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today we have a crazy entitled parent story of a  mom who claims their kids partner of over 2 years   was just a product of their imagination we'll  get into that in a bit but first my parents   guilt tripped me female 27 into buying a house  with them because it's my obligation to pay them   back and contribute to their retirement when I was  young my family and I grew up lwi income my dad   was the only income earner and he worked a blue  collar job while my mom was a stay-at-home mom in   2022 I got guilt tripped into buying a house with  my parents that they couldn't afford on their own   I was pressured to sign as a co-borrower since my  parents would not get approved for the loan with   my dad's low income I was paying the entire  mortgage since the mortgage is more than my   dad's entire monthly salary they keep saying they  sacrificed so much for me by raising me and now   it's my obligation to pay them back by buying them  a house paying their mortgage and contributing to   their retirement I've been feeling resentful of  all of my friends who can live at home rentree   and have parents who don't treat them like an  ATM or retirement plan in the future I can't   afford to move out and pay rent in addition to  the mortgage and I've been feeling hopeless and   stuck I can't afford to max out my 401k each year  and I'm putting less into savings because of this   burden they put on me I have goals of moving out  and buying a house in the future and feel like I   could never achieve that now I feel resentful of  my parents for putting me in this situation as a   result of all their poor financial decisions  in the past we previously had a house with a   mortgage they could afford but they wanted to move  to this new house because of nicer weather and the   backyard but at a huge financial cost it's a house  I didn't even want but my parents kept saying this   new house is their dream and the old house makes  them feel down and I would be responsible for   their mood and poor health they keep reminding  me how much time energy and resources they Ed   to raise me and now it's my duty to pay them  back for all they have done living at home   is honestly horrible and contributes to my sense  of hopelessness and worthlessness my parents are   always arguing at each other's throats 24/7 every  day I get criticized and called fat ugly lazy that   I walk ugly and eat too loudly I feel so trapped  and stuck the scary thing here is op is not on   the deed to the property so they're stuck kind of  in this position where they feel like they have   to pay for the house but they have no actual say  to it so they could destroy this house and Opie   still kind of on the hook for paying for it Opie  could walk away and then their parents could tank   the payments for the house and op's credit score  could get ruined as a co-borrower I mean honestly   is declaring bankruptcy and just letting this all  go and trying to rebuild your life a better option   what other great option is there spend the next  30 years paying off their house I guess I would   say swing for the fences and try to force your  way onto the title and if that doesn't work then   you tell them hey I'm just going to leave you  guys probably are going to lose the house my   credit score is going to be tanked but I'll just  rebuild also hi hi I'm Steven and if you guys   enjoy crazy stories of entitled parents why not  hit those like And subscribe buttons down below   that said our next story is is it a good idea to  send my entitled mother-in-law a message setting   her expectations for how involved she will be  with our child my 31-year-old female and my   wife 31-year-old female are expecting a baby we  are really excited as this is our first child my   main concern is my in-laws I've never gotten along  with them my wife and I have been together for 15   years and I tried for 10 long years to get them  to like me the only one that ever remotely warmed   up to me is my sister-in-law and it's not like  we're super close after my mother-in-law ruined   our wedding she felt my wife didn't include her  enough caused a huge scene and stormed out of the   wedding taking her side of the family with her  I just stopped trying with them to add insult   to injury she also blamed me for my wife's speech  where she felt she wasn't mentioned enough even   after my wife assured her I had nothing to do with  writing it after the WD wedding my wife saw her   family in a completely different light and said  I didn't need to subject myself to their company   anymore I want to be clear that my wife is always  on my side it's just a lot of the stuff they would   do would never be in front of her it would never  really upset me because I don't like or respect   them it was more annoying the most frustrating  thing was being polite to these jerks for the   sake of my wife when they were so rude to me and  my family since the wedding I've only really gone   to their major family events which is usually  like maximum twice a year at these events they   usually treat me with cold indifference which is  the best I can hope for really the real problem   is with how they mostly my wife's parents have  recently been treating her I've always thought   that her family treated her like crap her sister  is so obviously The Golden Child and she was   parentified really young when her parents divorced  she didn't really see it until recently when their   treatment of her got really bad and it's made  her rethink their relationship in the last 2   years we've got no contact with father-in-law  because of his bigoted and political views   anti-lgbtq plus and really right-wing politics  he somehow did mental gymnastics to not have a   problem with our relationship and we're currently  in low contact with mother-in-law because of her   constant narcissism and blatant favoritism  for sister-in-law there is a laundry list of   transgressions by mother-in-law but I'm worried  about word count happy to make an update with   more background about her