Mindfulness: Relationship Pastor Touré Roberts

[Music] [Music] for his goodness come on he is good he is a good good father hallelujah today is gonna be interesting I want to be sensitive to the Holy Spirit today that's why I be staring you know I mean what is he looking at I'm looking at y'all because I want to I want to minister to you how we doing today okay that was half the room how is the other room feeling how's the other side of the room feeling how many people need help in here today tell the truth thank you Jesus so let's let's just talk a little bit let's talk I got a sermon and notes and I did it the nine o'clock service I'm sure it's beautiful and amazing and maybe we'll get to it maybe but then maybe we'll just talk and we'll let the Holy Spirit take us on the journey is that okay we just like that God take us on a journey I feel so much in this room it's it's it's and this pretty standard on holidays like Mother's Day and Father's Day to have people in a lot of different places and I could just do something and it will get a third of the room or do something else and we got the other third room or I can flow with God who is all knowing and get everybody in the room how are you tracking with me so let's deal with what we know is going on in this season right now we're in revive Roja let me if you know you can really say God is reviving something and and and revival has to do with an awakening that takes place on the inside of you and it is amazing and it is powerful and it is a very high high it is the Spirit of God it was it is the Holy Spirit it is a fresh baptism of the Spirit of God and and your sense of identity your sense of victory and your sense of purpose and calling all of a sudden is magnified that's amazing and you're just ready to go it's it's a high high if you've been on a high high holler at me just just been it's been a high high and then there is another reality that sets in and even though it is a high high you are not healed entirely over everything overnight the the Holy Spirit is whole holy whole the Holy Spirit is perfectly whole and when we are completely filled with the Holy Spirit we feel whole and in the spirit we are whole but we as individuals within our own spirit are on a journey yet still to wholeness which means that you can experience a very high high where you feel like everything is clear every enemy is bound every devil is arrested every obstacle is defeated every door is open and from here and let me just go from glory to glory and I will not have a problem or an issue I won't be sad I only be happy and full of joy forever that's the high high and then because the high is so high even what was normal for you previously can be a low low can I talk to you for a second unhealed areas unresolved things how do I take that power that I experienced and use it to fight me or to fight so that I could have victory in my moments because this is new some of you were filled with the Holy Spirit for the first time if you're filled with Holy Spirit for the first time of the past couple weeks just raise your hand let me see the very first time it's incredible it's amazing but guess what it is a beginning it is a beginning and so I think it is important for you to understand that coming down is normal coming down as normal and this is a learning process this is a we're gonna learn Jesus is gonna walk with you the Holy Spirit is gonna walk with you and he's gonna teach you and he's gonna teach you and he's gonna show you what's you and what's him are you tracking with me because he's got joy right now and we can have a sad moment but he's got joy right now he's got strength right now we could have a weak moment he's got strength and there are certain aspects that are characteristic of the Holy Spirit that I want to kind of bring to you so that you can truly recognize that the answer to any problem that you ever have in life is more of the Holy Spirit yes the Holy Spirit works for sadness yes the Holy Spirit works for loneliness yes the Holy Spirit works for oppression the Holy Spirit works for everything so I want to pray and we'll get into these notes and we'll see what God does do me a favor grab somebody's hand because guess what we're all in this thing together we're in this thing together do me a favor I want compassion to come through your hands just squeeze a little bit of compassion in the hand of the person that's next to you not you know not too much don't you know and doing your push-ups and stuff like that and just don't be that guy or that guy you don't you know but just let the love of God flow through you maybe you're filled with the spirit so much so that you have overflow so that they can flow into somebody else's life I want you to let peace flow through you if you pray in the spirit pray in the spirit but I want I want you to let peace flow through you for your neighbor right now let love flow through you right now let love flow love that cast out all fear love that lifts up the bow down head come on let it flow through you right now let healing you are the conduit of Jesus right now come on let healing flow through you right now to your neighbor pray for them bless them bless them bless them bless them if there's any sadness bless them bless them turn their weeping into joy hallelujah if there is doubt worry come on just release into them fear and optimistic expectation hallelujah if they're grieving right now if their heart is heavy the Holy Spirit is called the comforter just released the comforter through their hands right now through your hands and into their lives hallelujah hallelujah if they feel like they've missed something squeeze fullness into their hands fullness of their into their hands your an an instrument of God right now and let your instrument confirm them spiritually that God knows the plans he has for them plans to prosper them and not to harm them to give them a future and a hope come on just take about 30 more seconds and just pray for the person next to you out loud in the spirit however you want to do it just pray hallelujah we're gonna be alright you're gonna make it surely goodness and mercy shall follow you all the days of your life he who has begun a good work in you is gonna complete it unto the day of Jesus Christ you are not forsaken you are not forgotten God