Eckhart Tolle with 3 Deadly Habits That Kill The Law of Attraction In Your Life

make the present moment your friend not your enemy make the present moment your friend and your whole life begins to change because what we call future is just an extension of your State of Consciousness in the present moment hey guys thank you so much for being here a quick message before we dive in you may be watching the show but haven't taken a moment to click the Subscribe button below so if you've ever gained value from this show it would mean so much to me if you click the Subscribe button right now and not only will this allow you to see these messages first all this great content we have you're going to get notified first when it comes out but the bigger our subscriber base grows the more people we can impact and the bigger the guests we can get on this show as well so again thank you so much as always for your support it means the world to me make sure to click the Subscribe button below and let's dive into this conversation I've got a number of topics today one being about the law of attraction I want to talk about Stress and Anxiety I want to talk about why people suffer and how to get out of suffering I want to talk about relationships and how to know when you're in a healthy dynamic in relationships all these things I want to talk about today but the first one I felt like I was trapped in suffering for so many years and I didn't know how to get out of this suffering anxious stressful feeling that would come and go that would ruminate at night that would keep me up at night that would make me anxious in Social settings that would make me feel like I wasn't good enough and I know people feel a sense of suffering anxiety overwhelming stress today which seems like more than ever I'm curious with all of your wisdom and experience how can we overcome or eliminate stress and suffering and anxiety in our lives when it seems to be crippling us ually if you are um not conscious of how your mind operates and many people still are not conscious of how their mind operates they uh locates that is all the source of their troubles outside themselves so they perceive the um whatever their life situation is and every life situation is to some extent problematic there's no life situation that is totally perfect where everything is going well uh no matter how much you practice positive thinking which is of course a wonderful thing to do nevertheless there will always be things that are problematic in every life situation uh so life always challenges you no matter no matter what stage you're at in your life you get new challenges even if you are highly conscious or in let's say enlightened even the enlightened person still gets challenged by life situations and that's a good thing we may come back to that a little bit later um the beginning of an Awakening for people out of their this um their suffering is the the realization that most of the psychological suffering because this is what we're talking about we're not talking about Source anything like that no we're talking about psychological suffering uh the psychological suffering arises from stories that you tell yourself in your mind about situations about your life or your life situation as a practical exercise for to introduce this teaching to people I sometimes recommend this next time you find yourself in a situation that in which suffering arises and suffering of course is a generic term it can come in many forms on one end of the spectrum suffering is just feeling irritated or upset about something it might be a minor thing but if you're irritated the other end of the spectrum there's deep despair deep the depression and sadness or extreme thoughts of anxiety Alec and all that so we have the two and in between there's a wide range of different forms of suffering the derives and very often they are not recognized as suffering by people if you are if you're not conscious how your mind operates you don't even know that you're suffering you don't even know that there is another way that there would be another way in which you could experience this particular situation so I recommend next time you find you you become upset about something or irritated which is a form of some minor form of suffering experiment I say let's let's imagine a situation that these things happen quite often to people you're in the lineup let's say it's at the airport airport is a source where often people experience uh psychological suffering because things don't don't don't go the way they expect them to go yes especially these days so you're in a lineup that uh it's not moving you're you're getting more and more irritated and upset or it could be anywhere you're waiting but it's not happening you're waiting there or in a traffic time or on the telephone nobody's answering just to get automated message it says your call is important to us and the grouchwood waiting time is 45 minutes you're born when you get angry and irritated now I recommend the following practice because you're standing there or waiting there you might as well practice ask yourself how would I experience this situation if I did not add any interpretation or any thought to it how would I experience this moment if I didn't add any thought to it if I did not interpret it in any way if I just allowed this to be as it is without burdening it with this baggage of thought it's okay let's say you're standing in this line art and it's you're very irritated so how would I experience this if I did not in other words if I did not in my mind say this is bad and all the other thoughts that come after that because when you say this is bad then the next thought comes in my life is bad and and you get a whole string of associated thoughts that are negative how would I experience this moment without adding any thought to it okay so there you stand and this would bring your attention into the present moment and so your attention moves into the Press alone and in this present moment you're standing there you're breathing you're looking around people moving the whatever the rules you find yourself in you're breathing you're perceiving things people and suddenly you may find that this moment is actually free of suffering the suffering and did not arise was not caused by the external circumstance it was caused by the narrative in your mind about this circumstance that's a huge distinction and this is begin to live consciously when you realize this Until you realize that you live unconsciously which means in spiritual terms to live unconsciously is to be totally identified with whatever your mind is saying the the the I call it the voice in the head the narrative in your mind that tells you about how good see how bad things are or how they should be they they are but they shouldn't be this would be different but they are if they are always in this moment you can't change this moment uh so you become aware that was discovered by the way uh two thousand years ago by the not very well known ancient Greek philosopher Epictetus and he said uh the the the most of your suffering is derived from what your mind is telling you about the situation but not from the situation itself and that's an enormous realization and that can be the beginning of an Awakening to see that the narrative in your mind is mostly what God is the suffering but it is possible of course that an external situation may cause physical discomfort obviously yes that's positive just your legs are hurting your back is hurting right too cold or too hot would physical discomfort of course that's possible but that is not suffering it sense in which we use this term right here now the psychological suffering unhappiness is another word you could use it's a generic term for any form of negativity inside yourself unhappiness suffering where the story you begin to realize that most of that arises from a mental narrative about a situation or about your circumstances but not from the circumstances themselves and then you can begin to practice every time you feel upset is arising sometimes they get anger is arising some full of negativity uh blaming people in situations and saying this shouldn't be happening or something is not happening but it should be happening or they should do this or they shouldn't do it all right kinds of narratives in your mind so you're Spiritual Awakening is you're beginning to be aware of what your mind is saying the storage that you're telling yourself about situations but also the stories you're telling yourself about what you call your life so because people there's millions of people in this world who will live with a very painful sense of identity they perceive their life as a bird so they live with this heaviness and they don't realize what they this heaviness that they're called my life is actually a narrative that they tell themselves and they say that's me all the things that have happened to me the Dreadful things in the past that people did to me or