entitled Behavior  if needed since I've gotten pregnant my wife   has been keeping mother-in-law and sister-in-law  updated over text which they are upset about they   expressed jealousy about how my family probably  got the news in person they did because we can   trust them not to be jerks and make everything  about them my wife reached out to sister-in-law   to spend some time with her for birthday and  she demanded that they invite mother-in-law   and expressed how she can't just cut out their  parents that they don't deserve this and they   have no idea why she has done this to them my  view is that they absolutely do know she's told   them very nicely much nicer than I would have been  father-in-law just never contacted us again when   she explained how his behavior was an issue  and has never tried to fix their relationship   mother-in-law immediately gets defensive anytime  she tries to speak to her about her behavior she   then reverses the blame and plays the victim  she'll then ignore my wife for a period of time   and then pretend nothing happened mother-in-law  has always been Keen about grandchildren our   child will be her first grandchild I'm worried  she thinks she'll just be able to come see in   the hospital and have unlimited access to our  child my wife and I agree this will not be the   case her terrible Behavior to my wife and me aside  she has homophobic and racist views again ironic   given she supposedly supports her daughter and her  wife being by but I think she views gay women as   harmless and gay men are somehow more offensive  and I don't want her influencing our child in   any way with that crap we both agreed she could  have limited contact supervised and planned visits   would it be a good idea if I sent mother-in-law a  message politely but firmly explaining that unless   she significantly changes her behavior she will  have limited contact with her grandchild my wife   is of the opinion that we should just leave it and  she'll figure it out eventually I'm worried that   if we don't explicitly tell her early she is going  to harass us after our baby is born like she and   my in-laws did after our wedding and I don't want  that drama while we'll be stressed new parents I   think this will absolutely kick the horn its nest  but I think it's better to do it early as part of   baby preparations but it does have the potential  to make things worse I tried posting on r/ am I   the jerk but it didn't get much traction I wanted  to get a range of opinions my wife suggested I   post here so personally I think the only real way  forward is setting and enforcing clear boundaries   especially with things like the two-sidedness of  oh I support my kid but then also turns around   and has homophobic views just in general it seems  like a person you can't put much trust in into and   you want to keep at a distance a controllable  distance our next story is my mother and my   wedding day hi y'all I've been having a really  hard time since my wedding the other day this   is going to be kind of a long one so thank you  to those who read and reply so the morning of my   wedding started off good with my mom she was all  fine and dandy enjoying her morning at the hotel   she told me that she made an appointment at her  hotel to get her hair done at 12:30 I told her   my hair and makeup lady would be at my Airbnb at  12 to help me get ready then she started freaking   out because she wanted to be there when I was  getting ready but she insisted she needed to get   her hair done so I told her to either cancel her  appointment come and get ready at the Airbnb or   meet me at my Airbnb for two before we leave for  the wedding or meet me at the chapel for 3:00 p.m.   she started freaking out on me because she wasn't  going to be there for me when I was getting ready   to me it wasn't even a big deal because everyone  was in their own rooms getting ready anyway she's   yelling at me on the phone telling me how much  money she's wasting by being at the hotel and   saying that she should be staying in my Airbnb  which mind you the only people at the Airbnb were   the bridal party me and my husband his Grooms and  and my bridesmaides so it wouldn't make sense for   her to be there So eventually I get to the chapel  and my mom shows up completely drunk is saying the   most ridiculous things to people and just making  a fool out of herself meanwhile I'm basically in   a fever dream of excitement taking pictures with  our family before the ceremony we walk into the   chapel and everyone is supposed to go in and  sit down so we can start but she proceeds to   dig through a bag to try and give me a gift I told  her I would check it out after because everyone   is already in the chapel sitting down then she  freaks out on me again because I didn't want to   look at her gifts right then and there eventually  the ceremony is over and my now husband and I are   so happy and our photographer takes us to go and  take more pictures around the chapel eventually we   finish taking pictures and I get back on the party  bus to head to the after Park party and my mom's   not there I asked my sister what happened and she  said my mom freaked out and took an Uber back to   her hotel and left before the Afterparty the next  day comes around and my mom proceeds to text me   the most nastiest texts ever basically saying I  embarrassed her how I'm not her daughter anymore   how my husband is a jerk how I have a new family  now and don't need her and saying that she's a   bad mother I literally don't even know where any  of that came from as I was literally busy getting   married and barely paid any attention to anyone  besides my soon Tobe husband in the moment all I   know is that she showed up drunk to my wedding  freaked out and left and is now trying to turn   it all around on me I've been feeling awful  since because I wanted my mom to be there to   enjoy the day with me and she had to go and ruin  it regardless I had an amazing day but it still   sucks and now I feel like I did something wrong  even though I know I didn't I