Neuroscientist: “I’ll Tell You What I Do!” Do THIS Every Morning to MAXIMIZE Manifestation! Dr. Doty

all of us are manifesting every day most of us do it very inefficiently because everybody sits and says I want X Y or Z or I wish for this to happen there are techniques you can use that can maximize the potential for you manifesting your intentions a best-selling author International speaker Professor Jim doy Dr James doy what a pleasure to have you the one and only great teacher Dr James Doty never forget the power each of you has when you walk in this world with love and not fear the universe doesn't give a about you because it has no to give there is not some external entity deciding your fate because you're a good or a bad guy yeah once you unleash this understanding of the power you have then you can do almost anything you just have to believe what would you say is something that we should think about first thing in the morning to set us up for a daily rhythm of manifesting now I'll tell you what I [Music] do welcome back everyone at the school of greatness very excited about our guest we have the inspiring James Dodie in the house doctor good to see you thanks for being here I am fascinated by this topic of manifestation and I'm even more fascinated when you bring neuros science research and studies that back the power of manifestation your new book mind magic the Neuroscience of manifestation and how it changes everything I'm very excited about because you kind of walk us through these different steps on the process of manifestation so first I wanted to ask you a question about the difference between the Law of Attraction and manifestation are they the same thing or are they different well if you look historically at the Law of Attraction it goes back to hermetics which is this group in the first or 2 Century ad and there was this belief in the mind and they use the terminology The Law of Attraction and of course then there's a guy I think his name was Phineas Quimby who uh uh then promoted this further and this was in the 18th century or so and then of course or 19th century and then we had uh who is it thinking Grow Rich Napoleon Hill yes and uh and sort of continued on that path uh so um it is this narrative that there is this Universal Power that uh when you want something if you whatever use the right message you will get it and uh and it's of course been embraced by the uh group who sort of promotes woow woo and pseudoscience and that's not to say there's not a kernel of truth but it's been surrounded by all sorts of uh other aspects that I think diminish the actual ual power of it so there is power in the Law of Attraction well you could say it's synonymous the manner in which it is used is synonymous with manifestation uh the question is I think more importantly all of us are manifesting every day right most of us do it very inefficiently right you know because everybody sits and says I want X Y or Z or I wish for this to happen I think there are Tech te you can use that can maximize the potential for you manifesting your intentions so learning how the brain works and how those techniques work maximize that uh so you go it's like an athlete as you well know you know if you've never been taught something you try it for the first time you sort of stumble through and yeah frankly most people stumble through life right and then as you practice it or you learn from people who you know have the knowledge then you uh perfect it and uh and then you understand the if you want to say the Neuroscience underpinings of it and how you make these what we call cognitive brain networks interact uh and then uh you've taken it from sort of well it might happen I thought about it to there's a high likelihood it will happen how I mean how people talk about the conscious mind and the subconscious mind what is at play when we start to think about things we want to manifest and actually actualizing them in the physical material world is it the conscious mind or the subconscious mind that is driving this manifestation process well that's an excellent question so the key is how do you get information which sticks into your subconscious so just saying I want this it may or may not work because again we're also distracted by all sorts of stuff you know as an example we have about 10 million bits of information coming in through our sensory organs every second 10 million million yes and we're only able to process on a conscious level 50 to 100 okay so now most of that goes to maintaining homeostasis or functioning of our body systems on an unconscious level but uh we have actually access to our subconscious level and you can learn that through different techniques and then utilize those to maximize the input and so when I say you have 50 to 100 bits you can use part of that to consciously embed your intention if you know how to do that interesting wow okay and as a you know as a brain surgeon and a neuroscientist yourself what did you learn through working on physical brains the matter as well as Neuroscience in terms of I guess creating this for your life a more harmonious Abundant Life studying both the brain and the mind well uh in some ways I I mean being a neurosurgeon is a physical task and it's not as if there are little signs on the brain that tell you where everything is now certainly we know from Anatomy generally where things are but you have to remember I mean there's a subset of people who you know we talk about our speech center being on the left side but there's a subset of people that's on the right side really yes how do you know that you don't unless there's something that interferes with it or you specifically test for it so in general the anatomy is pretty consistent but you know it's like looking at somebody you know you're tall there's a short person and that's the way the brain works not everyone is wired the same way or uh has everything in the exact spot and in fact as an example let's say you play the violin the homunculus which is uh both the sensory and motor area that uh has uh different representations of body parts if you're a violinist the area associated with your hand or hands get dramatically increased in size compared to other uh uh parts of your brain interesting and in fact the same is true with uh certain types of meditation practices right so you can have a profound effect on your brain uh physical brain uh and certainly uh you have power over your mind and in some ways that's what we're talking about is and this goes back you mentioned the Law of Attraction you know uh all is in the mind and uh I think in fact some of the things you talk about you understand that when you are disciplined and can get access you can make things happen yes and whether it's a physical challenge or mental challenge uh but you have to uh understand how to get access so how do we get access I'm not going to tell you until you buy the book exactly well one of the things you talk about in the book is this phenomenon of vibration and you know it's interesting because there's brain wavs but there's also heart energy or vibration as well and I think you mentioned about how the heart vibration is actually I don't know t 50 times more powerful than the brain waves I think correct yeah actually you can measure the uh vibrational energy from the heart at five or six feet away and you know this is where it gets confusing between the woowoo and the reality because a lot of people will wrap all sorts of other baggage onto that uh but it's true and the interesting thing about that though is and I'm sure you appreciated it you can meet people who have an energy about them and a presence about them and it makes you feel good yeah and typically these are people who are non-judgmental accepting open uh and uh respect who you are as a person they don't look down and at you and you want to be around those people and those people emit this very positive energy that's interesting yeah and uh and so it's interesting also because as an example if you have a group of women who live together over a period of months their menstrual cycles will match really yes why is that well it's the nature of this vibrational energy and I talked about it in the book and in fact if you took a metronome like had five or six metronomes lined up and watched them and they're on the same table vibrating uh they will all get in sync over a period of time and so this idea of vibration has actually an influence on things on other things on yeah uhhuh so if I'm acting chaotic and I'm constantly in the state of chaos if I'm around someone else I may influence them to create that type of vibration as well or vice versa they might influence me if they're calmer for me to get calm yes yes absolutely and in fact which one wins uh that's a good question I mean it uh it depends on how powerful that energy is and that energy can be very powerful negative or or positive and and of course I think you would agree most people try to avoid being around negative people of course you know there's a saying that what do they call them energy eaters I think you know you're around them it's like uh in fact I got called by uh a woman the other day and I just dread getting a call from her ever because it always turns into a drama about her and you sit there and it's just over and over again and it's sad because um and we can talk about this more All of Us carry baggage from our child hoods right yes and until you are aware that the baggage you carry has an influence on every decision you make every relationship you have uh you can't change as an example I'm sure you've seen situations uh where individuals repeatedly pick an abusive partner yes over and over again and think I don't understand why this happens to me because you have created that energy that allows that to happen and I'm not blaming I'm just saying that uh this is truth so if you never understood as an example that while when I was a kid I had an abusive father and uh you know he would be mean to me or hurt me the problem is you know that becomes familiar to you and even though it's painful and hurts you it is something that's associated with a love figure interesting and and it's it's really very uh sad actually I mean how I mean a lot of our programming and conditioning sounds like it is wired in us at a very young age and we have been conditioned by 7 8 9 10 to have a set of beliefs way of thinking and a way of feeling around our environment and relationships and then we live with it for 10 20 30 years until we start to become aware of it hopefully sooner but we kind of repeat these patterns until there's a breakdown or there's a sadness or a breakup or something thing that gets us to wake up how hard is it to change our belief systems that have been wired in us