REPROGRAM Your MIND and Destroy LIMITING BELIEFS! | John Assaraf

if you want to change your results don't focus on changing your behaviors change your focus on the beliefs that drive your behaviors you don't have to reinvent the wheel so if you want to be healthy there's already a blueprint if you want to make more money there's already a blueprint I learnt the value of progress versus perfection and even when you move backwards a couple of steps what's the progress that you made in what you learned need motivation catch a top ten with believe nation what's up elimination it's seven I believe in you and this channel is designed to be a part of your daily success routine so let's get your motivation to attend and get you believing in you grab a snack and chew on today's lessons from a man who went from often getting into trouble with the law when he was a teenager to writing two best-selling books being featured in eight movies including the runaway blockbuster The Secret and building five multi-million dollar businesses he's John Assaraf and here's my take on his top ten rules of success enjoy okay let's kick it off with rule number one follow the blueprint I was really fortunate when I was 19 years old I met a wonderful gentleman who was very successful with his family was very successful giving to charities he was very healthy he was very gentle and kind and when he started to share with me to teach me that my entire reality was based on what I believed was real and what I believed was true about myself about what's possible and that I could change that that's when my life started to change and he said if you start to change the way you think and you start to learn everyday for one hour to upgrade your knowledge and your skills and then you take action every day on the things that are the most important instead of all the different things that you can do he says if you focus on doing three to five things every day towards your goals he says in one year you'll be in a totally different destination three years big distant five ten years your life won't be the same and I was tired of living a mediocre to less than mediocre life and so I said listen you seem to have a good plan you're making millions of dollars you're giving a lot of money to charity you're happy you're healthy you're gonna great family I want that they said if you want that follow the blueprint don't try to figure it out just follow the blueprint and that was another lesson that he shared with me is that you don't have to reinvent the wheel yes look if you want to fly right now you don't have to figure out how to fly you know there's already a blueprint for how to generate or create an airplane yeah so if you want to be healthy there's already a blueprint if you want to make more money there's already a blueprint if you want to buy real estate or the stock market or start a business and grow business there's people before us that have already got the blueprint and all you have to do is paint paint the numbers inside the box and then you can use your creativity so I just became very good follower for a long time of things that worked and when you follow things that work it's like having the combination to a safe if somebody gives you the combination to a safe and they tell you turn this way a little bit so I'm this way a little bit turn this way a little bit turn this way a little bit then open it you can have access to it but most people don't look for the combination and then even when they get the combination they tried in the wrong order rule number two value progress over perfection the law of Goya is is simply get off your ass so if you if you if you if you think and you believe and you emotionalize you visualize and you create your plan for how am I actually going to achieve this so what do I need to do when am I gonna do it how specifically how am I gonna tweak it measure it and iterate it so that I'm consistently making progress I learnt the value of progress versus perfection none of my mentors ever had me focus on perfection let me focus on progress to just keep getting better little incremental gains every day every week every month every quarter and even when you move backwards a couple of steps what's the progress that you made in what you learned so I was taught that failure is an opportunity to learn and I was also taught to disassociate me being a failure from failing rule number three develop discipline when you start talking about my brain it's an organ just like your heart is an organ you can speed up your heart you can slow down your heart you can you know speed up the brain waves in your brain you can slow them down you can tune in you can tune out yeah we haven't been given the users manual for the most powerful teachers that we're aware of that's right and so the great news you know I know you being an athlete and a successful businessman you have disciplined you cannot guarantee receive results without some kind of discipline and so we know that there's some fundamental truths to achieving success and every successful person will tell you you and Jim Rohn is I know you you love Jim right so you either pay the price at discipline you pay the price of regret discipline weighs ounces or Greta weighs tons but the the thing is can you teach discipline the answer is yes how you have to have a willing participant and if the participants reason why is big enough if they know I want to achieve X and the reason why the motive for their action motivation the motive for their action is a reason beyond just themselves chances are they will do more to achieve that success than if it was just left up to their own but there are some people that are born you know with incredible Drive they just have this insatiable drive and they'll just I'll do whatever it takes for the things that I want and there's other people that want things but they just don't have this insatiable drive and this is where you know I as much as I hate at school I love to use schools in an algae there in the game of life whether it's health wealth relationships career