circumstances differently or maybe even the bad things that I did so you get a very heavy identity builds up and that becomes your sense of self and people don't realize it's a it's a story you're continuously telling yourself in your mind but you are so identified with a story that you don't exist you're outside of the story so that's uh that is what uh this what in in in some spiritual Traditions is called the cells the Buddha called it the self which is the the mind made sense of self which the Buddha said which ultimately you recognized that that mind made sense of self is ultimately a kind of fiction that you did that you live through uh so now when you realize that this is the case this means that at this point of realization another dimension of Consciousness has arisen in you which is not your mind we could call it awareness or we could call it presents so when you realize what your mind is doing that is not part of the conceptual mind that that work through uh stories and words and Concepts it is a deeper or you could say deeper or higher dimension of Consciousness that suddenly has a resonance I often call it presence but to another good word for this awareness so awareness is the ability to know what your mind is doing and then the wonderful thing is uh at first it does glimpses when you detach from the mind and say oh wow and then you have moments when you're not suffering because you allow this woman to be as it is who but who are we when we detach from our own mind very good question yes so at first you were identified with the the conceptual mind the story making lines and you you your sense of identity was the story of me my past my memories my beliefs my that's right all these thoughts that are that are accumulated in my the bank of my mind from the past that I've told myself this happened to me this is what's wrong with me this is why I'm not good enough or this person did this or whatever exactly exactly and now when the awareness arises your sense of who you are your sense of identity begins to shift from being lodged in the conceptual mind the voice in the head it goes to a deeper place and you realize who you are in your essence is actually the awareness itself and that is a an amazing realization uh the in other words this is a dimension of Consciousness that is I call it Beyond thought thinking is a is a wonderful thing thinking is a very powerful tool for creating however if thinking is all we have and we love look for our identity in in the mind then that is very limiting if if thinking is used as a tool it's very powerful and empowering and can be very creative but if thinking becomes self-serving in other words you're completely identified with this stream of thinking that never most people never stops too all for the day this they're talking to themselves there's a voice in the head sometimes they talk they say all right sometimes they talk to themselves and you you shouldn't have done that you're not ready yet yeah all these things so the this this is the most well the most important thing in a person's life and this is why we're here is to experience this shift in Consciousness so that increasingly in glimpses at first but then increasingly your sense of Who You Are is the space of awareness the presence that does that mean there's two of us one could say that there is on the one hand I sometimes call it on the one hand you have your form identity your form is the most physical body which is the first thing people identify with but really it's not the physical but it's a mental image of my body yeah maybe happy about or either it can the body can be a source of Pride which can be a source of shame or anything in between and so people identify with my body that's the fast identical identification and the next is the psychological father of me or other things I identified with in my past the past legs up who I think I am all the past conditioning starting in childhood the way it by which the culture in which you grow up the family in which you grow up all those things become part of your identities you have form I call it form Identity or the one that and everybody obviously has one no later how conscious you are you continue to have a physical body until you don't and you have a farm identity a psychological thought but the uh there there is a deeper identity also that and this is spiritual awakening that is I call it Essence identity your essence in your essence is if we want to put a we use the term awareness and we use the term presence but another trial we can use what that really is is consciousness the essence of Who You Are is consciousness the light of Consciousness itself and this is not this is something to be experienced you cannot understand conceptually what it is that I'm talking about unless you experience In This Moment perhaps what's the only moment there is unless you experience what that means that that you are the set in essence you are Consciousness the space or the light of Consciousness between two thoughts for example sometimes uh there's a thought that comes to an end another thought hasn't Arisen yet you have a gap of five seconds or 10 seconds and this is this isn't it's an experiential thing to realize yourself as Consciousness is it implies that foreign becomes still it subsides but you are still there so when you are not let's say uh let's assume that you you let go of any memory of your past uh because you don't need it right now let's you don't remember your past at all um or your name or anything uh and you're not thinking about future in fact you're not thinking at all but you are aware you know where your sense perceptions but you're not interpreting sense perceptions you're allowing sense receptions to be now who or what are you when you are not telling yourself who what you are well what are you without the story and some some people are afraid of that they they're so attached to the story they can't let go but it's a wonderful practice for some people they all be let go when the story that they have they'll that they call their life becomes so painful that they can't stand it anymore and then sometimes they experience a breakthrough but why do so many people hold on to their their pain identity their past story for decades sometimes why do they hold on to it so long when you might see their friends and family seeing that they're suffering and struggling but they're unwilling to break free of this old Identity or current identity they've been holding on to for so long sometimes like you said people will finally get so bad they finally let that identity go but why does it take an extreme horrible breakdown or pain for people to finally say you know this old story of mine this old identity doesn't work for me anymore I want to let it go and step into a new identity why is that so challenging for people well it's we all inherit it goes back thousands of years in a collective Consciousness or unconscious Humanity we're all inheritance this kind of dysfunction a mentally of course another word for that is the ego it is the human ego ego sometimes when people use the term ego they interpret it in different ways than they see the ego that's used by Freud the Freudian ego and other egos but when I use the term ego or when it's used in the spiritual context ego simply means complete identification with your mind with the thinking the mental emotional uh makeup of you that's English complete identification with that and so that's still deeply ingrained every human being inherits that kind of dysfunction yeah and so it's so hard to let go because it's so deeply ingrained in in every by the con conditioning of your mind and so some people need an enormous amount of suffering and even it was that such some people go to awaken even then they they be unhappy until they die or they die even at an early age because the the body can't stand the unhappiness anymore it isn't functioning properly anymore because the the mental state interferes with the otherwise harmonious functioning of the body so they make themselves with stress right it's a so we are faced with it's it's an enormous it's also very it's a challenging and wonderful thing to realize that your your purpose yeah Beyond any purpose that you might have on a personal level which also has a function but your deeper purpose is to to or to evolve as a conscious being and to go beyond the ego here so that Consciousness evolves you because you're only you're an expression of universal consciousness and could Universal Consciousness throughout the universe is Awakening we live in an Awakening universe so gradually life forms in our case the urine life form becomes obligates to awaken into a uh higher level of Consciousness yes so the well this sort of the the essence here is realizing this the possibility of uh uh delivering in this a different state of consciousness where you're not necessarily always immediately thinking and interpreting things and if there's someone if there's