Sadhguru | Look For This One Thing In Your Life Partner | The Great Sadhguru

[Music] it once happened shankaran pillai was at the family dinner and when everybody settled down for dinner he stood up at the table and announced i am going to marry lucy who's just across the street i hope that's not the name [Music] then the father said what you going to marry lucy she has nothing she's like a you're going to marry that lucy mother said what you're going to marry that lucy the uncle uncle's always pitching in this kind of matters uncle said what you're going to marry that lucy have you seen her hair it looks fake [Music] the aunt what you going to marry lucy she's she's always painted you're going to marry the painted woman the little boy the nephew can't be left out he said you want to marry lucy she's under doesn't even know what is cricket how can you marry her [Music] shankaran stood his ground and said yes i'm going to marry lucy everybody asked in one voice why he said because she has no family [Music] there are no many opinions to battle with so who is the right person i don't want to take away all the romance from your life but let me tell you this there is no right person on this planet if you put your heart into something something may become wonderful is it the right thing there's no right thing nobody ever found the right person anywhere okay if you get into that kind of unrealistic mindset i have found the right person oh you will be soon disappointed you must understand there is no right person first thing is to see whether i am the right person yes am i the right person and there are no right people on this planet if you you have your nonsense they have that nonsense we can adjust nonsense nonsense one we must understand relationships are formed for various needs there are physical needs there are psychological needs there are emotional needs there may be social needs there may be financial needs various kinds of needs so when you're going to somebody with so many needs you're going as a beggar and a beggar cannot choose bigger eat what comes its way isn't it he cannot choose so if you really want to make a choice in this world first and foremost thing is you bring yourself to your place where your experience of life is just pleasant by yourself you're wonderful now let us see what gets drawn to this one if you're really wonderful things will happen in every way i'm saying in terms of career in terms of marriage in terms of relationships the best will happen to you because you made yourself like this instead of trying to work on somebody and fix them if you work upon yourself and make you so wonderful that everybody wants to be with you then there is a choice and this whole thing is an american thing that there is a soulmate somewhere god made just one more person just for you but these days every two years he keeps making one more person [Applause] obviously god is making too many mistakes with you see body needs a mate understandable maybe psychologically also you need a mate understandable emotionally you need a mate a soul cannot need a mate so soul doesn't need a myth nor was some person made perfectly for you okay this creation makes all kinds of unique idiots if you understand you are one kind of idiot and the others have different kind you will be you will understand their nonsense because you know you got your stuff if you think you're perfect and god has chosen you and he's made another person perfect somewhere else you're heading for a disaster okay there's no such thing even you know people today after five thousand years people are still auditing and worshiping krishna as the greatest lover but his wives are dead unhappy with the guy yes so you're not going to find any perfect person if you invest a deep sense of involvement something wonderful may happen it's because of your involvement not because the other person is fantastic no even if you choose a fool actually it's easy that way if they're not stupid why would they come to you first of all no no i'm just being nasty so even if you choose a fool it doesn't matter if you involve yourself it can turn out very beautiful you chose the smartest person in the universe it could be a disaster so do not think in terms of you know whatever it is made for each other nonsense no you choose the opposite actually but after some time after a little bit of time you slowly start expecting they're just like you this is a serious mistake because if one more person becomes just like you you won't be able to bear with them for two days hello please tell me there's one more person just like you at home could you live there you're glad they are different it's wonderful nobody is like you isn't it nobody is like you on this planet try and see nobody is like you and that's good don't look for sameness not necessary it's a difference which makes the because the difference you tangle not otherwise here are some tips to help you pick a good partner people will tell you exactly who they are it is up to you to listen if someone says they are usually in a bad mood or don't know how to be monogamous or what they are saying and don't assume you can change them take a test drive go for an eight hour drive with your intended whatever difficulties you may have will make themselves painfully obvious this taste is not for the faint of heart look for someone who is kind and loving if you are really lucky your partner will also have a family that taught him or her how to be that way having in-laws who treat you like a member of the family will make your life much nicer make sure the person you are seeing doesn't smoke even if you do if he or she is a non-smoker it may get you to stop think of it this way you are choosing happiness or death find someone you can talk to as time passes this quality is more important than looks money or position if you can't talk to your partner or cry on his or her shoulder it is not going to be a good man spiritual and political differences can also be difficult to deal with as we age our feelings in this area tend to intensity make sure that you have enough differences that if you are unable to go out you can still entertain each other if someone is just like you it might get a little boring as time goes by you

Channel: The Great Sadhguru

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Length: 9min 29sec (569 seconds)

Published: Tue Dec 22 2020