Supernanny Season 7 Episode 3 The Swift Family

tonight on Supernanny come on a nanny wraps out her employers I felt like it was really necessary for the children's safety and Jose called into hell the kids run wild and all mom and dad do was nag demanding she should be equipped to deal with your children even though you're not right grandma tries to help this is what you have your mouth but mom and dad are ungrateful there's only so much you can say if you go too far it's not okay you say to yourself well how do we get here because you were lazy because it wasn't important enough will the neglect continue there's stuff all over the floor can Joe get through to these parents in a nutshell you don't know what you're doing or is disaster about to strike I'm in Sacramento California and a fellow nanny has reached out to me because her family need my help strange right let's take a look hi my name's Katie I'm 22 years old and I am the nanny for the Swift family Joshua what's going on come on my name is Tony and I'm Jenny and we have five kids Jack who's 11 Joshua who's 10 Sean who's seven then we have max who's four and baby Mia who's nine months Laura is my mom she is extremely involved with our family on a daily basis and that's my new super nanny I call him because I felt like it was really necessary for the children's safety I'm worried about him getting hit by cars I'm worried about them getting kidnapped this notebook shouldn't be out in the street I mean errands it's definitely a concern of mine that the children are gonna get hurt especially a little 9 month old this is just too dangerous oh yeah did you tell me shoot behind I didn't know why but he's aware of her crawling around on the floor in a minute that's not safe at all should get this in her mouth she puts it in her mouth Gloria is definitely more of a parent than Ginny and Tony we're not gonna play with the food really you're gonna have to put the baby somewhere Joe she's fine she takes care of the kids all locked there's stuff all over the floor over there no she's fine here just let her know don't put her in there she's do all around a little bit no this is what she had in her mouth that's crazy what are these parents think kid how all these Cubs picked up we're at our wits end no we're exhausted get the bull hey don't do that super nanny I'm begging you to please help us our family laid out now guys you're fooling the Potter seems I'm on my way hello nice to meet you under janitor my Joe first came in the house I have to admit that I was intimidated I shouldn't face to meet you I need to meet you I'm Josh hi jack pleasure to meet you greet you too my Tony who's thrown hugging me on the blanket hello this is me yeah hello just after I arrived I got this whole conversation about how they're not really happy with their nanny I mean really I call her more of a babysitter I wouldn't call her as a substitution for a parent you know what I'm saying she's not always here on a regular basis she comes it's just like okay whatever she more watches the kids when we're gone the problems that she faces everyday looking after these kids do you not face them yourself I do but I feel like that's it's okay for me to face those problems but if she on her own for her so she should be equipped to deal with your children even though you're not right exactly in a perfect world I think this woman's extremely lazy she's hired a nanny she has grandma and yet she's saying I think my nanny should be able to take care of my kids completely even if I can't really and as if on cue Katie banannie walked straight through the door and then almost immediately at that left no no it's raining Stan then mum left and I was left with the nanny and the kids when it was time for Katie to change her Mia's diaper Shawn and Max saw the opportunity to misbehave oh my gosh what is going out there and the roughhousing continued into mom and dad's bedroom Oh your diapers all messed up finally Katie realized where the boys worth hey Sean hey guys I don't think that mom wants you to be playing in her room so you need to go ask her Katie's totally unsure of how she should be managing these boys and I soon found out why would you say that you're both on the same page no Jenny and Tony have never sat me down and given me a game plan to disciplining their children I've really gone on by observing them and trying to simulate what they would do there aren't really clear rules and it kind of changes between us between parents between if my mom's here I'm here that's a surefire recipe for disaster everybody needs to be in sync mom needed to pick some things up at the grocery store and so I said to her let's go with all the kids just to get them all out together hey max come here please barking Shawn I was panicking because I knew the kids first inclination was gonna be to run away Shawn come here and I was trying really hard to keep things under control but I could feel things slipping away we're gonna go to the restroom right you have to go you can't go by yourself I have to go with you can you stand right by and watch her just don't take her up are you really serious well I mean oh you being serious yes totally this is what I would do us no way that's crazy she was about to leave her seven-year-old in charge of the baby don't have enough hands you think it's because you don't have enough hands yeah you don't need more than one pair of hands to realize that you take your baby with you to keep them safe and I don't think that's a priority for mom at the moment I was really happy when we got out of that grocery store and tell you the truth I'd probably