someone watching or listening that is thinking themselves you know what I'm just feeling pain psychologically kind of off and on consistently and I haven't been able to figure out how to break free and and feel a sense of true Harmony internally true peace yes of course there's challenges that are going to come our way as human beings you know as we continue to grow but as a baseline peace and Harmony and they just can't figure out how to get there what type of application or what do people need to be aware of and then take action on in order to start working towards inner peace and Harmony right yes good question um well a good entry point is the present moment that's the the present moment is the I thought it sometimes call it the portal into that State of Consciousness that we call presence or awareness now the um the uh the egoic mind as I call it the egoic mind is not really interested in the present moment and it usually tries to obscure the present moment it's interesting in some other imagined moment but not past the future yeah yes it ignores the present moment but the the first realization is uh the in the the absolute importance of the present moment in your life it's a foundation for everything and your relationship to the present moment determines or how the future evolves but what we call Future which by the way never arrives as because when it arrives it's again the present moment yes so the the realization that all you ever have all that you can ever experience is intrinsically linked with the present moment it's Inseparable from the present moment your entire life unfolds in and as the present moment that other error is the the past when the past happened it was a present moment it couldn't happen anywhere else and when you remember the past you remember it in the present moment right the future when the future comes when tomorrow comes it will be tomorrow anymore it will be the now there was a a British pub in London that had I lived in London for many years they had a sign on the bar that says free beer tomorrow and of course Tomorrow Never Comes they'll decide it's always true that's funny to Laurel tomorrow wow that's funny yeah so tomorrow actually never comes of course we need to make plans on a practical level the future is indispensable we need we need it for us to get together here to talk vestibular day and time for collecting so on a practical level we cannot do without future but on a deeper level on the deeper such a radical level it's important to realize that the future as such does not actually exist because all you can ever experience or have is the present moment yes so that's the starting point it begins with the realization of the absolute primary importance of the present moment this is audio ever so you might as well have a good relationship with the present moment because if your relationship with the present mode is dysfunctional your entire life is disruptional right so how do we so how do if someone watching or listening is saying well my present is really challenging right now yes I'm I'm I've got a lot of debt I've you know I feel I've got some sickness in my body and my health is not there my you know I'm going through a divorce or breakup the career is not as good as I want it to be there's some type of pain in the present yeah how can I actually enjoy the present when I'm in Breakdown everywhere yeah let's let's leave aside for a moment physical pain it's an it's an another story but the the the the psychological claim that's there is again associated with certain situations it's associated with your life situation which may we probably matter problematic on some level whether it's Financial or relationship or work situation or living situation it's very or health situation it's very likely that at any given time your life situation will be problematically problematically on at least one of these levels right and sometimes this is a lot one is two or three or four becomes really problematic you lose your all your money your your course you lose your job your wife leaves you you or use your home these things can do sometimes happen yes so you have that uh and again that's then it's that's usually the these life challenges situational challenges are usually perceived as being part of the present moment but they're not really in the present moment they are what is God what I call your life situation but other than your life situation you have something that I grow your life life situation exists in time life is now we're never not now and since your life is now you have to ask yourself yes I have all these problems I don't know how I'm going to pay the rent maybe or my relationship is problem I have to I'm in the middle of divorce proceedings all these things that happen to people uh or I've just been let go of my my all my company has called apps or whatever what might call apps maybe it's doing well but it may not do well next year or all kinds of things that I perceived as problematic which sometimes are real and sometimes are just imagination that again we need to differentiate between when people say they're having big problems sometimes they are just in the mind because that's equal things that might go wrong and other times they're actually real challenges happening around you right but here again is all to single out the present moment not to ignore action that you might take or have to take in order to change certain situations is is there any action that I can take that that's a secondary question is important but it's secondary Prime requests now often ask people what problem do you have at this moment and then they usually start by saying well I'm running out of money or this I'm living against this unless this place well anyway I said no no running out of money it's not that this what this just this long Right Here and Now what problem do you have here and now in this moment and then you you look around you maybe you become aware of your that you're breathing and you look around and then you reluctantly sometimes people have to admit well okay I'm ready to admit that at just this moment there isn't actually a problem the next one there might be but the next one is again this it of course at this moment you may have a challenge that you immediately need to deal with if a if if you um if you're going for a walk and you encounter a wild animal coming towards you you don't say I don't have any problems at this moment it's that's the sounds that you need to deal with but we wouldn't call it a problem I mean if I sometimes go for walks in the forests and it appears with their Bears here so if you encounter a bear that is not a problem it's a challenge and you deal with it either you run away or you don't whatever you do or you deal with it the problem is it lives in the mind the uh Ed so the to get out of that is to give much more attention to the present moment and realize that in the present moment the problem cannot survive they have more time in the present moment the problem any problem you have cannot survive in the present moment because problem is burn that you carry in your mind your mental emotional fear that's what the problem is the rest is situations and circumstances either you leave them alone if there's nothing you can do or you take some action but they they're not a problem either you act or you don't act and if you don't act you take your attention into the present moment and see that it's actually okay I've read I often get correspondence from people in prison they're in prison and they we are through my Foundation we are sending thousands of thousands of books to to presence and so and for prisoners to read I often get communication people realize that in their present cell they realize that we actually I have no problem in other words they come to a complete alignment with the present moment there's no longer an entity that is this should not be happening because that's where the suffering arises uh and of course prison is a situation where you can't probably can't take much action where you can try to escape but you probably won't succeed you've got to accept and surrender yes so there's always the actual um may need to be taken but if no action is possible then you come to a place of surrender but it's positive surrender not negative surrender uh positive surrender is an uncompromising yes to the present moment an uncompromising yes to what is they that is a place of great inner power that arises with yes this is what is that's the starting point so you're not arguing with the is-ness of things because that's insane you cannot argue with what is and that the the this constant arguing with what is this actually amplifies the ego the egoic Consciousness the ego loves to argue with what is it needs to it loves enemies it and the ego makes the present known into an enemy all right here you see how insane that is it will make the present moment into your enemy because that's all you ever have that means you make your