Killer Conversation Starters So You Can Start A Conversation With Anyone

how can you have dazzling conversations with everyone you meet here are my 33 favorite killer conversation starters [Music] let's start with some killer openers these are great for simply opening a conversation with someone new or someone you haven't seen in a while and they're far more interesting in the standard where are you from or what do you do those are so boring try these instead tell me about you this is a great one because it invites the other person to tell you something that they want to share if they want to tell you about their job they can if they want to tell you about their kids they can and it's a great way to know what's at the top of someone's mind working on anything exciting recently this is my alternative to what do you do asking if someone is working on anything exciting helps the other person talk about something good in their life as opposed to just giving you a boring update what's your story this is an interesting conversation starter because it invites someone to tell you a story about themselves and you never know what exciting thing they might tell you what personal passion project are you working on right now this is one of my favorites you never know what secret side hustle someone has I love asking this one to people I already know in one context like work but would love to know more about them personally how do you know the host this one can be modified to any kind of event if you're at a party hopefully you both have the host in common if you're at a networking event or work party you can modify it - how long have you been a part of this organization what was the highlight of your day today what was the highlight of your week these are both great ones to ask instead of the standard how are you or how's it going it also helps people share a positive story instead of just an autopilot answer of fine good have you been to an event like this before this one can be modified for most types of vents from birthday parties did you come last year to networking events do you come every month what was the High Point and low point of your day so far this one is great if you have a talker if you're speaking with an extrovert asking questions for them to ruminate and expand will tickle their fancy extroverts love this question has this been a busy time for you I don't always like to ask people about being busy but I use this conversation starter if someone seems distracted or not engaged sometimes acknowledging their busyness can hook them in how's that drink appetizer artwork game one of my favorite context cues is asking about whatever someone is holding or doing ask them about their wine ask them if they like the artwork ask them if the food is good these are very easy openers having fun a really easy cold approach opener is to look for someone who is by themselves but looks like they're having an okay time it's easy to sit next to someone at a table or stand next to someone at the bar and simply ask having a good time or enjoying yourself it's a nice opener and better than just how are you okay those are my first killer openers how about getting more personal my next set of conversation starters are to help you continue the conversation what are you doing this weekend ever had that awkward lull in a conversation this conversation starter is always welcome and if it's a monday or tuesday you can modify to ask did you do anything fun this past weekend sometimes I also try what's your favorite thing to do on the weekends what are your favorite restaurants around here I almost always ask for personal recommendations they make great conversation starters why I always get great tips and if someone doesn't have an answer because they're new to a city you can always talk about where they came from when win keeping up with sport TV show news if you're up-to-date on news or sports you could also ask your partner if they keep up as well if so great you have a lot in common if not you can tell them about it can you recommend any unique cocktails appetizers desserts another great way to get recommendations is asking what to order or grab from the buffet if they haven't eaten yet you can go grab some food together all the foods looks so good I'm not sure what to get what are you thinking or what have you tried a variation of asking for recommendation is asking simply for advice on what to order even at networking events you could walk up to the bar to get recommendations what a beautiful cool ugly bizarre venue have you been here before one thing you will always have wherever you are is context whether you're in a house a restaurant or a ballroom there's always something unique to comment on and ask about did you see that viral YouTube video it was all over my social media today if there is a great video or meme you just watched bring it up show them my video if they have seen it you can laugh together if they haven't you can show them when in doubt if you feel a little awkward asking personal questions right out of the gate use your environment and surroundings to create conversation comment on the food and drinks ask about the venue or location you also can ask general interest questions such as their favorite sports team or YouTube video now let's get to the deep conversation starters let's say you've been speaking to someone for a while or it's a friend you have seen many times before and you need more to talk about these are my deep conversation starters in my book captivate I break down every interaction into three phases the first five minutes this is during your first impression when you're getting to know someone the first five hours this is when you start meeting for coffees working together or going on dates and lastly the first five days that's when you truly find friends partners and longtime colleagues these questions will help transition you from the first five hours to the first five days if you had to pick any character in a book movie or TV show who is most similar to you who would you choose why this is a great one if someone has just talked about an actor or book or movie it tells you a lot about a person to hear which character they feel most like when you were growing up what was your dream job is any part of that still true I love asking this one any time someone has just mentioned something about their own childhood or growing up it also helps you to talk about their current job and if it's similar to their original dream what's your biggest fear ooh this one's deep but so good it always sparks great conversation what's your biggest regret talking about regret can really help you get to know someone and there past only ask this if you really want to get to know them who is your role model if you're talking about an inspiring person or boss or author you might be able to ask the person about their role model this is a great way to talk about who inspires you to remember be bold ask the deep stuff if you're not real the majority of our conversations can hover on the surface level topics it's refreshing to talk about more meaningful areas of our lives it's true some of those conversation starters may be a bit forward but if the conversation is progressing well I encourage you to try them you never know what you'll find out event specific conversation starters my last set of conversation starters are all timing specific these are actually really helpful to have in your back pocket whenever there's an upcoming holiday or special event I use these as a base for fun and light-hearted conversations here is a calendar inspired conversation starter list for you remember you can be creative with these as well if there is any holiday or event coming up be sure to ask about it January what's your new year's resolution February do you usually celebrate Valentine's Day do you think it's a real or fake holiday March I went to the coolest Irish bar last st. Patrick's Day doing anything fun this year April how long did you believe in the Easter Bunny July what's the best fireworks display you've seen on the fourth of July October what's the best Halloween costume you ever had or do you like haunted houses or scary movies November what's your favorite Thanksgiving dinner food December how does your family celebrate for the holidays and lastly if you have a birthday or are celebrating someone else's birthday I always ask these two get the conversation going my favorite birthday conversation starters are so the birthday person what was the highlight of your last year or what do you want to achieve for next year to follow celebrators how do you usually celebrate your birthday or what was the best birthday you ever had to everyone what was the best or worst birthday gift you ever received this is a great one to do around a dinner table the answers are always hilarious any and all of these conversations orders will work for you if you are courageous enough to drop the boring ones and get to the good ones most people are so relieved to have you start and continue the conversation for them remember you also want to have your answers to these questions ready to go if someone doesn't know their answer you can jump in with yours to make them feel more comfortable good luck can't wait for you to have your next convo hey I want to tell you one more thing you are amazing the question is do you know how to share it I'd love to help I saved my very best tips for my insider subscribers subscribe for free at science at people.com I know your inbox is sacred so I promise to send you only emails want more conversation tips sign up at science of people.com slash conversationalist to get our free mini course three steps to amazing conversation I want to make you an excellent conversationalist

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Length: 9min 52sec (592 seconds)

Published: Wed Jun 19 2019