Seven Deadly Sins: Jealousy | JD Rodgers

[Music] [Music] ladies and gentlemen welcome to the port if we haven't met my name is JD and we are so glad that you are here like Carson said we have been going through a series called the seven deadly sins and we've been talking about different things that people have just said hey we know that all sins are equal but these things these seven sins if you let them rule your life dictate your life and how you live it can in catastrophic Lee for you we've talked about anger pride greed lust so many different things and we are finishing strong tonight with the deadly sin of jealousy and right off the bat a lot of people in this kind of seven deadly sin talk some say its Envy some call it jealousy I'm gonna kind of just mix the two together I'll be saying jealousy a lot tonight but I just want to define what those things are clearly for us and so envy or jealousy right off the bat is this a feeling of discontentment caused by someone else's possessions qualities or luck that's how people in the world today define jealousy a feeling of discontentment caused by someone else's possessions qualities or luck and basically what that means in in casual language is when someone else has something that we want or we desire we look at how what we have and what they have and there's just like this ank's that we have towards them that builds up and that is jealousy and I was just thinking about this over the 4th of July weekend I was looking at Instagram and I was like there it is if you want to find a jealous JD invited to the lake because that is when all of the insecurities in me come out if anyone has been to a day at the lake we've all been there we've all seen it you get there every dude it seems like just can't wait to take off their shirt I can't wait to like keep mine on everyone is like taking a thousand pictures I'm like why do we have to take I'm always like the one guy with his shirt on like what's up and it's just like the worst thing ever it's just like everyone's hugging and you're like oh this is so weird because we're on our swimsuits and I am just like this like pit of insecurities but I'm also looking around to everyone and I'm examining like what they look like and I'm like secretly like judging people and I'm just like man they just think they just look at them they just work out so much apparently there's one everyone to see and I'm just just infested with jealousy towards people some of them I don't even know but then it just gets worse I know like a lot a lot of us will get out on the boats and I'm the guy that's like sitting over to the side I you know I'm drinking my Waterloo and I am sitting there the music's playing and the guys was like let's get the wakeboard out and I'm like oh God and they get it out i've never wakeboarded before i'm like more of a tubing guy I'm over here like I'll chill to the tubing segment comes along that's when I'll show off my my skills and the guys start wakeboarding even the girls a couple of them get up and then the inevitable happens there's always that guy and he's usually like the sporty guy who's like hey uh JD why don't you give it a try like get out there give it a go and I'm like oh no it's fine like you guys it's let's make this day about y'all and everyone's like JD JD and I'm like oh so I get out there reluctantly you know how it goes like you're supposed to like sit back and like hold the thing and then they're like you're ready and and every single time if you've never wakeboarded it's just like every time and people are like oh it's it's your first time and then the tenth time gets along and you're just getting more like shaky and tire to you your eyes and you've absorbed so much water and your life is just miserable and so eventually you throw in the towel you give up you get back on the boat and there's always that guy for me he was one of my dearest friends his name is Kyle and khylin is the guy he just has the perfect hair he has the the wife he has the looks he has the bod he's just ripped beyond imaginal belief and he is like I guess I'll go now and he like hands over he's the ones been driving the boat you know what they like looking all cool and then chi-ling goes and khylin ha he gets out there and he's like one-handed like all right let's go and khylin just gets up perfectly he's like just like soaring like it's like he's gliding across the water he's like alright spinning sharp and you're like no he's not no he's not all the cameras are out on khylin I'm sitting at the front of the boat just mad shirt back on by the way and he just jumps the wake and everyone's like Kyle and Kyle in and I'm just like tiling and that is what jealousy does someone I love I'm now feeling some type of way towards and he he's just doing his thing like he's wait boarded all of his life and it's just fun to him but for me I was having no fun because that's the power of jealousy jealousy can destroy us from the inside out it can take something that was once beautiful and United and divide it and rip it apart it can take someone that you once loved and it can form hatred and jealousy can rob us of so much life so many relationships so much joy in peace and happiness jealousy will rip us from proverbs 27 4 goes as far to say anger is cruel and wrath is like a flood but jealousy is even more dangerous God's Word says hey jealousy those other guys have nothing on this jealousy is so dangerous and so tonight I'm glad that we get to end just talking about something