whole life into an anime because your whole life is the present moment right right so I sometimes it become make the present moment your friend not your enemy make the present moment your friend then your whole life begins to change because what we call future is just an extension of your State of Consciousness in the present moment so if your State of Consciousness is negative it is very likely that you will experience much more negativity in the so-called future at the present moment if you if you're in the present moment you you are in the place of acceptance of positive acceptance then uh it's very likely that the the present the show called future I thought I always say so-called future because the future as such doesn't exist it's always when it comes it's a no yes so the slope of future reflects your State of Consciousness in the present moment so that's really a very important realization so that is how the absolute importance of your State of Consciousness Here and Now what is your state of consciousness now rather than thinking that something else is more important than my state of consciousness so in any situation you're faced with any situation what is the state of consciousness with which you face the situation is it I in a state of resistance or negativity towards the situation because when in in any Endeavor that you understand inevitably obstacles will arise in anything yes you want to create something new obstacle or an obstacles come in many forms sometimes people follow human beings who don't like you to do what you're doing or it can come in the form of other structure structures that are in society the rigid structures so and so you get all kinds of bureaucratic obstacles or whatever the obstacles are so what how do you you face an obstacle what is your state of consciousness when an obstacle arises do you immediately become angry do you become or despondent or do you start complaining in your mind on people and talking about others how awful this situation is and complaining or are you able to just immediately say this is what it is so you face the obstacle not in a state of resistance come from a state of power this is what is and then when you are in that state of presence very often right action arises spontaneously then you do you find yourself doing the right thing because you're not making this situation into an enemy and this is very important I mean and if you want to achieve great things and a huge obstacle for people is to uh start complaining and building up stress when things go wrong with this in other words things shouldn't be happening so they become Negative they become unpleasant they become unpleasant to people colleagues and people they work with and a lot of negative energy can build up in a company and so on though so and that is not some of the most effective people in this world there are perhaps a few they don't work with negativity they they work immediately with a positive attitude they they don't make the present moment into into an enemy they might never have heard any spiritual teaching so perhaps that is some kind of innate wisdom that they have or maybe they've learned this lesson in the past lifetime who knows so so the so the importance always start with the present moment and again the what is what what what problem do I have now in the is there a problem here and now just this moment well actually no not not really not the problem isn't here the problem is in the mind but it's not here that's a place of power and then then you you become aligned with the the protect the Power of Now which is The Power Of Consciousness itself beyond the ego far far from the ego is only like it's like the reflected light that like the moon reflects the light of the sun and the ego or reflects the light of Consciousness it's only it's not power there's no power in ego itself in the same way there's no light in the Moon it starts to reflected light wow yeah that's powerful this has been fascinating so far I'm sure we could talk about you know Consciousness and suffering for hours but I want to get to a few other Concepts here um one of them being about the law of attraction because I you mentioned kind of synchronicities and serendipities and kind of this idea of when we align ourselves to Consciousness and to more Harmony thoughts to more peaceful thoughts in my experience things just come you know the right things that I'm intending it's they happen very quickly and unexpectedly um I would love to hear your thoughts on your definition of the Law of Attraction but also maybe the three habits that you see people doing the most that hurt them from attracting effortlessly using the law of attraction right well the main uh mistake perhaps that people make is uh not coming from a place of fullness but comical place of neediness and and putting too much attention on on what is the undesirable conditions so that they want to get rid of but but mentally almost continuously focusing on the undesirable condition like not enough money for example that is the problem for many people so so let's use let's use money for example then the Law of Attraction with money how could we attract more wealth or financial abundance in our life using the Law of Attraction yeah well first of all is the acknowledgment of abundance that is already here and now and not and not focusing on the lack of abundance that is here now which you could find by thinking about it but to actually focus on where is the abundance that I can find here now and that is all around you it is in nature when you look at the the abundance of nature the Abundant the multiplicity of life forms The Wonder of nature uh the abundance of evil evil or let's say you're in a city you can look at uh appreciate all the things that you see around you you don't need to necessarily own it or buy it just appreciate it and so this first the appreciation of the goodness of life that is always all around you even if you have no money there's still the goodness of life is all around you you see it all around you the sunshine I mean the sun is the ultimate symbol of abundance because it gives energy of itself almost Eternal I mean eventually the sun will die but as far as we are concerned it's virtually eternal it it pours out energy continuously into this uh at some point we will realize that even on the level of energy the universe is infinitely abundant so we we will no longer need things that we're using now fossil fuels and those things we have access to other forms of energy that are more helpful but right the abundance the abundance is all around you let's say you walk your past in the city you're walking past the slower shop and you look at wow such beauty appreciation able to seeing a beautiful man or woman or nice or or even a beautiful cars I love it but why don't I have that car why does he have that car it's all egoic man's narratives that make you unhappy to appreciate with our nature of course is very powerful and then YouTube appreciate the aliveness in your body that you're breathing and you can actually feel that the the your body many people can't feel that I call it the inner body awareness so you feel that you're that every cell of your body is pervaded with the sense of aliveness energy and you can feel that that is abundance so there's abundance of Life all around you there's a there's you can feel the life within you also and so we could some people call it gratitude I call it more appreciation the appreciation of the abundance of life that is always around you that's a wonderful starting point okay so you're not focusing on lack you're focusing on abundance and even when you don't have any if you don't do anything you can find abundance around you yes always acknowledge it the good things of Life acknowledge but even seemingly in significant things like when I look out of the window I sometimes there's trees out here right now I can look out this I can see there's a slight breeze and then branches out sweating slightly in the wind it's beautiful and there's the tree and all its majesty and still as it's been there for 100 years and that's wonderful I don't need to own that tree I mean owning in that sense is ultimately a bit meaningless anyway yes I own this house where I am right now but at some point I'll I'll be gone and so what does it mean the house somebody else will own the house only as a secondary I'm not saying to let go of ownership sometimes gifts can give stability to your life on the Practical level but there's something more important so this appreciation or if you want to call it gratitude some people recommend um I think Oprah said that she has had for many many years uh notebook or Journal where she finds writes down every day thinks that she's grateful for and um these are these are usually seemingly insignificant things but it's important not to overlook that and I don't think she's writing down uh I'm grateful that I have a private jet or I'm grateful that I have a 2.5 billion