made it through half the things that I was planning on getting coming up on super nanny mom has a heartbreaking confession you know when I go to bed at night I feel sad because I don't want them to grow up like this and Joe doesn't mince words I think you all like immature to be honest with you when super nanny returns after watching mom in the supermarket I'm concerned about her actions so I pulled her aside to talk to her do you feel overwhelmed right now with all the kids it feels overwhelming yeah it feels like work 90% of the time it's not fun I'm not having fun I don't think my mom has fun I don't think my husband has fun I think we're all just trying to get through the day the best that we can and that's just not what I envisioned you know when I go to bed at night I feel sad because I'm like this isn't I don't want them to grow up like this I don't want them to grow up sad or thinking like you know I grew up and it was just I thought I say I say you I see you uh yeah it's very obvious to me that this mom's not enjoying Parenthood because she's not engaging with any of her children and having fun and if she's gonna change that it's gonna take effort later on in the day one of mom and dad's key helpers grandma came round for dinner do you want to put her in her chair yeah okay I will do that and Gloria went straight into minding those kids finally somebody around here was taking control come here I need you to do something I'll hold that so that Mia's bedroom and get me up or what those wipes back there are little things that go on that grandma sees and observes and she's shaping and molding their behavior and etiquette every day and yet it's going to the sidelines when it comes to Jen and Tony doing that workout that Paul doesn't have a Vince no China does that happen at all disconnect but the pool alarm is disconnected these kids are riding their bikes very close to the pool edge no helmets on and nopal alarm on I mean it's a dangerous situation with the baby we have to be very careful with this door because she's now crawling out mm-hmm it's gotten out you know some distance so safety is an issue a big issue big major issue you know there's only so much you can say if you go too far it's not okay why what happens with these two it's oh it's okay my judgement is it's not okay these kids need to be safe and they need to be protected by their parents you need to go get your jacket and come in because it's too cold out here I've seen enough quite frankly it was time for me to leave so what I'd like to do is call for a family meeting tomorrow so that we can sit down and really work out where we're gonna go from here okay perfect I need to have a serious conversation with these parents tomorrow because what I've seen I'm not happy with I was very nervous about hearing what Joe would have to say I started to realize man I'm there's a lot of things here I'm doing wrong it's not just one or two things with everything there are four adults around your children but you guys are not on the same page it really sends a bad message to the kids and that's why you're in this pickle now for sure so it's gotta be really important that you guys talk about raising your family with Grandma as she is a key coke era in your lives she has her own view and our own ways in which she feels that the kid should be raised and instead of maturely communicating I think we both get defensive yeah I don't buy it Oh guess who's getting fed up of hearing Gloria put things right you guys but only because she won't step up yourselves I think you mature to be honest with you it's a conversation you say to us of what how did we get here because you're lazy because it wasn't important enough because sitting down and working out what was right for your kids just wasn't important enough which leads me to talk about yourself you know and your connection with the kids I think that if I had more free time here at the house but I have to do the laundry or whatever you've got help we've got help coming out your is I think it's immature lazy to allow your mum to take over and then you're bringing in the nanny in and you're saying right now you do that you'll have to jump in to your kids well question up in an hour look you put it into yourself so you have date night you go out and you recognize the importance to feed that relationship it's the same with the kids safety big issues doors being opened kids just drop things on floors so why is it not necessary for you to follow through with your kids when it comes to them picking up after themselves when actually those pieces could choke me out and kill her no Paul alarm being wrecked it's off right now do you need the broken leg no do you need the drowning no that's just blurbing out hot air insane it's important with your actions more there are no actions so we've got a lot of work to do when Italy the egos and the laziness at the front door it a hundred percent commitment you guys are either in or you're out we're ready I'm excited it's awesome okay thank you thanks coming up on super nanny I don't feel that she takes the basketball as much as a priority as the swimming I was at every game except one mom and dad pushed grandma's buttons I took that as a complete affront and I am putting you on a timeout max won't be disciplined without a fight when super nanny returns I do need a roundtable summit with Gloria Jen and Tony because no one's on the same page so we're gonna hash it out have this conversation and start putting in a game plan you are the parents you have the fortune of having your mother-in-law or mother support you so I think what