that God clearly cares about and and I just want to do that by journeying through this story that Jesus tells a crowd in the book of Matthew and so what we're gonna see here is Jesus is just sitting around with this crowd there sitting and he's telling again a parable like I talked about a couple of weeks ago he's just telling this story that's illustrating a deeper meaning and point and in this story what we're gonna see is three things three things about jealousy we're gonna see first how jealousy presents second who jealousy resents and then lastly where jealousy and I know some of you might be here not Doug okay that's a little bit of a stretch you guys have no idea how hard it is to come up with rhymes in like alliterations every single week so actually it wasn't me who thought of that one it was David so if you have any problems in beef like all right email dee Marv at the porch dot live but we're jealousy relent and I was like David what does that mean the best commands like means like ends or stops okay where jealousy ends or stops but to keep keep us you know relevant and remembering where a jealousy relates so turn with me everyone we have a few friends in the house socially distance Matthew chapter 20 if you're watching online grab your Bible we're gonna read a lot of Scripture tonight and open up to Matthew 20 and we'll read verses 1 through 12 together for the kingdom of heaven is like the landowner who went out early one morning morning to hire workers for his vineyard he agreed to pay the normal daily wage and sent them out to work at 9 o'clock in the morning he was passing through the marketplace and he saw some people standing around doing nothing so he hired them telling them he would pay them whatever was right at the end of the day so they went to work in the vineyard at noon and again at 3 o'clock he did the same thing at 5 o'clock that afternoon he was in town again and saw some more people standing around he asked them why haven't you been working today and they replied because no one's hired us the landowner told him then go out and join the others in my vineyard that evening he told the foreman to call the workers in and pay them beginning with the last workers first when those hired at 5 o'clock were paid each received a full day's wage when those hired first came to get their pay they assumed they would receive more I mean makes sense they've been there longer but they too were paid a day's wage when they received their pay they protested to the owner those people worked only for one hour and yet you've paid them just as much as you've paid us who worked all day in the scorching heat totally valid argument these workers have been there all day since the morning just working in the heat they didn't have water fountains back then they're sitting there going hey we're thirsty we're tired we're hot we've been working all day and you've been giving these people who got here at the end of the day just as much money as you've given us and I can even read that in be like the crowd members at the time going hate Jesus that doesn't seem very fair like that seems like really ingests for the landowner to kind of give everyone the equal amount of pay even though some worked harder than others but what's so funny is a lot of times like jealousy it doesn't just form we don't just meet someone and immediately we're like I'm jealous of you like maybe sometimes but a lot of times we need to like pin it on a reason or something that seems like unfair or like something that just seems off and creates something within us that creates us to be jealous of a human for these people it was the fact it was more circumstantial they looked at them like hey it's not fair that the landowner is treating them in blessing them for something that I don't think they deserve look at verse 10 when those hired first came to get their pay they assumed they would receive more but they too were paid a day's wage and then skipping down to verse 12 their response to that was hey those people were it's only 1 hour and yet you paid them just as much as you paid us to work all day in the scorching heat and that's what jealousy causes us to do jealousy caused us to fixate on people and make people the problem and so how jealousy presents itself is through comparison how does jealousy present through comparison these people looked at their work in the time that they put in and they expected more and once they compared their work to the amount of the other people's work it didn't line up for them and it created angst and jealousy towards them and the other workers you see the real issue isn't what we have like it's not about exactly what I have it's not even about a lot of times what others have it's what I have in light of what others have and when I begin to weigh what I have versus what other people have AKA comparison that's when jealousy starts to form in my heart and when we start to compare when we start to look at people and make them a problem immediately there was there's gonna be separation in division and we're gonna start to look at their job and go well I wish I had that job or we're gonna look at how they don't have any debt and how they're debt-free or they got a scholarship in college and it's like well I'm piling up in credit card debt and all different types of debt we're gonna look at Instagram and scroll and see relationships and be like how come they get to be in a relationship how I've waited my whole life for someone I've protected myself