dollars in the bank that's right see it writes down the the small things that everything from my garden I'm grateful I get to plant a flower today I'm grateful that I get to go on a walk with my friends I'm grateful that I woke up yes today yes yes the next thing is the second thing you could say is uh giving to give of to give energy to other people uh appreciation itself is already a thought certain outflow of energy when you appreciate this tree Beauty there is an energy connection with a tree there's a the Consciousness connects you with a tree and again kindness is part of giving the kindness to another person not to because you want anything from that person but because it feels so good to have this sense of we could call it go to Willow that flows out of you towards another person even if you just hold the door open for somebody or it's a remark or that's all that what's the lovely I love your dress or if I say if it's genuine uh or just saying encouraging word to somebody um or to whatever it may be a smile a smile at somebody say it's a it's a theme that is a form of giving this this connection with another kindness is a very powerful thing so you are giving you're not ex you're not at the more you give that in it it's in the Law of Attraction on nature is as you give it must come back to you in another form um but it doesn't work if you give out the obligation that you feel you should be giving or it needs to be a genuine sense of wanting to give and feeling how how good it feels to give not because mentally yes yes you feel you always need to you always need to help people because otherwise you don't don't think of yourself as a good person or something that's all mine stuff but to experience how how good it feels to be to give so we we are on the one hand appreciation gratitude and appreciation are kindly say anything that giving every day of uh in whatever form uh and the next thing is that's obviously Jesus already in in one sentence one could say uh told us the the essence of manifesting and how it works and he said whenever you pray for something that you want believe that you already have it and it will be given to you yes there is the key the important thing is it did not say believe that you will have it he said believe that you already have it now this may not be immediately clear to people how do I do that how do I believe that I already have it when I know that I don't have it right right how do you get that belief of having it before knowing feeling tasting smelling the thing that you want yes so you feel uh the thing it is already a mental reality in your mind how do you feel now that you have it in your mind how do you how that how does it feel then this feeling is really where the our manifestation lies but what is that feeling because that feeling of having it already and feeling this deep sense of satisfaction is really connecting with a the deeper power within yourself which is the problem we're all all sense of aliveness originates there it's a deeper sense of aliveness it comes from Consciousness itself so right now you might believe it might differ from person to person one person might think okay what I want is a a big house with a on overlooking the oil or whatever and then you you feel yourself you're already there uh experiencing that another person might think well would I want this uh to have a this great a company that does good things in this world and it's and how does that feel but you might find that the feeling is actually basically always the same whether it with your mind says but it's a house overlooking the horse you know why or the other person says well this is the company that I'm well ahead of that's doing great things in this world the feeling is basically the same feeling it and the feeling is a feeling of fullness of Life yes of completeness that is power so when you feel this feeling of fullness and then you associate it with a melted image that that is the power of manifestation there but the feeling itself is beyond the mental image it is beyond whatever for you are able to manifest in this world because that is the feeling of the inherent sense of aliveness it comes when you go deeper into yourself and experience the the presence that you are in this term to know yourself as the presence is inherently joyful and Powerful to know yourself as so and that is you manifest wrong place of fullness not from a place of lack right performance is already there and that also means if for some reason it doesn't manifest because not everybody's desires manifest uh I mean I don't know if it's still happening La for example uh if you go to any any good restaurant in La is more than likely that the waiter waitress will be act as waiting for for their big breakthrough it's just not possible for so many people to have the big breakthrough in Las actors some may do a few may do but most probably won't but they have made they probably have other breakthroughs but perhaps are much more important than what their ego tells them is important and to add to that I love this what you're sharing here because I want people to really feel this and understand this and embrace it because when we try to manifest from lack it's going to be this needy energy which was your first point that kind of kills the the dream of the law of attraction and when we manifest from a place of fullness like you spoke of like feeling a feeling of fullness wholeness excitement abundance Joy inside of us and if it doesn't happen if that dream doesn't come to us in the next year or five or ten years then we've lived a full rich life every moment till that moment like we've we've lived a full year of feeling excited and passionate and good about ourselves and that energy is magnetic you will draw in great People Partners relationships opportunities that maybe you couldn't have dreamed of because the energy you you gave into the world like you talked about and I think that's the the big point for me is the dream and the idea you have maybe your ego wants maybe you won't have it but man you'll live a great beautiful rich life in the process of pursuing it very good points so in other words the journey is what matters the the arrival the arriving at some destination is the end point but it's secondary it's a journey is always the journey it's always now that's what matters and so sometimes what you wanted to manifest uh does not happen but something else manifests they could be even better in fact is much better than what you are that message absolutely yeah I was I always wanted to be a professional athlete and I played professional football for about a year and a half before I got injured in the injury I broke my wrist and I was wearing a cast and I had a surgery and I had a cast on for six months and it took about a year and a half for me to use my my wrists again from the injury and during that time I was in a state of extreme sadness and a loss and a grief of this identity that I once had and this dream that I once had that I was working so hard for my whole life to manifest to create and then all of a sudden this injury broke the the my abilities to do that and I remember thinking what am I going to do with my life like what's the point 23 24 years old I'm like what am I supposed to do now and it led me to this journey that I'm on now of doing this interview series and podcast for the last 10 years that I'd much rather have this life than the life of a professional athlete now like and sometimes like you said going back to the beginning of this if we can accept and surrender in the positive way to see what good can come it may be challenging in a moment but it's been a blessing since then yes that's a lovely story that's uh that's how it actually works and another uh the thing to mention is let's say you do let's say you do manifest what it is wanted to manifest um when you come from this place of fullness you do not have yes you have an appreciation of what you have achieved but you don't have an excessive attachment to what you have achieved so in let's say you are you are able to manifest that you have a a house overlooking the ocean and you manifest it there you have it and one day uh you get you when you get home you find your houses falling into the ocean it's gone right right so the whole thing that you worked so hard for to achieve is suddenly gone but this place of fullness there that enabled you to to manifest that is still there it's beyond out of forms yeah and you feel full in life maybe there's a moment of sadness during that but if you're not attached to the physical things you've manifested um I'm sure if I lost my home I feel like it's a sanctuary it's a it's a beautiful peaceful space but I've lived in two bedroom apartments for most of my life and I felt like those were peaceful places for me and it's not I'm sure I'd be sad for a minute but then I could also create the sense of fullness in the next space exactly and I'd have this let's see um I um for a long