would be very important that this first stage would be for you both to discuss what you feel needs to be resolved so that Gloria can hear that and support that one thing I see with my mom is I'll either undermine what she says or a vice versa I may have said today you don't have to do whatever and then oh they'll come home and they'll say well you said to me earlier I didn't have to do something but now grandma just out the current told me I did have to that happens a lot it's very frustrating as a parent to you know get undermined you feel helpless they have to be the ones that set the agenda i facilitated friend mo was saying the same thing as nanny Katie there are no rules in the house and they need to come from the parents not the grandma and not the nanny Gloria takes the kids to swimming and she has for a long time a big thing for me and I would like Gloria to respect the other sports that they do just as much as swimming and that's a big thing that has upset me the last month and a half because they have been playing one of them's been playing basketball and I don't feel that she takes the basketball as much as a priority as the swimming I took that as a complete affront I was at every game except one and I was there with all the parents I don't know exactly what you're honing in on here well I mean I I don't want to go over example I don't these parents have grandma come in and take care of the kids and yet they complain but Gloria our focus is on swimming and not enough on basketball like really it's really clear that there's a lot of resentment there's a lot of anger there's a lot of harbored feelings here between the three of you it's really sad actually - really iron out these issues that the adults were having it was important that they come together on the same page with regards to the kids the first thing that we needed to do was to get mum and dad to establish and create some House Rules so then all the adults in the house could stick with them fighting fighting fighting hey how about ask money leave yeah after we'd established the rules I brought in nanny Katie so that mum and dad could start to delegate who was going to take care of what tasks with what child in this circumstance what you will do is divide the labor conquer correct in the household there's chaos going on at all times but this board it's a way of organizing the four of us so that we are all on the same page each circle represents one day of the week and so I've got mom busy filling in the first someone's got feed the baby right right I was gonna do that I was able to delegate the tasks to my mom and a little bit to Katie and I realized immediately this is gonna be a great tool mom successfully distributed the work in the first circle and tomorrow she'll get busy on the second so what can ask you to do is stick that up in what I call TV room so then everyone could have a look at that I think that having the board there and going to it every day and writing down what we expect I think it's gonna be a great thing the next thing to do was really to get this house safe for Mia so I took the family shopping to get some baby proof items however little max wasn't in the mood to go shopping back to you hold on to the Pope he's not holding out of her Matt you need to come and hold on to the cart Thank You max started in with his usual behavior max where are you going yeah really we're gonna hand that over to you mom I'm gonna give you a warning do not take your hand off the cart look at me when I'm talking to you do you understand he wasn't listening wasn't following directions he's gonna get it do I tell him you can have a title what they just warned him max I need to talk to you because you let go of the cart after I told you not to when we get home you're going to have a timeout max stop right now you're not gonna get a gumball today because you didn't listen to max kicked off it was screaming at the top of his lungs mum and dad were beside themselves with embarrassment of how to deal with this situation if we would have given him a gumball then that would let him know it's okay that he can let go of the card enough follow directions come back to the car permit it right now I want you to hold on to that cart and stop messing around right now that's enough jenandtony found what they were looking for but they still need to follow through with discipline when they got home when I arrived back at the house it was time to put max straight on timeout I am putting you on a timeout because you kept letting go of the basket you did not listen to me for a minute no timer step back he saw Jen implement a timeout with Max and he tested her on that as well it got really ugly for a while but having Joe there allowed me to carry through and not give in but eventually through Jen's perseverance he did stay in the timeout and we did get the first discipline ever executed max mommy put you on a timeout because we did not hold onto the cart like I asked you to when judy was doing the timeout with max I thought she did a great job she really stuck to her guns have a hug I felt really good at the end of the timeout because that's probably one of the first times Tony or myself have really stuck with the punishment I love you with max his discipline follow-through we got busy with baby-proof in the house with the items that we brought from the shop you wanna do some of those okay you can do some of these too Shawn and Max helps out by covering up the outlets nice whilst dad put casings around powerstrips iconic beautiful bumpers on the corners of end tables covers over electrical cords and a guards on