SuperNanny - The Gormely Brickley Family

one set of twin spells trouble but two sets of twins is bedlam a bad behavior is only half the problem these children are given bottles like babies and I put to bed like babies but worst of all the younger twins refused to eat [Music] numbered four to one mum is overwhelmed you know I often feel like a pressure cooker that I'm gonna explode with for under five and two exhausted parents to contend with he's not listed - you think this won't be game Supernanny faces a tough job ahead some done ASAP [Music] [Applause] [Music] you dr. Steve Brickley and dr. Anne Gormley live in West London they both have PhDs in neuroscience Kieran Hayden but they can't work out how to control their kids listen if you two hold it it's no wonder when they have two sets of twins born within two and a half years of each other Aidan and L are nearly five and identical twins Louie and Kiran are almost three years old steve is a university lecturer while Ann put her career in the pharmaceutical industry on hold to start a family I really felt desperately that wanted kids and I was very worried what was going to happen to me if I didn't happen when AM was 38 after a course of IVF she finally got pregnant we had a lot of disappointment so I was absolutely thrilled when we had the twins I didn't know how difficult twins were gonna be just one year after Aiden and Ella were born annandsteve had some surprising news I cried yeah when they told me well first of all I the whole newborn twin thing just went through my head expectations it was worse than we imagined the firsts in the first six months to a year of having all for them I think I've blanked most of it from my memory all the twins Odom and Ella fight like captain dog an agent entrance drive his mother to distraction he call a sit-down all day there nearly five and go to school but for convenience sake annandsteve keep the older twins in nappies at night and all four children are still given milk in baby bottles we're very busy we're tired and we didn't want a lot of hassle at night so you know c'est la vie let's try just try a little bit Louie and Kieran are almost three but they refused to eat normal food even if it's pureed sounds horrible but I force-feed them sometimes just so they can you know just taste it and see if they like it you've got to try some you got to try some lunch I come on just try some that's it yeah I am unfortunate to try food is it's distressing not just for them but to us I mean it's not a nice thing to have to do [Music] [Applause] for an the pressure is constant with them at work she's home alone with two sets of twins guilt associated with her being the one who's doing all the horrible bits and me not I would just like it to change I'd like it to be easier for Annie because it is a very hard job dealing with four young children you know it's real shame you can't go to university and be taught how to do this that would be a lot more useful than my PhD in neuroscience the constant demands of two sets of unruly Twins have left annandsteve little time for each other you know I often feel like a pressure cooker that I'm gonna explode and and I do with Steve a lot of the time sometimes I hate that [Applause] [Music] [Applause] biggest fear splitting up mmm yeah that would be my absolutely biggest fear that because of this we split up that would I would um now kill me yeah yeah that's my biggest fear to the arrival of Supernanny could not come a moment sooner how are you raising hey can I come in yeah come on let's make space this is Louie well a couple of more kids and you'd be running the day crash for now super nanny will simply observe family life the real work starts tomorrow so Steve who is Louie or Kiran remember if I'm ever in doubt I ask I know but they're so similar that's so similar no I'm hoping to get more different as they go but playing spot the difference is the least of their problems [Music] 100 him poor Aiden come on put it down and play nicely you know the pair of them are at loggerheads with regards to sharing but nothing's been talked with regards to any rules about play Milton's around and Steve's biggest challenge so you've got in here the fish are the B so it's exactly the same what everyone else is happening it's just pureed it try and little bit on your lips just a little bit on your lips [Music] oh poor fellows poor fellows when the twins refuse their mum's cooking she resorts to process baby food two-and-a-half and yet she's still given them baby jars they should be eating exactly the same as their parents you do get tired of the routine I mean for me I get some breaks right again work is like my break hello only it's got the whole bit she's the one doing you know all the coalface stop day-in day-out [Applause] well you can't happen and lack of authority is not just confined to inside the house agent you'll bring in your [Music] twenty five minutes later and finally mum is ready to leave which makes me go this way I don't inlet on the pavement please you don't go on the roads hello what this ain't really panning out very well is it is face it I mean look and Athens over