Rock Church - The Third Option - Part 1, The Third Option

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In this difficult place it's hard to ask what kind of nation we are and what direction we want to move in. What we need in the United States, is not division. What we need in the United States is not hatred. What we need in the United States is not violence. And lawlessness. But it is love and wisdom and compassion toward one another. But more importantly to say a prayer for our own country, which all of us love. You can be filled with bitterness. And with hatred. And greater polarization. Or we can make an effort as Martin Luther King did to understand, compassion and love. [Applause] Come on church. [Applause] Come on church. Let's stand and give the Lord a hand, in all campuses. Come on, let's give the Lord a hand. [Applause] Say Jesus! [Applause] Every time I hear that and other speeches like that, I get choked up. Years ago we were at a Thanksgiving dinner with my family. And my mother and father were still there alive and with us. And we were standing in a circle. My two brothers and two sisters and my mother started crying, and after praying this is all I wanted, that we be together. And when God looks at the church and the world and all the people that He made in his image, I want them to get along and love each other. And from this day forward and all the sermons from this series, I want you to know that is the heart of everything communicated. God will unite us and loves every single one of us. And I believe, this is my opinion, that the devil is over playing his hand. But it's going to require, all you have to do is take care of you. You don't need to take care of them. You don't need to take care of them. You need to take care of you. My prayer is that you receive everything that is spoken to heart from God. I'm going on say it from God. I want to ask all of you -- I want to thank you, I posted a video on Instagram, if you don't follow me, follow me. I am going to New York City and will have nine interviews, and the post and other outlets to talk about this, amen. [Applause] And I pray for wisdom in those interviews I say what God wants me to say. And -- but I want you to pray for our country. I didn't write this book just to write a book. I wanted to do something different and something big and be a catalyst to nurture unity in our country. And it's going to start right here, amen, right here. [Applause] So I want to say hello to all the people watching online and all the campuses. God bless y'all, God is going to do something special in our lives. Lord Jesus, thank you for your faithfulness. Lord speak to us. Speak to us. We need you. In Jesus' name amen. Find somebody who doesn't look like you and give them a hug. Amen, amen. Hope to see all of y'all Saturday at the simulcast. And pray for all the churches, 200 around the country that will be at that. We will have a great time. See Bibles on the count of three. One, two, three, say word. One more time, say word. Turn to Joshua 5. Joshua chapter 5. It is the fifth book of the Bible. All the way from the beginning. If you are in the New Testament, you are lost. All the way to the beginning. There is an ancient Japanese art form called Kintsugi that believes when you have broken pottery that when it is repaired, then they use gold often to repair the cracks and put it back together. They believe that the repaired pottery is more valuable than the original. The devil has done a great job. He is very smart. He's done a great job through racism to divide us and break us apart. And lead us to believe that some people are inferior and should be hated. And those people I need to stay away from them. He's done a great job of tearing us apart. However we serve a God that puts things together. And Jesus' prayer that we would be one and what he wants us to do. Over the next five weeks I will talk about how we got broken apart, and how brought back together. My prayer is that you let the Holy Spirit just work on you. Everyone say, I got to work on me. Very good. We will start from the beginning, and talk about what racism is and the three kinds of racism. And then I will tell you something that hopefully will set you free really quick. I want to teach you today. Everyone say teach me. Say, Holy Spirit, you are our teacher. Help me understand the information let's talk about three kinds of racism. And when you discriminate because their ethnicity. There is only one race, human race. We say that but just know there is only one race. There are ethnicities. Right, we have institutional racism. These are systems that are designed to keep people apart. And my sister was going on buy a house in Maryland and the real estate agent said we have to find an appropriate neighborhood for your family. And told her because you are black, and my sister being the hard-headed, I don't know care and I want to move where I want to move. And they moved in an inappropriate neighborhood and the cops came to move the furniture in and the party of the street. Everything worked out. That's institutional racism. Internalized racism is when