Mia's bedroom door to keep those little fingers safe I praise it very clear to mom and dad in the family meeting that small items on the floor would seriously be a choking hazard for Mia and now I wanted to make that point very clear to the boys we all know that those little things that go in baby's mouth kancho can be very dangerous and then I had the boys put the small toys in to baby-proof containers I think we feel a lot safer now having me a crawling around on the floor and then it was poor safety I had mom and dad switched the pool alarm back on and then I gave them a nice little visual to remind the boys to keep the sliding doors closed for mere sake this is the difference between me are crawling out there and you guys remembering to close the door the butterflies separate look two halves so when I bring it together okay the kids immediately responded they were excited about it and it's just so easy to see that the wings need to be together you always have to remember close the butterfly there's no doubt that this house will be a much safer environment for me and the boys going forward coming up on super nanny mom has it out with grandma I've been very concerned about safety and the kids so we're not doing a good enough job when super nanny returns if your family needs super nannies help apply online at www.att.com/biz with household safety on the go it's gonna be important to work on relationships and Jen and Gloria have a lot of strain in their relationship and we need to get to the bottom of this let's have a conversation about what creates this friction between the pair of you just let me say whatever I just go for it perf you I feel that I don't live up to your expectations that I don't do a good enough job so I think that's left me in a situation where I felt resentment I've always been in your corner I've always thought of you as absolutely wonderful over the years I've heard my daughters say that I am disappointed in her and I've gone to the point of saying I think you're disappointed in yourself Gloria what do you feel you need to do with regards to assessing yourself I need to maybe take some steps back here I've been very concerned about safety and the kids they need to come more to the forefront with you and Tony they need to be thought of first so we're not doing a good enough job well let's be honest I mean that's why I'm here when there are things that are not being taken care of which are all the things that I've been helping you guys to understand safety discipline for unruly behavior and parents are not taking care of that then you're like well what's going on here what are these parents doing mm-hmm but you are recognizing that you need to back off now in knowing what's been put in place yeah what do you need to do with regards to working on yourself to be more assertive I need to make sure that our rules are set by toning myself and that we uphold them and that you're there to help with them and support them so that when you're here it's enjoyable and fun and there's not so much pressure to be a third parent I do you want a better relationship with you I really do what do you want to do my daughter and I love you dearly and okay you don't like you know the hits make me cry it's been a really long time since I've said to my mom you know I love you and giving her a hug what this conversation did was to open the door and that was a beginning I mentioned to me that she doesn't find parenting fun but she's done nothing to work on our relationships with her kids it would be a real good start for you try to just get involved doing some things with them they enjoy doing so I thought what we do is is start off with Josh maybe we play horse or whatever you're gonna go high on me ray who's yellow and who's green oh I'm yellow how was practice last night so I like this mom gets a chance to really hang out with Josh and do what he loves doing but it also gives them a chance to sturb and everyday conversation is he sort of put by yeah so that she understands more about Josh as he's growing up we talked about how schools going and how I've been doing in my bass Chloe's and then it was Jack's turn he's very creative so I bought some clay out to get his imagination fired up what should we make I think we should have a plan you're the architect I'm just a freak do what do we ever want to do no direction huh no Direction whatsoever the great thing about spending the alone time with the boys is that it's starting to open up the lines of communication between us I liked your cartoon character and you did him in the three different ways normal old and buff - what I realized is that it's been a long time since I played with them and really had the opportunity to talk about things that are important to them there's cool clouds for it to sit on now that I get I hoped he'd spend one-on-one time with my mom more often it's fun Shirley broke a house rule so he was being punished which meant that it became Maxie's turn with mum and I had a little project for the pair of them smacks was going to learn how to ride his bike without his training wheels and mum was going to teach him get your feet up there okay now we're gonna go straight let go the handlebars the holes you go you go you go push I don't pedal okay you know Jen's got him going really fast and she just keeps doing it with him very very quickly he's gonna end up being able to ride this bike by himself Wow it again hey you want to say no here we go are you ready go although I have four boys I don't think I've ever taught one of them by myself anyway to ride their bike and meant the world to me to be able