time until until my 30's second yeah I my main form of transportation was except other than public transport was a bicycle that's beautiful so I got my driver's license when I was 30. in my first calendar 32 and that was a very City where you're in what what country you're sitting London London and Cambridge I lived in that time and the I loved my bicycle I just wonder I I appreciated it I left them when I was I was I just looked at it was standing there and I had to well and then somebody gave me I was poor at the time somebody gave me an older car and I loved that and and then I was able to but I got a little bit of money I was able to buy the cheapest car I could find it was about Lada it's a Russian Lake uh it they still make them but they're a bit better now than they used to be people would laugh at these cars because they were notorious for breaking down but it was very very cheap when I bought this and they never broke down I loved that car it never broke down it I must admit very embarrassing on Hills because he couldn't you were holding everybody you had to get out and push it yeah yeah I loved that car and um the and then I I eventually left England and I sold it a friend of mine was interested I sold it to him and two or three weeks after he bought it it broke down and and couldn't get repairs anymore it was incredible it's almost FS because I I have this kind of relationship even with so-called inanimate objects they I think that even there there is some there's a glimmer of Consciousness in everything really that's how I sense things there's a good amount of Consciousness so and when you have an intention and an appreciation for the thing that you're with the bike the the cheap car it tends to take care of you when you take care of it with your energy right I had a similar experience when I moved to LA uh I don't know 11 12 years ago I didn't have a car in my 20s I had I had like a 500 car that broke down after six months and so I walked everywhere in Columbus Ohio for about a year and then I moved to New York City I didn't need a car and then I moved to LA and I bought a four thousand dollar car it was like a 1990 seven uh year old car and probably one of the oldest cars on the road I drove it every day it was a four thousand dollar car and for for being in La you know this world that's that's kind of like look down upon it's like oh you don't have this nice new car I drove it for five or six years I loved it it was like it got me from place to place it was comfortable it was reliable and I was happy with it so yeah it took care of me and uh I took care of it yes and that's uh that's uh I feel the same and then later then finally I had the money I bought a an expensive car which I still have wanted 16 years ago it's now meant of classic and and I I love that as much as I love the bicycle the same and and it's not it's many people of course have an egoic identification with their car but what we're talking about is very different it's not that it's not you go if I had had an ego egoic identification with my seed Russell Carr my ego would have felt diminished because often people laughed that it's all about this car but it I didn't mind it was fine I didn't have to go with identification and I don't have any orientation with this more expensive classic car that I have now that's 16 years old but I still I love it uh I have a kind of relationship with it if something happened to it that I would let go it's fine right right everything eventually leaves you and unless you leave it it leads you yeah it's interesting that's beautiful it was there anything else that you think hurts people from The Law of Attraction and manifesting what they want we talked about the neediness and coming from a place of lack yeah uh well maybe one other thing um the uh sometimes the whatever people want to manifest comes on an egoic place the ego wants to like achieving this or that the ego wants to feel more powerful than before it wants to have an enhanced sense of identity through it by showing to other people that you have more than others it wants to show its superiority the ego always looks for superiority and so that that could be uh uh you may still you may still get what you want but your your power will be greatly diminished if it's an egoic endeavor but even with negotiable sometimes even that is quite still work with hard work and determines you might get it but it won't make you happy you when you get it you very quickly you will will feel needy again uh interesting why is that why do you think why do you I'm sure you know a lot of very famous Rich billionaires and people with lots of money who are still suffering and aren't happy inside once they got the thing they wanted why is it that people suffer and struggle when they have lots of money and have the big homes why this is still not enough yes well to the ego It's never enough so the ego nothing because the E raises a sense of lack sense of not good enough not not not enough yet so it's never enough for for the ego and if you have everything that the world tells you you really should be happy now because you've got you know I've met people like that they've got money huge amounts of money they've got Fame and recognition and the private jet and they've got it can you do anything go anywhere at any moment and that can be particularly uh but counterproductive because you cannot fool yourself the ego cannot afford Itself by saying when I get this I'll be happy because then you can you can still postpone the ego and say once I achieve that I'll be happy but the person who already has everything he or she cannot say that anymore because so you have no way there's no excuse anymore and because you have everything and you're not happy so then and this this is what very often people then start taking drugs or engage in other kinds of seeking sensory satisfaction through substances or growing from one relationship into another having sex or whatever they do because they can buy anything they want and they get pretty one more unhappy because they do all the ego was there and the ego will never be satisfied no matter what you achieve the in the Course in Miracles it says I don't know if you've in the it says you will you will always know when the the where the the ego was at work when once you achieved it it hasn't satisfied you there's another saying that goes there are two ways of being unhappy one is not getting what you want and the other one is getting what you want wow then it refers to the ego so sure some people are unhappy because they don't get what they want and the others are happy because they get everything they want but it's illegal what do you think how does how does someone be happy while they're on the path of trying to manifest you know more in their life more a better relationship or better qualities that they have in the current relationship more Career Success money things like this how can they be happy no matter what happens it comes to you or it doesn't happen it starts with the alignment of the present moment it can only arise if you are aligned with the present moment I sometimes call that the the vertical dimension of life which is now and then there's a horizontal dimension of life is where it's past and future and you have a goal you're working towards that's fine you have the horizontal dimension is the present moment the horizontal Dimension is the dimension of becoming you become good at something or you acquire something you become something there's an evolutionary draws does it work and that obviously has its place it it's there uh but if you're too if you are exclusively focused on becoming and achieving entertaining and acquiring do you always you're trapped on the horizontal and you can never really enjoy the present moment uh because the present moment is the vertical Dimensions here now Inseparable from the now the cross the symbol of the cross one could interpret as which is an ancient evil predates Christianity the symbol of a cross can be interpreted as the interest pointing to the intersection between the horizontal and vertical dimension of life that is uh the so the importance then is to to discover the dimension the vertical Dimension which is the power of the of the now the present moment and then the horizontal Dimension Works actually works better and you're not dependent on it for your ultimate satisfaction you're not dependent on any kind of achievement attainment or whatever it is that on the horizontal dimension for your art it may give you some kind of satisfaction but but not the deepest satisfaction the deepest satisfaction is inseparable from going more deeply into the present moment and discover the essence of who or what you are as Consciousness itself pretzels here and now and you you could you you in other words you could say you sense the beings of you you sense that you are and and you there is an enormous power there that has no form you can't interpret it it's it's it's a it's