people are discriminated and turn inwards and they want to assimilate and deny who they are. And they turn on their own. And personally mediated racism is when you direct something at somebody else. I don't like you. I don't trust you, you are scary to me. Whatever. These the three kinds of racism and I want to point out one thing. And probably the biggest AH-for me writing this book, you can offend people. And by the way on a regular basis and not be a racist. Why? Because sometimes you don't know that you are doing it. And sometimes received and offensive because of the receiver of what you say. Sometimes people get nervous and say certain things. The reason this is important to understand. By the way, there are racists don't get me wrong. But most people say I am not but we have a big divide. Because we don't understand how we interact with each other and received by people. The reason this is so important, because I have talked to people all my life, trust me. About this issue. And when people don't believe they can be offensive and not be a racist. They automatically attach any offense that they are accused of to actually being a racist. And so therefore because they will never accept they are a racist they never accept they can do anything wrong, they never learn. Say amen if that makes sense to you. You have to say yes, I am offensive but that's not in my heart. Great, let's learn. And I learned writing this book. I want you to approach all of this information. Not from the point if I admit to something wrong, I am admitting to be a racist. No, you are not necessarily, you are admitting to learning. This book is not about being a racist. It's being honorable. God wants us to love people. And know in our culture we say we tolerate people. And that's great. But I want you to love me. Come with love and affection and speak life to me like I want to speak life to you, amen. Learn how we are divided but more importantly what can I do to be uniting. To seek life and promote unity. Amen. Okay, amen. Okay. My background. I have a white grandmother. I have a half Chinese and black grandmother. My great-grandfather was from china and came when there was sickness and had babies. Literally. My white grandmother when young her family sent her to Jamaica queens, New York to not marry a black Jamaican. And goes to New York and meets another Jamaican. He was Jamaica twice, from Jamaica and meets a Jamaican. She starts dating him. When he came to her house, he had to go to the back door. She married him. Her family cut them off. We never knew about them and lived 15 minutes away. And growing up and we have brown color and we are like, where did this white lady come from, she's grandmother and where did she come from? No one else was white. But she was grandma Dorothy. And the neighborhood I lived in was all black, pretty much. When I went to elementary school for eight years it was a mile away. And the kids in the white neighborhood called me names because I was black, and the kids in the black neighborhood called me black because I wasn't black enough. Uh-huh. Shame on you. I got in both neighborhoods, why? Because racism is sin and all are sinners. And I knew kids in both neighborhoods, by the way never went into each neighborhoods. The white kids from my elementary school could not come to my house. And the black kids never came to my house, there was very little relationship. But they both talked about each other. And I was going back and forth saying, both of you are wrong. Because there is cool people here and cool people here. That has been my journey. Every football team I went on was diverse. The Bible study I had at my house was diverse. I am like, we can do this. We do it. Joshua 15. How is it, and why is it we are so divided? Everyone say us versus them. In every race conversation it is about us versus them. If you watch the news, you are forced to pick a side. Are you on this side or that side? Do you follow this news channel or believe in this news channel? Do you have this opinion against those people or this opinion against those people? Culture will force you to pick one of two options. I will tell you there is a third option. Joshua is leading the Israelites into the Promised Land and going in to claim the land that God promised Abraham. And as Joshua is in the Promised Land and ask the commander of the army, are you on our side or adversaries. And look at chapter 5:13, and it says... That's our culture, us versus them. Do you want a hamburger or hot dog, no. You have to pick one. Do you want a hamburger or hot dog, no. I don't get it? There is a third option. Neither one of your options is acceptable to me. It says... Joshua fell on his face and worshiped. And he said, what does my Lord say to the servant... Culture will tell you have to pick and be on somebody's side against somebody. And one of those options, there will be people that look like you. But I will tell you a third option. That we honor what we all have in common. Instead of focusing what appears to be different. That we honor what we have in common, that we were all made in the image of God. In the