My Family Disowned Me

how do I navigate between being disowned by my three children okay so that's not a thing to navigate that's so one of the reasons we stress is there's all these pregiven right how do I navigate being disowned by my three children nothing to navigate that just exists right without taking on full blame and shame well so don't take on full blame and shame but allow it right one of the things I would love for you to see it let's see it a different way here's a new way to see it instead of saying my three adult children uh disowned me so my job is to avoid feeling pain and shame oh my three children unhooked my deep dark bearing of my blame and Shame by disowning me helped me become present so that I could transcend blame and shame in other words had your three children not disowned you which by the way I would just love to say disowned means they don't own you anymore right how do I navigate being disowned by my three children without taking on blame and shame well what we'd like to live in a world is where you're not owned by where you're not told that you have to be what you need to be right from them in other words your children cut you off from the burying and the numbing of blame and shame so now it's coming up so get excited and be present with it right there's blame and shame in your body so if you're feeling blame and shame Bullseye we're ready to transcend it see most of us think we're here to keep people in our life to stop us from feeling blame and shame that already existed in our body so this makes almost all relationships and connections to family members an addiction right oh I have these children that are not supposed to disown me oh good they like me now I don't have to look at my blame and shame but because they've disowned you you get to expose the LIE of blame and shame that's in your body and disconnect yourself from the blame and shame that might be in the whole family unit already it said I tried reaching out but they will not respond here's the upside to that I hear it I'm not not empathetic to your situation I'm sorry to hear and congratul ations because they won't respond means you have to actually transcend the blame and shame and why not do it now versus rearing it with their uh apparent approval and then get it to come back three years later through another thing much harder right the blame and shame is here for you to hear so my dare to you is not try to reach out and fix the circumstance to put the blame and shame back down but instead create a present space for the releasing of them remember as Maya Angelo said say love liberates so liberate them to have the right to not own you anymore and then you become present for the blame and shame that finally is released because you're not connected to people via blame and shame we don't want to be connected to people via blame and shame we want to be liberated we want to be free you're on this planet to be free so what's happening is the blame and shame is finally coming out because you have nothing to grab on to to bury it isn't that great so Janine a new way to see it is my three adult children are liberating the blame and shame it's up to me to participate with the liberation of it I choose to free them from having to own me and instead I am present for the energy of blame and shame through listening through silence and for the first time in my life being here for myself isn't that awesome Janine that's Freedom this is a great way to see this this is a way I see this stuff you know because blame and shame goes it's all my fault I did this I hurt them whatever maybe you did maybe you didn't but the blame and shame now when you're not even talking to them does nothing for you so why not not let this trigger go to waste and use this time to actually transcend the blame and Shame by being present for it and not grabbing anyone else's approval just literally sit there and be present for the feeling of they don't approve of me they're allowed to not approve of me I'm just here for it Janine does that help at all just hoping that helps instead of worrying about taking on blame and shame be present for it let it transcend the loneliness does hurt yeah of course Katherine says the loneliness does hurt the non-approval doeses hurt absolutely true I totally hear you that's how we transcend things real growth can hurt you have two types of hurt growth that can be chaotic and insane and real and then miraculous and dark and heavy and amazing it's a real journey it's like living on iasa now you guys doing this thing you're on kaasa we do kyasa every Wednesday and Sunday right you are watching kyasa we're doing the work we're choosing the roller coaster of Freedom right it's a nightmare and then it's magic and you'll go through things like when is the done I don't want to be this spiritual I wish I could just enjoy a football game and be like everyone no you're CH you chose to use this life to get this crap out right so we choose that so there's one kind of pain which is the loud big pull the Band-Aid off really get to the core thing pain that's big and scary and the release of a total egoic construct and horrifying and then at the same time there's another pain that's a stagnant lighter pain that lives with you for the rest of your life there's a video I saw recently called inaction is a slow death and it is because you can just choose to I'm not going to go meditate I'm not going to go work out I'm not going to follow my heart I'm not going to whatever it is and then I'll just flip through I'll just do the easy thing I'll keep the old world going and oh I'm numb enough watching TV I'm numb enough whatever it is ah okay I don't a beer okay I'll have an Al I'll have some alcohol I have some numbing distraction this starts to build up though because that deep pain is still there so you're just going to get more and more addicted and it's this kind of light depressing pain that isn't the actual transformation of anything and I sometimes hate that I have to choose this but I have no choice but to be with the transcending it pain so just because I there's no part of me that is not empathizing with the fact that it absolutely hurts it's true that it hurts but merge me with my soul no matter what the cost that's my life I am here to meet my soul Soul I'm here to find out what I am ask yourself what intention are you giving for why you're on the planet dude Vivy talked to me about this the other day my six-year-old daughter said why are we here she