says I'm with you fear not for I am with you be not dismayed for I am your God I will strengthen you I will help you I will uphold you by my righteous right hand God says when you go through the fires I'll be with you and through the floods they will overflow you I've got you covered I've got your back no weapon formed against you will prosper and every tongue that rises the Lord is on your side and if he is for you then who can be against you lift up the bow down head your head only games and the king of but neighbors Phil Mahre impressed again fill them with all this back running in their face and plane in [Music] you've got a play come on [Music] can have it [Music] is breaking right now [Music] [Music] [Music] rising again I feel the darkness babe what back [Music] [Music] rising [Music] all you got l'chaim [Music] wait I am I've got you for I know the plans I have for you says God I got you I got you I got you promise I got you promise I got you promise I'll turn your weeping into joy I promise I'll turn your mourning into dancing I promise I'll turn your sadness into gladness I promise I'll give you the Karma to praise for the spirit of heaviness heavy this is not your portion sadness is not your portion come on somebody do I have about a thousand people that godless make glad come on god is good all the time hey Masada he's good all the time that means that this goodness somewhere I just gotta press into it there's something to celebrate about I just got a crap [Music] pass my feelings pass my worry past [Music] I [Music] just follow you today's of you all the days of your life I ain't gonna take that I don't have to take the sadness not for too long I don't have to take that you gotta understand that there's certain things that you ain't gotta take I don't have to take that loneliness I don't have to take that fill me up again rejection I'd love to take that not gonna have a rejection party I take that that's the Holy Spirit does he he puts that I don't have to take that in your spirit you're tracking with me there's some times man I find myself in a situation and I'll be like wait a minute I want to take that not what he is good not when he's good all the time don't say that mm-hmm David when he was having a rough day and you'll find this in first time you chapter 30 dude was having an incredibly rough day he lost everything he came back to his camp and everything was gone his enemies that come in taking everything out of the city they burned the doggone thing down burning the whole city down took the servants the women the children he came back to nothing and if that weren't enough the people who were there wanted to stone him because they blamed him for what happened he was having a bad day and he could just just succumb to the pressure and the weight of the moment he could have just taken that but David said I'm gonna take this and David went and got his Oommen and his thumb and he got his vest it was his worship garment I feel the Holy Spirit of God he got us he put his priestly garment bag off it was almost like he had to remember who he was I am a worshipper I don't have to take this huh I used to play my harp and evil spirits would leave so I I don't have to take this and then the scriptures say that he goes and he puts his worship garment on hallelujah and the Bible says that he encouraged himself trying to give you some tools he didn't have to go to church he had learned how to say I don't have to take this too often we just allow emotions we know we're not our best and we just take it hoping that it's almost like we say well whatever you want to lift off of me lift off me yeah and it's just you know what I'm saying like we'll have a funky attitude not you but somebody you know will have like a funky attitude we won't be at our best we know it our joy is completely gone and we just kind of sit around with a very passive posture about it maybe even thinking to ourselves well maybe tomorrow I'll feel better and the only problem with that is that what are you missing in the moment that you are not filled Bible says David encouraged himself in the Lord nobody laid hands on him nobody prophesied over him he prophesied to himself he remembered he remembered how to access the presence of the Almighty I feel God do you know that you have access to the presence 24/7 the presence is never closed when we say in Jesus name Amen and we released you that is not the end of the presence you can access perhaps even a greater glory in your car if you say I don't have to take this he encourages himself in the Lord the Lord strengthens him empowers him and then sends him back into the enemy's camp to get everything that the enemy thought that he was stealing from him I feel that for somebody what has been stolen from you lately I bet if you get your praise back I bet if you get your worship back I bet if you change your clothes take off your brain through a little and I believe that God and you're gonna be able to lay hole where my David and defeatist adding God's house the gift of God stir it up I'm on to something I'm on a mission baby I can't be stopped God has got his hand on me I praise them when I'm crying I'll praise them when I'm sad [Music] when I'm lonely i'ma praise God [Music] tools tools tools don't take that I'm just not feeling like myself well then get back to yourself it is unacceptable talk to somebody grab somebody pray for somebody if you've got a good therapist do but do something don't just sit in it because let me tell you I don't know who this is for let me tell you something it is not a small thing the ultimate vision for whatever it is that comes against you is to kill you and when you tolerate it what you're doing is you're tolerating the beginning of the Spirit of death I wish you'd catch what I'm saying it's prophetic net my notes is straight up filling the room don't tolerate it it's after you fight fight it fight you know it's not the big things that get you it is your tolerance of the little things it's a tolerance of the little things when enemy puts a weight on you it's not to just annoy you it's to wipe you out it's the sideline you and you can't have any tolerance for anything anti you are you tracking with me you got to start swinging at it that's why being filled with the Holy Spirit and having all of the resources