Mufti Menk - How You Make Others Feel

bismillah r-rahman r-rahim alhamdulillah wa salatu wa salam o allah rasool allah wa ala aalihi wa sahbihi ajma'in we start in the name of allah the most gracious the most merciful we praise allah subhanahu wa ta'ala the lord of the worlds a boon referring to the one who is the nourisher the cherisher the sustainer the provider the prek the protector the cure the one in whose hands lies absolute control of every aspect of existence we send blessings and salutations upon muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam because allah chose him to be sent to us to remove us from the darkness and to bring us to the light we send blessings and salutations upon all the messengers of allah who were chosen by him to come to mankind and to guide them with the light that allah subhanahu wa ta'ala gave them we ask Allah to bless the beloved companions the blessed household and everyone of us here in Bradford say I mean mashallah those who are here those who are not here to our children our offsprings those two come right up to the end humanity at large may Allah bless all of us I mean my brothers and sisters the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him always made people feel very very important everyone when he saw a child he actually paused for a moment and gave the child such importance that the child felt empowered subhanAllah are you a good Muslim who thinks they're reasonable Muslims don't be ashamed put up your hand reasonable Muslims put up your hands come on come on come on put up your hands a bit higher come on mashaallah I think we all are reasonable Muslims and we all are if they're maybe from amongst us those who are not Muslim perhaps at least you are a reasonable human being right we supposed we are supposed to be having decent character and conduct to say the least right my brother's my sisters if you're a true Muslim if you want to be a follower of Islam we know the pillars of Islam we know how many are they by the way say them loud you said we're reasonable Muslims five mashallah that's someone coming from outside Bradford subhanAllah you can tell it's like Thank You sister by the way you deserve a medal it's a pity I don't have one right now may Allah bless you that I mean was better than a medal mashallah so I promised you five pillars we know them worship Allah alone we believe The Messenger Muhammad peace be upon him is the final messenger we want to follow him etc we believe in we try to pray we try to fulfil our you know the fasting in Ramadan in the best possible way the charities to the poor those of us who can afford the Hajj we've already been there or we are planning to go there all we're praying that we can't afford it one day may Allah Subhanahu WA Ta'ala accepted all from us masha'Allah the our means are definitely louder than other places that's a bonus it will make me want to come back here again very soon I love it because you never know when it's the moment of acceptance of prayers right you never know because the angels are right here right now do you know that didn't you hear brother was saying the Angels true the Angels and you know what when it's a moment of acceptance of prayer and you are busy saying Amin or you're saying a prayer you hit the jackpot you hit the jackpot may Allah Subhanahu WA Ta'ala granted to us at least a few times in our lives mashaallah that's even louder so my brothers and sisters the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him like I said we know the pillars but sometimes we behave in a way that is actually so embarrassing on one hand we claim to be the ambassador's of this beloved beautiful messenger and on the other hand we are such an embarrassment that people dislike Islam and they dislike starv Allah the messenger peace be upon him simply because of the way we behave we behave in a ridiculous way Allah I'm going to share something with you I was traveling with a brother and you know what he was a guest from another country and there was a family no no offense if it was you but anyway there was there was a family driving in a small little car I think it was a Nissen Micra of me cried and how do you pronounce that Micra in British okay fine don't worry I'll get it then listen Mike Ross of Hanna LA and guess what they were zooming at 100 miles an hour and when I saw the sky I told her brother brother these are Muslims I said most probably practicing and guess what I decided to step up a bit mashallah and the brother slowed down a little bit I think he must have felt embarrassed because to be honest with you something happened I'll tell you just now but as we passed them I was wondering he's got his phone and his phone in his hand and he's driving and he's busy taking a picture of who of me in my car and the guy next to me tells me how did you know they're Muslims I said you know the problem is we have something known as laying your trust in Allah even when you're breaking the law may Allah Subhanahu WA Ta'ala forgive us the guy must have said to Allah Allah let's go and he's speeding it can only be a Muslim who really relies on a map so much that he's got such a lousy vehicle but he's whacking it on the highway like you can't believe subhanAllah and he doesn't mind his tires are about to probably pop but he's it's okay why I read my article see you know that I did my Dora you know and look at the embarrassment on top of that he's waving at me and I'm thinking you're waving your phone at me my brother and you don't realize that it's a youth you know you could just die he must be thinking it's such a blessed death if I were to die right now no way it's illegal it's unacceptable never use the fact that you've prayed to perpetrate or to engage in that which is criminal or unacceptable it doesn't mean I said Roger Allen I mean by any Adm Sugden women healthy him said and now the