think she's pretty   well aware of how she acted and how she kind of  tore down everything as best she could I think   she's just trying to take it all out on you try to  make you feel bad for her behavior and her actions   I think she's just mad things didn't go perfectly  the way she wanted it all to go if this isn't a   reason to go low contact until she shapes up or if  she doesn't just keep going like that I don't know   what would be our next story is my entitled mother  is ruining my renting credit and I don't know what   to do hi there I'm in a pickle I'm trying to  figure out how to deal with my narcissistic   mother when I was 20 to I was manipulated into  signing a lease I didn't want to my mom abused   me mentally emotionally and financially growing  up so I've always been terrified of her she has   told me that she was going to end herself because  of me she told me that I was the reason that her   and my younger brother would starve if I didn't  do a grocery haul by foot before I went to my   part-time job when I was 15 she'd take my phone  but get me to call her at lunch from school so she   could degrade me and make me cry she's done the  same thing when I was at work she put a bill in my   name that she stopped paying and brought my credit  down it goes on back when I was 22 I had said no   to signing the lease many times but she started to  blame me for her and my brother being homeless she   had bad credit so she had to use mine so I'm the  only person on the lease in the amount of almost   my entire net income when I was 22 when I was 25  I got the courage to say that I was moving out she   hopped on a plane and didn't come back for over a  year she had also left my teenage brother with me   at the time when she was gone she threatened to  sue me if I didn't pay her bills would get mad at   me for not sending her money while she was abroad  she would blame Co for her not being back but I   knew she had found a boyfriend abroad she finally  came back and would keep making excuses as to why   we couldn't move I'm 28 now I still live with  her but we haven't spoken in over a year I told   her off for abusing my brother she's physically  abusive too she threatened to end herself and   ended up quitting her job I still signed a new  lease and I'm moving out next week I have a few   issues though she's got dogs that she doesn't take  care of I pay all of their bills vet expenses Food   Insurance grooming Etc she will forget to feed  them for weeks I've seen maggots in their bowls   I always feed them in the basement as a result  she saying that she's going to keep the pets and   cut me off she's told my brother this I think I  should take them she's registered them with the   city years ago but I don't know if she renewed  the registration it's required she hopped on   a plane and is not answering my email is wanting  to discuss the pets bills and damage to the house   because of hers she's also stopped paying her  share of bills she stays on the main level of the   house and I stay in the basement I went upstairs  to look at the condition of her floor it's so bad   filthy four broken doors because of being punched  in punched in light fixtures missing Nets broken   dryer Lin sleeve I've already bought the $250 part  to fix the dryer I fixed the light fixtures to the   best of my ability but she broke the switch too  but she isn't answering my emails asking her about   these issues I suspect that she'll be back before  I move out next week she also thinks that I'll be   here until the end of March any advice on how to  deal with this I can't afford everything and I'm   in shock at all of this I hide for my safety in  the basement my landlord is a slum Lord so I'm   anxious about how I'm going to be responsible for  her damage and the issues with the house before   removed it it is mold infested last year she cut  my ex- stepdad's hand open and told him that was   going to call the cops on him and say that he was  trying to harm her he wasn't she had him cornered   in a room and hurt him she destroyed my brother's  credit she throws glasses at the wall it's a lot   honestly I would just pack up everything including  the pets and I would just move out of there as   soon as possible especially if you have things  lined up where you can get out of there if you've   got to try to figure things out remotely with the  landlord to get that settled so be it but with her   acting the way she is I just say a number one  get you and those animals out of that situation   if she comes after you she comes threatening you  immediately call the cops I mean just don't even   begin to entertain this kind of behavior our next  story is my mother stated that my ex-girlfriend   that I was with for 2 years was just a product of  my imagination and on the same breath added that   she never loved my father for context and this  will be a long one sorry my mother and me and   well my siblings have a rocky relationship ship  she and my dad divorced when I was around 5 to   8 years old I don't remember exactly when divorce  was surprisingly smooth sailing we weren't called   to court from my understanding and from what my  grandparents from my mother's side told me my dad   was very cooperative and didn't want to tear that  family apart more than it was already he somewhat   succeeded because he even went to Christmas a few  times after the divorce even when both my mother   and my dad found new partners I adored both my  stepmom and stepdad I lived with both of them them   and they are great people I might be lucky because  34s of my parents are really great people that's a   weird sentence my dad even liked my stepdad which  is an interesting Dynamic but my mother uh there's   so much stuff here to unpack starting from my  earliest memories with my mom I hear screams   when she was arguing with my grandparents and  threatening that she'll end herself mainly about   opening her veins and throwing herself under the  train I remember those very strongly those did not   involve me yet nor my siblings because I'm the  oldest one later