there and there every come quickly I don't listen [Music] so in order to get the best behavior from these children we have to start see mom developed some discipline well something's got to be done ASAP it's bedtime and all four children are given milk in baby bottles or you're checking about base the kids with their bottles I'm just kind of seeing this fish in the flight the lioness with all her cubs do you see that now is Becca and Eldridge their piece of you that goes like where's my babies yeah I do and if I was young I might even think well you know in a couple years time I might watch it hey stop upstairs Supernanny wants to find out a bit more about Ella and Aiden's bedtime routine so in the middle of the night when you need to go for wee-wee where do you go where's the bathroom but we've got still quite unhappy time you still got your nappies on who are the nappies in the nighttime but mummy says that you have to wear it Yeah right okay but you'd rather not wear it have you told mummy that what did she say you have to wear you don't want to wear it okay but despite what the kids want as usual the nappies go on before bed [Music] that's certainly the biggest baby I've seen on the baby changing mat as the day draws to a close super nanny has seen enough [Music] Supernanny wants to confront annandsteve with some harsh realities now let's talk about babies autos nappies potties it's all baby stuff yeah all baby stuff and having children that are nearly 5 and 3 there's something very worrying for me when I walk into a house and think why is the development not moving forward it's like you're putting them back stay my babies stay my babies don't grow up I'm trying to make my own life easier because I know what's gonna happen with a bottle we take the bottles away you know there's gonna be a big fuss they love their bottles so yeah yeah it's a I'm trying to keep yeah I just don't want to rock the boat quite frankly it's a no-no hmm you know I want to say and they're five and free they don't babies in a year you're going to make them think they're babies they're gonna start to behave like babies they're not little anymore make life easy for everyone cheating the age they are eatin has really taken up a lot of focus yeah and a lot of energy in the house you know baby food is not giving them anything the children's delayed speech development is due to the present when makes life eternal hope you're on yes yes I think it's slightly behind yeah yeah I know that's because you know they're not eating whole pieces of food and grown-up food and so you know it's delayed their speech because what it does enable us to do is to use our facial muscles yeah yeah which then develops our language our speech and that is behind pureed food doesn't allow them to do that look so what has to change is your approach and your behavior to it mmm out in public but if a disaster yesterday to say the least the attitude towards having the four out I don't think is strong enough with regards to being aware what you should be feeling is that you've got everything under control and you know that you're able to manage four kids when you're out it because it's about safety and fun when you're out okay I haven't seen discipline in the house we have Aiden throwing big temper tantrums and hittin we've got the two younger ones that end up copying that behavior and yet no discipline I feel like I've given up altogether because there's four of them to discipline that in itself is massive you gave up yeah it takes commitment follow-through hmm consistency yeah as a recipe that sentence you passed by me yesterday that work is like a holiday to you was quite telling for me what that isn't that's always been the case for me you know I've always enjoyed boho I understand that because that's what I do I understand that feeling of you know when you're working you enjoy what you do and you're in there you know but likewise we want the same feeling when you come home I'm coming home and actually you know what I'm blessed hmm as a couple you know the priorities of raising those kids you need to be able to give the same respect for your own relationship you need to put in the same love to your own relationship the honesty situation is that we're we are more and more friends than we are partners at the moment in terms of man and wife and more friends well we're kind of like two people working looking after Joe yes well we we do our life as that couple we had that sort of disappeared hmm and it's it's scary that it's disappeared over time and it's very it's difficult to think how you can get backs up what you were spending some time away from the kids that would be really good you it's day 1 of teaching and Supernanny comes armed with a new family routine banish that yes we can do it okay we can do it might be hard but we can to try and do it yeah there's a lot to do and Supernanny wants to introduce some boundaries at nearly five Ella and Aiden are the perfect age for her naughty step technique this is what your discipline is going to be in other words when you behave naughty then where you are going is straight to the naughty step