Saying Goodbye, Starting Over, and Transitioning

okay oh this is just like the topic maybe kind of a little bit clex okay here we go Center uh go hi my name is brother Mike Schmitz and this is essential presents so uh we are in the time of year at least I'm recording this in the time of year where it's kind of the middle to end of summer I mean depending on when you actually measure summer I guess um but the middle of July in our diocese is where priests make their transitions from whatever Parish if they have a new assignment they go from the old Parish to The New Parish also I have so many students who are on this time of the graduated and now they're looking for jobs or um you know they had a job and a lot of times summer is a time of transition and one of the things about those transitions right from maybe a brother priest of mine going from one Parish to another uh someone going from being student to now being the master no the student to being you know an employee or somewhere or from one job to another job there is this thing called transition right and uh there's they're saying I remember one of our one of our missionaries once phrased it like this that she said that um change happens to us transition transition is something we cooperate with something like that I'm probably butchering what you meant to say but change is something that is unavoidable right change is something that occurs to us even if we don't want it to happen the ability to make a transition right to actually engage with that change to make the transition from one place or one thing from being in one state to another involves our cooperation involves requires our participate participation if that makes any sense so when people go from priests well from one Parish to another when people go from being students to being employees if they go from one job to another job or any kind of situation in life any state in life that involves this change the question is am I going to transition and one of the elements of transitioning well is saying goodbye well and so that's I think that I probably talk about here quite a bit when it comes to our students is okay just take the opportunity use the chance take the time all those things to say goodbye well which is something I I sometimes struggle with it's not necessarily because um like I don't like goodbyes or because I'm uncomfortable or I'm too sad usually it's because I don't have the words I don't have the words I can honor this person I don't have the words that can honor that relationship you know and so I just like feel inadequate but saying goodbye well is super important ending well is very important but ending is only part of transition there's also that middle piece which is also very important to talk about what I want to talk about is the beginning right because maybe you've gone through this maybe you had that like yep I said goodbye I did all those things wrap that up you know moved out of town or or went to a new place or how here I am moved into my new cubicle or whatever the thing is maybe you got married maybe maybe you got ordained and like that sense of okay left that vocation say goodbye to that state of life and now I'm I maybe even made it past the middle part the the coupling right between the ending and the beginning and now you're beginning and it stinks I'll talk about that sometimes people say that goodbyes at stink Michael Scott's one of them some people say that endings are the worst they can be difficult obviously I would maintain that Beginnings are often harder the beginnings are often more difficult than the endings endings I mean yes absolutely there can be grief that comes along with this there can be there can be a real sense of loss that comes along with endings but oftentimes there's also a sense of relief right you know often there's sometimes sense of like hey I accomplished that thing so I got done with school graduated I got there with basic training done I I I'm now not single anymore I'm now married whatever that's great that's like there's a there's a sense of yeah I'm Letting Go there's a sense of loss but there's also this sense of relief that's that right that it's in there that's mission accomplished also the excitement of looking forward to the next step the excitement of looking forward to the beginning but the beginning itself can often be so challenging that it's even more difficult than the ending what do I mean well think about any time you've had to start some new phase in your life everything is unknown right I I don't have my bearings um I don't know who people are who do I need to know in just a sense of like to get by In This Job the skills that are required of you oftentimes or regard of us oftentimes we haven't developed them yet I mean we maybe had training when it comes to the college students or high school students who now are in the workforce people get training in that training might have prepared me but they prepared me for what they prepare me to begin life in this career or in this occupation but they didn't necessarily it wasn't like I could jump right in and say oh I know exactly what I'm doing right so we have all these things in the beginnings it's all new the people are new the environment is new the pace of life is new the skills that are required are new and again as I said I don't have my bearings yet and yet I have to show up and yet I have to show up and say okay this is life now and it can be so daunting in so many ways what's one way well not only all the things I just mentioned that everything's new and you don't it's unknown but also um it's often difficult to be a beginner it's often difficult to go from one place where like actually I knew what I was doing to I don't really truly know what I'm doing I'll go to whatever place from a place where I know all the people to I I don't know anyone here to go from a place of at least I know my schedule to I'm just learning my schedule there's a challenge there where everything's new it's kind of like this think back to where you're first time driving first time driving you're in a vehicle and it's just like all the stimulus like right all the information is coming in you don't know how to filter it like okay the sounds the sites like does that is that important and we're looking over there should look back I can't see the rear view mirrors like all those things all the stimulus because you don't know where to look you don't know where to listen for because you don't know how to filter yet you don't know what's important what's not important imagine that but just all day every day for weeks maybe months as opposed to now when you're driving and you're able to say okay I know where I need to look I'm going to be aware right be safe drivers cautious drivers but you know what matters and what doesn't matter in order to be a good driver we've learned that and then you can just relax like I can enjoy driving now same kind of thing when it comes to whatever that new phase that new stage the beginnings are so difficult so tough that sometimes people say did I make the wrong choice so difficult that people sometimes say maybe I maybe I I did the wrong thing maybe I'm in the wrong occupation maybe I took the wrong next step now here's the thing maybe you did because that's possible right that's that's really possible and you might even find yourself in a place that's not just difficult not just challenging but actually this is toxic and destructive that's such a thing right you might be in a new environment that is not just um purifying you but a new environment that actually is poisoning you that's important to make that distinction sometimes we can tell right away and sometimes we can't tell but we need to just be aware is this purifying me or is this poisoning me is is this simply difficult or is this destructive that question needs to be asked and ought to be answered but barring that barring a toxic or destructive environment or people around you it could simply be this is a purifying moment this is a difficult challenge and in that case here's my invitation be patient be patient um you you may have never been here before you might have been in a situation like this before where everything was new you were just a beginner and things were expected of you that you didn't know how to deliver be patient with yourself what I mean by be patient with yourself is don't freak out a b don't run away and C let yourself be a beginner like what I mean by that is sometimes you get hired sometimes you're in a new place and people are looking to you to have answers but all you have is hard questions you have permission at least I'm giving you permission your permission to be a beginner because beginners ask questions beginners don't know automatically beginners make mistakes beginners get to look to other people for help experts they have to know all the answers experts can't make mistakes experts you know only need themselves right we say that it's not true let yourself be a beginner which is not only be patient because not only don't freak out but is ask for help let people know that no I'm just learning let people know that when the people the right people right how do you know who they are another question another chapter in this book I guess but let yourself have permission to be a beginner people who are patient with beginners I mean think about this if you were the new person sorry you are the new person if there was someone you cared about who was the new person and they asked you a question you'd say of course I'd be happy to help you why because you're the new person you're just you're just getting used to this well it's been a month already listen a big life change takes more than just a month to feel at home to feel like okay I've taken the right Next Step so to all my friends out there who are beginning and you experience this beginning as a challenge this beginning as as a real difficulty take heart you're not alone but be patient with yourself and let yourself have permission to be a beginner to ask questions to make mistakes to need help and no I know this the last place you left that was a sad goodbye maybe because why because it was home because it was familiar because it was something that like I was passionate about you started off as a beginner there too you've done this before you know what it's like be patient don't freak out but just know that the Lord is using this right now he's using this right now not in a year from now not in two years from now he's using this right now to purify your heart to invite you to lean in more deeply and more closely to his heart and to invite him into the beginning anyway um that's what I got to say from all of us here at essential presents my name is father Mike God bless

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Length: 10min 50sec (650 seconds)

Published: Wed Aug 03 2022