or whatever and I still have a relationship we're gonna look at all these different things and start to compare compare me versus them my problems versus their problems my hair versus their hair my pay versus their pay my followers versus their followers my relationships my people versus their relationships and their people and it's just this constant battle that Rob's in steals and Rob's and stills and it all comes through comparison which is what fuels jealousy you have to see that jealousy it's like a blinder it causes you to fixate on things and make you think they're the problem but they're not actually the problem the problem is you're comparing yourself to people that you shouldn't be comparing yourself to it's like this if I just right now let's say we were all here in the house and I I said hey I want to call up someone and there's three jars here each have a prize inside of them all you have to do is open up a jar and you get whatever is inside you are the lucky winner and I just call on you and let's say it's you you come up here and you're thinking about it there's not much strategy to it there's not much that you can do all you have to do is take a pic and be the lucky winner you're gonna win something so let's say you're thinking about it and you're like okay I picked this one and what do you know you win a Benjamin you get $100 on the porch and you're like oh my gosh this is the best day ever I bet the crab would be like nice okay like a hundred bucks and you're Scott you feel like a winner you're like I made the right pick but then let's say I call up someone else and let's say she comes up here and I'm like okay you have two options you now get to pick whatever jar you want and you're walking away you're like man I'm so like I got $100 I made the right pick I am good but then she comes and she's like okay I'll pick the opposite side and she opens it up and she wins two free tickets Hawaii cuz the porch got it like that now and she gets to go on a vacation to Hawaii with someone that she wants to go with and suddenly the crowd erupts and you're like Hawaii and you're thinking why did I pick the left one I just got a hundred bucks and suddenly what was once seeming something that you were grateful for it was a value is now nothing because you're comparing it to what the other person got that moment what was once filled with gratitude and joy is now robbed because of comparison and that's what we do way more than we realize in our everyday lives I thought about this like a lot of times I get jealous of people I don't even know like it's really easy to be sitting at home on a Friday night and I'm like super content I'm like chillin watching something on TV I don't know public Emperor's New Groove and I'm watching it and I see I'm like okay now I'll check Instagram and I'm on Instagram stories and I see what my friends posted a story and I watch it and they're like out eating Mexican food and this new guy i've heard about got invited and had they been eating i probably would've been fine not getting an invite but how come a new guy got the invite and i didn't and I was completely content until I started comparing myself to new guy what new guy but he thinks he's funny I bet he's the one like ruling a table right now like new guy what's up with this new guy and suddenly I just have all of this like built-up tension towards new guy new guy's done nothing he just got an invite to go eat but now the next time I see new guy let's call him Bobby I'm try to call him new guy next time I see Bobby Bobby's like what's up man I've heard a lot about you and I'm like yeah nice I just I'm just like immediately just so jealous of Bobby for something Bobby couldn't control just like the girl right here could it she couldn't control the jar that you picked she just picked a jar as well but so many times that's a comparison does it makes people the problem and it causes you to miss out or what God is trying to show you and so with all of this when you realize that you've been robbed when you realize that you've been just taken the chance of having happiness in relationships impe and you start to wake up kind of this like reality that people aren't the problem and I should stop comparing you have to address a deeper issue which is point to who jealousy resents who jealousy actually resents because jealousy will lead you to think the problem is people but who jealousy actually resents let's see in the story what Jesus has to say verse 13 he answered one of them friend I haven't been unfair so remember they're sitting here like to the landowner like hey why are you giving these people the same exact money is us you know we've done all these different amounts of like we've been more work than them and the crowd that Jesus is telling this to her probably like hey yeah that really does seem unfair they should get more money and this is what Jesus says that the landowner says hey friend I haven't been unfair didn't you agree to work all day for the usual wage take your money and go I wanted to pay this last worker the same as you verse 15 is powerful is it against the law for me to do what I want with my money should you be jealous because I am kind to others Jesus he anticipated the thoughts of the crowd and he leaned into that and said hey you have to remember something what people around you have been given the success they've seen the look that they have the body type they have though the way that they've climbed the corporate ladder the way their