cops won't see me people believe that right they read the do I do I not to be seen by the cops when you're traveling Oh subhanAllah it's one of the most read to us by some I see them laughing it's part of surah yaseen it means it means and we have placed a bar before them and a bar behind them so that they don't see that's what it means it's referring to those who are astray and you think it refers to the cops or the speed cameras or something Allah forgive us we've downgraded the understanding of the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him we become an embarrassment to humanity we become a statistic people who don't abide by the basic safety rules claiming I'm a good Muslim where are you by the way it's a small minority but the problem is as much as they're a small minority it's a big deal because you and I know that the media creates a hype when the Muslim sneezes right you type Muslim guys least everyone ran away subhanAllah it happens we have to go the extra mile to ensure that if someone were to look at us to speak to us we behave in a way that they would really be so intrigued and impressed they would want to know what is the driving force behind your perpetual smile what is the driving force behind your positivity what is it it's your faith in the Almighty what's the driving force behind the goodness that emanates from you it's the beauty of the faith I follow I was telling you this brother the reason why we were able to catch up with him as I stepped up a bit he realized who it was he slowed down that's what happened so he actually slowed down because of the person he thought he saw and when he confirmed it he he engaged in another crime that was the phone imagine you breaking the speed and you're on the phone the speed limit may allah subhanahu wa ta'ala grant us ease so I said the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him made sure that people felt very important how many of us give importance to children you see a child we don't even notice the child moments ago I was with a good friend of mine we went to see someone and this brother mashallah he's a well known brother and I noticed something may Allah bless him he's not here so I can talk about him good not bad I noticed something and I picked it up and I said I'm gonna talk about this tonight that inspired me to speak about it guess what it was we visited a boxer with another boxer and a rugby player and I noticed that when we walked in we sat down he took a moment to speak to one of the young boys who was with us I just watched and I said this man has refined his character here what I'm saying I can tell because it requires an effort initially to do that by the way it was Sonny Bill Williams we went to see Americana about an hour back and we were sitting his wife's given birth and hamdullah both of their wives gave birth masha'Allah I don't know if it's something to do with boxing or or rugby mashallah but anyway may Allah bless everyone who has children with goodness making the coolness of your eyes those who don't have children may Allah bless you with children and I've said it this venue the last time even if you're not married just say I mean aloud say it may Allah bless you with children say I mean you know why because if you're not married in order for Allah to give you that he has to give you something before that and that's a blessed marriage so if Allah is gonna give you children who are gonna be the coolness of your eyes he has to start off by giving you a spouse who's going to be the coolness of your eyes hence that Amin is like a two-in-one don't worry the sisters are laughing because the only two in one day know is the shampoo masha'Allah may allah subhanahu wata'ala bless you always the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him gave the children importance when I see a rugby player Muslim and he's a serious Muslim by the way you know meaning he's quite a practising brother and you know what I noticed he just made the child feel important hey a small question or two that's it carry on do you do that I want you to change your life my brothers and sisters make people feel important make them feel important starting with children another when someone is challenged with some form of what we call a disability but it's actually being able differently because if Allah takes one thing away from you he gives you something else in a bigger way those who cannot hear sometimes are SH much sharper than those who can hear those who cannot see sometimes their ears can hear things that are you know at the distance and he'll be shot they can pick up voices from a mile and tell you is that brother here and you're wondering how do you know well if Allah took one thing away from me he's gonna polish up the other so you're able in a different way but those people they don't want you to pity them no never they don't want you are I'm so sorry you know you don't have a leg hey I don't have a leg it's one of those things so I'm probably walking more than you are in my own way I am achieving more than you are so as abled as we think we are we actually achieve less than them because they've been challenged and man can only achieve when he's out of his box out of the comfort zone that's when you start achieving when a mob wants to bless you he takes things away from you all of us in our lives without a single exception we are where we are simply because Allah closed certain doors for us in our lives do you agree with that Allah closed some doors had he opened every door you wanted you wouldn't have been here today you'd have been somewhere else you might have even been a failure you might have been whatever else but Allah says I knew I'll close the store that door because I'm maneuvering you to a direction you would never have imagined you got you I am here also because those who are closed so when the door