for five minutes to think about your behavior but for Louie and Kiran Supernanny wants to use the more flexible naughty spot louie and Kiran they're going to be sitting on the floor right here in the midst of everything okay but for all four children the discipline principle is the same chance it's not about where you place the kids it's about what you say you do what mommy says I'm asking you to come in here you're not go upstairs soon after dad leaves for work and is faced with her first big test in that's it straps are not spotting that explain why's on there Kiran I told you not to go upstairs okay no you didn't listen to me I told you to come back now you stay there for three minutes and don't move okay let's go the skirt a good voice good tone after years of mum being inconsistent Kieran's not listening and watch me and watch hands just straight back don't talk to him okay so he's only just testing what he's seen in the past behavior because you're setting down new ground Louie come back here and is already struggling with one twin on the naughty spot when Louie decides to give her twice the trouble okay so place one over here somewhere and one somewhere else all right I asked you not to go okay so now is it gonna take a steel stone is to go take seriously oh okay I just look at its facing it just makes me laugh how would you know what's the bet I know I know I know I'm sorry Louie sorry I just can't do it right now I find it really difficult this little base is laughing at me I just find them really funny I'm obviously not you know I'm not cross enough right now otherwise I wouldn't laugh but that's my point I don't feel that a leap Aaron has to get to a point where they're close and I shouldn't take huge have to be a boiling point to discipline now they're taking the Mickey now they're running amok with you now they're giving you a run for your money because now there's two of them and they both don't take you seriously so now they can take turns well they give in eventually will you do not eat me that hurts no doing [Music] straight back okay [Music] I just find this whole situations I ridiculous this is the repercussion of the smiling they need to know you're serious and the only way they're going to know that is by the repetition for t escape are tents and 30 minutes later mums workout eventually pays off as Louie and Kiran admit defeat you're placing down some Authority yes just something you said you wanted by yeah yeah absolutely yeah because they could smell it they could sense it it was on your face yeah and you weren't smiling anymore no you don't do that again do you understand that was your Qi behavior okay I felt as if it wasn't going to work because they were just running rings around me laughing their heads off so I was pretty amazed that it's possible to get with two little ones so small to get them to sit in a spot for the three minutes that amazed me good boy super nannies next challenge is getting the two and a half year olds to eat solids it is very distressing they're screaming they're spitting it out along with all the other chaos that sometimes goes on at mealtime I just can't do that I can't cope with that every day what we will do is get rid of all the baby stuff okay get rid of the high chairs yeah for Karen and Louie advanced booster seats cuz the high chairs are going to vanish you're welcome baby food is now off the menu and there will be no more force feeding the characters proper cutlery here super nanny wants the younger twin sitting around the table with everyone else using grown-up cutlery are you gonna try it it's lovely but breaking old habits is not going to be easy [Music] you know what Louie's saying right now yeah okay and it's all about praise at how well they're doing so far sore claps praise and encouragement from parents is key to persuading children to eat this is a real breakthrough with Kieren it's the first time he's tried the same food as his parents but Louie is still resisting this facing he's even going to obvious all yeah and if he does ooh it's not going to whip her down the plughole tonight because it didn't have it it's learning a lesson him we're breaking those old behavior patterns with his food Lou is used to getting his own way but this time there'll be no baby food or pudding [Music] that's the end of dinner then you're not getting anything let's go then that's a shame please gonna learn from that okay that's all he's doing with you now is a power struggle yeah come on live a little more with four kids to control it's important that dad also gets to grips with super nannies discipline technique Karen come on out to the house now I want to talk to you are you gonna come and talk to me you want to adopt an authority voice okay he's not listening to you think just one big game he needs to take you seriously you didn't come when I asked you sit there and you wait you sit quietly good voice clear good time we're on the same page on the same page yeah Kiran will sit on the naughty spot for three minutes one minute for each year of his age start again there's not any real distress he's just you know you're not being mean no you