family is the way that what they've been born into had nothing to do with them I get to dictate and I am the one who is in control of what my children have of what my people have just the same way that this landowner got to dictate what he did with his money so God gets to dictate what he does with his people and so when you communicate that you have an issue with what someone else has versus what you have and you're comparing yourself all the time what you're actually communicating is that you are resenting God not man who does jealousy resent your Creator you don't have a problem with creation you actually have a problem with your Creator that's what jealousy does think about it so much of our life we look at other people's circumstances I know for me I look at people who have the perfect family who eat dinner together like every Sunday night and are gathering around telling stories and laughing and have inside jokes and maybe like make family tic TOCs I don't know and I'm like God why would you not give me that why would you not want that for me you're the one that's in control and I had to remember Wow like God gets to do what what he wants when he wants and it's when I think that I have a say is when I get in trouble but I'm not content with what God's given me I'm not interested in stewarding what God's given me therefore I resent him I say and I think we say things like God you didn't give me looks like you gave that person looks girls he might say God you didn't make my waist to a size to God you didn't bless me with that family or with that financial situation or with that spouse or with those gifts with that job God why did my parents be the parents that divorce well I couldn't not have parents like theirs I know for me a couple weekends ago I spent the weekend with all my college roommates they all have kids now some of them their second kid they're all married and they're just they're sitting there with their spouses and I'm the only single guy I've talked about that before I think it's clearly an issue and I'm just like God what's the deal man like why can't I be like them and I don't resent them they're just they've met the one they're doing their thing they're living their life who I'm actually resenting is my creator and I think a lot of us are there we are upset with God we would rather resent him and push him away and think he's out to get us or he's withholding from us that he wants to bless other people in favor other people and not make us as gifted or as successful we think that God is out to get us somehow it's like we've forgotten all that he's done like earlier think about this what if I called up a third person and what if they opened up the last jar and they got starburst starburst and you know not even starburst the orange and yellow starburst okay the worst of the worst the lowest of these you could say once they opened up their orange and yellow starburst suddenly I'm like alright well at least I didn't get the yellow and orange starburst my hundreds starting to look a little bit better now me cocinar me tonight and that is crazy because we at one time were resentful because we didn't get the trip to Hawaii but when we saw that we didn't get the starburst we no longer resent but we're grateful for the hundred dollars I think a lot of us sit there with our lives it's easy to sit in your single apartment alone and look at the married couple with their first house in first car and Labradoodle and resent them and resent how God is moving and blessing their life but then when you sit and think what he's brought you out of and the job he's given you or how you're not homeless or left alone and the people that love you resentment starts to turn into gratitude and your perspective of what God is and who he is starts to change we have to stop resenting our Creator and trust that he is in control and knows what to do with his creation for those of you that are coming in here and you're recognizing wow I I thought I had a problem with people I thought I was jealous of that guy or that girl I thought I wanted that job I thought I needed that much money and I thought god I thought he just didn't hear me or care I'm leaning in and I want you to hear me say that that just isn't true that that God loves you more than anything he loves you and he cares about you and I had to remind myself of this often because I know that in my small limited mind I can forget to zoom out and see the bigger picture and just focus on right what's right in front of me or the people right in front of me or the circumstances right in front of me and forget that God isn't taking something from me he's not withholding something from me he's not playing like puppet master up there and just like doing all this crazy things to hurt me and to harm me no he is a father who's willing to give everything for me who has given everything to me I had to think about the fact that God has taken me out of so much broken sexual sin an addiction he's taking me out of the depression I felt after my dad passed away he sickened me out of the misery I felt from heartache and so many different things and when I see it and I open up my perspective I become grateful for what God has taken me out of I no longer resent him I rest in him I trust him and that's what I'm calling you to do stop resenting God stop thinking that God is out to get you he loves you he wants to give you everything but jealousy will do everything to not allow you to believe that here's what jealousy will