closes it is a blessing matter of time and the condition is look at it positively get up walk sprint in the direction that you can it is a blessing you would never have believed how fast you can run until the lion chases you do you agree Masha Allah may allah subhanahu wata'ala grant Aziz so my brothers and sisters you pick up refined character you give people importance someone is disabled we call them like I say it is an English term it's not derogatory it actually does refer to some you know disability however like I say there there are more refined terms to refer to that some people prefer to say the the differently-abled some people say the challenged and so on all of that refers to something similar but they don't want your pity all they want from you is to acknowledge them as equal humans that's all equal humans if someone is darker than you in complexion all that is required of you is never ever to comment about their complexion this is Bradford I don't even want to ask you how many of you have ever commented about other's complexions because I think I'll be embarrassed people are worried about how fair they are and how dark they are I tell you the Almighty says it clearly your entry into paradise has nothing to do with your race nothing to do with your color nothing to do with the size or shape of your body or how much you weighed imagine you weigh and you strive to lose one stones half a stone you strive you struggle I promise you if you had struggles half of that dedication if you had to struggle just a little bit not even the struggle to get closer to the Almighty you'd shed some of your spiritual baggage far quicker than you would shed your own weight and by the way it's not bad it's not bad - what to be a few kilos this way in that way nothing wrong don't get too obsessed I remember visiting a country and they were talking about one of the girls who wanted to get married and obviously every culture has its own taste and has its own understanding and so on and they were talking about a certain girl getting married and one of the brothers said she won't find a husband this was some way in Africa by the way and I was shocked I said brother you cannot say that you know stuff through lies he said no man she's nothing she must eat potatoes and whatever them in our culture you can only get married if you're 70 kilos or more I looked at him I said in my culture most of the girls would be disqualified Subhan Allah may Allah grant us forgiveness protection something you look at as positive others look at his negatively you see it's a matter of where you come from your culture Allah says I'm not gonna judge you by your weight try your best you must be fit don't say I'm a Muslim like I say it's okay it's okay I can weigh as much as I want no you cannot you must take pride in what you look like in what you feel like in your health you must learn to do something about it but don't become obsessed that's what we're saying obsession means now it stresses you just because of one pimple on your face not at all I've got Tim by the way it's fine my brothers and sisters let's refine ourselves you see someone darker than you taller than you shorter than you very thin huge no problem greet them smile at them make them feel important give them that empowering the sense of belonging it will help them and guess what more than it helps them you did yourself a favor we the Muslims are taught that when you give a charity say from amongst us there's a multi-millionaire and inshallah they are and they were to give a charity to a poor person a Muslim should never think that you know what I did the man a favor impossible you didn't he did you a favor by what by accepting a charity Allah created a poor person in order what do you think for the rich to become arrogant in order for your act of worship to be accepted and a charity is one of the biggest acts of worship the hadith the Prophet Mohammed prophesizes may peace be upon him that close to the end of time there will be so much of wealth that they will not be a poor person to give money to money to give you a charity to it I promise you and bitcoin was hitting twenty thousand I felt we're coming to the time then Allah blessed us by dropping a bit we haven't yet come to the time but you know what they can't come a time when everyone has so much that if you want to give a charity the guy would say to who who are you insulting dear man you follow what I'm saying so while you can give the charity who is fortunate Allah is gonna close the door of charity at one stage meaning monetary for a while not forever but for a while he won't find a poor person so when you see a purpose and consider yourself fortunate yms in lafalot 10 how in surah taha allah says the one who's begging the one who's asking don't ever rebuke him why it's all got to do with how you make them feel honor such that you don't even make a public show of the fact that I helped this guy that's why he is alive many of us do it you say brother if it wasn't for me you would have been in the dumps that statement doesn't come from a true believer never Allah says yeah you have in a manner to Berkeley know so that article bill many well ever oh you who believe do not destroy the reward of your charities by bragging about it and by harming those after you have been charitable that means if I give you a charity and I brag about it I've just nullified the reward of it I'm supposed to humble myself I'm supposed to make you feel more important than I even though the world might think you did a favor the person might also believe you you did a favor but you know what you if you are refined you look at it in a different way humble yourself humble yourself bring yourself to the understanding that you're supposed to be upon never ever maltreat people based on their financial standings social standing sometimes we only greet