5 Shocking Reasons Men Are Getting Divorced
in 2024 Have you ever heard of Financial Infidelity? What about Piggybank Syndrome? Did you know that divorce is contagious? I've been a Divorce Attorney for over 12 years,
and I've noticed a trend lately where more men are filing for divorce for these reasons,
and some others that you wouldn't expect. Since I expect this trend will continue through
2024 (and beyond) let's discuss the most common reasons first, and then conclude with the
craziest reasons. When men have finally had enough to file for
divorce, one of the most common reasons is because their wives have repeatedly emasculated
them. Emasculation occurs when a Wife's actions
or words undermine her Husband's sense of masculinity, autonomy, or value, leading to
feelings of inadequacy or powerlessness. This can severely impact a man's self-esteem
and the overall health of the marriage. Here's how Wives are emasculating their Husbands: Public Criticism and Humiliation is the most
common form of emasculation. I've had many cases where the Wife criticized
her Husband's decisions, actions, or abilities at social gatherings, in front of friends
or family, or even on social media. This was incredibly humiliating because it
challenged the Husband's competence and authority. This public disrespect eroded the marital
bond, created resentment, and left the Husband feeling alienated. Another form of emasculation is when the Wife
overrules the Husband's decisions or undermine his authority; especially in matters involving
parenting or household management. Contradicting him in front of the children
or dismissing his opinions on significant family matters leaves him feeling powerless
and insignificant within his own family. This constant challenge to his authority and
decision-making can result in a loss of self-confidence and feelings of being devalued. Emasculation also occurs when the Wife belittles
her Husband's professional achievements, personal ambitions, or efforts to contribute to the
household. I've seen divorces occur because the Wife
repeatedly made disparaging remarks about Husband's job, income, or the value of his
contributions compared to hers. Here's a free tip for a stronger marriage:
praise in public and criticize in private. Husbands should be strong enough to accept
feedback and critique, but there is a time and a place. Also, there is only one Captain on the ship. If the Husband is the leader in the marriage,
then he has to make the tough decisions and the Wife has to respect those decisions. Everyone is aware of sexual infidelity, but
not everyone is aware of financial infidelity. Financial infidelity is when one partner is
dishonest or secretive about financial matters, which leads to a breach of trust in the relationship. This can take various forms and has significant
implications for both the relationship and the couple's financial health. Financial infidelity includes: Hiding or Lying about Expenditures. This is perhaps the most common form of financial
infidelity. It involves one partner hiding their spending
habits from the other. This could range from small, frequent purchases
to large expenditures like buying a car or expensive electronics. Secret Credit Cards. One way that partners commit financial infidelity
is by getting secret credit cards to hide their expenses. Sometimes, they'll even ignore the payments
on these cards, rack up expenses, and then the husband doesn't find out until the wife
is sued by the credit card company for the debt. Separate Bank Accounts. Ok, technically this isn't another form of
infidelity, but it is one more way that spouses lie about finances. Spouses with separate bank accounts, and who
refer to "his money" and "her money" will freely spend money without consulting the
other, which can lead to feelings of betrayal. I've seen spouses attempt to divide the monthly
expenses (wife is responsible for mortgage and husband is responsible for utilities)
but this arrangement almost always leaves someone feeling like they are carrying more
than their share of the weight. Here's another free tip for a stronger marriage. Have a serious discussion with your spouse
about finances on at least a monthly basis, and always be honest about expenses. If you want your marriage to last, then you
both need to work together instead of against each other. Husbands are often portrayed as unemotional
in movies, TV, and in the media, however, that's a sexist stereotype. Husbands, like anyone, want to feel valued
and acknowledged in their relationships, and it is an emotional gut-punch when they aren't. This includes appreciation for their role
as a partner, parent, provider, or caregiver. When their efforts seem to go unnoticed or
unacknowledged, it can lead to feelings of being taken for granted. Here are some of the ways that husbands feel
underappreciated: Piggybank Syndrome. Wives who treat their husbands like piggybanks