do it wants you to think that God robs you of all the things you want rather than gives you than all the things that you need jealousy wants you to believe that God robs you of all the things that you want rather than gives you all the things that you truly need he knows you more than you know that yourself and you might look out and see people and think I want that I want that I need that to survive I need that to be happy I needed to be joyful and I trust you you need to trust God that's what we need to rest in God and when we do that the third point will start to happen where jealousy relents where jealousy ends and stops is when comparison turns a celebration that is where jealousy ends is with cell liberation just take a moment to sit and think about all that God's done in your life let's celebration turn into gratitude and an awakening in a realization of oh my gosh God is at work he is doing something in my life 1st Thessalonians 5:18 says be thankful in all circumstances for this is God's will for you who belongs to Christ Jesus think about the last time that God clearly were to mood in your life think about how grateful you were thank you God he were telling everyone man god he gave me the job or God he really pulled through he heard my cry I'm so grateful I'm so thankful thank you God thank you God in the more and more time from that moment that life goes on and life goes on you start to forget and time separates and no longer are you celebrating what God has done you get back to comparing you get back in your tunnel-vision you start to think oh things are out of my control God where you at God where you at and you're not remembering what he did for you therefore your life is not informed by celebration or gratitude it now goes back into the cycle of jealousy and anger and bitterness and resentment in comparison and now you're all out of whack again and so you have to fight these things by celebrating by being grateful there are so many times in my life when I choose to be discontent over grateful there's so many times where I let jealousy creep in and distract from what God's doing there's so many times where he's blessing with the hundred dollar bill and I'm going but I wanted the trip to Hawaii and I forget but hey you have taken me out of so much and so my encouragement to you would be don't run away don't shy away don't let jealousy cause division between you and people or you and God but rather turn jealousy turn comparison turn resentment into celebration and gratitude I cannot stress this enough it is a powerful weapon the enemy of jealousy is out to rob you but it will convince you that God's the thief it'll convince you that God is taking God is withholding so how do you fight that you remember what he's done and you celebrate it but when jealousy does lead you to compare and make people the issue or resent God when it gets hard to to celebrate I think what I was thinking about was like what does this look like for me practically in my life like how do I do this how am i practicing this and this is always a can encouraging thing for me to rework this like value of celebration and I had to sit and think behind every person that I compare myself to is a story a story of brokenness and mistakes just like me a person who needs Jesus just like me the person who needs the gospel just like me and I should go celebrate that I should go lean in and hear their story and equalize them in my mind and watch how God has formed them and when I started to see people made in the image of God and when I start to see myself made in the image of God it starts to be way easier to celebrate and I start to do things like texting and calling people just to tell them what I see in them and how proud I am of them I start to just I recently in quarantined I start sending selfie videos to people just to just pump them up and tell them the work I see God doing in their life I make a list of my closest friends birthdays to make sure I don't miss it and telling them what they mean to me what their life means to me and I and more than anything I sit and I think about all that God's done in my life and I celebrate him for who he is and it changes me it rids me of comparison and it brings me the joy and peace in him that I'm looking for and how do I stay grateful I've recently just charged my stuff to to keep a running list of all the things I'm grateful for I spent time just today writing down more things God thank you for my family I had to see over the 4th of July weekend thank you that you've wrought my my mom a spouse that loves her and I got to meet my new step siblings thank you God that you've provided me community in my first year here in Dallas I know a lot of people still feel alone and I don't deserve such amazing people in my life thank you for my job in my health it start off your prayers with just thankfulness rather than asking and it will change your perspective on who God is and you'll see jealousy start to lose its grip in your life I know for me like the longest stint or I saw jealousy really owned me was in my high school years where I became extremely jealous of my little brother I my little brother he's 17 months younger than me he's like way taller than me way more fit and I thought it than me in all of high school I just jealous he turned to hatred in my heart towards him the Bible talks about how you how you how can you say you love God and have hatred towards your brother and I didn't and I chose to resent him and bully him and