image of God that each one of us is made in, is not inferior or superior to anyone else. And we place a priceless value, honor, respect for the fact that we were made for the purpose of living in relationship with one another, and loving one another and apathetic and compassionate with one another, can I get amen. And if we can get past that and focus on what we have in common, we are genetically 99.99% genetically identical, no matter what that person looks like. I was in the prison in ministry -- no, I wasn't in jail. And this white supremacist was walking on the track and I called him over and had no shirt on and tattoos and stood right here. And little did we know that we were looking in a genetic mirror of each other. And yet he was told to hate people like me. And what was ironic he had tattooed his body so much he was blacker than me. Let's talk about how we got divided. Sociologists say and describe how we put ourselves into groups. They call it grouping. It's how we identity those not-like-me, and those like-me. The way that we sort people into groups that are either like me. Or not like me. Every single one of us are in dozens of groups. For example, all the ladies in the house say hey. Okay, all the mothers in the house say hey. Okay, so if you noticed when I said all the ladies like hey. And when I said mothers like -- hey. We tired, we tired. So ladies as a group, mothers are a group. And single ladies and divorced ladies and grandmas are a group. Guys. And accountants. And CPA's and college students and freshmen and sophomore and junior and senior. You get a point, we are all in multiple groups. And whatever groups you are in, you understand those people pretty well. You understand how they think and dress and walk and how they might respond to something, because that's your group. You deal with them all the time. The people that are in part of the group you are in, that's your in-group. The people that are not in that group, or any of those groups. Those are your out-group. Everyone say in-group. Say out-group. The people in our in-group we understand well, and understand the intricacies, etc. And the people in the out-group we don't understand because we don't hang out with those people. But we have little bits of information about those people. From our family and friends and media. Your social narrative is a term that describes the story that shaped how you see the world. It's what your parents told you and neighborhood you grew up in. And how you were taught to interpret the news. Your story, your social narrative. That creates the lens that you see other people. The people in your in-group you understand inaccurately. And the people in your out-group you don't understand, you have anecdotal information, quote here and headline here. And that's the information you have and that's the information that you apply in the people in your out-group that you know very little about. Called stereo typing. And you should say I have very little information that is factual about them. Doesn't mean you have facts but little facts about them because your out-group. Follow what I am saying. And once you understand your in-group bias. And that's the tendency to give preferential treatment to the people in your in-group. I want to read nine types of people that you apply to in-group. Whether gender or ethnicity or occupation. In-group bias is a tendency to give preferential treatment to those in my in-group. I am more comfortable with those like me. I am more patient with those like me. I give the benefit of the doubt quicker to those like me. I express more grace when mistakes are made by those like me. It is easier to communicate with those who are like me. I assume that I will get along easier with those like me. I am more willing to go out of my way to help those like me. I possess more and more positive assumptions about those like me. So all of the people in your group, this is how you naturally flow with them and feel comfortable with them. A lot of this is subconscious and you don't know you are doing and because you are comfortable and have a lot of information about those people. In-group bias is how you give favor to the people in your in-group. The opposite is out-group discrimination. This does not mean that you hate the people not like you. But it's how you treat them different. Less favorable. To the people in your in-group. Out-group discrimination. I am less comfortable with those not like me. I am less inclined to spend time socially with those not like me. I am less patient with those not like me. I give the benefit of doubt slower to those not like me. I express less grace when mistakes are made by those not like me. It is more difficult to communicate with those not like me. I don't assume that I will get along with those not like me. I am less willing to go out of my way to help those not like me. I possess less positive assumptions about those not like me. I can't tell you how many times I have experienced discrimination that was racial that felt exactly like that. Now if we do that, we're people that are naturally around and has nothing to do with