I started having problems at   school she was supposed to teach me even though I  lived with either my grandparents or my dad and I   dreaded those meetings she could have one minute  been a happy and loving mom and I think it was   genuine and a minute later screamed that I'm an  egotistical pig that will end up living under a   bridge and that'll end all of my family when the  divorce state was coming closer and closer she was   manipulating me to testify against my dad in court  because otherwise we me and my siblings will be   split she used this argument every time I pointed  out something I did not like in her behavior and   she was exploding with anger saying how she does  so much for me and my father does Jack crap like   it was a competition I grew up pretty lonely and  well I never really had any friends because I   didn't know how to talk with people but after I  turned 13 I met my first friend group it was at   an organized hiking trip that actually she found  out for me and paid for sometimes she was really   loving and caring it was like she had two sides  that she was switching between for seemingly no   reason at all I lost this friend group pretty  quickly I think I was acting similar to her and   they couldn't stand my fluctuating emotions I  was a mess but I kept going on those trips and   when I was 16 I've met my future girlfriend on  one of them she wasn't living in the same city   but was about 1 to 2 hours by train for mine  so it wasn't that big of a deal we were pretty   happy happy for a while I was regularly meeting  her in her City we even spent some vacations and   holidays together she never visited me because  of her family situation and honestly it was a   good excuse for me I didn't want her and my mother  to meet this girl had enough on her shoulders her   story is a post for another day but for this  one let's just State the most important parts   she had a really healthy family but sadly two  of her family members were terminally ill they   both died while Co was rampaging through the  country because of insufficient Medical Care   and I wasn't a great help for her more than  that I added her pain I was manipulating her   emotionally just like my mother was manipulating  me one day I crossed a line and threatened ending   life she cut me off and from hindsight it was a  good decision I was actively trying to get her   back I regret this moment of my life greatly but  time passes I went to therapy I started to build   actual healthy relationships fixed some things  with my dad my mother was never a great help but   whatever at this point I was living on my own to  be honest this whole debacle with my ex scarred   me I don't want to play a victim here because the  real victims in the situation was her it's just   that when I realized what I've done it terrified  me that I was just like my mother I'm struggling   with guilt till this day and to be honest I'm  not sure I can enter another relationship yet   one part of me knows that I've changed but the  other one does not believe it I don't want to   hurt anyone like my mother hurt me my sibling and  my dad for years I was doing everything to change   I was supporting my friend in every way I could  to at least do something good if I can't fix my   past mistakes I don't know if I succeed at this  but let's just say I'm not alone anymore but now   we're getting to recent events I actually did fall  in love again I was honestly surprised it's sadly   won't end in a relationship because of things both  of us do not have any way of altering but that's   true just life I started to heal though but when  I realized I can't be with her something broke   inside of me it was a long time since I really  felt that type of love so I did not know how to   react and I started crying I was actually in my  mother's house that night because it was a few   days before Christmas I think my stepdad realized  that something is wrong and came to support me and   my mom joined after a while firstly she completely  ignored my state and said that she's happy that I   finally found someone real and that I imagined my  ex she summarized all of this trauma and bad and   good memories to my imagination also added that  it's weird how many of my friends have emotional   problems girl I fell for had ending things attempt  the night before that was the final straw that   broke me then she added that I'll find another one  and that I should cry about this one I think it   was a way of showing empathy I don't really know  every time I was on the edge and needed her help   she was adding more weight to my shoulders and  I exploded I said to her that I never want her   to comfort me again that every time she does it  she just hurts me more she retaliated she again   started attacking my character like she always  does in situations like this she always calls me   egotistical and self-centered and then she started  talking about how I'm so similar to my father that   she never loved him that she only married him  because she thought he'll provide for her and   that she won't need to be worried about money and  that she was never happy with him it broke me I   never knew I thought they genuinely loved each  other at some point my father certainly did now   I'm scared that I'll actually end up in a similar  situation as my father used never loved or that   I'll be the one who will use others I'm scared I  don't want to be either I don't talk to my mother   since Christmas I just can't fake it anymore that  everything is okay between us it hurts so much   I think it's just a healthy thing in general for  op to go low contact with her I'm just curious if   she ever went to a professional to try to see if  there was anything going on with her because the   severe emotional fluctuations that go on sound to  me like there could be some kind of diagnosis made   problem is they have to want to actually find out  our next story is my mom gets mad if my boyfriend   gets me gifts I'm 21 and I've been longdistance  with my boyfriend for over a year now he is very   affectionate