of God is imperative you have got to pray in tongues why I talked about the Thursday because sometimes you won't understand the weapon that is formed against you you will just know that there's a weapon formed against you but you will not be able to perceive what's happening in the spirit realm which is mysterious and so the word tells us that the person who speaks in an unknown tongue speaks mysteries I wish I could make that play I don't know this is far this is not what was supposed to happen but it was what was supposed to happen first meant this 14 he who speaks in an unknown tongues he doesn't understand it but in the spirit he's speaking mysteries especially when there was something great on your life like all of you there will be weapons form that transcend your natural consciousness and praying in the spirit and praying in tongues will put the fight the battle on an equal playing ground can we just [Music] those of you who pray in the spirit aware that gift do it more those of you who don't have it I'm gonna pray for you today that you get it it is not weird it's a blessing it is a gift it edifies it edifies it builds you up inwardly your outsides are determined by your insights so when I pray in the spirit which is a manifestation of the gift of the Spirit when I pray in the spirit I am building myself up and you say well that's not my gift my gift the singing two different things singing is not a manifestation of a spiritual gift it is a talent it is a blessing one I might add I do not have you might say I don't have that gift I'm my gift of discernment ah everybody's gift is discernment the Holy Spirit is discerning I'm just trying to break up some of the stuff that we've said ignorant Lee with the best of intentions and if I was afraid of you operating in the full expression of the Spirit I would make you think that tongues are for this person prophecies for this person it's for everybody in the last days I pour out my spirit upon all flesh and my sons and my daughters will prophesy so the gift is for you first and then through you for you for your edification you being field is not simply so that you can change the world that is the ultimate goal but you are a part of the world it's supposed to change you first right and then out of the overflow of your change you begin to change everything and everyone around you hallelujah there are characteristics of the spirit that you must understand right now you're learning you're learning the difference between what is you and what is the spirit and that takes time it takes time but I'll tell you the signs when it is you versus the spirit the signs are the feelings that you feel if you are fearful you're not full of the spirit so so that is not a judgment it is basically saying when you are fearful it's time to pray more god more God more more I need more of you and you start praying you start praying in tongues if you are jealous that ain't it because the Holy Spirit is rich and the Holy Spirit has everything the Holy Spirit is so rich that the Holy Spirit celebrates the success of others because it looks like it and it's like yes I like sing blessing on you I like seeing prosperity on you my life seeing healing on you I like that you got a bull yes the Holy Spirit does not rejoice with evil in other words the Holy Spirit is not in such competition that it's silently and secretly wants your neighbor to fall Hey the Holy Spirit doesn't give up on people the Holy Spirit sees people the Holy Spirit sees the best in people the Holy Spirit sees them the way God sees them the Holy Spirit doesn't count people out the Holy Spirit thinks the highest thought if your mind always goes to the negative if it always goes to the negative outcome that's not the Holy Spirit the Holy Spirit thinks the highest thought the Holy Spirit has big ideas are you tracking with me Holy Spirit has big ideas I was talking to my friend the other day we're about to pray in a minute that I'm not gonna do this you can listen to the podcast for the 9 o'clock service the Holy Spirit has big ideas I was praying what my friend the other day he called me and and he was doing his conference he invited me to speak at his conference he's doing his conference and he's got a church that probably seats about a thousand and he was like but I felt like I was supposed to do this in an arena you know and then he says I know this might sound crazy to you and I and he was having trouble saying it he said I know this might sound crazy to you but he says I believe that this particular mantle and it is a major mantle he says this mantle I believe is falling on me and it's a major mantle it is completely different from where he is now and I said I believe you I totally believe you I said because everything the Holy Spirit does is big he just needs somebody that has the faith capacity for what he wants to do we gotta start encouraging people when they come to us with next-level ideas with earth-shaking ideas and plans don't frown on him don't hate on him say you know what in Jesus name you can do it bigger better add your faith ha I prophesied as somebody in here right now that what God calls you to do I know that that thing seems big and I know you don't have much peer support but I'm telling you if it's big it's God walking to it step into it he's gonna bring all the right faces together at the right time where my people believe him for humungous things not little things you serve a great big God he's gonna do great big things in your life God says enlarge the place of your dwelling in other words in the prison where you're living is too small I'm trying to get something to you but you haven't given me enough space stretch it out a larger capacity the true sign that you believe what God says is in your commitment to preparation ah ha ha ha that's the true sign your preparation God is not looking at what you say a man - he's looking at what you build in anticipation of what he promised [Applause] when someone is pregnant what do they do before the baby gets it they stop making room make it I feel that for somebody start making room you need to start clearing out some I feel God you start clearing out some stuff it's time to make room tell him to make room have you prepared for the promise why would God say to this widow woman in Isaiah he said