race. It doesn't matter what you call it. It hurts. It puts people at a disadvantage. Are you following what I am saying? are you following what I am saying? Can I get amen? So as believers of Christ, God says I want you to live at this level with everybody. Those like you. And not like you. I was explaining this to somebody, a very dear friend of mine who loves God and she's not a racist. But she said to me, why can't you just get over it. And I was like huh, you have spent too much time surrounded by your in-group. You might have term that term, those people. Those people are the people in your out-group. We call it othering. The others. And when you spend time in your in-group all the time, and you don't know what it's like to have out-group discrimination. It's easy to assume it doesn't exist. There is a leadership coach here in San Diego, Steven Jones, he wrote an article called, The right hand of privilege. If you are right-handed raise your hand high. Keep your hands up, around the room, most right-handed. And if you are left-handed, lift your hand, very few of us, like I am. Say what's up. Culture was made more right-handed people. You remember the desks in school, it was right-handed. Y'all were -- I hated y'all, you didn't have to look at your paper and write and relax. Us left-handers we are out in space like this -- We have to draw our name. Not like we could write. If you play golf, you can go to any golf shop and get your clubs if right-handed. Any. Doesn't matter. If left-hand, you have to call in advance, do you have this one? Do you have this one? Maybe I have to order online. When I grew up, there was no online. You didn't get it. And if you get a catcher mitt, and if not you have to go other stores, and maybe you can get this mitt. Say amen. I want you to imagine that culture was made by right-handed people for right-handed people. And imagine that the right-handers are in-group. And imagine they give in-group bias to right-handers. And I said to the lady, you are right-handed and you live in a country with your in-group. And you don't understand the left-handed disadvantage and what it means to be on the out-group. When you get the benefit that we described and assume that you can communicate at work and where you go your in-group is around you and getting the benefit of the doubt. Unless you are left-handed, and you don't understand. We shake hands left-handed and I am doing this, people think I am spastic. And I am left-handed and trained my left hand. That's an advantage, does it make you bad if you are right-handed? Culturally, no. But is it an advantage? Yes. If you do not really that advantage and remove the advantage of the left-handed people? No, but what happens when you are right-handed and you can't fathom the left-hand disadvantage. It's a privilege not to have that burden. It's a privilege. Right hand and left hand and in-group and out-group. Number one in your notes. Number 1, acknowledge your blind spot. A blind spot is the difference between your intent and your impact. I intend to be loving to everybody. But I offend people. I intend to be kind to all women. But I'm creepy to some. Ladies, can I get an amen. You know exactly what I am talking about. People say I'm good, I'm good. But there is a gap between what you intend and what you actually do. One of the things you can do really simply, ask somebody, and it could be someone who looks like you. But someone who doesn't. That knows you. Is there any way that I'm offensive in things that I say and things that I do. I promise you it happens all the time. People say things all the time and there are people in your life that whatever, that's just them. We can do better than that. And if you went to your friends and your family and said, are the things that I say and things I do that are offensive to you as a white person or black person or Hispanic person or Asian people. Please tell me. And if you have people in your life that is honest, as the Bible says iron sharpens iron. Ask that question, and you can become so much honoring to getting the answer to that question. It's things that you think are funny. It's things that you think are bridge building. When in fact they are not. But people are so accustom to it they just deal with it. Imagine that you can speak life than those jabs that cause division. Can I get amen. Number 2, rename those people as your brother and your sister. Don't say those people anymore. I want to look at a verse, Matthew 22:37, it says, the greatest commandment... Everyone say neighbor. Turn to I John 4:20 or look on the screen or look it up later. If someone says I love God and hate their brother, say brother or sister, he is a liar. A liar. A liar. Oh, I love God, I can't stand those people. You are a liar. The Bible says, Miles doesn't say. He doesn't love his brother or sister that he has seen, how can he love God that he has not seen. It's important, say brother, neighbor and sister. Those are labels of unity. Those are labels of love. Those are labels of family. When you rename somebody with all the derogatory terms we call each other. And all derogatory terms