are contributing to the downfall of their marriages. You know the type. The husband gets a raise and she's already
picking out a new purse before the money even hits the bank. She's never satisfied with what he's provided
and she always has her eye on a newer car or bigger house. This is incredibly demoralizing to a Husband
who has worked hard to provide a comfortable life because the message the Wife is sending
says, "You haven't done enough." Household Contributions. Husbands are complaining that their contributions
to the household aren't fully appreciated. Imagine this; Husband gets home from work
and Wife immediately starts telling Husband about everything that she does around the
house and how little he does. Although Wife is a stay-at-home mom, and Husband
works long hours outside of the home, Wife insists that they equally share all of the
chores. Husband, who has his own chores around the
house (usually outside chores) feels like Wife doesn't appreciate these contributions
and completely ignores that a lot of his contributions to the house are through his employment. Child Raising Efforts. This has become one of the most controversial
subjects in divorces. Over the last 20 years, far more Wives have
started working outside of the home, and far more Husbands have assumed the child-raising
duties. That shift in roles has created friction within
the relationship. Wives have traditionally complained about
Husbands' failure to participate in child raising duties, but with this shift, Husbands
are now feeling underappreciated for their sacrifices in the home. You might be thinking, "Ha! That's Karma!" But is it? The Husbands who are feeling underappreciated
now are not the same Husbands who underappreciated the stay-at-home Wives 20 years ago. What benefit is there to mocking the Husband
of one marriage for the actions of the Husband of another one? Here's another free tip for a stronger marriage:
show appreciation and gratitude to your spouse for all that they contribute to the marriage. If you both show gratitude for the other's
efforts, then there isn't room for criticism and resentment. If you want your marriage to last, then you
need to stop keeping score. This one seems like a pretty obvious one,
but it seems to be a lot more prevalent in recent years. Perhaps it's the rise of hookup apps like
Tinder or Bumble, or perhaps it's the rise of self-deleting messenger apps like Snapchat
and WhatsApp. Regardless of the reason, allegations of wives
committing adultery seem to be on the rise. When these secret affairs come to light, the
betrayal is real and brutal. The severity of the impact of the adultery
can vary depending on a number of factors. If the wife is cheating with the best friend
of the Husband, then the impact is multiplied vs her hooking up with a one-night stand. How the Husband learns about the affair also
has an impact. Take for example the Husband who found out
his Wife was cheating after discovering her secret OnlyFans page. Not only was she cheating, but she was broadcasting
it for the world to see and making a profit from her deception. In my experience, Husbands are a lot less
forgiving than Wives after discovering infidelity, which is why this is still one of the leading
causes for Divorce. However, that generality doesn't mean that
all Husbands are unforgiving of infidelity, or that all Wives are forgiving of it. Here's another free tip for a stronger marriage:
don't cheat. I really don't think I could put it in any
simpler terms. Did you know that Divorce is contagious? Based on the number of divorce referrals I
get, it really is. And researchers agree! According to research, there is a 75% increase
in the likelihood of divorce if a close friend or family member gets divorced. As if that isn't bad enough, there is a 33%
increase in the likelihood of divorce if a friend of a friend (2 degrees of separation)
gets divorced. Though, we really shouldn't find that surprising
since having children is contagious, and so is getting married. This is what's known as a "social contagion." Regardless of the reasoning behind it, the
fact remains that it is happening. If you show me a Husband with 2 close friends
getting divorced, then it probably isn't long until he's number 3. Here's your final free tip for a stronger
marriage: If friends or family within your circle start getting divorced, sit down with
your spouse to ask if they are happy. Just starting this conversation can have a
tremendous impact towards preventing divorce if you're both committed to making whatever
changes are necessary to save the marriage. Do what it takes to save your marriage if
you can because they say that marriage is grand, but divorce is about 50 grand. It might feel like we're just picking on Wives
here, but stay tuned because we're going to cover Why Women File for Divorce in the future,
and you'll find that video right here when we do.