know you're teaching you're teaching him okay I know get it good he's doing what he's told no you sorry good give me a hug [Music] annandsteve avoid the inconvenience of bedwetting by keeping their five-year-olds in nappies we're very busy we're tired and we didn't want a lot of hassle at night so you know c'est la vie LM Aidan five years old nearly and still wearing nappies it's been humiliating them tonight the two of you are going to go to bed this evening without your nappies on so you can wear big-boy pants and you can wear big done because is that good with babies yes for the babies you'd be a big boy you're a big girl you need nappy that syllable I'm Adam but we're doing a Latoya exactly that's where we're doing it I've heard that an athlete parrots will come in tonight because they want to take the nappies okay we'll just give them to the Pirates in the next morning well open up the treasure chest almost hit a lifter anything [Music] [Music] are you gonna take the nappies away yeah [Music] what I thought we could do is take the opportunity to get rid of the bottles but really you know make hole up stay right all the baby stuff out this is good the move to cups is well overdue and only Aiden puts up a fight good girl Ella good girl but it's not long before Aiden backs down and drinks up after without Oh the following morning it's time to find out if the nappy pirates have left any treasure you do it [Music] you're a fairy it was lovely having any babies he and then progressing to the next stage yes it is yes selfishly he's quite light on babies but they've gotta move on you know they've got everyone to and grow up and go and become little toddlers all of them [Music] now that some boundaries have been established in the house Supernanny wants to ensure mum can keep control outside we've got the younger boys in the stroller and we've got a Danilo here walking okay make sure before we leave that you've very clearly set up expectations for all of the kids what I want you to do and we're going to do this every time we go out okay you have to listen to me and do what I asked you I would like you to stand one either side of me okay and hold on to the buggy and you're not you must not run off okay because it's dangerous good boy thank you when they can run off they can have fun but whilst we're here shoes together holding on no that's fine okay this listening taking direction doing as they're told brilliant and okay you get them used to walk it's good exercise super nanny and Steve keep their distance as mum needs to be able to cope alone listen you gotta listen to me Ella and I want you you don't have to hold on to the buggy but you've got to stay beside it okay I don't want you running off because there's loads of people around you so I don't want to lose you okay very good Aiden don't run off Aiden stop good - boy like that it's good this is great say no - forum yeah you can and if I want you to stop by that barrier okay wake me in the past annandsteve have avoided family trips out for fear of losing control Supernanny is now confident they can cope with a boat trip up the Thames you're owning confidence the pair of you and making them feel like you have things in control it's all been plain sailing that is until Aiden decides he's had enough walking for one day no you're not sitting on the front no we're nearly at the car you don't have to walk very far lucky come on keep up okay this is what's going to happen when we get back you are going to end up sitting on the naughty step don't start this nonsense that's not an option no sitting on the buggy okay this happens every day when I'm taking home from school use your legs huh look the car I know you're tired darling but we have to walk to the car we're all going now but we get to hook up and get a tea it's a battle of wills and Supernanny will not be defeated all right then you know what hold this okay so are we going to sit here once you're ready then you stay sitting you will not be sitting on that buggy because there is no room he's used to just me now to say I want to be able to get a lift on the on the stroller and not even do any walking whatsoever it's making it lazy mmm it's colleagues but he needs to know that he's not an option you can't go on the buggy you've got to walk with me it takes Aiden 20 minutes to back down and realize there will be no more buggy rides okay good job froggy frog they said we don't care if he's fleet frog in yeah or doing buck the kangaroo die now as long as he's getting to the car that's all that matters we would be there's nothing wrong with your speeder it's all about control but it's not only Aiden's tantrums that Supernanny wants to conquer Louie and Kieran are trying pasta for the first time good boy Cameron well done come on Haley Lou is still on strike so Supernanny wants to use dessert as a visual incentive I don't want to say that every day we want to be putting down ice cream and chocolate and that kind of stuff because we want healthy options have dessert but what I think would be good is to put it in a bowl and put in front of him that's not one for you yes you can have it Louie but