How To Make People Like You And Want You Around

look under any youtube video of simulio and you'll see commenters praising his charisma he's new to being an a-list celebrity but he's making an incredible first impression so in this video we're gonna go through six mistakes most people make during their first impressions and six habits you can learn from simu that will let you make an amazing first impression instead these habits are super easy to do most people just don't know to do them once you learn a few of these habits you'll find that the people you meet start thinking stuff like this after meeting you my problems it has been an absolute pleasure thank you so much for being so much fun thank you thank you so much the first thing you can learn from simu is how to make an entrance most people mistakenly think a first impression starts when you start speaking so they don't pay attention to how they enter a room or what they're doing before getting into a conversation your first impression actually starts as soon as someone first notices you for an over-the-top example of a strong entrance watch how simu enters a talk show please welcome simulu [Applause] say hello to simon leo everybody [Music] [Applause] [Music] thank you thank you it's my first one so i knew i had to uh make it count you know in your own life you obviously don't have to dance as you enter every room but these examples highlight two easy habits that can help you make a good first impression confident body language and positive energy at a party that might look like those last two clips but at a work meeting classroom or commerce social event it can be as simple as walking in with your head held high shoulders back a smile on your face and saying a big hello the easiest mental cue to give yourself is to come in one energy level higher than the average person in that same situation if you want one specific tip for how to instantly look more confident get comfortable taking up the space around you a common mistake that will make you look like you lack confidence is keeping your arms tight to your body while you speak in contrast watch how far from his body simu's hand gets in this next clip it may seem like a small detail but it subconsciously influences how people perceive you for context this is seen at comic-con after being introduced to chongqi in front of thousands of people just a few days after he got the part literally guys i was cast on tuesday i screen tested on sunday in new york and um and this is just this is just the craziest craziest stream [Applause] one other quick tip for entering a conversation well once covitt is over you'll want to lead with some form of touch depending on the setting that can be anything from a handshake to a big bear hug so for example when you walk into a meeting rather than wave shake everyone's hand it takes longer but it helps you build an instant connection with the people there watch simu again at that comic con convention this is when he was first introduced [Applause] wow okay so at this point your body language is solid and you've come in with big positive energy now the question is what do you actually say one habit that you can take from simu is to look for observational compliments early in the interaction in addition to his positive vibe simu looks for opportunities to be verbally positive welcome to the show thank you so much for having me jimmy oh my god best uh can i just say best swag of any talk show or any i've ever been i mean look at the detail the average person goes into most conversations neutral in terms of their energy tone of voice and body language some people even make the mistake of trying to be cool by coming in aloof or standoffish instead simu actively looks to give a compliment avocado's great this is the best crowd ever this isn't about lying or saying something fake if you do that it will seem like false flattery instead when you start a conversation ask yourself if there's anything you can genuinely compliment if there is say it if not don't sweat it if you don't feel comfortable starting off by complimenting someone you've just met there's another habit you can steal from simu instead compliment the people in your life that you're already close to instead of focusing solely on trying to make yourself look good like most people do spend time elevating the people around you simu will do this to their face but also when they aren't around for example here are a few clips of him talking about his parents and his co-stars aquafina and tony leon both of them yes they're very very intelligent people and they have no idea what happened to me she was so great and grounding me because i was just a nervous ball of insecurity and anxiety at that point tony is you know wonderful and fantastic and has zero ego about him is so gentle and soft-spoken and friendly i respect him so much you know and he was again very patient such a joy to work with hyping up people you're close to when they aren't around is a great habit to have first if it gets back to them they'll appreciate your kind words second it highlights that you have close relationships with awesome people which makes you look good and third it shows you aren't a tryhard who's always trying to center yourself and your own accomplishments simu's positivity comes through in another habit as well he's able to be an encouraging listener there's a few ways you can be an encouraging listener and make people love talking to you the easiest is simply to smile and make eye contact as you listen you can also call out if they make a good point or ask you a good question you're shang chi how the heck did that happen that's a really good question it's a really good question man how did you do some of this yeah that's a really great question [Laughter] to deliver all this action and all this like heart that you had to bring to your character well you know that that's a wonderful question and thank you for for differentiating those two because i think shanxi is so much more than just a martial artist another easy way to be a likable listener is to lower your filter and laugh easily watch in this next clip the difference in reaction between aquafina and simu who would you like more if you were the woman speaking i love working with him because he's so funny and i just i just love watching all of them roasting each other constantly like on set and and just you know often we think that in order to make a good impression we need to be funny and charming but people will also love being around you if you make them feel funny and charming that said it does help tremendously to be able to make people laugh an easy way to do this during a first impression is to be playful when you answer a question for a quick example watch how simu injects some humor into this answer from that question we saw earlier you're shang chi how the heck did that happen well i was asked to audition for this film like any other of course i knew it was special because it was called untitled marvel project you know i'm no sherlock holmes but i put two and two together you know some people struggle with this habit of being playful you may not be sure how to think quickly on your feet and come up with clever jokes on the spot but that's totally fine because there's an easy way around that simply think ahead of time about the questions you're likely to be asked we all have questions we know we get asked in almost every first impression in simu's case during his press tour of chongqi it was very likely he'd get asked about his past tweets it's sort of like i loved your tweet like you know you're shouting out like hey marvel can we make this happen and then like on monday it it sort of does and i i think the way you went about i don't know if this is true or not but the way you went about getting the role for chongqi is you were it started with tweets or something or is that really true wait for it um and it all started this is what i love everything started from you tweeting this tweet in 2014. hey marvel great job with captain america and thor now how about an asian-american hero so did you have any expectations after that tweet of maybe them possibly reaching out after 10 plus times of being asked the same question simu had his answer dialed in and you may not realize it but in your own life that same thing is happening to you think about it what are the questions in your own life that come up again and again when you first meet someone maybe it's where are you from or what do you do you know it's going to be asked but do you have a home run answer if you want to get good at consistently making an amazing first impression and you don't want to have to rely on quick wit then you'll want to think about the questions you get asked most frequently and have great answers for them a great answer can either make the person laugh or showcase something interesting or attractive about you in a way that feels natural and unforced if you want an 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Length: 11min 0sec (660 seconds)

Published: Mon Sep 27 2021