the power of aliveness itself here and now it's it goes far beyond what you are as a person the person exists on the horizontal dimension but there is a deeper Dimension to who you are that is only discovered in the vertical dimension in the vertical Dimension you are already complete ah there is there's nothing to achieve there you're there you're already full and complete although it's so hard for people to that's so hard for people to comprehend when they don't feel complete all the horizontal you're not complete and you'll never be complete because no matter what you achieve if you become good at one thing you lose something because there's always a world of polarities on the horizontal Dimension um that evil I find that still the you you achieve you achieve great things um before I use I've been teaching Spiritual Awakening for many many years uh in the past I had intimate groups of 10 20 people now I there's hundreds or thousands of readers often come yeah I don't have the close relationship individuals anymore it's just can't I'm reaching many more people but I've lost this closer connection with the people that I'm teaching there's always a price to pay on the other hand I'm reaching far more people than before but there's always a price to play evil privacy I'm not a great celebrity but I do Wherever I Go people say oh my God and so and the moment it happens it's wonderful I love the connection that I feel but I do lose privacy because sometimes if you watch what's he eating what's he doing why is he drinking coffee whatever I thought he was spiritual yeah yeah always gain and loss the world of polarities and the and the becoming the becoming Dimension you become uh again has a positive and a negative side on the one hand you can become stronger as you grow up you become well you can become more knowledgeable you become wealthier but eventually The Becoming becomes negative because then your body becomes weaker because you get older interesting maybe you lose something and then you become the becoming this the polarities operate on the horizontal Dimension but it has it's without the access to the vertical dimension thus it can satisfy you truly purely on the horizontal Dimension so the Practical Dimension is the present moment to to realize that that the power of the present mother that is inseparable from who or what you are in your essence the power of you and that is that is not an egoic thing because this you far transcends who or what you are as a person it connects you with the identity of the universe itself the this is in the it's the I am without adding anything to it I in the Old Testament uh Prophet asks meets God in us God what is your name and God says I am the I am that is a very deep statement that is the beingness itself beingness itself and you can feel that you can sense that Here and Now when you for a moment your mind subsides you're not thinking anymore without making an effort you're not thinking anymore and who are you without any thought it like you can you can't explain what it is but you can sense that there is a light of Consciousness there is a presence right in an inherent sense of aliveness sometimes people can feel it with their in with the entire body that the entire body is pervaded by a sense of aliveness you are all your um that's the ancient Greeks already said and knows thyself as the most important thing in life know thyself and let regards to the deepest knowing knowing yourself as Consciousness and then the person still operates for a while and it operates actually much better when you're connected to the to the to that restaurant sense the person right where in other if you want if you for those people who are comfortable with sadistic language you could say that is that connects you to God that is a deeper connection to to the source of all life you're connected to that I see the Consciousness that is that you share with every human being uh when you look at another human being you interact with another human being on the one level you have the personality horizontal Dimension the conditioning mental emotional conditionally you interacting with that person but you uh you're also interacting with Consciousness yes which is beyond the person and when you consense the Consciousness that you are is also the Consciousness that the other person is you can sense the Oneness of that Consciousness and that sensing of Oneness is ultimately worked deeper meaning of love right love is to recognize the other as ultimately one with what you are one the recognition I uh I would say love is the recognition of Oneness with it it's not the egoic love that says I need you don't you dare leave me because if you do I'll hate you right that's the egoic so-called love but the real love is to recognize yourself in the other but in order to do that you need to First recognize yourself in yourself beyond the person so and and that that connects you with other humans in a very different way this sense of connectiveness yes it's a one the word for it what could you this been there's a a good will flows out from you towards others even others that you might only meet casually for a few seconds you could you can sense yeah a good an Outlook go to Will and collect it doesn't feel so good to recognize this and there is a human being there oh my interpretation of human being is the English language doesn't have a word that refers to both men and women so you have to say human being uh in German you have about men's which could is a human being could be either man or woman but in English you have to say human being and I love that because the human Dimension is the person that lives on the horizontal dimension the being is the essence of who you are and it's our destiny to recognize our being Which is far beyond the person and then you become this is the human and this is a being and then you are through your own being when you realize the being of your yourself because Cindy wow you cleanse it in others too and then you can love others that's the beauty of it you mentioned love just now I'm curious about you when do you feel the most loved when you're going about your day when do you feel the most loved personally um I don't make differentiate between beloved and being loved it's all it's all one so um I I feel that the connection is there the moment I interact with somebody there is that connectedness and sometimes people respond something within them response back and then you get the same energy back they may not know why for let's say let's say you're in a restaurant and you I'm in the restaurant and I'm ordering the waiter where it just comes and so you have on the one hand on the human level you are the the guest or the client in the restaurant then this person is the server that's on the urine level you have your identity uh but is that all there is no there is the server is spoiled this is only a temporary function it's not the real identity of of this human being and I'm not my identity is not to be a client or guest of this restaurant right it's a temporary thing so am I able to recognize the being in this human the human is the server but behind that there's a being and when I look at this person and I'm there's a really let's see if I can describe it or experience it there's a while The person talks to me that there's a still presence it's a listen through this this still the still presence in the initial press I can sense beyond the human the beingness of the other also I can sense their beings and that is a connection and then it sometimes happens that they can feel something that they feel acknowledged this they may not be able to interpret that in it or they may miss without you saying anything without you saying anything there's nothing to say uh and so usually it means that they often it means that they they like you as they they feel uh attracted to you they love you as a person in their bit uh they like to be in your presence they there's a positive response and that is one could say that is love coming back at you so it you send it out and you don't always get it back sometimes the person may be so deeply trapped in their ego that that nothing much gets through and let's put and that's fine that's where they're at at the moment but it still feels good to to feel this emanation but very often when the emanation is reflected and then comes back in the new field loved to the of course usually the other person doesn't understand it at deeper level doesn't understand that what they love in you is not the person it's something right and that connects both of you so I I feel it's always and uh the process is mute is always Mutual I feel evil and the real love a flower even the flower there's a certain with this much percent a little mystical but uh there is this there's a certain response that you get of the worship about it sometimes when I recognize and appreciate the beauty of a tree or flower uh I this is similar because even the flower of the