for decades well it's very hard I mean you see it every day you see uh people who uh become uh addicted to alcohol and drugs and you know it's not because they want to live that life it's because they're in such pain from the baggage they carry and they have no way out that's the coping mechanism yes Rel yes uh and so it's very sad uh as you pointed out until there is a profound painful event that gets their attention many of them won't change is it possible for people to change if they don't go through some type of painful dramatic event well you know there's a saying the teacher comes when the student ready if the student's not ready uh it's hard to change now don't get me wrong uh you know there's certainly instances where somebody like wakes up one day and they go I don't like this you know I feel horrible at you know I just ruined this relationship I need to have a an internal assessment of myself and talk to some people and to give me Insight yes you can do that uh but it's hard and even for me uh as an example as a child I learned a sort of a manifestation technique from a woman in a magic shop and this is actually about my first book which is called into the magic shop at neurosurgeons quest to cover the mysteries of the brain and the secrets of the heart and that story is about my own childhood growing up in poverty with an alcoholic father and a mother who had had a stroke when I was a child wow uh was partially paralyzed I had a seizure disorder and chronically depressed and attempted suicide multiple times and we were on public assistance well you know you can imagine overcoming that baggage is very very hard and uh uh uh but this is also an example of how one person can intervene and change somebody's life and so what happened was I had an interest in Magic and uh and thus the actually the name of this book is my magic uh and it ended up when my parents would some event would happen which was traumatic I would get on my bicycle and ride as far and as fast away as I could and uh I ended up at a strip mall and there's a magic shop there and I walked in and there was a woman there who was as I described this radiant person with this incredible smile whose very presence embraced when I was 12 wow and I was filled with despair hopelessness and uh it turned out she was the owner's mother she knew nothing about magic really yes but we began a conversation and uh uh and she was giving me chocolate chip cookies which was great exactly what you needed at that time but the thing is she asked me actually some personal questions which frankly you know who wants to tell somebody you're poor you're father's now but I answered her questions and after a while she said to me she said you know I really like you I think I can teach you something that could really help you and what she taught me was what we would Now call a mindfulness practice because as you know uh talking about baggage when you grow up in a unpredictable chaotic environment you're essentially in a war zone every day yes as a result it chronically stimulates your sympathetic nervous system or your flight fight or fear response and what happens is that affects your brain in the sense that it cuts down options because you're looking at the shortest distance you have to go to survive as a result you can never relax you're always fidgety you're always looking around because you never know what's going to happen next so she taught me a uh technique of would call A body survey now how to relax your body and then she taught me how to concentrate in this case by looking at a candle and doing a breathing exercise and these are the fundamental techniques associated with a mindfulness practice because then it shifts you from engagement of your sympathetic nervous system to engagement of your parasympathetic nervous system which is really where we should live you're you're open you're thoughtful you have access to your executive control areas in the brain in terms of mem and experience and you're much more creative and so when you're able to make that shift that changes how you look at the world the other problem is from these types of backgrounds but I would say essentially everyone we have a negative dialogue going on in our head an inner critic yes and as much as you know people say you know I always ask this question when I give a talk and you know almost everybody raises their hand and then this I'm don't you go look dude you're lying man everybody has an inner critic it's just some are much more powerful uh than others and uh so she also taught me to recognize that that wasn't truth the inner critic yes because if you and being an athlete I'm sure you know uh if you tell yourself it's not possible by definition it is not possible it cannot happen and so when people listen to that they're giving their self agency away and in some ways uh this is the nature of how we take control of our manifestation uh and as you know from the first sentence in the book it says the universe doesn't give a about you because it has no to give there is not some external entity deciding your fate because you're a good or a bad guy but we have immense power within us to control our destiny and when you give it away and listen to that critic then you're limiting your beliefs so the key is how do you uh unlimit your beliefs if you will and that is understanding the incredible power you have within yourself when you sit there and say every day I'm not worthy I don't deserve love it's not possible I'm an impostor I can't do it it's as if you're building a prison for yourself with bricks wow and the wall gets higher and it gets darker and you feel more and more powerless and you feel like there's some external Force control in your life when you understand with in you is an incredible power to change your destiny and you have that power and finally you recognize it then extraordinary things can happen and this is how you go from you being in charge or let's say a belief that others are in charge to actually you being in charge but how did I mean how did you learn to break free of the limiting beliefs that you had the fight ORF flight symptoms that you were constantly in which I felt as a kid as well uh involved very insecure stupid and unlovable for many different reasons and I was able to back it with beliefs and evidence throughout my childhood how did you learn to break the limiting beliefs and and create more empowering beliefs to support you to feel emotionally free and start to attract more of what you wanted in your life well first of all I don't want to imply that that Journey's done yeah you know sometimes people look at you and like oh man you have it all together now you'd none of us have it altoe right every one of us is still a frail fragile human being who is struggling and uh uh some of us are a little further on that Journey others are continuing to have difficulty but uh interacting with this woman made me see the world to a different lens because when you have negative statements that you tell yourself repeatedly as I said that takes away your agency yes your own power you feel powerless yes and and but the thing is then when you're beating up yourself and you're typically the most critical person of yourself than anyone you know then you look through the lens of being critical to everyone else interesting so when we are critical of ourselves does that support us in creating great relationships with others no often times it's very damaging because you're always thinking of oh well they're going to cheat on me they're going to lie because you're tell telling yourself these types of narratives and so uh it's hard to be authentic when you're critical of s yes yes and and this goes back to a whole another discussion if you will about if you look at the blue zones as an example obviously we're jumping around all over the place here but L Lind is right down the street an hour way one of the blue zones yes of course uh but if you look at uh the blue zones or you look at the work of uh the Harvard longevity or adult development study it's called but this is the work of Robert waldinger centuries ago when we lived in villages um we were born there uh we had a community that even with our flaws still loved us watched out for us and taught us lessons we had our parents our siblings our grandparents in proximity to us and the Very nature of that actually uh you don't have that negative dialogue going on okay it is a negative dialogue that's extraordinarily unhealthy uh because you see when you're always stressed and anxious and negative towards yourself well what does this do this stimulates your sympathetic nervous system which then does what it results in the production of uh inflammatory proteins which of course are associated with chronic disease States it depresses your immune system uh it increases the levels of stress hormones like cortisol which on a chronic basis are very bad for you your cardiac function's impaired your blood pressure is increased so all these negative aspects are activated when you're constantly hypercritical wow right and then you don't feel that good right you feel tired you feel exhausted draining and the other aspect is as an example with my own parents I used to have a sense that it wasn't that I wasn't loved but I was ignored uh I couldn't understand why they would do these actions and I was angry all the time and when I changed how I looked at the world it made me much more sympathetic and kind because I realized everyone is suffering on some level and the issue wasn't that they didn't care the issue was they had not had tools to help themselves to heal to process to regulate exactly and so you know I'm sure you've known people you watch them go through their lives and they constantly struggle because no one has ever shown them a different way and that's the only way and sometimes I think you're probably thinking yes I've show them a thousand times they don't listen they're not willing yeah they've got to be willing to apply right back to the question of the teacher if they're if they're ready to yeah yes yes yes but the reason I was saying that though is that uh in many ways sets the stage for how you're going to respond so this interaction with this woman I was able to self-regulate I you skills yes she taught me a mindfulness practice you were ready for it exactly and so I realized once I was able to relax once I was able to be present and attend because you can't learn anything or change if your mind's always somewhere right in my example of growing up you know I never knew it was going to happen so I'm always worried about something happening to me but the action is here between you and I it's not about possibilities and this also limits people's power right because you if you can't can't