saying though barren woman Oh God who sings when their parent he says I'm getting ready to do something in your life and I need you two to switch up your routine do you have been crying but before I can bring this thing to you I need you to start singing [Music] I need you to start singing I need you to get excited I need you to get ready I need you the moment that God gives him that word to put your hand on your belly and say I think I feel the baby kicking [Music] [Applause] he says I need you to make it bigger what if God hasn't done it because you haven't prepared a space it's too big God's not doing some little thing he's doing a big day but what I was going to talk about today was this and I'm gonna just run through it real quick you can sit down if you want to tell me what the real quick five minutes this big thing that God is doing is hinged upon your relationships Galatians chapter 6 beginning at verse 9 hinged upon your relationships come on come on it says and let us not grow weary while doing good for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart let us not grow weary while doing good for we shall reap if we do not give up I never saw verse 10 in that it was connected to verse 9 he says therefore as we have opportunity let us do good to all that were do literally means toil it's work it's work relationships or work just let us do good to all especially to those who are the household of faith here's my point you have to get the whole thing via podcast on my debt what I'm telling you God is doing in your life because you have been revived because you have recommitted your life to the holy spirit and being filled with the holy spirit it is going to produce for you what I call kingdom relationships and divine appointments or for the Holy Spirit there are people connected to your identity what I mean by that I mean you're not even gonna come into the fullness of who you are without your interaction with them your identity your destiny they play parts they play key and strategic parts and what God envisions for you and not only do they play key parts but they possess key parts which means that it is not going to happen outside of the context of relationships if you weren't here Thursday night you gotta listen Thursday Thursday nights message when the Spirit of God fell on Pentecost new relationships were formed immediately if you keep reading in acts 2 it says and although all those who believe all those who encountered had that same powerful Holy Spirit Holy Ghost encounter were together they were connected and as a result of them being connected things were added to them they're things that you need add it to you that your sister possesses and your sister or your brother that is on the same frequency as you I feel this for some of you some things were held up in relationships that exists on a frequency that you are not on but now that you feel with the Holy Spirit and you have recommitted your life to Christ now you are on the frequency now where those relationships can begin to find you can I talk to you like this today it was not that the resources were not there they were just there reserved for you in a realm that will only recognize nice the true you and the true you is to you that is full of the Spirit of God so you have lofty promises from God and oftentimes frustration and disappointment because you see the promise you have the promise but you don't see the materials and the materials are hidden in people and is it until everybody gets on the same page that the materials will begin to formulate and come together and create what God saw so what that means at this level here is that people are coming the people are coming new people are coming some old people are coming that you weren't ready for when you encounter them the first time can i prophesy just a wee bit just a little bit you weren't ready then brushy buck so close but yet so far oh I feel like preaching I actually feel like prophesying so so close in the same room in the same church sometimes in the same relationship but you weren't who you needed to be or possibly they weren't related to be so when revival breaks out when we Bible breaks out it revives purpose and since this is a case that means that watch this relational skills are gonna be of the utmost importance because here is the truth kingdom relationships are hard because they have an automatic assignment against them oh god how much time do we have Kingdom relationships are extremely difficult they're extremely difficult because there is warfare over it because if the two of you would ever mess around and hook up if the two of you would ever mess around and get on one accord and get the right mind and and the right vision and the right strategy and be completely submitted and completely surrendered and hope and no one cares about who gets the credit you just care about that thing getting done when those two people or three or four come together the heart I kid you not the day Pastor Sarah and I were to meet there was an earthquake in LA a big earthquake one we haven't had an earthquake that big since the day we met when something I just feel it right there when when two people are awakening are being awakened to who they are in God and they begin to start circling one another's orbit and they're getting ready to come together and now there's no haterade in the way and there's no jealousy in the way and there's no beef in the way and there's no pride in the way because God has been working on them and they begin to come together like a magnet it gets crazy [Music] and I'm telling you this now because you've gotta have relationship skills or your lack of relationship skills will thwart the whole thing division derails division divides the vision every modern day revival study them when you get a chance I mean revival that was changing cities and countries states nations there was one thing that stopped them because there was nothing that could nothing other than this one thing that could stop them the enemy couldn't stop them the government couldn't stop them nothing could stop them there was only one thing that could stop them and it wasn't external it was division I am of Paul a denominator all that cousin look I'm not mad at denominations god bless you I got ordained in the domination god bless wrong