to teach him that skill and I know I'll never forget it and I don't think he'll ever forget it either thumbs beginning to realize but through doing these activities with our boys it's just growing their relationship more and more so that she can continue to bond I know Highline my bank now let us discuss what you guys are all going to do whilst I'm gone the labor of love is going to be very important for the three of you because it's going to keep the relationships healthy Shawn hopefully we'll get to have that time with you yeah I'm nervous for Joe to leave I'm not gonna have her there to ask her questions and I'm gonna have to just figure it out on my own please work hard enjoy and I'll see you in several days okay all right this family really has had to absorb a lot since I've been there but you know I am gonna expect them to step up they want change they can have to work for it coming up on super nanny Joe doesn't like what she sees in a nutshell you don't know what you're doing and later gramma gets her revenge all right Tony you're gonna get it when super nanny returns and now ask super net how do you get a child to behave when shopping in a supermarket or any other store they prepare your child before you enter the store B let them choose a few items when you're in the store C tell them they're allowed to choose anything it will keep them quiet find out the answer when we return and now we pass the supernet how do you get a child to behave when shopping in a supermarket or any other store hey prepare your child before you enter the store B let them choose a few items when you're in the store C tell them they're allowed to choose anything it will keep them quiet the answer is a prepare your child before you enter the store expectations should be clear engage your child in the process by having them look for items on the shopping list as this will keep them busy and get your errands done faster I've been gone for three days and I am curious to see exactly how this family have got on whilst I've been away I don't want to have any mistakes on the DVD session I want to get a hundred percent on an a-plus hello hello I don't really think Joe's gonna have a big problem with anything I did personally now tony is another story it's ready to take a look already already if you want to help get Max and Shawn dressed yeah you're not dressed yet can you get dressed please Katie's coming over tonight because dad and I are going to dinner if you don't listen to Katie or you don't follow our rules you're going to have a timeout you will be missing outside time tomorrow Jackie will lose game time tomorrow hi come over here let me show you this your concern is movie and that consequences you're gonna give them that warning and then if it happens again then it's a consequence okay so good watching that yeah for probably the first time I went over with Katie specifically what my expectations were just your overall confidence in communication was absolutely superb I mean everybody had clarity and everybody knew where they were at right and even the kids and how they responded was absolutely fantastic it was very wonderful to see great watch Kamiya might be mindful of your sister who's right underneath you jump Sean butterflies thank you what we are seeing is a complete turnaround from what we had in the beginning and a safety little sanctuary for me or two no doubt be walking very soon yeah dumb both well you really have good to see Sean you and I are in a watercolor did you know that your grandfather my dad was an artist gamba Jack mmm-hmm he bought our color all the time so you think you're gonna be ready for second grade well I thought first grade was gonna be like a push yeah wasn't that hard this is hard you thought yeah a great day for a bike ride in order for me to let you go you have to give me kiss so lovely to see the kiss is a big thing yeah doesn't give those out very easily well I get from that as well is you enjoying motherhood you enjoying now your parenting that's the biggest deal here because the children feel that and that allows you to have more emotional intimacy with them which is all part of your bonding and your experiences together which was so necessary hmm okay so Tony we're gonna move on to yourself kiddo because I have just one teaspoon yeah let's get up here now quickly sure oh go go like this and you don't taste it okay I'm gonna have to hold you down and force you to take it unless you do it right now I count to three and I'm gonna pin you down and make you taste I'm getting upset now I'm starting to get frustrated with you okay if you don't take your medicine I'm gonna put you on a timeout okay do you understand that's your warning look at me that is your warning look in my eyes one two three in a nutshell you don't know what you're doing and because you didn't know what you were doing you sabotage the situation with Max what you're looking at there was it necessary I thought so at the time take this now I wasn't gonna pin you down and you have no choice and then you'll move it and so I mean yeah like you did nothing to be able to make him feel that taking the medicine would be good for him you took it after I gave him a warning about time he didn't want to sit on the timeout the time that's not to control though the time that is to teach them boundaries is to teach them rules it's not right to use a timeout to control this so what do you do though because I've told them before what taking medicine that you change your own attitude I mean there's a lack of tolerance here big time there's a lack of patience so you have to change your whole