focus and attend you can't accomplish right and if you're always distracted it's it's not possible so she taught me to relax she taught me to be present and uh and then strange things happen because you're feeling a different type of energy coming from others and yourself and that energy has an influence as an example um I'm sure that you've seen the situation uh and where you get a bad vibe from somebody on the street and you cross the street yeah yeah yeah well and and you are picking up something on an intuitive level but the thing is if you have anger and hostility yourself you are imitating that to other people and what I tell people is when I changed how I looked at myself it changed how I looked at the world and it that changed how the world reacted to me how then how the world looked at you as well exactly so after this period of time with this woman I was much more open I was thoughtful I was generous I was kind and I because I understood I had been in pain and was in pain but so were other people so it it changed how I looked at them wow and I think that's a very critical uh aspect of sort of uh maturing uh and sort of uh being on a path of uh self-development that's beautiful what would you say then is the what is the the number one thought and number one emotion that blocks us from the ability to manifest greater fear what type of fear well it's insecurity it's shame and uh it's this results in you li limiting your beliefs and so in some ways what we're talking about here actually is a decision between fear and love mhm right and when you're fearful this stimulates your sympathetic nervous system with all the negative aspects of it when you love you're open you're generous you're thoughtful you're kind because you've engaged the parasympathetic nervous system and you have a choice this is like if you look at sto philosophers like somebody like epic tetus who was a slave he says I cannot control my external environment what I can't control is how I react to my environment right so you meet people I'm sure say my life's miserable my life's horrible while the you're meet other people go well it's tough right now but I'm you know optimistic it's going to get better or I know if I do this it's going to get better these are completely oppositional attitudes that have a profound profound effect depending on what you're believing yes but how does someone shift their attitude into positive when they're in a suffering State and they feel like they're victim to so many different things happening to them sure well I can't sit here and say you do this and your life's going to be perfect there's some situations either because of as an example structural racism that's built into the system uh or chronic poverty because uh throughout the world and even in America the ability to overcome poverty uh for most it's highly unlikely that's going to happen MH so yes you do have power but it's not necessarily I'm going to change it and everything's going to be perfect for me and I'm sure things are not perfect for you right yeah and no matter how much you try or want well externally things may look fantastic it's not perfect and it's not the way you necessarily want and and I I have to say the same thing but there are people who yeah uh no matter how hard they're going to work it's going to be very challenging that being said what we do know is there's certain practices and rules and if you are going to get out of something or if you are going to change things then the best way to do that which has the highest likelihood of success is to go through some of the things that we're talking about here and one of those is that as an example there is a tendency for for us to want to achieve right and if you're an athlete you have a goal you set there well goals and are fine but if you focus only on the goal and have no concern about any of the other things that are going on the process yeah yeah then you reach the goal and there's nothing there yeah yet what we do know the greatest cause of suffering is what it's a attachment and craving desires yeah yeah and and the thing is when that is your absolute focus and we can all get these things you're going to be highly disappointed and you've ignored all the people in your life as you focus solely on that and uh uh and unfortunately many people learn that lesson far long after they've destroyed their families they've been through multiple marriages their kids don't like them right cu they've been chasing a result or a goal or a dream but neglecting everything else yeah because again uh as I was saying even about myself I thought well if I just do this you know I my shame and insecurity will go away uh I'll be loved by everybody and my life will be perfect yet at every one of those Peaks all I had was disappointment and while everyone told me life was great I did not feel that inside because I had not understood that I was the only one who had the key to self-created prison and Until you realize that you're on a very difficult path so if we're coming from a place of insecurity fear or lack and we're saying you know what I want to manifest I want to create more for myself I want to have more money I want to have more opportunities accomplishments success and that's what I want I desire these things and I start to apply some of the the practices of manifesting and creating more abundance in my life but if I create those external results and I haven't shifted the insecurities of the shame what happens next well you end up the way I did which is you have everything and you're incredibly unhappy yeah so you can still manifest and attract what you want and create what you want and accomplish goals but it's not going to make you feel different about yourself your am it makes you actually make you feel worse exactly and and and this is why I was telling you about the story about the woman because I was 12 and she she taught me a visualization technique or manifestation technique which is actually the origin of where this book came from so at 12 she said I want you to write down 10 things that you want well again unfortunately in Western capitalist society and a 12-year-old you sit there and think of what people want in that I want money I want cars I want girls I want well yeah I wanted a Rolex watch yeah yeah yeah because a Fred's father had one and it looked so amazing to me right I wanted a silver Porsche taret I wanted a uh a mansion overlooking the ocean uh etc etc at 12 yes yeah yeah yeah and I wanted a million dollars which nowadays are probably about a 100 million but anyway uh uh and I got absolutely every one of those things and I was more miserable than I had ever been really and the interesting thing about that is that and this is in some ways the point of this book because again the average person thinks they know what they want they don't understand what they need and that's the critical aspect here what's the difference between knowing what we want and having what we need so as you know there's what we call honic happiness so the list I just gave you relates to pleasure and honic happiness I want it will make me feel good about myself I I I that is the worst thing you can do if you want to manifest the best really yes when you make it about self yes because in some ways you're talking about insecurity the driver of that is insecurity fear right and not enough and not enough and and especially poor people look to the lens of not enough and so when you're acting by a belief in based on fear that has a negative effect on these cognitive brain networks now it doesn't mean it's not possible it just means that uh uh you're limiting yourself and so we talk about this idea of honic or selfish happiness and this is transitory it's shallow doesn't last long right UD demonic happiness is a sense of uh purpose and uh that actually is in terms of benefiting others it's not about yourself and the key to that though is that when you look through the lens and we're talking about looking through the lens of compassion what happens is that you then change how you see the world and what you need not what you want interesting right you see and that changes everything because you you realize when you're of service when you're caring for others you don't necessarily need the having that big house or the Porsche isn't going to make you whole right and so you probably don't chase that anymore because it's it's it's a chimera that you're focused on because you think it's going to help get rid of the shame and The Emptiness right you see so it's a different mindset so when you shift to the parasympathetic nervous system that activates all of your brain networks and allows them to sink together if you will and then uh has the highest likelihood of manifesting interesting so what I'm hearing you say and correct me if I'm wrong when we come from a place of lack and wanting more for personal gain by itself it's not going to bring us the ultimate level of Happiness versus when we come from a place of wanting to create more to serve or impact others in some way that is connected to a purpose a greater purpose we will have more fulfillment and hopefully manifest exactly what we need exactly that's exactly right and that summarizes it that is the fundamental key here and I can tell you you know for myself as I said I did get everything I wanted and I was miserable and then I went through this period where I'd been uh very successful in business and uh uh during thec period And I had $80 million or so and then the crash came I was $3 million in debt but I had been miserably unhappy anyway with 80 million or negative3 million yeah well uh there was not much difference actually uh uh when you had 80 million of I guess net worth uh in the banker on paper how did that make you feel did you feel any better about your selfworth no really no not a bit not even for like a moment like oh I've got money now I did this thing and look I proved all you wrong and yeah but I yes I proved them all wrong but it did nothing for me and that's my point is you know I well let me back up a little bit did I enjoy driving Ferraris yes did I enjoy Porsches yes did I enjoy having a villa uh uh in in Florence yes but that being said I was missing so much that it limited how good I felt about any of it because uh you know having friends who tell you how great you are unless you believe it it doesn't mean anything wow and you know I I didn't believe it uh and uh so when thec period came I lost all this money and I had to sell everything so I went through this period of deep reflection and the part of it was what had I missed in what this woman was trying to teach me and obviously I was 12 and I had no self-awareness uh uh but the other thing that happened is even though I was a doctor helping