the rich and famous sometimes we're only you know acknowledging people who look a certain way the day you can acknowledge people who look totally different people who are from perhaps a totally different background different race different nationality different religion different background the day you can acknowledge them and respect them for the fact that they are human they share with you the common factor the common forefather subhanAllah who was your greatest grandfather Brahma what was his name your greatest grandfather how could you not know who knows Adam who was your greatest grandfather what was his name Adam you're right so we're related shamans we're all related here I knew it when I walked in I see my cousin's all here waiting for me so Hannah laughs yes you are it's the love you feel when you realized I'm a human if I'm a human you're a human I don't care where you suddenly ended up you know Bradford or wherever else okay I don't cave yo you know if the children of that man somehow someone ended up in Nigeria and the other one ended up in America and the other one was still you know wherever in in the Middle East and one was in Pakistan and the other was in India you have to acknowledge if you're a refined human being that after all we are brothers and sisters in humanity the day you acknowledge that that's the day you inched towards understanding who your maker is because that it's the same maker who made them made you me I'm trying to impress the same creator who created everyone else so if he created everyone else and I am so loving and kind to all his creatures surely he'll be impressed with me and if I'm nasty to one creature of the Almighty do you think he's gonna be impressed with me he made that creature to follow what I'm saying and we call ourselves religious see what I'm saying understand Allah that's why the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him tells us the almighty will not have mercy on the one who doesn't have mercy on the rest of mankind as a starting point lay our hand in Lihue Malaya hominis statement of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him Allah does not have mercy upon those who don't have mercy on other human beings that why do I say a starting point because it extends beyond that to animals to birds to the fish to the ecosystem you need to have mercy on your own ecosystem by doing what preserving it that's the Muslims that's a beautiful person you're worried about pollution perhaps from your own systems you worried about other things in the environment you won't litter you that's what makes you a good Muslim so I started off by telling you the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him made people feel important do you want to know to what extent to what extent what do you think who was who was his best friend is the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him please say his name said Abu Bakr Siddiq of the allahu anhu how many from among you know the real name of abu bakr put up your hands besides from this table you know the real name of abu bakr okay if you've heard the the name abu bakr radiyaallahu anhu put up your hands you heard the name abu bakr of the allah and put down your hands that was the best friend of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him okay two years younger the best friend and can I tell you what else he was one of the best of all the companions if not the best in rank his name was Abdullah did you ever know that and his father was with man father's name was with man so his name was actually Abdullah bin with man and they used to call him a buck and they used to call his father about Kohath so they used to call him a backrub not a bit falafel but his real name was Abdul lies like how we have names for ourselves yes I still don't know what we're stands with Masha Allah what is it by the way was him mashallah who seemed mashallah melih Grunch oh goodness my brother no Heba you're right in front of me so my brothers and sisters to what extent is the Prophet Mohammed peace be upon him make people feel important let me explain the Companions say la Ossa bujha de su who and I hadn't a krama alayhi minwu that is by far one of the most powerful statements when it comes to seeing how the prophets was Allah made people feel around him it says the companions are saying none of those in his company ever felt that there was anyone more honored than himself to the Prophet wow that's a miracle that is a miracle imagine I'm sitting with a thousand people and every one of the thousand believes this guy likes me the most how's that how is that this guy is the closest to me how is that masha'Allah I can see one of my one of my best friends as I was growing up mashallah and we went to school together for many years after high school he shifted to England and I went elsewhere to Saudi Arabia and he's sitting here with me today no offense my brother used to my best buddy because I'm just saying there are people who will feel I'm the closest that is an honor it get depict see that you really are close and perhaps as you develop yourself and like I said earlier you have to work hard you have to work hard to develop yourself it's not good enough to go home today and say it was a good lecture know now make your mind up I'm going to God the way I speak to my family members to begin with my colleagues at work my others like I told the Muslim non-muslim white or black or green or purple or whatever nationality it's okay the fact that they're human make them feel important man if you have differences if you want to teach them something if you want to reach out to them in one way or another the fact that you made them feel important would be the biggest entry point ever they would trust you they would listen to you you know when you get people coming to preach religion many people don't want to