never wrong with denomination god bless you however you do what you do it is just when you put that denomination makes you look at your brother differently that's what I have a problem with because none of us have it all all of us have a piece and that thing becomes powerful when we take our piece and yield it to the next person so you got to have relationship skills now here's the good news the good news is the Holy Spirit has relationship skills because the Holy Spirit is a person and that person has a personality and that's why in Galatians it talks about the fruit of the Spirit why discuss if we're gonna have the spirit and we do and if you don't we'll pray in about five minutes and we'll fix all that forever for you my gift to you getting it's the Lord's gift to you if if we are gonna be filled with the Holy Spirit and God knew it then why even write about what the fruit of the Spirit is I mean think about that for a second I'm gonna baptize you in the Holy Spirit and the Holy Spirit is a person and the Holy Spirit is a person with the personality which means that if I'm in the Holy Spirit I am organically and naturally going to function in that personality right that's the assumption so then why would the writer take time to say this is the fruit of the Spirit is so that you can recognize when it's you versus when it's God are you tracking with me so as a relationship I give you seven things I'm going to run through them really gonna be 70 things I don't have time to unpack them these are seven relationship ideas thoughts and disciplines that if you work these you will know that you're in the Holy Spirit the first one is this always honor always give honor what do I mean by give honor I there's this passage of scripture in Philippians two and three and it basically talks about how we shouldn't do anything out of vainglory or out of a self it's selfish ambition but we ought to do in humility Louis of - humility and look at this esteeming others better than ourselves I love the way the Holy Spirit writes let me show you how to make sure that you are honoring the person the way that God will honor the person I want you to esteem them better than you in that cool what if everybody on the planet was looking to the other person and and found something in that person that they exalted even over them says I so admire that about you are you tracking with me honor family honor is powerful honor honor to the human soul is like what rain and sunshine is to a garden it just brings out the best in people why do I need to honor people I'll tell you one reason you don't know if you're gonna be honoring an angel without knowing it there's a passage of Scripture I wish I had time to bring it up but if you just read your whole Bible you'll find it it says be careful in how you entertain strangers because of me I believe isn't Hebrews right but just read whole thing right and it says be careful how you entertain strangers for many have have entertained angels without knowing it do you know that an angel can bring a breakthrough in your life unlike ever before in fact they're assigned to bring breakthroughs let me tell you some I can tell you one day I was getting off the freeway one day and it was a guy on the side of the road I get off on Laurel Canyon off the 101 freeway I'll never forget it heading eastbound then I was going south going north and it was a guy on the side a row and he was asking for money and as my custom is I went in I got some money and you know he had his head down and whatever's hat down he had to sign I got the money I put the money in his hand and I sold I put the money in his head his hat he came up his hat came up his eyes started glowing and he said god bless you I drove off and I was blessed and it down to me that was not an ordinary man he had a blessing to give and that's what I'm getting that everybody you meet has a blessing to give and that's why you can't just be treating any old body any kind of way treating somebody that you think is less than you any o'connell way you might be entertaining an angel the prayer that you have been asking God for might be right in that person the answer right in that person if you will on earth the Bible says that if you receive a prophet in the name of a prophet that's about honor you get a Prophet's reward here is my point every body who's created in the image of God carries a reward that's why you just can't treat anybody in no kind of way the guy on the street who doesn't have a place to live has a reward for you if you can honor him properly enough honor will cause that that fruit will cause that plant will cause that garden to come forth do me a favor turn to your neighbor and say I honor you number one is always give honor number two I'm gonna move through these quickly I'm out of time think the highest thought think the highest thought I'll talk about this in wholeness I have learned it's not always easy to think the highest thought what do I mean I mean that when you have some basic facts it is our tendency to draw a conclusion they they they did this and since they did this they must have did this because they were trying to get over on me how much drive down your street real quick move on but I'm a drive down your street and typically the conclusion that you draw is based on past experience this trust is so desperate to your destiny when someone violates your trust you got to find a way to get your trust back because you're gonna charge the next person who is innocent for what the guilty person in your past did and God will be trying to get something to you but you'll be so suspicious I said often you might be able to tell me what I did but if you're not me you cannot tell me why I did it so we have to learn to think the highest or just say you know what they cut me off but maybe they didn't see me did they cut me off or maybe they have a child in the hospital you gotta find a way to elevate the thoughts so that it keeps you pure don't be careful for the person that goes all the way is best if you're that person that goes all the way down to the negative when it is neutral think the highest thought to number three pursue empathy sub thought seek to understand not argue I love what I love about Jesus is how empathetic he was with others he he was not defensive you ever know is that Jesus