you hear on television about one group against another. Listen for them. All the names the people call those people. We have titles that we put on people. When you label someone lower than neighbor, brother or sister, not only dehumanize them, you attribute to them all the stereo types, very little information about that label on them. And now you can no longer relate to them as an equal, you dehumanized them. You told them go over there, that is that part of people. And guess what you did? You disqualified yourself from having to love them as your neighbor. That's not my neighbor, that's a blank. That's not my brother, that's a blank. Jesus said if you love only your friends, anybody can do that. I want you to love the people who even hate you. That's a powerful, powerful requirement of the gospel. Imagine if everyone that you saw, you said, that's my neighbor that I have to love. When you do that and say that, and you feel something wrestling in your heart, guess where the issue is? In your heart. And guess where God will do his supernatural work, in your heart. Can I get amen. Oh, it's quiet in here, God is doing something. Number 3, give in-group love to your out-group. I want to start to pay attention to how comfortable, graceful, patient, forgiving you are with the people in your in-group. Let me tell you something, when I played football and even now, because I'm a former charger. And I walk in this room, charger is an in-group. You're on our team. Hey -- have a seat, let me give you some love. Hey, I'm a raider. Get out. Next time you walk in Starbucks I want you to look around the room and see what in-group is predominant. And if you are part of the in-group. I want you to look for somebody on the out-group. Whether it's this -- or they are in a wheelchair. Or if you walk in a room and it's all men and one woman in the room. She's in an out-group. And I want you to think how can I as a child of God honor the image of God in that person who may even feel like they are the left-handed person in the room. How can I extend grace to them that we're all extending to each other? How can I go out of my way and welcome that person and give in-group bias, and love and patience and kindness and benefit of the doubt to the person in the out-group. That is the challenge, hope it's clear. Number 4, acknowledge your brother's/sister's color. I was 27 years old and somebody said I don't see color. And thought they didn't see red, blue, yellow and green. I said that's jacked up and you don't see the colors of rainbows. No, I see all of that, I just don't see your color. And I said how did you know to tell me you don't see it, if you don't see it. I said, so what is that you see? Did you put something on me that is not there? You know when people go to Hawai'i and get a tan, y'all you will layout in the sun and come back shades darker. When I say y'all, whoever. He's is talking about white people. Black people get tans; right. My wife lays out and she gets nice and browner. And you come back and want everyone to see your tan and wear your spaghetti strap or macaroni strap and see your tan. Say amen if you know what I am talking about. If you get a tan in Hawai'i it's celebrated and if you get a tan in the womb, it's invalidated. We don't see it. You are insulting God, God made that tan. And here's the thing about God, made the world brown, and the affect the sun can make you browner. Some people can't, I am sorry. Some people get browner or red, that's another color. And by the way, I was watching red fox, Sanford and son and he was a comedian and it was a comedy and he got robbed. In the episode two cops came, remember the black cop and white cop. And white cop hi, Mr. Sanford and the black cop had to interpret. It was classic. And Sanford got robbed, and Mr. Sanford was the perpetrator colored? Yeah, he was white. Culture says you have two options, white or people of color. God says no, it's just people of color. Because I made a rainbow -- not even a rainbow, I made a spectrum of color. Can I get know amen? [Applause] Celebrate the creativity of God. This is the creativity of God. You are the creativity of God. God says you are marvelous. Everyone say marvelous. So why would you say you don't see it? Celebrate it. Now don't see it and don't discriminate it. See it and acknowledge it like you do and celebrate it. Don't be scared. I know it's politically correct to say, I get that. But you deny the burden of the color. Because each shade has a different color. And you don't want to deny that burden. The Bible says if you want to know your neighbor carry their burden with you. Number 5, view every conversation as a consultation. In other words, every time you talk to somebody, you are having a race consultation. What does that mean? When you look at somebody and see their color and hair and accent and see their cloths and know their swag or lack of rhythm thereof. And you put that in the computer and your mind, here's probably what they are like and how they are and how you need to act. Happens like that. Can't stop that but you can challenge that. What I mean when you see that