tree is a manifestation of Consciousness at a different vibrational frequency from a human so everything is a vibration of Consciousness that is taken temporary form so the the flower the tree are also a beneficial of Consciousness when I recognize and appreciate that the beauty of the flower of the tree uh week There's a sense of Oneness and and at that moment the tree can sense that it is being recognized and it becomes aware of its own Beauty through you so you redeem nature you give you add something to Nature by recognizing to say Christmas and beauty of nature you add something to Nature wow and then we can say nature loves you back too you can say wow that's beautiful yeah so I sometimes recommend people should go go to a tree and and allow the tree to teach you Stillness because the tree is there it's deeply rooted in the earth and the Earth's branches and it's very still it might have been there for 100 years 200 years it's very it's still you approach it and nature can teach you anything in nature can teach you that the Stillness connect you with the dimension that's beyond egoic Consciousness wow this is beautiful Eckhart is is there anything that you struggle with these days personally is there you know you've done this work and practiced it and taught it for so long is there anything you struggle or suffer with in your own life that is still a challenge oh this yeah there are challenges um I'm not good at dealing with it practical things so much anymore it's live uh um Financial things and so on can feel us a bit of a burden sometimes yeah um the the humans are but otherwise there's no suffering I don't I don't have periods of suffering at all that's gone uh the urines have um uh just being and doing is another way of putting it being Dimension is a vertical the doing dimensions are horizontal the two are important some humans are more drawn towards doing creating manifesting yes others are more drawn towards being which is appreciating what is and to mean what happened may not have many goals to achieve they might be happy doing that God the field been one and it's every human has to find the kind of balance between being and doing nobody probably is completely in the middle well it's very hard to be complete in the middle you're totally balanced between being doing um I might always more inclined to I mean the being dimension and for a few years when I was younger I experienced a kind of Awakening I was kind of so much into being dimensional that I lost interest in any kind of doing for a few years really it was so the present moment was so joyful and beautiful and I had no money nothing or while I had no home but it was lovely big sitting on park benches present moment was so fulfilling and then gradually I was able to start doing again and now I am still I love just be just to be to contemplate nature or just to sit in a room and just be uh but well but I'm able to do because I well I wrote the books I do teachings I travel so I give talks and Retreats so I'm I am doing I I'm able to function on that level But the irony is that all the all my doing is in the service of teaching being that's great so you'll do for a week and then you're like I'm gonna go B for a month yeah yeah that's amazing I want to be respectful of your time I have two final questions uh kind of quicker questions for you but before I asked those I want people to get your books Again The Power of Now is one that I read many years ago that I highly recommend uh to everyone and also uh this book as well which is it's become you know more popular in the last few years I feel like it's got this Resurgence even though I think it's 15 years 15 years ago you wrote it I think Oprah said uh if you only read one book in your life read and do us a new Earth Awakening to your life's purpose so make sure you guys get both copies starting whichever one you want uh but both of them are amazing also if people want to connect with you they can go to your website uh we'll have everything linked up as well in here and you're starting to get more content on social media so make sure to follow uh Eckhart over on YouTube and all the different platforms that you're on and I really want to acknowledge you before I ask these final two questions at guard four your level of service again you could be 24 7 and sit in the woods and in the room and and be a happy human being just being you've already done so much for Humanity with your work your message workshops and everything you've done uh so I acknowledge you for continuing to be of service continuing to serve when you choose to when you show up when you deliver when you're coming on here and doing this I know this is going to reach millions of people over time and impact them profoundly so I'm very appreciative and grateful to you for being a messenger of Love generosity of kindness and teaching those who are struggling and suffering how to get back into alignment of who they truly are so they can be peaceful and in Harmony in them now so I'm really I want to acknowledge you and appreciate you for taking the time uh these two final questions first one is is a hypothetical scenario a question I call this the three truths so I'd like for you to imagine even though you never imagined the future that much because you're always in the now but I'd like you to go there for a moment and imagine you get to live as long as you want to in this realm but for whatever reason it's the last day and for whatever reason in this hypothetical question all your message is gone it's got to go with you to the next place or it's just not in this world anymore so your books this interview any Workshop you've done online it's we don't have access to it but you get to leave behind three lessons to the world three truths that you know are true for you and this is all we would have to be reminded of your messages what would be those three truths for you well um ultimately the the truth uh the ultimate truth is is one I and you can out of the one so you can extrapolate and several other truths lay rise out on the ultimate choice is uh realize who or what you are realize that you are in essence not a person you are Consciousness your manifestation of universal Consciousness you are the universe experiencing itself as of Julian you are the consciousness of the universe experiencing itself briefly but you are far beyond to realize who or what you are beyond the person so that's the ultimate process and realize that you you are not the ego that is discovering who are what you are not and realize the possibility of living without uh Suffering The Suffering that's created by the job Alliance the uh the possibility of being free of suffering free of unhappiness and the way towards that is radical acceptance of the easiness of the present moment learn radical acceptance of the isness of now that will take you to a deep place of realization of who or what you are and you're not the ego you don't realize it who you're not not is important part part of the kind of negative realization who you are not once you realize you are what you are ultimately not then who or what you are emerges naturally that's beautiful uh final question for you Eckhardt what is your definition of greatness well um of course as you know one can give many many definitions according to one's level of Consciousness but at the deepest level greatness is again when you go to the deepest level the answer is always the same by the way greatness is to uh to live consciously to embody Consciousness in this lifetime to embody the unconditioned Consciousness in this lifetime that is greatness and then other things arise out of that you affect the world in many different ways by living as Consciousness and consciously rather than as an egoic entity uh so then you you begin to change the world even if you don't say I am going to change the world it happens organically and naturally so the and the way in which you experience the world is always a reflection of your state of consciousness so you begin to experience a different world when you are aligned with the like what I call the unconditioned Consciousness that is who or what you are in your essence that is the greatness is uh to have fulfilled your purpose in this Incarnation on this Earth and that is to be part of the evolving consciousness of the universe that is greatness to have fulfilled your purpose and the all the outer conditions are secondary the end your coach theoretically you could for example field your purpose even in the present sound when you come to this realization four things you want to change how you act how do you how do you act you complain you blame you make excuses you feel sorry for yourself that's a victim Consciousness what emotions do you live by is it possible that you're so used to living by guilty don't even know it's guilt it just feels like you you allow your energy to drop become conscious of those states of mind

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