Relationship Goals: Getting Back To The Basics | Steven Furtick & Michael Todd

what are you doing man i'm out here just trying to recover from all that has happened with this book relationship goes you got a number one book man god is so good we gotta um we gotta celebrate okay let's do it how are we gonna do this give the people something [Music] hold on me and you tag team preaching about relationship goals they're not ready for this pastor stephen because if this actually happens people are going to start winning in relationships warn them again one more time hey listen if you about to click on this and keep watching this this is going to change every relationship that you have right now i'm too hyped i'm about to go crazy at this current moment you preach i preach everybody buys the book relationship goals in this corner weighing in 185 pounds of anointing he hails from tulsa oklahoma oh you're the best-selling author of relationship goals pastor mike todd tag i'm in except i don't weigh 185 pounds thank you for the anointing [Music] let's go and i think that if we could ever start living by the principles of god we would avoid a lot of the problems of life i'ma say it again if we could ever start living by the principles of god we would avoid a lot of problems in life write down my first point right now the more principles you learn from the word of god the less you pray about what to do i'ma say it again because some of y'all like what did he just say he said you don't have to pray that much listen to what i just said the more principles you learn from the word of god the less you have to pray about what to do if you have a car made by a manufacturer whatever your car is a kia a honda a ford whatever your car is the car comes with the manual most of us have never read the manual can we be honest if you have read the manual to your car lift your hands right now and i see if you lie put your hands down tremaine you know you didn't read the manual okay most of us never read the manual so if something goes wrong with our vehicle most of us panic most of us if we start the car we start hearing a noise and then it slows down and the acceleration goes down we pull over to the side we start panicking oh no what's gonna happen and usually we call a mechanic because the panic leads to problems and so when we start panicking we then find problems and then we find a mechanic when the mechanic gets there he comes in he doesn't seem tense worried frustrated nothing he comes in he tries to start the car he listens to what's happening he then goes up and he opens up the hood he goes past all of the other things and goes straight to the problem and he's able to fix exactly what's wrong with the situation because he knows the principles of a car okay y'all are going to get this in a second you pay him 350 dollars why because you did not know how to fix it yourself you could have saved time and money and not had to pay for it if you knew the principles i'm talking about your relationships and you don't even know it you are paying so much in time and energy and hurt and frustration and you're losing purpose and losing your life because you're paying for something that you do not know the principles of oh i've already preached it and and many of you are depleted and i dare say overdrawn in your account because you're paying for not knowing the principles when i think about this you need to understand this principles simplify life when you understand the principle of a thing life becomes simple i want you to write that down principles simplify life prove it to you the car that most of us drive works on the principle of gasoline you know how to put gas in your car you know that principle so when your car goes on e don't nobody be praying about that because they know the principle they don't say oh god i'm on e father i just thank you right now that you would send a ram in the bush god i thank you father that you would make a way for the petrol to get into my tank god i need to call a phone a friend holy spirit who should i call diane diane i need you to touch and agree with me because right now i'm out of gas and i know that god can be a way where there is no way lord would you please bring a quick you don't do that because you understand the principle of gasoline so you don't have to pray about what you understand the principle of you don't have to pray about what you understand the principle of and so what ends up happening is if you run out of gas you'll find the nearest gas station you will put the gas in the car and you will pump it because you understand how the principle of a car is supposed to function that's the way it's supposed to be for all your relationships you're supposed to understand the principles of relationships so you don't have to pray about what you already know the principle of see how quiet it is because the truth is most of us have never read the manual about relationships most of us have never been taught the principles our parents didn't know how to do it so they didn't teach us about it pop culture acts like they know how to do it so they're the only ones stepping up and saying this is how it's supposed to be this is how it's supposed to be but they didn't make it so it's a it's one of those things where they're telling you how it's supposed to work but they have no guarantees in their life you ever got a product that wasn't made by the manufacturer so you get no guarantees with it and that's what's happening a lot of our relationships are broken because we're getting taught and they're given to us by somebody who didn't make them and when you didn't make a thing you can't guarantee it i feel that so what i'm trying to tell you right now whatever happens in your relationship you are supposed to know exactly what to do know what's wrong with it and how to fix it but the reason we can't is because we haven't read the manual the reason i'm trying to to to dig down on this and y'all i feel like a teacher today i i really want to take you through the word and build the value to why god is supposed to be the ones to define our relationship why our relationship with him is our ultimate relationship goal because out of that relationship all of our other relationships will be successful out of the relationship i have vertically with him everything i do down here will be able to win but what we've been trying to do is do a relationship down here and ask him to bless it when he wasn't the first relationship go for us i think that many relationships fail not because of a loss of love but because of a loss of focus that would be one of the reasons that a church fails as well while we're at it is that you lose your focus when you stop caring about what god cares about god will no longer back you in your endeavor and so sometimes what we call failure is really just broken focus it's the reason why the passion that exists in some parts of relationships when it's getting started tends to leak and you wonder where it went it wasn't necessarily that you