and program that you allow them to self-disclose to you who they are. You allow them to self-disclose to you their intelligence, and pain and dreams. And if their out-group you really don't know and have anecdotal information, two or three or four facts. And instead of imposing on them what you think, allow them to self-disclose to you. Take the time to be a learner, not a judge, be consultant. Number 5 -- amen, number 6. You can give the Lord a hand. That's okay. [Applause] Give your heart to your out-group. Unless we put our heart into this, it will not work. Rod Carew was a hall of fame baseball player, and Panamanian and was darker than me and rookie and All star and at 71 years old he needed a heart transplant and kidney and a 27 year-old football player, Konrad Reuland, played at Stanford and white and went into coma and had aneurysm. And mother said I will wake up and hear that heart, this is not the end. Konrad died. He had signed his organs to be donated, his heart and kidney went to Rod Carew, and his mother called him and said, I believe you have my son's heart and kidney in you. And he said, would you like to come and listen to his heart. And when Konrad was little he wanted to be like Rod Carew. And she went to his house and listened to her son's heart. If we are different, how can we put a heart in another's body? And God says we are to walk in relationship and now honor what we have in common. Can I get amen. In a minute I want to pray and I pray that God give you a new heart. Now I am going to pray and if you pray this prayer with me, you are not admitting I am a racist. I have to be not a racist as I said in the beginning. You are praying that we can honor one another better. We can humble ourselves and say, Lord how can I be more loving? How can I be honoring and more accepting? Change the lens through which I see other people. Some of you need to ask Christ to be your Savior. So this is going to be a prayer of salvation for you. No matter what it is. Let's walk this series together and let's change our church, our city, our country. Can I get amen? Amen. [Applause] Let's bow our heads and pray. Lord, thank you so much for your faithfulness. Dear God, I just pray for wisdom through this series. Pray for blessing next week in the simulcast and that there is a movement of unity. Pray against the devil. I know he's like a roaring lion looking to whom he will devour. But you are the lion of Judah. If you would like a new heart, for whatever reason, for whatever reason. You want Christ to forgive you of your sin. You want to be encouraged because you have been hurt, wounded. You have resentment, hatred, whatever. God made you in his image so he can love you. And He just needs you to invite Him in. So if you would like to ask Christ into your heart for whatever reason. His peace into your heart for whatever reason. Pray this prayer in the privacy of your heart. Pray, dear God I know you love me. I know you have an incredible plan for my life. And I want to be a part of the solution. Forgive me. Fill me with the spirit of God. I know Jesus died and rose from the dead. That we would walk in victory. And in relationship. With the living God. I surrender my life to Him. Holy Spirit, fill me. Take over my life. As all of our eyes are closed and heads are bowed. If you prayed that prayer in a minute, I ask you that stand in all campuses. And your standing is a new representation for a new start in your life, for whatever reason you prayed. God wants to do something in your life. He wants all of us to be vision carriers of unity, love and honor. If you prayed that prayer, on the count of three, I ask you to stand up. One, two, three, stand to your feet. Stand to your feet If God spoke to you during that sermon and you feel like you want to ask Christ to be your savior, it's as simple as A-B-C. Admit and accept that you are a sinner. The Bible says all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. Believe in your heart that Jesus Christ is Lord, that He died for your sin and rose from the dead. Then, confess yourself a sinner and say, "Jesus, please forgive me of my sin." If you would like to ask Jesus Christ to be your savior, just look at me right now and pray this prayer with me in the privacy of your heart knowing that God knows you and loves you very much. Say, "Dear God, I believe that I am a sinner. I know the penalty of my sin is death. I don't want to die and go to hell. I believe that Jesus Christ is Lord, that He died and rose from the dead for my sin. I confess myself a sinner and ask Him to forgive me of my sin. Jesus, please forgive me of my sin, and fill me with the spirit of God. In Jesus name', amen. If you prayed that prayer, if you just asked Christ to be your savior, we want to know. We want to email you some resources. If you just prayed that prayer with me, to accept Jesus as your savior, click on the link that just appeared. We want to send you some free resources. God bless you and we will see you in Heaven.
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Published: Mon Sep 10 2018
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