people my actions though were based on I want people to see I'm a doctor right status yes stat look at me like yeah I'm the doctor I live in this Mansion overlooking the ocean I have all of these cars I come into the hospital and everyone Praises me right and that was out of my own insecurity and anxiety and fear when I went through this period of self-reflection I really understood that and then it changed right because it was no longer about me it was about other people and as an example there's uh I mentioned Jim Carrey I love that part about this yeah I love the story of the $10 million check and whole thing right but what he said with his audience was you know when he started it was all about his own ego being involved yes and then he realized though he was there for a purpose to be of service to the people yeah and in fact uh Jimmy pagee with Led Zeppelin I don't know if you ever heard the story you know he used to get really angry because he'd always be asked to play Stairway to Heaven and he said it used to make me boil over because I had new music I did all of this but everyone wanted to listen The Stairway to Heaven and he said then I realized it's not about me right it's about serving others yes what they want yes and they had grown up with this they had a emotional attachment to it because it represented events in their lives that were positive and they just wanted to experience that and so he was being very selfish by looking through that same lens and again this is what we get into so when you change how you look at the world it changes everything and again this is a choice that each of us can make wow as a you know as someone who's been a doctor a neuroscientist neurosurgeon for many years researching this work for a long time what is the biggest challenge you face at this season of your life when it comes to manifesting that you still have yet to overcome or are overcoming well one of the things I learned is not to have attachment yeah to what to anything and I I and and look it's not perfect but my point is and yes if you'd say well what about your child or your wife and something yes but that being said the nature of life is disappointments often times and um we cause our own suffering by having these attachments right and uh uh so do I like nice cars and yeah I drive a Porsche luxuries and and I've worked very hard I've given immense amounts to other people I have no bad feeling about those things but what I can tell you is if all of it goes away tomorrow it will have no impact on my mental state wow and that is the key because you see Freedom yes that's exactly right because if you grow up in poverty what is the thing that bind you or hold you or imprisons you money okay so when I lost everything and then I had this choice of this stock that I could give away to charity or not I chose to give it away which was $30 million but giving it away Li ated me I just didn't care anymore it no longer imprisoned me you see and that is a level you know it takes time and work to get to yeah uh and you know many people my wife said when I gave all that she said I don't there was an article in Wall Street Journal she goes I don't mind him giving money away I just wish he hadn't given it all now I'm curious when you know is it a bad thing for people to want to have material possessions a nice car a nice home uh you know a million dollars in their bank account or nice clothes is that a bad thing when they're thinking of manifesting because it's about them well uh if that if everything is about you and your narrative is always about you I think you're going to live an unhappy uh life right because you have no purpose or meaning right right I mean uh yes is it cool to walk around a designer clothes and go to parties and hang out with the whatever yeah sure there's nothing wrong with that but when every action in your life is a selfish action towards your needs then it's a hollow existence as an example I I know people of course they can't attach to a woman they have to have the next beautiful woman right and they you know and their whole thing is being seen with the beautiful woman it's not about I care about this person I really like her she's really special it's you know does she have the attributes that make me look good okay or it's you know God I can't go to this event in that car of mine I need to be in a Ferrari so people look at me right and that is a hollow very selfish existence now I'm sure there are people who are listening go I'm not that way well you are that way right sure and so you're saying you can have it though but as long as you're also in have meaning or purpose surrounding your life as well otherwise it'll be Hollow if you just want the material home or a bigger bigger bigger thing yeah but you can still have it of course absolutely I have it I have no complaints and I work hard and I have no guilt about that whatsoever but I still do tons of actions that are benefit to a larger uh goal or Mission or to a larger purpose outside of myself you you talk about these networks and vibrations you you mentioned this the the physiology of manifesting I'm curious is it more important to be thinking a certain intention or certain ideas or beliefs feeling a certain emotions or physically in a vibration total body to help you manifest well certainly if you can bring it all together I mean that's the ideal but uh uh I think one is again we've talked about limited belief yes you have to uh understand what causes you to limit your belief and it in some ways it comes down to self-compassion when you're kind to yourself then that changes your own physiology it shifts you from the fear Network and critical Network into compassion right yes exactly and so I think that's an important aspect and uh again as an example I talk about these different networks there's the default mode Network there's the salience network the attention Network and the executive control Network now the reason I mentioned these is the executive control Network actually gets things done if you want to put it that way but if you're driven by fear and anxiety and insecurity then that limits its ability to do so because you don't have full access because that's where you have productivity and creativity full access to what your entire your memories and past experiences this is what the executive control Network contains and it's shut down when you're fear fearful or anxious and so that's one aspect and then uh you know the other aspect we talk about embeding your intentions you know you have to make that thing you want Salient what does that mean it means uh it has to be something that touches you that you really feel like it's there with you and you want it and the reason I bring that up is because salience uh is it activates if you want to call it a blood hound within your head where it looks around for opportunities for you to manifest I'll give you an example talking about blood hound or you're talking about something else uh not they it search for things right get a scent right uh you know that's what they do for rescue missions right exactly uh so what I mean by that is that if you're able to embed your intention that activates the salience network which is The Blood Hound and the analogy is as follows I'm sure you have been to parties and they're loud and your name will be mentioned and you'll immediately turn even though it's in loud you're like where where is this yeah but that's because your identity is deeply embedded within you right interesting yes so so when you do this in terms of an intention and I'll give a recent example uh I'm working on a new project and I was at a coffee shop and again loud everybody talking but I heard somebody specifically talk about the project type of the thing I'm doing uhhuh so I got up and introduced myself we connected and that's how it works because it creates these synchronicities because it's always turned on listening for opportunities how it can make your intention happen and another example is as a neurosurgeon you know I would see patients uh as an example let's say somebody with hydris right and most people don't know about that and they go oh my god I've never heard of that before is that rare well it's not that rare and obviously if you've seen a neurosurgeon it's not rare to us but but what will happen is I'll see them in a few months and they'll come back like the most amazing thing happen I've run into five people with the exact same thing right right right because have embedded that interesting uh and so they're attuned to it and suddenly it's like it's everywhere sudden you know yeah you you talk about synchronicities in the book how important is finding and looking for synchronicities when it comes to manifesting well I think if you do it correctly they naturally occur over and over again and you may think they're shocking and how did that happen but that's because you have made made your intention Salient it has grasped your tension Network and it is solely focused on having that happen and once that process occurs then you engage your executive control Network to actually then respond to it interesting so you set your intention for what you want to create or desire and then your attention starts to focus on that in the world in your environment and you start to see where the synchronicities line up and then you mentioned this thing called the filing clerk right yes yes exactly and that relates in some ways first of all one of the process which we talked about you know having the ability on a conscious level to embed your intention that is to um we call it value tag right uhhuh which makes it important rather than intention yes yes and so once you value tag that that becomes important and your subconscious and then the network start working together to look for it yes now what I will emphasize and I don't want to you know completely poo poo every article that's been written about manifesting you know I mentioned the issues I have with the secret or other these self-serving narratives but the reality is we know that uh what fire uh what wires together fir together yes and my point about that is number one you have to work this isn't like Oh I thought of it therefore it should happen it's like anything and we talked about it earlier uh you know there's everybody's manifesting every day they just do it very inefficiently right so when you do it efficiently uh all of these things you know come together to have it happen this is why uh as an example what this woman in the magic shop did and this was before you know uh these ideas sort of were out there she made me write my list of things I wanted to manifest down because again when you use every sensory organ then again you're engaging all of these different things that go into your