demeanor in the way that you behave and then you'll get a better response from the children seeing some great material here from mum however if you're not on board you're sabotage everything ready ready all right let's go thank you coming up on super nanny it's dad's last chance can he make the medicine go down look at that and finally gratitude for Grandma glow we both love you very much and can't thank you enough for all your love and support when super nanny returns I still on the DVD that dad was given max he's medicine in a very forceful way I need to teach dad had set up a better approach max you know you're taking your medicine for your eye right for your allergies right look at dad those are for afterwards that's right I know I know that those aren't disgusting we have to take this you have no conversation be yourself he's not even spoke and you're not I know that you've thinking this and yeah and you know that you have the conversation of yourself have a conversation with Max Maxie because it doesn't taste good I know we have to take it so you'll feel better so you're high we'll stop itching we can take the seltzer water right afterwards look it's right there ready to go and you have a little syringe that you can put it in that you can apply himself yeah we doing one of those why don't you do it yourself do you want to use the spoon do you want to use the squeeze her you want to use the squeezer okay you do it it was just being more empathetic about how he was feeling and how frightened he was all the way down and once we empowered him you saw a different results different kid he got it there all done I just need to exercise my patience with Max especially when it comes to getting him involved and letting him do things on his own really do just what I'm doing himself but get me a choice I think Dad certainly learned more patience I think he's recognizing when and when not to give discipline and I think he's feeling more confident in himself which means he's making progress I think mom's done a really fantastic job building those relationships with her son's through one-on-one time but do have another little idea that I want to show her to bring the whole family together all right let's go follow me we got a surprise place to go to so off we went to the trampoline in center but before we went bouncing and a little gift I wanted to give the family as you can see this is the Swift family fun photo album so with this instant camera we get to take photos and actually put them into your photo album which is rather cool you really enjoy playing dodgeball and just jumping as a family I think the kids love Debbie Jenny and the trampoline I think we've been to that trampoline Center probably 20 times she's never one time gone into trampolines I think I'll always remember that my mom usually doesn't play with us it was very nice spending time with my mom it was amazing everybody was playing the kids were having a great time alright Tony you're gonna get it glow definitely has an arm I mean she is very athletic before we left mom and grandma started putting photos into the album no that's a nice one I feel like the photo album is something we can continue to create as a family what I've learned from Joe is that the activity doesn't matter what's important is that you're together able to play together and really enjoy one another's company I'm becoming more confident and feeling more fulfilled and happy in my day before I arrived mom didn't even enjoy motherhood and did not to connect with her older boys now she does and she's enjoying it and that's really what it's all about glory has done a lot for this family and I don't truly believe it's been appreciated so before I leave I want to change that I know it's that grandma does a lot of things with you guys and sometimes it's really nice to let the person know who does that that we appreciate the things that they do for us I thought it'd be a great idea if the boys drew some pictures and for jenandtony to write a thoughtful letter so I brought four and Mark into her grandma presentation oh my goodness very nice let me see Oh max it was absolutely wonderful each of the little boys with their picture and their with their story behind it okay oh my goodness it was just marvelous thank you very much you're a great guy and then it was time for dad to read the letter from himself and Jane to Gloria hello it is very hard to put into words how much Jenny and I appreciate all you do for our family the kids love you so much and now with all of us on the same page I think we will all start having a lot more fun with the kids and each other we both love you very much and can't thank you enough for all your love and support love Tori and Jenny very nice thank you you're welcome the letter was probably one of the best things that have happened in a long time was very gratifying Oh time for me to leave honey take care of yourself thank you Joe thank you so much I now know what I need to do we have a plan to do it and we have the tools to carry it out I hope that you've realized that you are capable of much more than what you thought you were capable of I agree Joe I cannot thank you enough for coming into our family this has been an invaluable experience that I will never forget thank you Mary Jo bye go thank you really let's go yeah now we have jenandtony in charge and I really do believe that it's brought them together closer as a family and they're actually enjoying their family and that is what's important

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Length: 41min 45sec (2505 seconds)

Published: Thu Dec 14 2017