because i'm a woman and i'm not talking martha stewart level of cooking and cleaning either my place isn't spotless and i'm no gourmet chef but i expect to see just enough to keep the health department away and maybe eat a home-cooked meal once or twice a week oh my god i almost married one here have a list forces himself to dislike something just because you like it ever see a grown man grit or grind his teeth while playing a video game you encouraged him to try i have fussy eater will not eat anything that isn't pizza or burgers and has zero interest in broadening his culinary horizons i was sympathetic at first but he aggressively refused all of my suggestions owns various books on get rich quick schemes i know i probably should have left right then and there spontaneous vehicle purchases owns a classic car from high school that he refuses to part with but never drives it works on it or does anything with it except keep it insured and have difficulty finding places to park it he had this facade of being handy but every time he would set out to do something handy he needed someone else there to help him i need james to come over and help me with the brakes on my car i called my dad to help with the tile backsplash in our kitchen etc etc and then they would just end up doing it for him makes fun of the things you like pay attention to this seriously a normal guy should be able to appreciate that you like things even if they're different from the things that he likes he outright mocked me for enjoying certain video games that weren't the kill loot instant gratification variety a man appreciates and respects your choices a child points and laughs at the things you like once the house perfectly spotless but will never do anything to get off his lizzy butt to help with that works a part-time job and refuses to consider trying to go back to school or do really anything to get him out of that situation that isn't whining about not getting a promotion after sorting mail for nearly 10 years honestly liberal arts degree such entitlement wow once a dog gets a dog does absolutely nothing with taking care of or cleaning up after and training the dog doesn't want to have kids yet because then he'll have to share his toys seriously he's not being funny when he says [ __ ] like this he's legitimately a greedy selfish man baby and you should not procreate with him learn from my almost mistake run buys expensive things right after you tell him not to buy those things and then expects it to just be okay always talks about having a ton of money coming in truth is he has no money coming in just entitlement issues up the butt he wants to dazzle you with cash he doesn't actually have wants to become a lawyer has absolutely no interest in actually putting any effort into becoming a lawyer in truth he actually just wants to argue more and get away with saying stupid stuff in front of a judge this is not the kind of person who becomes a lawyer anytime he playfully whines about something but i want a cx movie not why but i want a new one of these because mine's not working properly etc etc etc and then playfully laughs pro tip it's not fake whining to be funny it's actual whining disguised as fake funny whining just stay away from any and all whining having his mother appear on your doorstep at random times to harass you after you dump him and he kicks himself out that was fun not they were looking in my windows to see whether i was home sending harassing texts and emails after you dump him saying he's entitled to spousal support and you paying off all of his debt that he accrued without your input even though he's left you with two pets and a house you can barely afford on your own that was actually fun forwarding everything to my family lawyer to discredit him really he did it all himself his relatives post vaguely on their facebook about how they're happy in their marriages or whatever and would never treat their spouse like that translation man baby has been crying to entire family you're the scum of the earth how dare you find fault in this perfect cinnamon roll probably the biggest one talks a lot about stuff he wants never actually puts forward any effort into actually getting it never he just expects it to magically happen without his input at all everything you do annoys him literally everything how dare you listen to music while you cook or clean how dare you soak potting soil in the sink for plant pots it's so dirty even though it takes less than a minute to wipe up how dare you get back into painting that's money i can spend on pizza how dare you order off the dinner menu never mind that i go for lunch twice a week with my friend kyle it's so expensive when i eat out with you maybe twice a year if you upset his happy norm by existing you're sure to hear some whining about it we were together nearly five years no mention of still playing with lego i think i'm safe someone replied if someone tells you not to play with lego they're not worth it you don't need that kind of negativity in your life having a problem with it is a red flag there's this bizarre attitude held by some people that being adult means you can have fun nope it means i have responsibilities that need to be considered before i do things that's it i need to pay bills maintain a home and be good to my partner if you have kids they go there too beyond that i will do whatever the hell i want because that's what being an adult actually means if i want to play video games for three days straight long as the aforementioned responsibilities are sorted then by god i will build a lego death star screw you my time my money my house if i want a lego death star then i shall have one and so on obviously i do less me things and more responsible adult things as i get older because as you progress in life you tend to accumulate more and more responsibility doesn't mean i can still decide how to spend my free time though thanks for listening to radio tts hit the subscribe button and activate the notification bell for more videos click the right box for the radio tts dating advice playlist to learn how to become dateable are you a man-child do you know a man-child let us know in the comments what you think about man-childs and this concept

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Length: 15min 28sec (928 seconds)

Published: Sat Apr 25 2020