you've got to eat that first okay that first all of it then you can have your ice cream and chocolate don't talk about it anymore now you've said what it is look at that oh you eating all of yours fantastic for his reward Kieran delves into his ice cream Louie Louie pasta first then ice cream okay oh yeah you get it mmm yum yum lovely you have your dinner first then after you have your ice cream and chocolate living here on you've done reading well Louie's going to eat pasta first art no way if you don't eat your pasta no ice cream for Louie yeah you show us yeah you show us Louie good boy good boy Louie well done well done good boy knowing you're having some more well done I was really pleased with myself that I'd managed to you know achieve that with LuAnn Carole I hope that was pretty amazing well done Louie you finished all your pasta yeah boy let's get in the car eat dinner get get ice cream yeah [Applause] [Music] that's a table with your food please come on the most frustrating thing about having four children that all are so young is they don't give you any space so Annie and I have no time together he's been listening to all this well ignoring I'll just ignore it and it's fine that's over with I take things out on Steve a lot of the time I just do and that's why I think you know it's really had a bad effect on our marriage let's not forget these guys have got two sets of twins they got their hands full seriously it's a lot of hard work so for them just to be able to take time out together as a couple has got to be a priority for them what I'm going to do is to babysit for you it's afternoon and there's a nice little note there of where you're going to meet Steve and have lunch with him today Hugh thanks very much oh wait this is the first time Stephen an have had lunch alone in nearly three years oh yeah oh are you doing [Music] on your marks it is so lovely wasn't it to get now out of the house on just the two of us Street yeah and just have a really nice chat on our own without all all the kids it was yeah it was perfect I loved it [Music] over the next couple of days and continues to be tested noe I want you to come down the stairs please but with super nannies guidance she remains strong and consistent open the door and come out please you're going straight on to the naughty spot Oh push stroll now you wait there for three minutes [Music] okay No you've put discipline in this house no it's nearly time for super nanny to leave but before she waves goodbye they're enjoying the first roast dinner they've eaten together as a family let mommy's eating carrot mmm you can take a little fight good boy go on you can do it you can do it I'm really proud of you Larry good boy choose daddy they're on the right track and they're moving forward and they were together as a family sitting down having a meal together which is the first time we've actually seen this so you know for me I'm very pleased very pleased with the progress is family and making at mealtimes it's a it's a far cry from what we had in the beginning with high chairs and baby food and strapping in and you know this chaos look this is this is family milk I'll see you soon all right yes stretch as you see very soon super nanny we'll be back in a week to see how the family have been getting on but from tomorrow Steve Allen will be going it alone [Music] it's Anne's first day without super nanny and straightaway she's put to the test come on if you don't come and sit down you will go on the naughty spot now you're going to sit there on the naughty spot for three minutes for not listening to me okay sit down and face a table how am I supposed to enforce discipline with him if you are making a laughingstock of it now sit down and is still struggling to take the discipline seriously now no one is listening to her and she has to deal with the repercussions [Music] I felt like we don't you know it made big progress with Joe and we have and in the end I won that battle I just feel like I've gone backwards too much really to deal with stand at the side you can still help me from the side come on it's Anne's first outing since Supernanny left Aiden is refusing to hold on to the side of the buggy resulting in a strop okay you haven't listened to me so you can go and sit on the skate like I said five minutes and follows through with a naughty step but then leaves ello with a buggy out of sight if we're all going to get to the shop I need you to do what home I want you to do okay come on let's have a hug let's get going and now can you stop please and a stop that is really dangerous what if you pushed it into the road and there might be a car that you do not do that okay Aiden I want you to hold on to that and walk with me Aiden an l a-- test a mum for a buggy ride and in the end she gives in that's it Ella hop hop [Music] girl yeah it's dinnertime a mum and dad are doing well it's encouraging Louie to eat Lou is really trying I know good boy Livie I think Louie's gonna get yogurt you're doing really well yeah but then an resorts back to treating them as babies by spoon-feeding Kieran from her own plate a boy came on to clap the clear