he didn't go around trying to defend himself they called him all kind of names he was empathetic I want especially man we got elections coming up and it's gonna be crazy and and it's funny how we demonize people who don't think like us we demonize people who don't vote like us so if you don't vote like me that means that you are the worst thing that I can think of oh it's quiet now it is quiet now yeah how to step right into something you don't know why a person votes for they vote for and we make these judgments about people because of how they vote there are a million reasons if you vote for him you must be a racist if you vote for this person you must be whatever it's not like that this is not a political statement I'm talking about our human tendency to falsely judge you mean to tell me that if I vote this way that means that I out of the seven billion people in the world that you are wise enough to tell me who I am because of one action I may get out of here that's the epitome of pride seek family whatever it is there may be someone who lives in a way that is contradictory to your belief but it has nothing to do with you it is you belief not theirs oh you better catch that I can't hold you to my belief and I sure won't let you hold me to your but what I can do is try to learn I want to help me to understand what always getting good now yes relational skills we need this because God will oftentimes hide what you need in someone you disagree with that means that I gotta work this out or I'll miss what God has for me because I think it needs to come in a package that looks like me votes like me lives like me thinks like me and that's not how it works God in order to make you like him well often make you have to become something in a relationship I've learned that about God marriage is bigger than love it's bigger than love love is a party love is in there but it's bigger than love you know what I think marriage is about becoming who you have to become when you have to share your life your house your money your feelings your good qualities your bad qualities all of your idiosyncrasies it's who you have to become it's who two people have to become in order to stay married whoa that is the gift of marriage somebody caught it in the Holy Ghost you you get to become somebody that you would never have the opportunity to become with simple Association proverbs watch this proverbs 17:17 one or two minutes I'm done proper 1717 I love this look at this away it says a friend loves at all times and a brother is born for adversity here's what that means that word friend is not like friend like we've been best friends since the 12th grade or said no no that's not right it means associate so it is easy to always love to love at all times someone that you are loosely connected to yeah yeah yeah uh-huh when you just work together it's cool when you come to church see each other at church Bank it's cool because you're just associated that's why you are best friends and then two best friends have this wild idea about becoming roommates [Music] [Applause] don't tell yourself haha hee-hee like we're best friends let's let's live together you love me I love you let's live together and you live together for two weeks and you're like I can't stand you why did I make this decision because it's easy to love at all times the person that you were loosely associated with it says but a brother this is a close relative a brother was born for adversity the Bible also says in proverbs 27 and 17 that iron sharpens iron it is in the ability to wrestle through your conflicts I don't get better when I have everybody around me that is like me saying yes to me and agreeing with me I don't become better I become a demigod but when I have somebody that's different from me doesn't think like me and we get in the room and are determined not to quit not to give up but to stay in the ring and wrestle we both come out sharpened I am better because of people who are not like me and I can't grow without friction I can't grow without friction I can't grow that's what y'all saying the one o'clock people are not saying that they are not saying that their thing don't take your time wrap it up you gonna need these skills this is preferably for some of you God has hidden a jewel in a difficult personality and here's the thing you're not as easy as you think you are the reason why the ring is true though the reason I gotta land this plane the reason why the reason why relationships are complicated is because people are complicated are just by makeup more complicated we got a mind we got a heart Jeremiah says the heart is deceitful who can even know it right so we've got something that we are governed by that we don't fully understand we've got a mind we got a body we got a soul we got a spirit there's a lot to us and then what's crazy is all those things are evolving and then you've got the other person who has all those things and they're evolving too and then you're in a relationship and the relationship is but it's hard that's why you need skills and patience I gotta keep going I gotta keep going one listen to the podcast I break it down a little further there number four be honest be honest integrity is honesty not like brutally honest where you're trying to hurt somebody you don't I mean I'll be honest yeah well now no that's not what I'm talking about but sometimes your breakdown and release and relationships are the byproduct of really misunderstandings I can't tell you how many how many times I've already pounced on somebody about something they did and and I misunderstood I had it wrong right and so when you're honest when you open up and you communicate and you really be vulnerable and you have to break that spirit of never let anybody see you sweat no you got to say you hurt me all right my dad you don't mean my dad had a you know restless soul we had a complicated relationship and I didn't think that my dad loved me because my dad was hard on me like and what I realized later on is he actually did love me a whole lot it was the craziest thing like like I didn't think because my dad was so hard on me all that I thought that he thought lessons me but it was actually a misunderstanding the reason why I was hard on is because he saw how gifted and how talented and how special I was and he