subconscious so you write it down you read it silently you read it aloud you look at it you visualize and this is what athletes do they visualize how it's going to play out they see themselves in that role and the more and more you do that the stronger that wiring gets in your brain and therefore that increases the chance uh of it happening interesting so she taught you this you wrote it down and you started doing these processes oh I would really do this like tens of maybe hundreds of times a day wow over and over and over again but it took you a while until you were able from 12 until you were able to get you know a million dollars in the bank in the Mansion the Ferrari it didn't happen in four years I'm assuming I mean it probably took 15 or 20 years well sure but there was a whole process right because first of all I had decided to be a doctor in fourth grade right right and this was based on a a a professions day where a doctor came to our class and I was so impressed by this person that that second I decided to be a doctor because he was kind he was thoughtful he answered my question he appeared interested in what I had to say and uh uh so saying if you're poor and you don't have resources saying I'm going to be a doctor is easier said than done sure and in fact I did have challenges but I'll tell you a couple stories though that tells you how the system works even though you haven't done all the typical things to make it work okay and so uh I'll tell you how I got into medical school and how I got into college I was so clueless about college even though I said I was going to go to college I was in a science class and there was a girl sitting next to me and she was filling out her college application I had no clue about that that you had to apply or yeah I was sort of waiting I it was supposed to happen sure sure so uh uh I looked at this girl I asked her what she's doing she said well I'm applying to college and this is the application I said really and she looks at me she said yeah and uh I said well where are you applying to and she said you see Irvine and she looked at me and she said said where are you applied I said do you see her yeah yeah yeah I haven't got my application yet she said I have an extra one wow there you go and then yeah and I filled that out and you know I I got in uh uh but isn't that interesting before you go on there because you know you were given the opportunity that you you saw that was in front of you you didn't think Beyond other schools you saw something you didn't know another process said yeah I'm going to go there as well and she said here's the application you filled it out you got in and you went there right yeah no and and that's my point is it was in there I didn't know how it was going to play out but it played out and it certainly wasn't the typical way yeah yeah exactly so then what happened is you know I had a lot of struggles I had to leave College multiple times as an example to get my father out of jail or to deal with my mother who attempted suicide which are not pleasant things go through and so when I applied to medic School the average GPA to get in a medical school was 3.79 at that time which as you know out of four that's like an A minus yeah sure my GPA then was 2.53 and I was not you me both let's go yeah and I was not going to graduate from college right and so I went to the Premed and and of course as you know when you have all these quote unquote friends and you say I want to be a doctor and you know many of my friends were Premed and they were the type of pre Mets who had 3.7 sure sure and you know I it was very hurtful because he said you're never going to be a doctor that GPA what a joke right which you know this is your dream right it's painful so anyway I went to we used to have to or you used to have to have an interview with the Premed committee so you had to go get an appointment and then they would write a letter of recommendation for you so I went to the office I asked the secretary I said I want to make an appointment for my uh pre met L yes she looked at me said uh I'm not going to give you an appointment I said well why you know she' pulled out my fou she said because it's a waste of everyone's time oh man now can you imagine a human bead telling you that you're a waste of their time I mean how hurtful very but I looked at the woman and I said you know I appreciate what you're saying but I said I am not leaving here until you give me that appointment wow I said if you want to call security that's fine but I am not leaving so she did but imagine um so it comes time for my appointment now uh do you remember these photos we've seen a Putin sitting at one end of a table he's by himself there yes so I go into this room and I'm at one end of this long table and I'm what 20 years old maybe and then there are these three people at the other end of the table and uh uh the guy in the middle he has my file and he looks at me he says he takes file lifts up three throws it on the table and he says say what you have to say so we can get this over with really oh yeah oh my goodness and you you sit there and you know how intimidating and what a jerk right so what happened is I looked at the guy I said I am not going to let you uh turn me into a grade point average I'm a human being wow so I proceeded to lecture them for about 20 minutes oh my goodness they were all CR at the because once you show your Humanity they can't turn away from you they can't objectify you if you're right there in front of them and force them to look at you wow and so what happened is they ended up actually giving me the highest leg recommendation wow and uh as I was leaving that secretary actually was in the room she said listen I want you to take this and it was a trifold uh brochure for a enrichment program at tane University in New Orleans for socioeconomically disadvantaged students and minority students and she looked at me and she said you know I have to tell you something though the deadline has passed but I don't think that will impact you wow right right right so I called the lady and she let me into the program uh and I applied to one medical school and got into one Medical School wow and I didn't have a degree wow now to show you though the importance of this is that um after Hurricane Katrina the dean of the medical school uh went into depression and resigned okay and so they were looking for a new Dean at two lane at two lane and they had a guy from Harvard but he wanted an endowed chair and I don't know if you're familiar with an endowed chair so an endowed chair is a private donor donates a lot of money and it is chair named after that person it's one of the highest honors in academic medicine okay or in in the university and the the that money is is made into an endowment so then the professor then gets to use it for whatever they want so it's a very prestigious thing so I actually ended up endowing the dean's chair you know fast forward many years right wow yeah which was several million dollars interesting so still at Tulane the dean of the medical school is the doie Prof Professor wow I rebuilt the library after her Katrina and so the point of the story is no one has the ability to tell you what you can and cannot do and in theory by every quote criteria I should never have gotten into medical school right yet I'm one of the largest donors to the medical school and in fact they're actually uh building a doie center for compassion and Medicine uh at tle that's cool yeah so when we think that things are impossible when we think that it can't happen or I don't have the criteria that is usually don't ever believe anything anyone tells you if I believed what so many people told me was not possible for me to do I would never have accomplished anything and again it gets back to this limiting your beliefs once you unleash this understanding of the power you have then you can do almost anything yes you just have to believe absolutely I love this story because you know you mentioned don't let anyone tell you what you can and can do I guess the the the challenge is so many people do believe what others say about them you know they do receive the CR criticism or the limits that others talk about and a lot of people hold on to those conversations and and believe them as truth and I the thing is I feel like there's only one person like you said that can agree with the limits or disagree with those limits and that is ourselves and at the same time you know everyone can tell you you have all the skills all the tools all the potential all the ability to do something great great but if you don't believe it it's not going to matter as much even if everyone in the world has said we believe in you you're incredible if we are limiting ourselves from receiving those words and receiving that understanding and identity we won't accomplish what we won't or we won't create the lives we want so how do we overcome ourselves uh from the conversations and the critics in our own mind and also the conversations from others whether they're positive or negative how do we overcome it and believe we are capable well first off I I would say that a lot of people you'll hear let's say a statement I made and they'll sit there and go okay I'm going to do this tomorrow I'm going to do everything okay I'm going to get into shape and I'm going to run 10 miles and then I'm going to study for this and the problem is that's the worst thing you can do and in fact uh I'm sure you probably know BJ fog he wrote this book tiny habits but he and I were having a conversation recently you have to start slow okay pick one simple thing to show that you have the power right and it could be something as simple as I'm going to get up at 6:00 in the morning and walk around the block and you just do that because what happens is now you're changing your belief system you're saying I set this goal and I was able to do it and I do it every day now right then it can be a little longer and etc etc etc until suddenly you're running a marathon when before you could barely get up and walk around the block and I think that's really the key is start small congratulate yourself for small wins and accept that and then let that sink in and then just do another thing and it's a slow process nothing happens overnight and again if you think well it's going to happen and it's all going to be perfect tomorrow that's not how it works and you know obviously in my own life you know this has taken decades and you know I think hopefully this book does though it allows you to see the world in a different way to use the techniques that are outlined there to not have to go through the pain and suffering right that I and others uh have gone through and it gives you some insights some tools and again