be mean to him in my life our relationship with him that was supposed to be leadership in love and stewarding him as my little brother God entrusted me with a little brother I missed it because I let jealousy divide and create hostility and I missed so many opportunities and thank God he's now moved to Dallas and we're trying to get weekly lunches where I can sit in and mend all the years of hurts and brokenness that I caused and if you hear anything don't make the mistake I did don't let jealousy dictate your relationships don't let jealousy rob you of one more thing because I live with God does not look like robbing it does not look like taking it looks like giving love grace freedom forgiveness what we actually need but the reality was as I was not pleased with my reality growing up before Christ I couldn't see what all he was doing in my life and well all he was orchestrating in my life all I knew is I did not like my reality versus my brother's reality and so therefore instead of loving him I hated him and because of that I hated God because I'm like God why did you not make me more like him God why am I the band NERD why am I the guy that no one takes serious why can't I be more masculine and what society says makes a man God why did you make me the way that you did and I resented God therefore I didn't does I didn't have a relationship with him I didn't understand what he was about and I missed so many years that could have been so fruitful to jealousy and I missed the biggest reality the most Road changing reality for every single one of us is that there is a form of jealousy that is righteous there is a form of jealousy that is okay and it is possessed by God God holds this form of jealousy the Bible says in exodus 34:14 this verse just shook up my world this week it says God was talking to his people known as the Israelites in the Old Testament he says you must worship no other gods for the Lord whose very name is jealous is a God who is jealous about his relationship with you and as I looked into that eye I could not believe wait you mean to tell me that the God who created the universe the God who spoke and it was so the God who sees me choose jealousy in comparison and resentment and resistance in anger and bitterness and frustration and doesn't trust him it doesn't come to him he saw that I was gonna do that and he still is jealous of me and for you you might be some other thing there's no way that God would want me that bad I know that he loves me but I don't think he likes me enough to be jealous of me to really want my time I think he's okay if I kind of half-heartedly give myself to him if I read my Bible here and there if I pray every now and then I just don't think he's that concerned he kind of has the world to take care of you know like there's a lot going on right now in 2020 if you haven't noticed he's not worried about me and I'm telling you that this says that God is jealous of you he's jealous he's so jealous of us he wants our attention and our affections and our trust and our love so bad that he would be willing to send his son but it's cuz because he saw that we would get distracted he saw that we would choose the world but he said I want them so bad I'm gonna send my only son to die for them that way I can be in relationship with them I know they won't choose me all the time I know they'll get distracted by other people in comparison I know they're gonna resent me I want them he wants you and that truth it changed me at the age of 19 when I woke up and realized that God loved me so much that he sent his son to die for me that there was a creator that wanted me that bad I couldn't resist it and so what I want to beg of you tonight if there's something that you think that God is doing that isn't fair if he's giving of himself to the workers who haven't worked as hard as you or the people who haven't been through what you've been through and it seems like they're getting the acknowledgment in the credit and the love and the blessings in the favor that you think you deserve I'm here to tell you that that is a lie from the enemy God loves you more than anything and so stop running stop presenting stop comparing you are being robbed and start trusting and start coming to that love let's pray father it really is mind-blowing that you would see our sin that you would see our mistakes that you would see our brokenness and choices that we would choose other people and yet you still sent your son to die for us and I don't know what my friends tonight are are they're they're battling jealousy if they're looking at other people's circumstances they're looking at other people and they'd forgotten that they are created in the image of God I don't know what people are dealing with tonight but what I do know is that no matter what it is you love them you love them so much that you are jealous for them you are a jealous God for his children and so I pray tonight if there's anyone that does not believe they are worthy of your jealousy if there's anyone tonight that does not believe that they deserve that kind of love and Trust in pursuit that they would just stop believing the lie that they they they have to do more or they've made too many mistakes and they would just open up their hands tonight and accept your love for it's in that love it's in your provision it's in your goodness that we trust may that be true of us tonight thank you for warning us

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Published: Thu Jul 09 2020