listen to them why simple reason they feel disconnected this man came in he just shoved everything down our throats he walked out he didn't show any compassion or care for me and the issues I'm going through and we all have unique issues everyone nobody from amongst us can claim you don't have a problem you've got a problem and if you don't it's coming subhanAllah I don't mean it in a bad way but it's the Almighty's plan he says you will be tested and you know what that's what makes you a better person your challenges people say why does Allah test us now the young children asked me you said Allah tests as why does he have to test us I said well you go to school why does the teacher test you well the teacher tests me in order to know whether I know my stuff and to get me to the next level said that's exactly what Allah does he tests you in order to to see if you know your stuff when he gets you to the next level and when you get to the next level will the test be easier or more difficult do you ever find an a-level question one plus one not at all you won't whenever I a whenever I give the example of one plus one something comes to my mind it was a lesson of honesty that we learned many many years ago and you know they say initially they had picked on certain colors and races but as I refined it we remove the colors and races because even when you're joking you shouldn't say the Pakistani and the Indian and this know if it's derogatory take that out refine yourself you know when I was a little bit younger and we were not yet as refined we sometimes used to laugh at these things now I actually send a message back to the brothers on my phone or whoever it was I said you know what think about what was said you could have joked without an insult may Allah forgive me and all of us and make us more conscious of it so they say there were three guys they went to apply for a job as an accountant right by the way I was told recently that accounting is gonna be taken over by computers very very soon so anyone becoming a CA you know the lifespan of it you're gonna have to go into crypto very soon may Allah forgive me and forgive me I might be totally wrong okay it's not my topic I should keep quiet right masha'Allah I shall laugh so three guys going to interview what did they want the job as the accountant so the first guy walks in and he comes out in a minute so the other two waiting said what happened said I don't know I walked him he said what's one plus one I said two and he said you can leave I said why so the other two now knew that hey is something wrong the next guy goes in and comes out in a minute so the third guy sitting this is what happened he said he did the same thing to me yeah but you're such a fool if you knew to was wrong why do you he said no I didn't say to because I knew to was wrong right I said eleven because one and one technically if you put the two together it makes you living so you know technical mind I might get the job he said you can leave the third guy says hahaha this guy probably needs a different answer so he enters like I told you the initial joke has nationalities next to it we don't put nationalities we leave it blank you'll still have a good laugh right why are you laughing bro I haven't even told you the joke so he walks in and he gets the job he got the job guess why he got the job the boss says watch 1+1 he says wait let me close the curtains close the curtains and I turn off the lights turn off the lights okay let me whisper in your ear I says okay what would you like it to be they say that's a real accountants rush hour laughs I love forgive us may Allah forgive us did you hear that I see we lost my Charlotte may Allah forgive us obviously that's a joke guys that's a total joke it's got nothing you know what you have to be up right please don't whisper in people's ears and start doctoring all your accounts masha'Allah but my brothers and sisters the reason why I brought it up is whenever I say 1+1 it brings me back to this something I heard years back and it's still quite an impressive joke right because part of it is true in some circles my brothers and sisters the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him made everyone feel so important the brothers the sisters meaning the men the women the children the old the others I give you one example Bilal II Bruna ba of the Allah and Mo was was a man from hibachi habesha is somewhere where Ethiopia is today so he was an African from Africa habesha he was before Islam a slave and Islam taught the Companions to free the slaves free them until they were all free they were all set free it started off with Abu Bakr the same man Abdul live north manner of the allahu anhu MA he used to buy the slaves and the freedom buy them from an owner one of the people of Quraysh buy them and then freedom buy them and then freedom and in that way the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him says that whoever does that they freed themselves on the day of judgement so if you wanted to be free from a punishment you had to buy one of these people who were oppressed completely unacceptably and free them you know people don't talk about this but that's his land so Abu Bakr Siddiq of Iran decided to buy bin Ali Baba and free him he was asleep when he freed him the honor and the dignity that he got as a Muslim he was one of the champions when the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him went up in Maharaja and Allah showed him Jannah and Jahannam meaning heaven and hell and the heavens and whatever else he came back onto the earth and guess what he said he says imagine everyone is sitting and waiting to listen you know what is he going to say he's going to describe for us his journey he started describing and he says where is belani out of all the people where is banal imagine you're looking for a person