and I'm sure you've experienced you'll get like a book sometimes go that is what I was missing this is what uh you know I need and what I've tried to do is both by showing you the science behind it but also intertwining stories like I mentioned the one about Jim Cary and I've also included actually individuals who I have interacted with in my own life who've had these profound changes based on having a different perception of who they are and the power they have yes there's a part in the book where we talked about tapping into flow States I think you even said like the placebo and something and hypnosis so how do we tap into flow States placebo effect and hypnosis to start to manifest better so one of the points of those examples is to show that actually very simply you can get there without anything right I mean hypnosis you can uh and you can do self hypnosis of course but you I'm sure most of the listeners are thinking of the guy who comes and he goes like this guys yeah right but that is how fast if you train yourself to get access and I talk about uh monks and I talk about whm Hof you know these people access the power they have within and it takes practice and diligence yes but the same processes are similar to hypnosis and uh the placebo effect and the interesting thing about the placebo effect is that you can even know it's a placebo and it will still have the same effect and it still gets results yes yes and so and also if you think about exercising a particular muscle group you your muscles will increase without you doing anything wow it's crazy you see but this is the power because the brain doesn't know the difference between what you're thinking and reality right so if you embedded in there now that's not to say your muscles are going to get as big as a you know an Olympic weightlifter but they do increase in in mass and so so getting ACC this uh access to these things within you that you don't appreciate is very very powerful and you talk about the Flow State you know this is a state of being where everything aligns right yes and that's where we want to be we we're not paying attention to time we're not paying attention to extern externalities we're just doing it now again you don't want it to turn into I've ignored everything in my life to get to that goal but you want to live in a in a way in which things naturally come and you're living it and it's a process that's all working together for you to manifest your goals wow that's beautiful um what is the most recent research about the placebo and how can we use that science or data to impact Our Lives positively well again it and the weird thing about it is you don't even have to believe it it it will happen wow uh uh uh now if you if you believe it's the real thing it'll probably be more powerful better yeah yeah uh but uh but again it's embedding this belief into your head and and that and you know there's a six we program in the book but it gives you a stepbystep way to do that and again uh it's not one and done you have to do the work you know although I say the universe doesn't give a about you I also would say God only helps those who help themselves right and uh uh and you know when I make that statement at the end of the book basically my statement is you are the universe right you are the power that decides and again it's understanding how much power you have within yourself you know there's a a um we're talking about people getting stuck in things uh you know sometimes you cannot predict what's going to happen to you but there's this attitude it's called Uh dispositional optimism I don't know if you're called reading that but it's understanding that things don't work on our timeline and having a constant state of an optimistic view of the world again that aligns you because it keeps you in this constant state of Engagement of your parasympathetic nervous system and again if you can live in that state and look through the world through that lens your physiology is going to be at its best your longevity is going to be increased you're going to be much happier in terms of of uh purpose and meaning in your life you know nothing I or at least I can't imagine nothing worse than you know being a crotchety old man still chasing uh 20y old women right having three or four Ferraris and uh actually it reminds me I'll tell you a funny story I was uh U an aspen giving a tu and one of the benefactors was an 80y old fellow a widower who survived the Holocaust wow and uh so he invites everyone up to his house so you know you pull up to this huge mansion that's you know 20 30 million right in Aspen in Aspen yeah you know one of his multiple sure so I go in there and you know I had been one of the main speakers so he comes up to me and starts talking and uh you know he looks at my watch and he say say see this he points to his watch million dollars jeez and I'm like who cares yeah yeah who cares and he says come here and I said okay so he takes me out to his garage and again tons of cars and yeah yeah and uh uh I'm looking at him and then he starts saying you know I've I've never been happy and uh I said okay and he goes you know he tells me about actually his tragic Holocaust experience and how he you know married this woman but he was never in love or passionate etc etc he said you know I'm miserable I'd do anything to be happy oh okay and I said okay and he says can you do anything for me and I said yeah I can I said if you spend 10 hours with me I will give you that gift okay so he says really and I said yeah he says 'w how much will it cost and I said it'll cost $100,000 an hour' okay he looks at me he says 500,000 an hour or total no total well it was yeah it was and I said no it doesn't work that way it's a million dollars and I'm guaranteeing you guaranteeing you wow and and uh so his his uh daughter is there and she overhears her tug and she comes over and she says Papa you know this is like a neuros scientist he studies this you should do this and uh he looks at he says foolish girl you don't know anything about money he says I I have to save this money for you and she looks at him she goes I have everything I need I don't need anything and she goes do it and he goes no no no you're you're foolish and my point is here was an opportunity for him to learn something to get what he said he absolutely wanted yet his own selfish self-interest and drive wow overpowered anything to actually give him what he wanted wow interesting yeah yeah well he had a belief he had an identity around what he thought he needed to hold on to which was more money yeah yeah and and and and but that was what always was making him happy or unhappy his whole life exactly but it gave him a sense of false security or status or influence or power or something well unfortunately though uh you know there are people like that but the reality is all the people around them are laughing at them yeah and they they're they're making he they are making the people around them more miserable probably oh yeah well because they have to win right million dollars you know wow that's a oneup everyone else yeah be yeah and that's a very classic thing in fact I'm not being critical of Warren Buffett but you know I mean you there's a story that his wife wrote that said you know he was never interested in the money he was interested in winning the game the game of winning yeah right right and you know uh it's not always about winning sometimes it's about caring for others understanding people being of service you know imagine somebody who has that degree of wealth what he could have done to let's say uh fund an orphanage or uh help the people who can't uh afford food and Aspen right right and and and it would have been a minuscule compared to what he actually had yeah wow this idea of identity um you know we start to build our identity as children and our teens and our 20s how how do we start to identify what our identity actually is and how it is empowering us or disempowering US in this pursuit of manifesting well the problem is for many people is that they have bonding and attachment issues uh that uh have been imprinted on them yeah ancient anxious or avoidant attached or yeah yeah and so they don't appreciate you know look when you're growing up and you know seven or eight years old you're not understanding this yes but these types of connections uh you know they get deeply embedded and and you carry it with you and so one is you have to make the effort to understand as an example I'm sure some of the listeners go oh well now have a little idea because I keep choosing this jerk to have to be a partner with well why do I do that and you have to sort of go backwards and self-reflect and yeah yeah yeah uh you know I was given a talk one time and there was a woman she raised her hand we were talking about this exact issue and she started crying and she said my father when I was a kid told me I would be nothing wow right so sad yeah it's horrible and and this is what people need to understand words matter to children and so the woman said you know I my whole life I've spent trying to be something wow you know she said I became a nurse I got a PhD you know she's a senior executive at a hospital chain right she's doing extraordinarily well and her whole life has been trying to overcome that baggage and imagine the difference though if her father saidou know you are amazing you can do anything you want I am so proud of you I Envision you doing incredible things and how the 30 years of her life or whatever it's been 40 years would have been one of love and connection and feeling worthy versus every day waking up being repeating I was told I would be nothing wow yeah I guess there's a there's a question within that is if you are given all the love and empowering affirmations and words from your parents that you can do and be what you want to be versus you don't have what it takes you're never going to mount to anything you disappoint me you need to do better which one drives the person to create bigger or better results or impact you know because she has lived a life of impact but is from a place of lack right sure which she is driven to grow and expand and reach beyond what she felt she was capable of if she had all the love in the world I guess that's the the question well uh of course in that case we can't specifically answer that but uh yeah there's no question that you know I used to have a coach when I was a rower crew okay and I used to have a coach who just scream at me all day it's the worst yeah it's the worst well and it's exact footb that's exactly what we're talking did that make you strive and work harder it just made you feel like the guy's a jerk I hate the guy yes yes and and versus then I had a different coach the new coach was an extraordinary