My Engagement Ring Cost Less Money Than Sister In Law's - Messed Up Marriage Proposal Stories

ass credit what's the most messed up marriage proposal story you've ever heard anyways one night I just couldn't sleep so I decided to take four times ten milligrams ambience I'm an idiot and I had an engagement ring in my drawer that I traded for some other jewelry because I buy and sell stuff on Craigslist anyways long story short I woke up and she was wearing the ring on her finger and had explained what had happened and I was just shook because I couldn't remember it I go on my Facebook and apparently my ambien tricked brain changed my relationship status to engaged and it got a hundred and fifty plus likes before I saw it I had not planned on being engaged with my girlfriend for another year and a half and probably would have gotten her a better ring but ambien sped the process up ten folds my 28 years old male friend has a boyfriend that is planning on proposing I've been childhood friends with her and she's not a fan of being surprised she hate surprise parties etc I know her boyfriend and he confided to me that he is planning on proposing to her he had an elaborate plan set up where they will go to a local city or diner and he'll propose at a park or some crap so the next time I saw my friend I immediately told her about her boyfriends plan and she was happy about it as she wanted to marry him I told her not to tell the boyfriend and pretend to be surprised and she agreed however it didn't go according to plan as my friend couldn't hold it in anymore and let it slip that she knows he's going to propose the boyfriend confronted me and we had a huge argument I told the boyfriend he should have taken into consideration that she doesn't like to be surprised my friend later told me she can't invite me to the wedding because of the argument which I don't think is fair because I would go to support her I called her boyfriend and after trying to understand his perspective he was still not inviting me I called him a massive prick for creating a wedge between me and my friend my husband and I have been married for about two years with him proposing about three years ago after we got engaged a couple of people suggested I get my engagement ring insured husband bought the ring from a well-known chain jewelry store and has a warranty on it that covers damages but it wouldn't be covered in the event that it was lost or stolen I considered getting the ring itself insured but a renter's insurance covers up to a couple of thousand dollars in jewelry so I figured additional insurance would only be if the ring was valued well over that amount now I had an idea what the ring cost just from owning jewelry all my life and didn't think it was more than that but just to be sure I looked up the ring on the jewelry chains website rather than bring it to be appraised I was right that our renter's insurance was enough to cover the cost of the ring if it was stolen so I left it at that well a few weeks ago my sister-in-law husband's sister gets engaged to her longtime boyfriend and he proposes with a massive diamond that his whole family is still talking about it is a beautiful ring and I told her and her fiance that when they showed us at dinner my husband immediately got defensive and started to say that even though my ring is smaller he still paid a lot of money for it I said I know and I love it and me complimenting his sister's ring was not a knock against my own ring for whatever reason on our way home he tells me he paid X amount of dollars for the ring and that's all he could afford but I know for a fact that's not what he paid because I had previously looked it up in fact he more than doubled the actual price of the ring I asked him if that was truly what he paid and he questioned why I was asking and I told him how I had looked into the price of the ring after he initially gave it to me before insurance purposes and it was listed at half that amount online he then started saying well actually it wasn't X amount it was maybe Y amount but it really maybe zet amount on sale etc I just kind of nodded and decided to move on because it was clear he was lying and the price doesn't matter to me and I didn't want to make him feel bad he then angrily demanded to know why I had looked up the price in the first place I again explained about the insurance and told him that if I did get it insured I would have had to have it appraised anyway and would know the cost he's still upset with me for doing this and thinks I think the ring is cheap and only looked it up to prove how cheap it was this of course is not true I love my ring and have always said so but my husband is very annoyed I went out of my way to find the cost I love her she's really important to me but she's in no way ready to be my wife she has no job no education beyond high school can't drive needs help doing basic tasks she's been living with me for a few months and it's slowly been making me more and more depressed having to work and take care of her I proposed out of blind passion but thinking about it now I wish I'd waited my job can take me out of the country for extended periods of time and she won't be able to sustain herself let alone any kids we have she's so excited for the wedding now though and I can't bring myself to just call it off it's almost like it's all she has in life I don't know what to do I don't know how to help her I'm at a loss me 24 years old female and my significant other 22 years old male have been together for close to two years I love him dearly he's always been so respectful of me as a woman and a human being he's always making sure I'm safe he's always helping me and my family if we need help with small things he's always there for me and I'm forever grateful for him well we are both finishing up our degrees we do plan on going to grad in law school and work full-time I mentioned that I wanted to be at least engaged at 3 or 4 years of dating I didn't mind having a cheap ring as I barely wear jewelry or even having a long engagement as in two years or so because honestly weddings are expensive I do have an understanding that we are both young so a wedding later down the line is good this is my general timeline but I do understand that everything may not align and that there is compromise and I can deal with that my issue here is that when I mention it he's on board he acts excited about it and makes it seem reasonable but then he turns around a couple of days later and says