SEDUCE WITH YOUR VOICE: A Lesson in Resonance & Cadence | Public Speaking | The Means of Seduction

now in the next few minutes we're going to show you the main faults of most speakers we'll show you some things to do and some things not to do [Music] hello and welcome to the means of seduction are the eyes really the gateway to the soul or are they one of many passageways the eyes dare to reveal at least part of the soul it seems that when this feature is concealed or unavailable the pursuit to catch a glimpse is even more appealing nevertheless the eyes might be just one part of a soul's intricate burlesque routine the eyes may not always be available for seductive endeavors so is the depth of our soul's greatest desires expressed in the eyes or are they actually revealed as longfellow believed he wrote that our eyes and foreheads wrinkled by deep contemplation are the signs of our intellect while our voices are the organ of the soul if our voices alone yearn for what our words merely describe and perhaps we should pay more attention to the voices we use and how those voices can get us what we really want getting back to what we were talking about so what is a seductive voice is a seductive voice the purr of an experienced woman or the barks of a man in power well a seductive voice is often quite simply a voice that is pleasant to listen to having a seductive voice is a powerful tool for persuasion that can accompany and amplify the goals of our seductive language to persuade seducers come to learn and control two unique properties of speech their resonance and their cadence this video will focus on how seducers use their voices and less on the specific language they use when doing so let's begin with resonance what is resonance and why is it a necessary quality for seductive speakers resonance refers to the richness and depth of a vocalization resonance suggests where the voice comes from in the body and how far it is aiming to go seducers have intentions behind their words and the execution of effective speaking relies on the ability for those words to be heard understood felt and internalized by the listener seducers want their words to echo and occupy part of their target's minds for long after their conversation has ended seducers achieve this by speaking with resonance resonance does not indicate the specific loudness or quietness of one's voice although it can make controlling volume easier on a speaker resonance instead refers to the richness and depth of one's vocalizations a resonant voice has richness to it that is an abundance of speaking capacity and seemingly endless power this is due to taking infrequent but sufficient breaths that touch the bottom of the lungs and slightly expand the abdomen upon inhalation this allows for projection beyond the speaker's immediate space creating a sense of depth breath should be drawn slowly and released with gentle restraint these breaths satiate the speaker for longer allowing for extended speech with greater ease resonant speakers produce their sound from engaging the diaphragm and opening the mouth and oral cavity wide speaking with the nasal cavity narrows speech and limits its travel the best speakers always ensure their speech comes from an opened mouth and a relaxed mobile jaw that is consistently supported by slow sustainable breaths it is vital to seducers that they be both heard and understood you always manage to make yourself understood when they speak their words must not only reach the target but emotionally impact the target a resonant voice emanates from within and outstretches far beyond the self enveloping the listener in warmth comfort and familiarity [Music] seducers want their language to feel good not just sound good each word spoken with resonance appears to be directed specifically towards the target in question and no one else thus the seducer creates fondness their voice sounds good feels good and their words are left to spur emotion seducers speak their intentions and orders with richness and depth often pausing to allow for the echo of their most important points the words they speak extend beyond the self from within the soul embrace the listener and then in silence they may echo to seduce you must leave your listener mulling over your words instead of senselessly rambling and trampling over your best possible outcome let your intentions hang by pausing after the words that matter most grant yourself a beat of silence confidence silence let your intentions reach the target enter the mind and reverberate before you present another subject let your target become enraptured by whatever you've planted before you continue then so the entire purpose of speaking this way is to have your intentions be heard understood felt and internalized the target must begin to hear your voice in their head more often than they hear their own and long after you've departed now we need to discuss cadence what is cadence cadence refers to the rhythm and pacing of one's speech seducers tactfully create their own and listen carefully for those around them when people are speaking whether truthfully or otherwise their voices carry out patterns to speak effectively our voices should provide a series of flawless rhythms that move our stories from detail to detail that move our presentations from point to point and that move our ideas from abstraction to manifestation the rhythms of our voices can either advance our words and thus advance our causes or distract from our words entirely the former is a means of seduction the latter is a means of mediocrity and misrepresentation to musicians a metronome is a device that provides a fixed beat over which their melodies are played it steadies new musicians so they stay within the music's preferred time signature and maintain a consistent tempo metronomes help musicians learn and improve their timing in each of us there is an internal metronome that can serve as a device of emotional regulation over which the patterns of our speech and range of our vocal inflection may be delivered what separates the target from the seducer is the regulation and presentation of emotions average speakers are often overtaken by their emotions and it is audible in their words they speak with their emotions in obvious accordance with them seducers speak of their emotions they don't speak emotionally but with the logical rational and collected wisdom that comes from raining those emotions in i guess i don't know much about it average speakers will speak with their emotions for example most people speak quickly when they are telling a personal story especially one that has recently happened because the stakes are higher for them given that it's the speaker's own story and the emotions are fresher these people speak as if they are still just as excited or enraged over their own story as they were when it happened so the emotions they're feeling influence their speed and the quality of their speaking even when it may come at the cost of being heard and understood here's the problem with unregulated emotions in speech speaking quickly gives away someone's potential nervousness insecurity and social discomfort which a seducer knows they can alleviate with words of reassurance and patience speaking slowly gives away someone's lack of wit slowed mental agility inability to hold fluid conversation and it hints that they are possibly attempting to lie or hide something people with a lack of control over their own cadences are putting out the message that their moods like their voices are subject to change by external stimuli and do not follow a structural composition that exists within by not letting emotions sway their speech seducers allow for one important feature of speech to become commonplace something that most people actually fear and condemn as awkward and that is silence a seducer's natural cadence is one of rhythmic speech and rhythmic silence when they choose to start a sentence when they choose to pause when they enter a conversation and when they hold back are all entirely decided and calculated choices made by a seducer seducers are masterful speakers understanding that the manner in which they speak is equally as important as the words they choose seducers speak to be more than just heard they speak to creep into their target's minds and occupy a generous space there they know when to start and when to stop they know when to initiate and when to observe seducers show no fear or unease and they befriend silence because seducers know that silence gives way to the echo that resonance thrives in to persuade manipulate captivate and influence a seducer must be smooth and unwavering if you feel uncertain of your ability to seduce using your voice give yourself a fair chance to observe learn and practice but be careful in the meantime because if you aren't the one seducing then you might just be the target of someone who is au revoir

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Length: 10min 37sec (637 seconds)

Published: Fri May 07 2021