business spirituality fun experiences you have to decide what level the game go on to play it is it the great school level the kindergarten level the high school level the university level the pro level because each one of those levels requires a totally different mindset and totally different skill set they're building blocks on each other but if you are extremely talented but you're not prepared to practice and rehearse and drill and fall and fail forward to the next attempt you will never make it as a pro you will never make as a probe isn't this person you'll never make it as a pro husband or wife or athlete or musician you just never will so just get used to that if you're not prepared to pay the price if you are prepared to pay the price and you have the aptitude the talent now we're talking about there's some real potential here and what we don't know is you know what's in your heart like what is the fire that stirs you that that you wake up saying I will do this even when I don't feel like it I will do whatever it takes to overcome my temptation for mediocracy my temptation for excuses my temptation for reasons and circumstances to hold me back I won't allow those to be in my way and if you have that within you you'll achieve whatever you choose and so the question you asked before is how do you develop that start small yeah start small so if you don't have discipline show do your show yourself that you can give yourself one command and one follow-through so you know what right now I'm gonna get up I'm gonna do two push-ups right now not not like later now can you give yourself a simple command one sit-up right now I'm gonna go get a glass of water you start with something ridiculous I learned many years well reduce it to the ridiculous so 4 reduce it to the ridiculous I start that so can you do that great will you because that's the difference right there is that's the razor's edge yeah yeah will you will you yeah great when now now yeah right so if you develop that skill and specifically from a brain plasticity a neuroplasticity perspective as soon as you do that you give yourself a command and you take the action you have just created a neural pattern you can give yourself a command and take action now that may be just be one time well what if you did that every hour by putting a little bell on your computer and every hour like if you were if my computer is open I'd have every hour it would say it's Volvo klog it's one o clock and I take 60 seconds just to be in control of my mind sixty-seven don't care where how would you do it stop takes six breaths so you just get it just get centered and my on track and my off track am i doing something I shouldn't be doing versus a high-impact activity that I need to be doing every hour I've trained myself to just reset I didn't always do that so I just started with one a day right then - sure then three then it was working so well I said great let's do this every hour rule number four focused on your highest values the first thing that you have to ask is what are your highest values so for me for example my number one highest value is God my number two values my health my number three values my family a number four value is contribution to the lives of others moment number v value is fun so every day when I wake up I think about what am i doing today to connect with God for me just for me it doesn't have to be and you know it's not religious it's just for me then what I need to do every day to make sure that I'm healthy what I need to do every day to make sure that my family and my dear close friends are a part of my family that I have the relationship that's rich then contribution how do I use my my passion my gifts my my stories my things I've not done well things I have done how do I share that with the world and in doing that I feel good and then I have to have fun and so if I do those five things everyday then at the end of every day I've had a great day and if you have a lot of great days then you end up with a really great life and that doesn't mean that you don't have ups and downs and things that don't work and trouble that happens and things that come up but if you keep your focus on what's important then the rest of the stuff is really inconsequential and there isn't a hundred different things you have to do there's two or three things in each one of the areas that's important to you that when you do those every day you're so far ahead of the curve rule number five be a voracious student I was taught the law of attraction you know I was 23 24 years old also at a real-estate conference they're talking about this law of attraction thing that there's this energy everything's made up of energy I am energy you are energy and my thoughts you know create this resonance between what I attract and what I don't like oh good I like that you know I want to attract more of the good stuff right and so I I bought in like I bought into stuff that just made sense to me but then I was a voracious student I want to understand how I explain to me how it works like if somebody tells me visualize I go why like how does it work like you asked me to visualize like why does it work like why should I invest my time on that versus something else if you're asking me to use affirmations like how specifically why how does it work if you're asking me to emotionalize well what's happening in me the time I need to create these false senses of feelings I want to know why it works rule number six change your beliefs you think about the era that our parents lived ok Great Depression yeah right very very hard to make money very very hard to find resources very very hard to do anything unless you're a professional so our parents said to most of us if you don't become a professional you're gonna struggle you're gonna struggle and suffer and even the professionals said ok so become a professional and here's your ceiling of what you have so we came conditioned to be worried of scarcity in a world that has no scarcity we became conditioned to having certain beliefs about what's possible or not