well I don't know it may be a couple of years before we get engaged I really don't know but I do love you this is my issue background my boyfriend and I have been together five years we have been through the usual couple things bought and sold our first home recently moved into what we intended to be the family home been on holidays etc we have lived together for three and a half years and for the most have a very stable and fulfilling relationship we both however are at an age where genuinely most people we know are getting engaged and married I have been ready for this next step for two years now and I have made him aware and he always says marriage is definitely in our future however we've been together over five years and my resentment for him is building today my best friend got engaged and although I was happy for her I couldn't help think how they've been together less than us don't own a home together etc and I sort of felt my time should have come my partner is traditional in the sense he wants to be the one to propose he asked me last year to get my ring size measured but nothing since I know he hasn't bought a ring as he asked me to do a transfer for him whilst he was abroad and I know from the amount in his account no purchase has been made he is reasonably wealthy and we do not have money issues I pay my half of everything 5050 I know most of you are probably going to think I'm pathetic but I really want me to this validation at this time of my life and our relationship and I'm struggling with the impending weddings and Pho happiness we've sat down and discussed marriage many times and its importance and that if we weren't aligned we probably shouldn't stay together he promises he has the same values as me but actions show otherwise am I an idiot being strung along or his five years not long to wait I'll get this out of the way I feel like an incredible idiot here but maybe it's one of those things where she's overreacting a bit I honestly don't know and maybe it doesn't matter because we have to move on one way or another so back story on this fiance grew up in a smallish mountain town north of Albuquerque New Mexico as did her parents and both sets of grandparents both grandparents got engaged in the town plaza because it was sort of the thing to do back in the day her parents also got engaged in the plaza but in a much more informal hippie-ish manner in the 70s but it was still the same location when we seriously started talking about marriage she told me flat-out to paraphrase I don't care about the ring I don't care about you asking my dad for permission I don't care how much you spend what time of year it is or if it's freezing outside I want you to propose in the Taos Plaza I was like cool I can do that so we'd been talking about rings for maybe the last six months and I finally bought one that I feel definitely fit her personality I stupidly told her best friend and best friend told her so last weekend we decided to spend the weekend in her hometown skiing as the weekend came to a close I could tell she was getting antsy er and antsy air but it honestly didn't clue in what the deal was as we drove past the plaza on the way back to Albuquerque she even said hey look it's the plaza we should stop because I'm an idiot it didn't clue me in what she was talking about and I was the good computer engineer and said something like no no we have a schedule to keep work tomorrow so the whole way home she was that kind of mad sad and wasn't really talking to me I figured she was tired and didn't make much of it so next day I saw her best friend at work she works with me and she basically said that I really blew it because girlfriend was expecting me to propose on the trip in an aha moment I was like that's why she was mad so I took her out for a nice dinner Tuesday night and got on one knee and proposed to her in a restaurant she said yes but I could tell she was still really upset I asked her what was wrong and she very openly told me again paraphrasing I love you and want to marry you but for almost a year and a half I've told you I want one thing and one thing only for my proposal and it's going to take me a long time to not be upset that you didn't listen to me so the moment that was supposed to symbolize the start of our new life together ended with her taking most of her food home in a doggie bag leaving to her apartment by herself and telling me I really love you but I'm really upset and I need some time before I see you again and kissing me on the cheek I know she'll come around but I don't know when this is going to be a bit long so anytime I have brought up the subject of marriage over the last probably seven years my boyfriend either just says he wants to get married someday makes it into a joke and not a real answer or says we're basically married he never seems to want to actually talk about when I've been very patient and at the beginning of our relationship I told him that I'm not waiting 10 years to get married on our second Christmas together he got me a promise ring then last Christmas after hinting he got me something big he pulls out a jewelry box I was so excited and thought it was finally happening he then hands it to me to open and it was another promise ring I couldn't help but feel disappointment though I didn't show it to him of course so now I for some reason have to promise rings in 9 years and no hint of proposal in sight add that to the fact that he has all this money he's saved for a drum set he's so excited about which he told me about right after I mentioned marriage oddly and a new Playstation 4 etc I'm tired of getting my hopes up just to have them crushed every time it really is hurting my feelings at this point what really set my emotions rolling is that my sister for years my junior got engaged a few months ago she and her fiance were dating for two years my cousin just got engaged as well and my boyfriend's friend just got married my boyfriend 28 years old and I 29 years old female have been dating for nearly six years I'm waiting for a proposal that is just not coming I am ready to settle down and start a family but I want to be married first I have suggested proposing myself since I do not mind if we veer from tradition but he was adamant he has to be the one about two months ago I told him that not getting engaged or married has me worried he told me he was not ready now but he did want the same things with me marriage children etc eventually he could not provide a timeline or a reason for not