human being one you would model yourself after he won the gold medal in the double skulls in Melbourne in 52 I think it was and uh you know he was like listen you know you need to work on this but I know when you do this it's you're going to excel here you know you're doing an amazing job I can just tell you're really into this I'm so proud of you right it's more fun too yeah of course so can you get a similar result yeah but it's like uh uh you know somebody putting a backpack to keep stabbing you in the back your whole life saying get going get going versus somebody who's hugging you and embracing you and tell you how much they love you yes uh you can do incedible results from horribly mean people but that's not a long-term strategy yeah and it's not a a healthy life no you know there's probably a lot of stress and anxiety and chronic pain that you're carrying with that energy with that vibration which you talk about the book the vibration and when we can get into Flow State we're able to to Really create more abundance and and in a harmonious way exactly not in a hard way of grinding constantly to accomplish and then feel exhausted when we get to the top yeah and so then you know instead of having accomplishment and going that son of a I showed you you're saying there God I I'm happy to have God that felt so good and I I'm just so happy I was able to do this it's a completely different way and I I would hope that people want the other way where it's one of positivity and encouragement not uh somebody driving you and this is one of the problems in Corporate America right you have uh bosses who think that creating fear motivates and it does on some level to a point you know there's a great story about a fellow what was his name KS I can't remember uh I think it was Jeffrey KS he was in Australia but he uh gives an example which is quite interesting he said we did a 360 review in our company I'm sure you're familiar with that right they checked out everybody he said you know they came to me to share the results with me he's telling us watch this he they came to share the results with me they told me in their entire history of doing this I was the worst CEO wow they had ever met wow and he said my you know they told me my employees fear me and uh that I I was creating an environment that was unhealthy blah blah blah blah blah and he says this to his so he said this his wife and she go he says to so so what do you think of that can you believe that I'm thinking of firing them and she goes why would you do that they're absolutely correct and he goes what and she Saidi have been telling you this for 20 years and you have not listen to me wow said you need to sit back and reflect on this so he went through a 2-year analysis with therapy and actually ended up U meeting a Buddhist monk and got into a meditation practice so they did a re-evaluation a few years later and now you know they had like one of the highest retention rates one of the highest productivity rates one of the highest shareholder value from uh uh leading to compassion thoughtfulness kindness as a motivator versus fear as a motivator W that's beautiful one of the things you you know you give this six-step process and one of the things uh in Step six it's about releasing these expectations and being open to Magic being open to the Wonders the mysteries of the world uh when things will come to you maybe it's different than what you originally wanted all these different things why is it important to manifest by not being attached to the results that you desire and being open to Magic at the same time you know one of the challenges is that and it gets back to attachment uh because once you are attached to something you have a vision of how it has to be right and then that creates uh potential disappointment and the nature of manifesting is it doesn't turn out exactly the way you want because what you may not appreciate is that there are other factors which are competing here and sometimes you may not appreciate it but on an unconscious level the right decision is being made on a conscious level it's not what you thought it was and therefore you resist it uhhuh and uh that creates unhappiness yes the other thing is the same as having a timeline like it has to happen by this day it doesn't work that way as an example I have been planning a world compassion Festival which is a huge event right for 13 years do I am I disappointed no it hasn't happened yet it hasn't happened yet but it will happen yes and this is also dispositional optimism I have an absolute belief that that will happen and in fact I mentioned a little earlier I was with uh Kash uh uh STI Yari who's a Nobel Peace laia uh yesterday and uh um we were talking about this world compassion fell so just came up he said well why don't we join forces and make this happen right so you know it's process and it it has not worked in any way the timeline I had imagined but I do not I'm not disappointed or don't believe it's going to happen otherwise I would s think go I'm a failure you know this should have happened 10 years ago why didn't happen you know it's just like everything else I do I'm a loser right versus saying it will happen it's sitting there the things have not all come together to allow it to happen and even if it doesn't happen the exact way I inv it if it happens it's an extraordinary thing and so I think you have to look at it that way otherwise you're creating uh unhappiness for yourself and and why do that and and again life doesn't work that way it's like as an example s they're saying I'm I want to Manifest this beautiful woman she has these attributes da d da then this exact and your visual nurer as a blonde and then this darkhaired woman comes in has every one of those things go oh get out of here you're not a blah yeah yeah right yeah so it doesn't always work the way you want what would you say is uh you know something that we should think about or do first thing in the morning to set us up for a daily rhythm of manifesting is there a mantra is there a process is there a way of thinking a way of feeling a way of acting is there a something we should believe right when we wake up or in the morning well uh what I do may not work for everybody sure and everybody has a different biology they have a different way of seeing the world now I'll tell you what I do to Center me in the morning uh and uh uh uh but it sets the stage to manifest and what I mean by that is I was talking about having the mental state of being of service to others right so so my practice every morning is I wake up and I say every morning that's a lie it is not every morning it's most morning sure you know it's funny I I don't know if you ever saw you know deepo Cher's son did a movie about him uh and Gotham Gotham choer I know yeah yeah yeah and it showed him like you know that should be meditating goes and he's like and I know deep actually uh but anyway uh what I do is I sit up in bed and I do a breathing exercise because as you know that will shift you over to engagement of your parasympathetic nervous system which is the rest and digest mode it makes you open it makes you thoughtful it makes you more creative and then I uh think of the awe and joy in this world and there's a great book about Awe by daker Kelner I don't know if you know daer uh but uh uh yeah so you know that sets the stage of this scene the world to this lens of this incredible awe of being in this world and the joy of being able to interact in this world and then I go through a 10-letter uh Mantra and this actually uh developed when I was asked to uh which was an incredible honor to me by my medical school to give the white coat ceremony lecture to the incoming medical students so imagine the guy who should never go to Medical giving this very prestigious lecture wow but what I wanted to do was I wanted to inspire these students through something that was simple and easy to remember but would Center them in their lives going forward not only as a doctor but as the human being so it was 10 letters of the alphabet it was C compassion for self and others D recognizing the Dignity of every person e prac practicing equinity and this is this idea of evenness of temperament you know we were talking about chasing goals and having attachment you know it's great to achieve a goal it's great to have that high that you get when you achieve it it's it's wonderful it's amazing but it's transitory sure and you can't live at that State all the time conversely having disappointments having things fail uh losing at things uh as horrible and as painful as they are uh they're also transitory so having this evenness of temperment and not getting lost on the extremes is very very important plus the other thing is if you reflect on it what teaches you the most it's not the highest it's the disappointments the challenges the things you've had to overcome and that makes you who you are yes and creates resilience and so somehow thinking you're going to avoid those number one it's not healthy but that's where so much teaching comes from the other of course is forgiveness and uh we know that when you carry emotions attached to an event or to a person every time you think of that event or that person it negatively affects you interesting so when you're able to not carry that baggage and release it and that's not to forget what somebody did to you or that it's just to understand that carrying those memories is not help healthy for you then you're released again and of course one of the most powerful things and I think it's really important is having gratitude and there's an immense amount of research that demonstrates having a gratitude journal or in the evenings writing three things that you are thankful for because what people forget is in fact probably everyone listening to this podcast you don't appreciate that half of the world's population lives on less than $2.50 a day crazy isn't it it's horrible and when you look at your life uh you are actually blessed it's funny as a neurosurgeon you know I've had situations where let's say somebody will uh have an accident and become paraplegic and of course they s go this is horrible my life is ruined I say look I'm going to take you in the room next door with the guy who's a ventilator dependent quadriplegic can't move anything yes and is on a breathing tube and nothing and then they oh right so it's about perspective it's about perspective and this is the thing is you have the choice of the the perspective you look at the world through yes uh let's see we were at gratitude AG humility now I will assure you for a neuros search and humility is one of the challeng you got to stay humble when you think you got you know exactly well and you know being a neurosurgeon is still