possible so even now you know as we as we you know we're sitting here and we've got this you know amazing election time crazy you know I think is a good thing about is you know there are some people to believe that if Donald Trump wins they're gonna make a fortune and there's other people that think they're gonna lose everything and I have a friend of mine who has got about 70 million dollars in the bank that believes that if Hillary gets into office he's gonna lose millions it's gonna be really tough and what really is you know going on in people's heads it's it's all of their references their beliefs and their perceptions that are locked away in the implicit part of their brain that is driving those thoughts and even the behaviors they may not even be aware of it they're not even aware of it yeah they can be but there may not be and so what we really have to go back to to focus on is it really makes no difference who becomes president or who doesn't if you have the belief that regardless of what happens in your external world you can navigate towards the success that you want that's a belief and beliefs are the lens by which we actually see the world and by which we behave and so if you want to change your results don't focus on changing your behaviors change your focus on the beliefs that drive your behaviors rule number seven have a good morning routine so when I wake up in the morning the first thing I do is I do a gratitude exercise where I ask myself use the in bed what am I most grateful for today and usually you know I'm grateful for my health I'm grateful for my wife I'm grateful for my children I'm grateful to be alive I'm grateful you know for my family I'm grateful to to have experiences and used to do that eyes closed yeah I do that eyes closed and while I while I think about that I feel it and so the feeling starts every day with a great feeling mmm I start every day with a great feeling you have do you visualize some things you've liked your children or do you talk to yourself how do you do that yeah I have an internal dialogue I see images of the things that I'm thinking about and that just takes me two minutes just two minutes when I wake up and then I go to exercise to take care of my body have how long usually one hour to an hour and 15 minutes every day and so I do a variety of different things I hike I bike I work on aerobics that work on strength I work with weights I do whatever it is I just do it to give my body the physical exercise then as soon as I finish my exercise in my chair when hour and half an hour now or 15 minutes at the most so then in my gym I have two things I have a vision board which is my dream board for my view on about that yes so I have my vision board for my my physique in my body in my health but then I also have in in my gym something called an achieved board okay so how do I achieve some of the things that I achieve biased on the future no achieved in the past yes so fast you're fast in the future yeah so I have in my in my gym in my home gym I have a like a place where I sit and before I start my meditation I look at my vision board from the past okay so I get connected to the different things that I've been able to achieve and I remember every day when I set my mind and my focus to achieving goals I can achieve all of my goals but what I also do is I reinforce most people focus on what's not working just isn't going well this didn't work I want to remind myself every day yeah look how many things I was able to accomplish by being clear by being passionate by using these rituals so before I go into my meditation which is with my eyes closed I look at my achieved board I get emotionally associated with it to remind myself that when I set my mind to achieve something I can do it and then I look across because I have a mirror in the gym and I look across and I say I love you just the way you are and I said I accept you just the way you are with all of your skills and passion and faults and insecurities and doubts and fears I accept you just the way you are why and I smile and then I close my eyes and I do about a 15 minute meditation well and in my meditation sometimes I have no thoughts where I'm just one with the universe and every intern other times I'll just follow my thoughts and I'll just pay attention be mindful of what are they going this morning where they going today so I'll follow my thoughts and I'll just follow them other times I'll follow a thought and say release that one and follow another thoughts a release that one so I am teaching my brain that I'm in control of my brain rule number eight be committed what happened for me personally when I was a teen between age of 13 to 17 I got into enormous amount of trouble with the law I did a lot of unethical things and I was getting myself in so much trouble and I had one mentor that my brother introduced me to his name was Alan Brown he was a very successful philanthropist entrepreneur and he agreed to meet with me for lunch one day and he asked me like why are you doing these things you seem like a nice young kid and I said I don't know I just want to make some money and I just want to fit in he goes but you seem like you're intelligent why don't you just use your brains natural abilities I go listen based on my education and based on what the teachers have told me I'm not gonna do very well in life and I left high school in grade 11 thinking that I'm not worthy enough I'm not smart enough I'm not good enough and this one man in one minute in one meeting changed my life because he asked me what goals do you have and I said what do you mean what goals do I have I said I want to you know go out this weekend to the bar I want to have some good food I want to find a nice young lady and maybe hook up with and he says no no what are your bigger goals and I didn't have any so he actually sent me home he said fill out these pieces of paper and on the piece of paper it said like what age do you want to retire by like I was 19 this was May of 1980 I wasn't even started yet I said but just fill out fill out these papers