being ready we have known each other for over 10 years and I've been told by many of his friends that before we dated and when we were just friends he had always expected to end up with me but each step of our relationship he has hesitated to commit I was ready to move in after one and a half years of dating one year of long distance and a half year in the same city after I relocated to be with him we moved in together after two and a half years although we were broken up for a month during that time over that issue I was eager to not have roommates three and a half years into dating we waited to look for our own place until four and a half years into dating and it took a year to find one we plan to move in this autumn just the two of us no roommate I do not want to spend the rest of my life waiting an additional 1 to 3 years for every milestone in the meantime my resentment is growing our six-year anniversary is approaching and I do not even feel like celebrating it I am ashamed angry resentful and hurt that I have dated someone that long with the future in question I feel like my love for him is morphing into resentment and doubt if he had proposed two years ago I would have been surprised and thrilled if he had proposed last year I would have been relieved and excited if he proposes now I might yell at him for waiting so long if he waits another six months a year two years six years I might say no or be gone before then I'm just not sure what to do next or how long to wait I've been with my girlfriend for over a year I'm also a female for what it's worth she is undoubtedly the love of my life and we have just set up our first proper home together in a country on the other side of the world to where we are both from my best friend has been with her male partner for nine years they just got engaged a couple of days ago it's very much been on the cards for ages and I knew he was going to do it soon as he told me as much I figured it would be around this time as they're on holiday somewhere amazing and it just seemed incredibly likely he would take the opportunity to pop the question there I want to marry my girlfriend in the next year or so because we desperately want children and where we are from it's much easier for a same-gender couple to have joint parental rights if they are legally married if one of us were male we wouldn't need to rush getting married saying that we are absolutely head-over-heels in love and I know she is the person I want to spend my life with regardless of future children I have been planning an elaborate proposal for January 2020 since August of this year my BFF and her now fiance have been aware of that for months now it's the only time the two of us will be back in our home country with friends and family for at least a year and they are all a part of this elaborate proposal my boyfriend now fiance used to be amazing besides small things like who takes out the trash tonight and what we should watch on Netflix that evening we barely thought and he always treated me with respect and I did the same to him he proposed about a month ago and I was over the moon for the moment we are planning a wedding in May 2021 over the last two weeks he's been driving me nuts he treats me like his own personal maid or servant instead of his fiance or life partner a recent example of this is when he and I went to a clothing store to try on some things for an upcoming wedding that were attending I pointed out a shirt for him that I thought was cute and he said yeah I like it I think I'd need a medium and just kind of stared at it I went about the store to get something for myself and then motioned him to come to the counter to check out and he screamed where's my shirt um what you didn't ask for me to get you the shirt you just said you'd need a medium but didn't pick up the shirt or ask me to get it for you I told him that and he started screaming some more that he asked for a medium which again did not happen he just said he'd think he needed one at this point everyone in the store was staring at us so I just decided to call it quits and laughed he followed me after a few minutes later another example is when I was about to leave for a networking event at work and I let him know I would be gone for a majority of the evening it was a dinner his first response was well then what am I supposed to eat obviously implying that I would be cooking dinner we usually do things 5050 including cooking so I have no clue where that comment even came from I let him know that he could cook for himself or just get takeout but when I come home at 8 I would not be doing any cook he had another Screamfest before I just decided to leave before you ask yes I have spoken with him about this his responses are always really back but his go-to for the past three days has been well you're about to be my wife and this is what wives do hell no I did not sign up for this wives do much more than just being servants to their husbands I'm about to throw in the towel and call it quits this is already annoying as all get-out and I don't know if I can take a lifetime of this it's also frustrating that he did not display these behaviors before we got engaged the lack of communication of his wants and needs on his end is killing me is the salvageable or should I just move on I brought up counselling but he is refusing I met a total loss here history boyfriend and I our late 30s live together been together for two years we've spoken about marriage in the past almost got married spur-of-the-moment this summer on vacation but a huge fight put the kibosh on that no kids it's come to my attention that he may be proposing soon while I would have been thrilled these last two three months had been difficult for us and is making me second-guess if we can make it you know when things are great everyone is happy but when things are bad you analyze and think about every little detail that sometimes isn't the cause of the fight that's where I meant right now like we thought about X Y Z but now him not throwing away the Keurig pod is more aggravating than normal we are doing okay but an accumulation of the past few months is putting a damper on my view of our relationship and I'm not sure if marriage should be the next step I am not naive in thinking we won't ever fight but with our recent problems I'm wondering if we are compatible in the long run [Music] you [Music]

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Length: 17min 15sec (1035 seconds)

Published: Wed Mar 04 2020