towards me and wants the best my mom  always hated me getting gifts since I was younger   if I got a gift from someone she'll take it away  or make them take it back it's embarrassing she   hasn't even met my boyfriend and refuses to  because she just doesn't like him makes no   sense so now I'm dating my boyfriend and he got me  smaller gifts which I would hide from my mom now   he's getting me a gift for Valentine's Day and  I'm really excited but it's getting shipped to   my house he said it's a small gesture and like  a stuffed animal or something so it's not bad   I'm still so scared how my mom is going to react  or if she'll try to take it I should be happy to   get gifts but my mom has caused me trauma and  now I hate receiving anything from anyone at   21 years old if they try to take anything from  you at this point that's when you call the cops   that's straight up stealing she doesn't have  any claim to that property our next story is   my mother spoke for me after I said I didn't  want to do it my brother was 10 years older   than me my parents were never home and when  they were they were drunk out of their minds   all all the time so basically my brother was in  charge he was physically abusive from the start   he would bite hard pinch later punch and slap  he would dunk me under the water when I was in   the bathroom he pushed me out of the Treehouse  when I was six broke three ribs in my arm said I   fell and my parents believed him he was a big guy  and my parents were still absent and drunk so it   lasted my whole teenage years too he started being  sexually abusive too those things made me really   ashamed so I I didn't tell by the time I was 18  I was really still am depressed and got an eating   disorder I tried to end things and ended up in a  py wward that's when I told everything he did my   father took his side but my mother actually took  mine and helped me while getting sober herself he   got jail time and ended up dying 2 days ago of  liver failure just know that it doesn't make me   happy even though I thought it would and now my  mother wanted me to forgive him to write down a   letter where I forgive him that I post that letter  on the internet for people to see and then read   it to him in front of his casket she says I have  to so he goes to heaven I don't know if I wanted   to do it so I asked for advice and got good ones  I think that the people who told me to not write   that letter were right as it would just be a lie  since I'm not ready to forgive him yet I was with   my mother my father and someone responsible of  the ceremony talking about the arrangement and   the service when I said I wouldn't speak I think  I chose the wrong moment to do that I should have   said it earlier or when my mother and I were alone  but I made up my mind when the man asked me when I   would like to speak well my mother asked me why I  wanted to destroy the family so much and my father   asked me if I knew I was going to heck too if I  didn't ask for forgiveness given sodomy is a sin   I left and decided to not attend the funeral at  all so for now I couch surf at a friend's house   today my mother sent me this I read a letter on  your behalf at the funeral I explained to the   people present that you did not feel able to come  I didn't say you were sorry about it because I   know you're not I didn't say that you forgave your  brother either for the wrongs he caused you I just   said you were sorry he couldn't get the help he  needed when he needed it people don't need to know   everything that happened between you they just  need to know that you were two troubled children   but today that's in the past all these words you  said to me when I accompanied you to therapy none   of them were lies and I hope the Gates of Heaven  are now open to him coming back home we will talk   about your sins and those of your father about  mine too it's not too late for you it's not too   late for us I really thought she was on my side  at first but I'm not sure what to think anymore   she may have been on op side in moments of great  need but definitely in this situation she chose   her needs and her desires well over op's they  had absolute blinders on they didn't hear op's   concerns they didn't care about op's feelings  they had one prerogative and one priority in   this situation and they did whatever they could to  try and Achieve that at the expense of op our next   story is Mom 58-year-old female wants to come  on vacation with me 28-year-old female and my   best friend my best friend moved abroad 5 years  ago and I haven't spent that much time with her   but somehow this year our work vacations have  coincided and I'm going to visit her in Dubai   for a week cannot wait mom wants to come not sure  why a mother would want to invite herself on her   daughter's vacation I would be embarrassed to do  that if I were her I want on on vacation with my   mom over the summer and also this winter just  gone so it's not like I'm being unreasonable by   not wanting her to come she doesn't have the guts  to travel Solo or even with friends only with me   she's like a toxic leech I went to Dubai 6 years  ago and she invited herself on the trip she ruined   the holiday because she was arguing the whole time  and complaining about where to go what restaurant   to eat in ETC honestly she's such a childish  narcissist at this point if you don't want   her to come along and you don't want her to invite  herself you just don't tell her about where you're   going or the specifics of the plans or really  tell her about the vacation in general and you   just kind of go tell her during that like downtime  before you get on the plane or something but with   that being said that's all the time we have for  today now if you want to hear another absolutely   crazy entitled parent story check out that video  on the left or if you missed my latest video check   out that video on the right that said I'll see  you all next time with some more more stories

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Published: Mon Feb 12 2024