so I said I want to retire by the time at 45 with three million dollars I want to have a Mercedes I want to have a house I want to travel the world I want to have a great lifestyle and so I came back on Monday and he looked at it and he asked me one question and that question transformed my life and he said are you interested in achieving these goals or are you committed and I stopped and I and I looked at he was standing up I was sitting in my desk there at his office and I asked him mr. Brown I said what's the difference and he said if you're interested you'll do it's convenient you'll come up with stories and excuses and reasons why you can't and you'll use your education as an excuse you'll use your stories and excuse you'll use the fact you it follows a cab driver and was a gambler and never had any money you'll use all of that as your reasons why you can't he says but if you're committed you will do whatever it takes you'll let go of your stories you'll let go of your excuses you'll let go of all the reasons you currently have that are formulating your identity of yourself and you learn how to let that go and become who you are destined to become ruler benign create good habits so someone's listening right now in their thinking you know there's a lot of things I want you know I want to get out of this relationship or I want the relationship I want to have a better health I want to have more money whatever it may be and they've been saying that for years and they feel like they've been consuming all the information they need to have but they haven't been able to take action maybe because they're why isn't powerful enough what would you say should be their first step well the first step is to take one thing I'm gonna go back to one thing yeah and say great let me move one thing forward why because that just changes the trajectory of the same pattern repeating itself and as soon as you interrupt a pattern and then you repeatedly interrupt the pattern it's like taking a detour and as soon as you take a detour one day you're gonna like okay that was that was okay but you intended your tennessee's to want to go back to what's comfortable but if you take the detour 2 days 6 days 7 days we know from a neuroscience perspective it takes about 66 days to create a solid enough neural pattern that it'll go from conscious effort and thinking about it to a non conscious pattern that has the beginnings of automaticity happening without your involvement you're just doing yeah and so for me what I do and for myself is I whenever I want to change something whether it's a habit whether it's a thought or emotion or behavior I say I'm gonna work on this for 100 days not 30 days not 21 days not 66 which is right around there I say 100 days and then I focus all of my eye just on that one thing for 100 days why to give an example of something you've done sugar here sugar sugar I'm a sugar me too I'm a sugar like if you as an alcoholic I'm a sugar a honky it's so bad so so you take one thing just one thing that you know may be a little challenging a hundred days a hundred days just 100 days so let's say you want to drink more water 100 days a glass a day conscious effort to one a day whatever you did before you'll still do but one glass a day so you know I started that with my assistants I want to drink you know like four of these a day you know like you know 32 ounces whatever the case is and so every we got a mug it's on my desk every time I walk in and then I have some support from ER saying hey remember to drink your water so just do so the first you know two three weeks I feel like I'm gonna drown myself in so much water but then it's like okay now I'm used to it now I'm drinking as much water as possible because the habit is there and one of the rules that I love too follows the habit is more important than the intensity at first so don't worry about the intensity right develop the habit so can you take one minute a day to focus on how you will achieve a goal just one minute a can you take one minute a day to focus on your health yeah can you take one day to retrain your brain yeah can I take one day you know or one action a day and you start off with something you know and reduce it down to just a minute or two minutes or one behavior if you can get that behavior to be a habit it's easy to stack right of course it's just like the foundation of a building once you have the foundation if you build it right you stack yeah and so every good discipline affects another and every bad discipline affects others and rule number ten the last one before a very special bonus clip is overcome fear let's say you have a fear of the public speaking is it really a fear of public speaking that you have or is it a fear of getting up on stage and being embarrassed ashamed ridiculed or judged hmm let me take you to another type of fear being buried alive can you imagine for just a moment if there was an earthquake or there was a natural disaster and somehow you were buried alive wouldn't that trigger this crazy amount of fear of dying while you were buried alive now why am I taking you there I'm taking you there because fear is a subconscious trigger whenever we feel threatened and the threat could be a threat for our very lives and when that happens we move into one of four modalities and modality number one is we try to fight this feeling number two is we freeze because we're in such shock number three we may faint because of the neuro chemistry that the fear causes or we might run away if we can run away now these neurological reactions are our brains way of keeping us safe which is the highest need and desire of the brain safety above all else so when we are looking to achieve a goal that we want to achieve and it doesn't matter if it's you know to start a business or grow your business or leave a relationship that you're not happy and or a job that you're miserable in whenever we think about the actual behavior that is required to achieve that goal once we get motivated in doing that that's part one of how our brain works but right after that