on if you oh well done you're eating toilet it's lovely Kieran isn't it good boy can't touch another mouthful it's the same as yours so you eat your one arm Kieran may be eating but mums set herself up you know eat some of yours don't be the age Mizoram you can eat all the fur mummy's dinner if you want it's the first time I've ever seen them both eat they didn't finish the plate but that was the first time they had lasagna ever and they yeah there that was really good the following day they may be eating but only from mums plate eat your own dinner hey mommy no leave me yes that's mummys dinner eat your dinner [Music] super nannies do another visit and she's determined to put this family back on track and now she's back to explain where they're going wrong Oh Alec is eating off your plate yeah it was good they try something here and it was good that he liked it but it's very good also that he eats off his own plate because you're children of Louie and Kieran's age need to learn boundaries too much really to deal with it's it's crucial that Ann has break and the consistency of a couple of hours will go a long long way no I absolutely accept that yeah that's necessary it's just so difficult to think of we're doing it let's work out today how we can incorporate consistency with that [Music] Supernanny is determined to ensure that and gets a regular break right Steve oh yeah as from now you're in trouble for okay so that leaves you a bit of time to stress release yes that's time for yourself yeah sure cut as I'm going off then Steve I'll see you later yeah yeah she really fit she's going one feels relaxed I feel [Music] one two three you gonna help us make a tent we're just gonna break soon after Anne leaves dad has a sample of what mum has to deal with every day very nice stay there for three minutes stay there for three minutes I can't force on any threats good this is the first time dad has prepared dinner whilst looking after all four children now I'm gonna go and check on the dinner Ella I've got to I've got to cuz it'll burn yeah big honking sorry you can stop playing now play nicely now the naughty spots over super nanny wants to introduce a technique to help Steve so that you can do something around the table with all four of them you can set it all up see them play nicely and then walk away yeah okay so we play and we walk away which then enables us to be able to get dinner on the go whilst there at the table playing okay [Music] everything's going all right with dinner then you can come back and sit down with them and play what shape I would need a funnel cloud why did a funny clown yeah you see how we've just generated a little bit of calm yeah it's what calm very calm I like me online with the kids it's fine but what we needs to as Joseph's make sure it happens all the time every week one or two times a week and I really just think that make a big difference for Eddie and he's not gonna be pleased with my cooking Lou you ready you ready for your dinner Louie you're you are boy Kalen good boy Louie good eating Wow why does this boy go from being spoon-fed two days ago and not wanting a think to actually eating right now by himself what is it I suspect because he knew that many would do it so Stephanie just would hang out and take a little exactly so you have to treat them like you know they can do much better and bigger than that and I show you they can that did really well today and he showed that you know he really can take care of all four kids which allows mom to be able to take that breather to reduce her levels of stress but as soon as mum returns Kieran's back to refusing his food we tried a little bit okay he shut down here before you came here and started to tuck into the food okay okay that's an absolute no-no okay once he wants you to stop that behavior again yeah once super nannies put a stop to spoon feeding Ciaran tucks in or by himself mister your kid super nannies work is done and it's time for her to leave listen take care of yourselves take care of your beautiful kids keep just keep out keep your home thanks doctor thanks ey there's been a lot of improvement with this house fingers crossed even though every day's going to be challenging for the pair of them that they continue to stay on the track they're on now because they're doing a fabulous job one month later and the Gormley Brickley family are enjoying the benefits of super nannies teaching dinner times now it's it's improved so much there's no comparison it's amazing she's favorite he likes he likes lettuce I didn't think that was possible so no things are really important I have improved I mean it's just once you get rid of the stress of of all the bad behavior you can get back to sort of the way you were a bit hmm you know that makes a big difference it cuts out a lot of the stress between us it makes things a lot better well if you thought that the Duggars are a force to be reckoned with wait till you meet their friends the vanderhoffs in tonight's brand-new double bell of 19 Kids and Counting from 9 and next dr. oz [Music]

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Published: Mon Sep 01 2014