subhanAllah who was a slave probably the darkest in complexion but the professor solemn says where is below he says banana cement to crush fresh Attica fill Jannah he says when I was in Jannah I heard your footsteps look at this I heard your footsteps it goes to show that entry into paradise has nothing to do with your color it's going to do with your heart in return I am loo in a sari come Allah enlarges hamakom when I came young guru in a guru become an American that's a statement of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him he says Allah does not look at what you look like and your body's straight Allah does not look at your bodies or what you look like he looks at your deeds and your hearts that's what the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him taught us but with us no way this guy's like this at guys like that watch out for this they're thieves can I tell you something that will bite it will bite before the food comes a lot of us if not almost all of us feel within our hearts that my tribe is better than the one next door my people in my village my city my this my dad say what you want I'm speaking facts the day you get rid of that call yourself for good Muslim what's up with your nationality I know people coming from the subcontinent they won't allow their kids to marry a person from the village next door do you know some of them thank you I got the yes I wanted they won't I know people who won't allow a child to marry a person from a different nationality or from another part of the world a different race what for you haven't understood Allah and they'll use religious blackmail to try and prove to you that you know what it's not right it can't be imagine if Adam had to hear that my kids are gonna fight one day one's not gonna allow the other to marry the child that's what's been happening now good people religious longer the be a bigger the problem sometimes ok it's a fact my brothers and sisters eradicate that people have been given importance everyone is important greet people greet those who least expected they will be shocked you know we have for example volunteers who will be volunteering you know sometimes and I do this because like I say you have to think about it you have to force yourself you know to to discipline yourself think about it go to people and you know say a word that will move them you can everyone can and you know Allah will elevate you as a result of that you have people who are going to serve us right at the end you might want to take a moment to say to one of them thank you very much you guys did a very good job someone broke a glass we natural instinct people start thinking you know what what happened here they start getting upset and angry I hope things are changing now if you're a good Muslim that glass is broken it was broken it's shattered it's never going to return but Allah made it happen in front of you just to watch how you reacted the Angels have written how you reacted and you go to the next issue and you failed why you made a tantrum your own child your own spouse your own mother or someone who might be a helping hand at home and you know what you lost your cool because they bumped the car forget the car today I had someone who said you know what I bumped this car in the front and I said well if you pumped it a bit more they might have replaced it for you it's true right may Allah grant us goodness no one bashes their vehicles intentionally it's how you react to it that would actually make you a good Muslim a good human being so this is why we say those who least expect it Allah says about the beggar I read the verse before you Allah says don't ever rebuke the beggar now someone comes to you they have these signs you know in South Africa it says I am NOT an armed robber so please give me something and they have a placard and they're holding it at the traffic light hey that's like something serious the South Africa you and I know is very dangerous right some parts of it dangerous so you look and you say well in essence the man is true ally when I saw the guy not too long ago with a similar placard I started looking in his pockets and checking if there was you know from a distance if there was anything looking like a firearm there man you know and they they obviously wasn't but it's just that you start thinking why would he choose those words to say I'm not an armed robber and I was thinking you have two arms we all have two arms don't we mashallah this one and there's another one mashallah my brothers and sisters don't rebuke a person you don't know what it took to be begging yes we don't encourage it yes if you're able you're encouraged to find a job work go out but that's for that person what about for us we don't know that particular person's circumstances so as much as when we are talking to people in general we will tell them don't beg don't ask it's a very bad thing to go and ask when I was giving you the ability and capacity but then for us we are told that when people beg don't rebuke them because you don't know what drove them to begging it is as a last resort you follow what I'm saying last resort we need something a charity might ask you please donate to this cause donate to that cause you know what it is permissible to do that may Allah grant us goodness so my brothers and sisters I want you to take home a lesson from now let's become more conscious of how we make people feel no matter who it is no matter what they've done a person you know one brother called me one day and he was having a huge family dispute with you know huge dispute and he says what should I do I said calm down sit down relax perhaps you guys can go your own ways for a while don't react right now because you guys are gonna hurt each other think about it Muhammad peace be upon him a young man comes to him and says you know he got his moment with the