didn't want me to be lazy so he pushed me he was looking at my potential I thought that he thought that I was a failure because he came from an old school in the old school you didn't necessarily say that a boy too much because you didn't want the child to get puffed up or big-headed or to stop pushing and he's raising a young black man in the city or he's he's the father of a young black man in the city and he's like you're gonna have to work hard boy so let me push you I'm not gonna patch you in the back you got a B but you're gonna need a plus my dad it was an a so we had different love languages right but I thought for a long time that my dad didn't like me is because I didn't understand it and it wasn't until the craziest thing ever at his funeral I was shocked at his funeral and his funeral some of his friends came up to me and they were like are you too ray are you his son I'm like yeah they were like man your dad was so proud of he talked about you all the time he was always bragging on you and I broke down but what I mean by honest is one day I had this encounter with God if he read wholeness it's in the book but I have this encounter with God and I finally had to come to grips with the fact that I didn't really believe my dad loved me and I felt like I had this emptiness and I just lost something because he didn't love me and I just gave it to God and I opened up one day in the shower and I gave it to God and I broke down and God begin to heal me and then God said you need to call your father and be honest with him now let me tell you something first of all my dad he was a veteran ex-military he was tougher than rocks you know and you don't you know all you know soft you don't that's not you that's not my dad right and so I'll call her I'm just thinking to myself just don't cry when you get on the phone he gets on the phone to say what you need to say don't cry whatever you do don't cry and so I'm like okay you know you you try to bring in you know and so and so so my dad gets on the phone and I'm like yeah and I just break down crying I'm like and I just let it all out and and he heard me he didn't say a word my dad didn't say where he heard me out I'm crying like a two-year-old it was crazy right and then I hear this sound from the other end of the phone that I had never heard from my dad and it was the sound of compassion I'd heard a tone in his voice that I'd never heard before and that tone and and we bonded from there on I mean we were healed from that moment for but what I'm getting at was my vulnerability and my honesty a lot something in him that brought a healing to the relationship you gotta be honest number four be honest number five practice forgiveness the reason why I say practice forgiveness is because it is a practice make it like a practice of yours I love the word I love the fact that forgiveness has the word for in it it denotes something prior to and I believe that we ought to have one foot in forgiveness even before the offense even comes if you have waited to the offense comes to decide to forgive you're already in trouble don't you know that offenses will come you gotta have one foot in and forgiveness already the moment that they do it you should already be at four so all you have to do is give what you have predetermined to give there's so much I can say about that but you have to practice you have to practice forgiveness number six desire the best for others be whole enough the Spirit of God as I mentioned earlier is happy for the success of other people let me just give you this side know and this is so important you can never expect to receive in your own life what you are unwilling to celebrate in someone else's be happy for people that's who you are in the spirit and number seven and last but not least and this is so important as it relates to relationships never count someone out God is good god is gracious and who knows that thing you need might be on the inside of a person that you have counted out and let me tell you something sometimes when we count people out let me tell you it brings some ugly out of us watch this when we have countenance one out and all of a sudden we discover that God did not count them out because they are beginning to win the spirit that counted that individual out will secretly desire that they fail simply so that you can be right not because you're good but you can be right I can't tell you how many times I've been counted out and every single time like a cat I might be tossed a little bit but one of the things I love about cats is what they always land on their feet come on stand with me we got to go I'm sorry we'll continue on next week I want to pray for some people I want to pray for some people if you're here and you you know I these words are gonna resonate with you you don't do relationships very well and these words and perhaps you've never even heard these words but they're gonna they're gonna resonate with you you don't do relations very well and you used to blame other people but now you're beginning to realize that it's you with the problem if you will be bold enough and courageous enough to meet me here at this altar I'm gonna pray for you you you you there's almost like things you start get sabotage and really what it's about is distrust it's about insecurity and sometimes it's even about unworthiness God brings something God brings someone to you and because there's an inner liar of unworthiness you find a way to sabotage it you find you're almost Gravett you're almost gravitate towards behavior things that will kill it and I want to break it because as I mentioned before as God is doing this new thing in your life there are old patterns and habits that we are gonna have to kill because it is gonna happen by relationship I thank God that I got some of these things worked out before I met my spouse and in particular before I met my father-in-law who is my spiritual dad I can't tell you even right now I can't tell you how many kingdom relationships I've been in where people who were under me would charge me not for me but for what their father did and they could not receive for me and misinterpreted my actions in a and I say this with with pain in my heart none of them are doing well spiritually and otherwise none of them because they couldn't and notes and some will