lost the love you lost the focus it's very difficult to keep that first love focus in any relationship i think jesus is calling us back to focus if you'll notice the bread on the sandwich from the little uh passage that we just read both of them start with seeking seek first his kingdom ask and it will be given to you seek and you will find on both ends of this passage where jesus is speaking on several different subjects is this idea of focus especially in our culture i think the focus when it comes to our relationship tends to be a little broken when i say that it's broken i mean that it's misplaced and misleading sometimes we're so focused on falling in love that we are very uneducated about the process of staying in love talk to me anytime you want to and there's a there's a a romantic notion that is reinforced with every romantic comedy that the falling part is where the excitement is i was looking at an article getting ready for this series where the author said there's a reason that fairy tales end in marriage because nobody wants to see what happens next nobody wants to talk about the other half now watch this the first area you got to decide you got to decide your focus because you can always decide your focus you can't always decide about all the factors you can't always decide if somebody's going to stay with you or leave you you can't always decide if someone's going to ask you out you can't always decide if they're going to text you back but you can always decide your focus so is your focus number one on finding or becoming finding or becoming jesus said seek first the kingdom and the other stuff will move into position but if you seek first the other stuff then you will have no center of gravity for the stuff to revolve around so it's important that your focus is not i've been teaching this for years man i used to go around to youth camps and i would teach dating seminar and i would say you know it's not an original quote from me but i'll say it all the time because i think it's true happiness isn't finding the right person happiness is being the right person i'll take it further since your applause is so tepid if you find the right person and you are not the right person what do you think you're going to do to that poor right person no i'm not suggesting please i'm not suggesting that if you're not married or something like that is because you're not ready yet because that all we have to do to disprove that stupid theory is to look at some of the people who are married [Applause] so mary doesn't equal ready okay i could offer you many examples of that starting with myself but what i am saying is that it is important to god it's just important to god that you have the right people in your life but the only way you're going to have the right people in your life is if you will be the right person in your heart that's the only way you're that's that's the only way you're even going to attract them to begin with and that's the only thing you can control i can't always control whether this person comes into my life but i can control the kind of person that i am you know how you have little memories from your childhood that are so random that you wonder how they're still up there from all these years and you kind of wish you could delete them because honestly you need that space for more important things like your children's names and stuff that you forget sometimes but i have memory i don't know why i remember in sixth grade they gave us the berkeley county writing test i remember the prompt of the berkeley county writing test when i was in the sixth grade almost word for word pretend that you are on an adventure or uh they called it a journey with your friends and on this adventure or journey you fight you come across a valuable unusual object just describe the object a couple weeks later the teacher walked in with all of our writing tests and made an announcement she said i've never had this happen before in however many years of teaching but every single one of you failed the berkeley county writing test we laughed she said it's not a joke she said you wrote beautiful essays you went into great detail elaborating on the journey with your friends but that was not the writing prompt the writing prompt was not to describe the journey the writing prompt was to describe the object all of you wrote essays about walking through the woods with your friends some of you traveled across the seas with your friends some of you flew through space with your friends it was highly entertaining but none of you described the object the object of relationship the object of love is not that somebody else would complete you i'm sorry renee zellweger but you got it wrong your line was touching it just wasn't true jerry didn't complete you touch your neighbor say you can't complete me see we teach this stuff no wonder single people right there have their fists up ready to fight me when i want to preach about marriage because the way we preach and teach it we teach it like until you get married your life hasn't started i only got one question to ask you if that's true how can you worship jesus we worship a guy who stayed single till they killed him oh no i'm not saying you have to stay single be like jesus i'm a hypocrite to say that but i'm saying i'm saying if paul would have waited to fulfill his purpose until he had somebody to complete him we wouldn't have 23 percent of the new testament and we teach it wrong we teach it wrong we i've taught it wrong we we teach it wrong in in the book of genesis uh god's describing marriage you talk about adam and eve and he says that you know the man shall leave his father and mother and go be with his wife and it says that the two will become one let me tell you what it doesn't say it doesn't say the haves will become whole but yet we teach it and we treat it and we expect it like the haves are going to become whole but i found out if you go into a marriage half the two halves are going to make hell not whole [Music] it's great preaching pastor stephen that's very true pastor so what is your focus is it what you can control which is what god is doing in your life or is it finding you know you've got to find a woman then you got to find a ring then you got to find some money and you got to find a date to get married and a place to get married that everybody can come to that on the same day working out continents different continents people coming together from all these different places in the world and gotta find the dresses for the bridesmaids something that they'll all wear and won't complain about doesn't look good against their skin tone and you gotta find a house and find a job and finding finding finding finding finding finding finding finding do you see the pattern here but god said well all of that has its place if you will focus on becoming remember he said the two will become one that's the focus what are you becoming [Music] you

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Published: Fri May 01 2020