our brain has to analyze if there's any real or imagined danger associated with taking that action step so if you are going to leave a relationship that you're not happy in your brain is gonna activate the memory circuits and discover what's in there that may have caused you pain and suffering in the past and when that happens whether it's a relationship you want to leave a job that you want to leave a goal you want to achieve your brain is always analyzing is there danger here and when there is real or imagined danger the amygdala part of the brain the emotional response Center in the brain is gonna fire off an amazing amount of neural chemicals like cortisol epinephrine or norepinephrine and it's that rush of those neuro chemicals that causes this emotion energy in motion we label as fear now once you have that rush of neuro chemicals in your bloodstream that actually gives you an enormous amount of energy but what most people never have learned how to do is how to take that energy and channel it to action versus to fighting it freezing or running away when you recognize a fear I want you to do this it's called inner sighs number one it's called take six calm the circuits when fear neuro chemicals are released in your brain you've activated the fear or stress response Center in the brain when you just observe the emotion called fear through being quiet and breathing six times in through your nose and out through your mouth like this you take a deep breath in for five seconds [Music] you blow out like you're blowing out through a straw and if you do this five seconds in five seconds out five seconds in five seconds out with six to ten breaths you're gonna deactivate the fear response Center and that actually is gonna reactivate your thinking center in your brain so that you can move on to inner sighs number two inner sighs number one is take six calm the circuits inner sighs number two is called aya a I a and that stands for awareness intention action so here's how you do this after you do the first inner sighs then you move to inner sighs number two and then you ask yourself in a calm relaxed state what am I thinking right now what am I feeling right now am i calm or am i tense am i breathing deeply or shallow is my heart beat fast or slow and in this state of calm awareness as you deactivate the brains fear or stress response you can observe what you are feeling and what you are thinking and what you were doing and then you can ask self the next question that is the I what is my intention right now is my intention to move forward or is my intention to stay in this fearful state and chances are you gonna say well I really want to move forward and then you have self what one action step that I can take to move forward towards my goal and dream so this is how it works after you do the inner size number one to calm the circuits and to deactivate the reactive state that fear causes and then you move into the second inner size called aya to move it to the responsive state awareness intention action now puts you in control of being aware of the fear being aware okay of what you've been thinking and then being at choice of what you want to do so when you combine these two inner sizes you are now reconfiguring the neural network in your brain around the goal that you want to achieve and instead of allowing the real or imagined danger to control you to stop you dead in your tracks you take one action step in a calm state and that rewires your brain so that the same reaction doesn't hold you back anymore and that you are now able to use fear as your fuel for success now I've got a special bonus kit from John and how to forgive that I think you're really gonna enjoy but before that it's time for the three-point landing questions time to move from just watching another video to taking action in your life for business and if you're feeling bold leave your answers in the comments below here we go question number one what fear do you need to overcome number two what good habit can you start creating today and number three what belief do you need to change when I was five I moved from Israel where I was born to Montreal and I just started kindergarten in Israel and then I was thrown into a class with 50 kids in Montreal in grade one I didn't speak English or French and so I felt stupid I felt like i sat there you know looking up at the ceilings bugging the other kids and was consistently reprimanded consistently put in the principal's office and then I was consistently you know brought you know to my knees with my parents my father's physically abusive which you know is challenging itself his words weren't a way you know that he communicated hands and feet were his way of communicating and so when I did the wrong things that's was the punishment and so I felt embarrassed that I wasn't smart enough that I wasn't good enough that I wasn't gonna amount to much when I was in my 20s one of the things that Alan put me on a path to was personal development you know read a book a month go to events listen to cassette tapes back then of motivational stuff for motivation for inspiration for strategies for tactics of what to do to lift raise your your level of skill and knowledge so I went to this event and I brought up this this challenge that I had with my father and the instructor said like when are you gonna forgive him I said never I'm never gonna forgive him that forgive him there's so much pain and the instructor said well if you're never going to forgive him then you're the one taking the poison pill hoping he's gonna die or he's gonna be affected he says you don't forgive him for him you forgive him so you can move on I was like aha number one if you like this video check out the one I did on Bob Proctor and his ten rules I think you'll enjoy then link is right there next to me continue to believe and I'll see you there all things are possible if you believe what we kind of understand is we're treating our life for our goals literally trading our life

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Published: Tue Jan 29 2019