flood I'll tell you because they couldn't receive because of some brokenness that they experienced in their former life with a parent previous minister pastor or whatever and it hurts me family let me tell you something you've got to let it go you got it you got to believe that that you know when maybe you did experience a fraud in the past but there would be no such thing as a fraud if there was not something authentic you couldn't have a counterfeit $100 bill if they weren't real $100 bills and you have to open yourself up again and trust the God can keep you even if you get hurt again it is better to be open and get hurt again than to be closed and miss what God has for you are you tracking with me it's true you'll be in relationships and God will send you an incredible human being and you will start sabotaging it coming up with stuff acting a certain way being nasty or mean out of nowhere use me even anyway I know you were you was gonna leave anyway no I wasn't I actually love you but I can't be abused Who am I talking to get down to this altar if you know that you can come on up we're over time but but get down to this altar God's got something for you God blesses you this is somebody God blesses you with a job a good job but there's a part of you that feels that you're unworthy of it and you start showing up late and start being irresponsible and you don't even know why you're doing and then you make up a whole bunch of excuses around like in no way and they cheat me and they look at me find a prejudice whatever all these things and really it's you God wants to do that what's the deal then you go knee relationships for some of you God is going to resurrect some relationships that die prematurely either the breakthrough in you is gonna attract it or there's gonna be a breakthrough in them and you got to behold enough because you didn't count that person out to let them come back I'm not talking about abusive stuff I'm not I'm not talking about that don't don't be abuse and see this through the channel of your loneliness and sense of an attitude no that's not what I'm talking about I'll tell my kingdom stuff Kingdom for real Kingdom not because you were lonely Kingdom it was kingda from the start and the enemy came in and created a little bit of confusion and you heard each other's feelings and you wit your own separate way for some of you God's gonna restore that and it may not be what it was because sometimes what happens is it starts in the spirit but then the flesh gets in it and to go back to the spirit and go back to the origin of the relationship and if it started in spirit keep it in the spirit don't try to make it more because you want more there's some people and you've squandered I even saw this romantically you squandered a relationship by bringing romance into it when it was never supposed to be romantic it was supposed to be spiritual Kingdom but your brokenness made it romantic and when it became romantic it started suffering I just loved you man relationship skills loving people honoring people being filled with the spirit I want to pray for your father thank you so much for this moment we've had with you you just just kind of took over the service and did your own way and we trust you we trust you know with everyone in this room needs glory to God we bless you and praise you thank you Jesus I thank you for every person who is here at this altar right now it takes humility it takes real humility to come and say God I need help I need your touch I need work thank you Jesus and God I thank you Lord that as we draw near to you you will draw near to us Lord there's some hearts at this altar that are broken there's some hearts at this altar that are hurting they've been through so much and God as humans we are delicate and fragile Souls yes we are because we were created to be loved to live and the atmosphere and the consciousness of pure love in spite of who we are and yet since we were born into this earth realm in this earth world unfortunately we have met just the opposite in many cases and as a result of that some of us have been fractured father I pray right now by the Holy Spirit and one of the things that we love about you Holy Spirit is that you make whole every fractured place my city to get a devotion done about every fractured place begin to heal what I'm on honest it that I did to get it in a minute make it new bring restoration take us back to that place take us back to that person that we were before the wound came you see our hearts you know us and it is not your intention for us to stay broken for us to be healed from the inside out by your Holy Spirit within I pray God this afternoon that you would baptize us in your love each and every one of us just baptize us baptize us baptize us in your love the love that drives out all fear thank you Jesus I just want you to be after me Heavenly Father I thank you for your love I see it I feel it I receive it thank you for your word you know me from the inside out I receive your word thank you for Jesus thank you for making him who had no sin all of mine all of my hurts all of my pain all of my brokenness all of my insecurities all of my unworthiness all of my shame all of my brokenness you placed in his body nailed it to the cross and put it to death God as you raised him up free and victorious and above all those things because I'm in him I'm raised up to and I'm on a journey to becoming whole in every area of my life in Christ I'm hold already so God transformed me by the renewing of my mind I give you every hurt I give you every pain I apply it to the cross it is no longer on me I claim my freedom I receive it right now now Lord you promised that you would feel me that you would baptize me with the Holy Spirit so God right now I claim that promise and I ask you right now fill me to the overflow give me all of heavens resources every manifestation of the Spirit I claim right now I claim prophecy I claim tongues I claim miracles I claim healing I claim wisdom in Jesus name I've never been the same again hey man come on come on put your hands together [Music] thank you Jesus [Music] half-assed and say you'll never be you'll never be the same you'll never know never never never be the same never be the [Music] [Music] you

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