messenger you know what that means you've got the messenger muhammad peace be upon him just imagine Jesus may peace be upon him in front of you and you get it you get a few moments with him what are you gonna do Moses may peace be upon him right in front of you you get a moment what are you gonna do what are you gonna say to him it's just your moment so sometimes people don't know how to react you know they don't know what to say and what to do because they overwhelmed with emotion so this young man energetic he comes he says o messenger give me advice give me advice now instead of saying but I've been talking all along didn't you hear you know the messenger says don't get angry he imagined I'm sitting with the messenger peace be upon him asking him give me advice and I'm thinking he's gonna give me a nice good little you know message and the lovely long sort of a talk to say listen when you know you should do this and you need to say don't get angry so the voice is we've got a bit more time and I've read what he said he says give me more advice so the Prophet peace be upon him looks at him and says don't get angry and he thinks okay okay give me more advice and he kept saying the same thing you know one narration says hot apple now later who circuited until those around they said I hope this guy can keep quiet because you know he's saying the same thing and he's getting the same answer and on other occasions when people ask the messenger for advice he said different things so why did he say don't get angry to this guy perhaps he knew the man has anger issues right perhaps he knew the young energetic guy bubbling and bursting in his energies needed a reminder to say don't get angry calm down I'm telling you today my brothers and sisters many of us sometimes with everyone sometimes with a selected few sometimes with those who are vulnerable we maltreat them we think lo of them we think too much of ourselves I promise you I have met people some very wealthy people I've met some extremely wealthy people I met a guy and I'm letting you know who perhaps is worth about 20 billion u.s. hear what I just said might wonder who the hell was that who the hell was that and I tell you the harvest and the humility I told myself you know what I've met guys with five pounds and think their souls Oh big in terms of their deal and look at this guy he's he comes he spoke I want to tell you something else something I figured out and I'm going to say for the first time you know Bill Gates people know him because that's the name one of the wealthiest one of the top in the world in terms of wealth I heard something I heard a little video of his and I was interested in listening to another one not because of anything because something came across very loud and clear for a guy like me I'm not interested in his wealth I'm not interested in anything but and I've never even followed him but when I heard him on one of the videos just by chance on Instagram I decided to go to YouTube into search for him and I heard this whole interview and then I went to another one and a third one and I promise you what came across loud and clear I hope I'm correct and I think I am the man has some refrained character in condom guy down-to-earth it seems like his compassion is way beyond the amount of money he's got I might be wrong but I don't think that's what impressed me Bill Gates not a Muslim and I can tell you that about him being a person who has no clue more than just what I heard I've never met him I don't think I would meaning I don't it's not like I'm going to avoid him but I don't think we'd cross paths right but well done masha'Allah I learned to think what did I learn that you know what this guy is the hoos look at how humble he is the real powerful are those who are so humble that you don't even know the difference those are the real guys subhanAllah I always tell people if you think you're hot there are those who are hotter than you but much more hungry if you think you're wealthy there are those wealthier than you much more humble if you think you're powerful there are those much more powerful than you but very humble so what are you lacking in lacking humility that's what you're lacking let's build our humility with it at the end of the day we're all brothers and sisters you know how equal we are if I were to be cut and any human across the globe were to be cut the color of the blood would still be the same may Allah Subhanahu WA Ta'ala Granderson's I don't believe that I spoke for 50 minutes believe I don't believe it may allah subhanahu wata'ala grant disease i want us and I'm gonna say this for the last time from this day let's become more conscious of how we make people feel well lie that is something that will change the world it will change you your life look at how you make people feel even if they make you feel crappy to use the word nevermind it's okay don't become an ugly person because someone else's behavior was ugly no don't lose your goodness because someone else displays their evil you're a good person remain good and I end by saying well love your hipbone moistening Allah loves those who do good that should be the driving force behind us doing good I do good to you not because I think you deserve it or you don't deserve it but because I know that Allah loves those who do good so whether you do good to me or not is irrelevant whether you made according to others deserve it or not is irrelevant to me because I'm doing it for a much more noble purpose you get what I'm saying may Allah Subhanahu WA Ta'ala bless every one of us I pray that insha'Allah we meet again sometime if not in Bradford and inshallah in Jannah say I mean and if not in general then in Bradford Allah bless you all of who look only hard I 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Length: 50min 9sec (3009 seconds)

Published: Wed Feb 26 2020