started asking who the first people were here I was like depends who you are you know and we started talking about it she was fascinated by it and she said why are you here data and I said to change the world but I want to change the world by knowing who I am and I said why are you here and she said I want to change the world too and I was like hell yeah there's a there's an intention for a six-year-old right she said help people and change the world my six-year-old has an intention most of us adults don't have an intention if if you don't have an intention you your ego gives you one it's to not upset anybody it's to people please it's to numb everything right if you don't have an intention your ego goes well then we'll just create an unconscious int intention right my intention is to right overeat my intention is to numb everything my intention is to do you get what I'm saying if you if you don't have an intention you just live kind of aimlessly and my intention personally is to know what I truly am so it requires right now a lot of crying a lot of releasing a lot of a talking to you about it so I can put words to whatever the hell's going on with me a lot of talks a lot of evolving relationship everything has that intention my relationship my team my friendships my best friends everything we do is to evolve to find out what the truth is of what I am if something or someone comes into my life and it's not aligned with my intention I have to learn to let go of it right hell yeah Mary Mary fast puts a heart in there because Mary knows that's Mary totally in that intention Mary is in the work like you wouldn't believe this team is in the work like you wouldn't believe you know I'm thinking of Brian who was on the call with me right before we started and just I know his heart and I've watched him grow so much spiritually for the last five years and just all my teammates were just all in the work you know just all in the work just looking at our patterns and being here and this is a team of people who have a very similar intention and know what we truly are to to find the truest self to get to the truth right it's beautiful so are you what's what's your intention I'd love to hear before we go to the next question share with me any intention that you have I'd love to hear anyone's intention is there an intention to uh what we want to know Brian sorry an that's a great intention to embody love I love that expanding my heart freeing myself rule with love beautiful Break Free of the BS I've been living by so let's put a positive on that right because if you're looking at the BS you're living by and trying to break free of it you're going to look for it become something that replaces that is my suggestion open my heart live with passion move my body more my intention is to expand be open be loved be the best that I can be become free to bring Beauty to the world allow all that is share Beauty align my spirit and form core values allow all freeing don't let fear block my expansion To Live My ultimate truth to be a bridge body be more authentic in what I'm feeling and what I believe self-realization look at this imagine if every decision you made was towards these intentions literally oh does that latte move me towards self-realization some people it could sometimes but maybe not for others right oh is is is it expansive for me to eat that ice cream is it is it aligning with my soul to whatever bring that person that's put me down so much into my life right move the world know my true self bring Humanity to help healthare these are beautiful let my heart lead my intention is to own my voice speak up when I need to be heard Listen to My Heart to inspire Enlightenment love people uh share be more open to become free of the fear that has kept me stuck for these years hearing everyone brings tears to my eyes this is beautiful move from my heart and Trust what I cannot see before it happens oh this is so good right so does it so does every every decision you make does it honor that intention or does it does it make it you get what I'm saying does it is it out of the way of it right so when someone shames you is it aligned with your intention some people's intention might be to cater to shame right with they don't have an aim right if you don't have a conscious intention that North Star that you can look at sometimes your intention can just be whatever life decides and you're kind of just running a little aimlessly just to let you know I'm really excited about our event coming up up in June June 20th through the 23rd called the big one if this little riff excited you way do you immerse yourself for four days in the truth of what you are we've discovered that when we do an event the next day is exponentially better than the first day so we thought what if we keep going and really keep connecting uninterrupted and go into a world that we can't come back from we can't unsee so we've made these tickets unbelievably cheap and December 31st is the last day that you can get them at a crazy discounted rate they'll still be discounted after it but it's a really cheap rate right now if you want to join us at the Alex theater in Glendale for the big one event me and I'm GNA have my guest friends Aaron ABY and Kim D join me we're going to do an insane 4-day event and see what unfolds from the infinite where you can't grab on to your old constructs anymore because you're in an environment that's celebrating the ACT actual truth of what you are and boy will being around that cause you to not have the old Story the old limitation the old addiction and let those things fall out as we do deep meditations dialogue stuff that opens your heart different exercises we're going to do so many different things and once you're on day four you will not be able to unsee what you just saw and you will finally have an intention because you got a taste of that true you that will cause you to move intentions from how do I get the person to like me how do I make the money how do I build the business too I want that what am I I want to feel that I want to know what I am join us for the big one it's going to be insane and get tickets while they're costing almost nothing right now and move into a place of Oneness that you can't move back from and watch as a lot of the true essence of what is causing the pain in your heart Falls away I can't wait to see you there

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Length: 14min 12sec (852 seconds)

Published: Sun Jan 14 2024