Quick Fixes to Improve Your Daygame

all right so this ask Todd to be is a little bit different because I know the source but I don't know the question the source of this question is a friend of a friend who's good at game but it's been out of the game a little bit and just kind of getting back into it and he has a sticking point that my friend is referring me to help him out with so let's see what his sticking point is let's see what is dealing with right now you said day game man such a conundrum it's like my vibe is off the second I open my mouth these girls cringing back off well about like 60% okay so a couple things here number one he's talking specifically about a game he's differentiating it from night game right and so when you're talking about like okay day game is different than night game or having trouble in day game oftentimes it means you're coming on a little too strong a little too hard right and night game mean to bring more high energy and to really get the girl's attention in day game you really don't have to do so much except in the context of a walking girl maybe walking fast maybe you do but in general in a more casual day game setting and cafe girl standing around girl at the grocery store you really don't have to do all that much to get our attention and in fact if you're trying too hard you can make you look needy it can make you look aggressive creepy those kind of things what you want to do in day game is to have a lot of confidence and faith that what you said is good and trust in it silence is even early on can be your friend to an extent or it not silences so much as pauses so a lot of guys if they get this idea that because they don't want the girl to leave because they want the set to hook that's a talk and talk and talk really really fast and keep the girls attention and all that does it makes you look needy on the other hand if you have nice pauses make good eye contact you say your points with finality like you believe in them that's actually what's gonna keep her there because the sub communication is good all right I'll talk about kind of when I was getting back into day game myself so I had a period where I was just like crushed with admin work I'd been out of the field for a little bit and I was very very rusty at one point so I went back out and I decided you add a game and the first half day was really really brutal I got it together after about half a day and my game just really skyrocketed again I got it kind of got it all back but that first half day what was happening as I was going in and I was delivering lines as lines and they were coming off a little robotic a little try hard and maybe even more to the point I didn't even have the attention for the first half of the first sentence I was getting a lot of what excuse me it didn't hear you or I'm just kind of like what like lost reactions and actually my one kind of sticking point fixed for myself was the phrase hey scuse me that's it hey excuse me and then from there I just pause take a moment take in you know the girls reaction and go from there and then maybe I'll deliver like a standard line like you look cute I wanted to meet you or maybe I'll go off of her reaction but the fact that I'm saying something I find out in fact that I'm pausing and the fact that I'm not committing to the line until she's I actually have her attention I'm not just like blindly gaming just a game I'm actually paying attention and engaging with the girl in front of me I made such a huge difference as an experienced guy who already has good instincts right as a beginner sometimes you're just nervous and I want you to just keep talking just do the best you can but once your experience guide what I really want you to do is trust yourself all right you've had success before you've had good interactions before and you probably are cooler than the girl right all you need is an experienced guy with the open is just to get into the conversation such that she's gonna engage with you and interact with you your personality is naturally going to come across all right so I don't want you if you're an advanced guy or even a high intermediate guy to be very try hard on the open and remember the only purpose of the open is to get you into the conversation and in fact there are two places in the conversation that are inherently needy the open and the close you want to take as much emphasis and as much like attention off of the open and closed and put as much attention on the parts of the interaction where you're being normal getting to know the girl and you can just be a chill high value guy as possible all right so my advice in a nutshell is trust yourself speak with finality allow some pauses breathe right if the girl just engages with you in a normal conversation you're gonna be fine as a high-value guy you don't have to like you know knock her sideways with the opener and make her like you know like what I like bend over for you right then and there all right have patience believe that the more time you spend with a girl the more she's going to like you alright that's it for that question I know I haven't posted one in a while but I'm going to be posting a lot more regularly so put your questions below and I'll be getting to exactly those [Music]

Channel: AskToddV

Views: 63,993

Keywords: daygame, open, opening, rejection, nightgame, night, game, day, energy, entitlement, girls, women, dating, girl, woman

Id: 4PhvsLLbXHY

Length: 4min 41sec (281 seconds)

Published: Fri Sep 28 2018