one of the uh uh professions in medicine that's still nominally highly respected but anyway uh humility understanding you're no more important than anyone else and uh uh I is integrity and values that bound your behavior and if you want to call them rules to live by J is a recognition of justice meaning that we have a responsibility for caring for those who are vulnerable uh K is uh simply being kind to others it has nothing to do with suffering compassion has by definition a recognition of suffering with a motivational desire to alleviate that so kindness is simply just being a good person and of course what contains all of this and that's uh love that's great uh so uh that was my part of my uh lecture for my uh the white coat ceremony and that's the what I use every day in my own life now I'll tell you an interesting story about that I gave that lecture and a month or two later uh and I think it was put on YouTube or something but a month or two later a woman reached out to me and she said uh uh I heard that lecture I read your book which I talk about it in my first book into the magic shop and she said I'm the spiritual director of the largest homeless shelter in the United States I'm a person of faith my friends had sent me all of the scripture but I was burned out at my job and I couldn't do it anymore and I had reside she said I read your book I heard that talk it gave me the strength to return to work which I'm like oh my God that's beautiful right so then a month later she sends me another email and she says you know I have to tell you the story I was telling my best friend about this and she has a daughter named Jenny and Jenny is 12 and she makes beads and Jenny made a set of 10 wooden beads that uh each one represents one of those letters of the alphabet and she haded a golden bead to represent the Golden Rule would you mind if we sold these to support the homeless shelter and we have a Peace Center there I said absolutely a few months later she said me another she's like this stalker she sends me another and she says you know uh uh this has been so powerful I went ahead and I I created a YouTube video can I post it and it shows this little girl making these beads with beautiful music and she's talking about this practice and she then posted that and long story short her and I became friends I ended up going down to the homeless shelter and touring it and giving a talk in the church or a sermon is well even talking about particularly religious and uh and then um she has two heroes in this world one is the dolly Lama and uh the other is Desmond Tutu and when he was and uh so uh as I think you know I used to be chairman of the Dal Lama Foundation he's the founding benefactor of the center I run at Stanford I said listen I'm hosting the dolly llama I want to invite you to come and I want to introduce you to it wow and she was going oh my God that's incredible she says but you know unfortunately I make very little money and I can't really afford it I said well listen I'm going to hire you as a consultant and bring a bunch of beads with you and and I did do that and we had these beads blessed by his Holiness wow and uh uh and she got to meet her hero so fast forward a few years later I I'm friends with was friends with tutu so I was down in Cape Town at his 80th birthday party so during his 85th they invited me to come down again to his birthday and I was in Oslo and I called I said listen you need to do me a favor I said I want you to go to Cape Town in my place wow wow and uh me tutu and while on the one hand uh obviously it cost something to do that in the big scope of my world that was irrelevant my right but for her it was the world exactly wow and you see that epitomizes what every one of us can do to to Simply do a simple act yeah and it can be saying hello it can be holding the door open it can be sitting with somebody it can buy be buying a homeless person a meal and and the thing is the benefit you get from this is so so powerful you know his Holiness says if you uh I want to make others happy be compassionate if you want to be happy be compassionate well if you want to make others happy be compassionate if you want to be happy be compassionate yeah because we know when you you are care when you're compassionate it has a very positive effect on your physiology because you get shifted over yes to engagement of your parasympathetic nervous system your cardiac functions improved your peripheral vascular functions improved the expression inflammatory uh proteins is diminished your immune system's boosted your cortisol levels are decreased and so there's a whole Cascade of events and plus when you're kind and compassionate you're uh uh reward and pleasure centers are stimulated wow you know who wouldn't want to be that way and that's what uh you know people forget some sometimes wow and most people forget to be compassionate towards themselves the most oh well and that's the key of what we're talking about absolutely mind magic the Neuroscience of manifestation and how it changes everything this is extremely powerful I want everyone to get a copy this book get one for a friend as well um I've got a couple final questions for you James before we wrap up but before I ask them where can we send people to do they have a website we should send people to or just go on Amazon and get the book I think there are many places besides Amazon you can get books certainly I'm a proponent of supporting independent bookstores but it is on Amazon uh uh you can also publish or or purchase it from penguin Random House have Ed my name and the book title but it's pretty much anywhere can be uh uh sold and do you have a website as well where we can stay with you yeah uh it's James Rd md.com and uh all of my work is there uh the other book I uh mentioned briefly was into the magic shop which was a New York Times bestseller it's in 36 languages uh also uh the center I run at Stanford uh is there and certainly people can go there and we offer courses on self-compassion and compassion that's beautiful as well as uh even corporate programs and programs for First Responders police officers and things like that that's very cool and that's at cc. stanford.edu okay and actually another project that I'm actually very excited about is for the last couple years I've been working uh on creating a mental health app uh and uh because so many people are suffering from stress anxiety and lack of compass self-compassion and the interesting thing about it is because uh especially adolescents so many are suffering that uh there are not even enough therapists to take care of all these people but the reality is most people are suffering from just living in the modern world it's not you know drug resistant depression it's just the stress and anxiety of living in the modern world because as we're talking about with the blue zones we're far different uh in the modern world so what it does is it utilizes an emotion assessment engine to analyze faal faal expression voice analysis and context of speech connected to a conversational AI knowledge base of compassion focused therapy and psychology which is then hooked up to a human Avatar who talks to you wow that's cool and what we know is that having brief conversation like 10 minutes when somebody is feeling stressed and anxious the very nature of a conversation can significantly decrease those feelings wow and uh uh and what's interesting is so many people are afraid of being judged they shamed yes so being able to talk actually to an avatar who is compassionate empathetic non-judgmental accepting is very powerful now this isn't to separate you from people what it is is to support you so that you can go forward and actually have better connections um and it's available 24/7 unlike your therapist which as you know I should say I don't know maybe you don't have a therapist but most people have therapist sure but you know you call after five o'clock and they go if this is a life tring emergency please call 911 well if you're stressed and anxious that's really not the thing you want to he but anyway uh that company is called happy hai. a uh I'm very excited about that Co that's cool I don't when's that coming out uh actually people can sign up now for free okay we're letting people use it just to get input from them yeah and uh and certainly if people try it please drop me a note and uh cuz we're trying to of course improve it but it's pretty amazing uh the type of conversations you can have even I mean I've been like wow that's cool that's amazing that's cool happy ha. a check that out as well um couple final questions for you James uh one of them is calls the three truths question it's a hypothetical scenario imagine you get to live as long as you want and you get to keep creating and manifesting and serving Humanity the way you want to do it uh and everything that you desire you manifest until the day you die but for whatever reason on the last day in this world you have to take all of your work with you so this book we don't have access to this conversation is no longer around everything you've created it's for whatever reason gone somewhere else we don't have access it's a hypothetical scenario question but if it was the last day many years away and you could only leave behind three lessons to the world and this is all we have of your information your content what would those three truths be for you that you would share believe in yourself care for others be kind to yourself before I ask the final question James I want to acknowledge you for the the consistent contribution you make on the world I think this topic is extremely interesting for so many people because a lot of people are suffering and they want to have a better life but they don't know how to create the life so bringing Neuroscience research and your own practical lessons into this work sharing it here for people for free creating it in a in a book people can fall with a program uh and everything else you're sharing with the world I just really acknowledge you for the contribution you are making currently on humanity and I'm grateful for the wisdom and the lessons that you share so I wanted to share that with you well thank you I appreciate that that's very kind welcome yeah you're welcome um and my final question for you James is what is your definition of greatness being authentic understanding yourself and U caring for others there you go mind magic thank you J appreciate it Joy is at the same frequency as love uhhuh so it's right up there and it is incredible and that's why in the secret documentary and in the secret why I say nothing is more important than that you feel good mhm you feel because when you feel good you're on a feel

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