Men Who Were Falsely Accused Of Sexual Assault Share Life Changing Stories - AskReddit

I lost all my friends she even recanted a couple days later saying that I hadn't raped her but I was still out of the group people who were falsely accused of sexual abuse how did the accuse impact your life a young cousin of mine once propositioned his little sister to give him oral sex in front of his parents when they asked him where he had gotten such an idea he told them he heard it from me being his main babysitter and him not fully understanding the gravity of the situation my relatives believed him it essentially caused a large divide in my family of who believed I didn't do it in those who thought I did I wasn't really welcomed at any family functions for a while almost was hooked up to a lie detector test and generally embarrassed by it four years later it was found out that one of his schoolmates had been molested by her father and he essentially was repeating back things she had relayed to him it definitely made me wary of children for the rest of my life I met a woman once whose husband was a very good-looking man but also very nervous she explained to me that he had just gotten out of prison after almost 10 years because a woman finally came clean and admitted she falsely accused him to teach him a lesson part of why he was so nervous is that the state of Technology had changed so much that he was constantly amazed by everything he was seeing we were in an electronics store at the time man lost a large chunk of his life due to false accusations they're serious it didn't because it never became anything I was at my friend's apartment for New Year's Eve years ago a bunch of people there a girl I knew that worked at my friend's bar was seriously into me but I was into someone else nothing happened with that but the first girl and I ended up making out in the kitchen she left with her friends later and one of my friends started giving me crap for not going home with her and I was just kinda dude she was drunk message her two days later to ask her out she's enthusiastic but then ghosts me whatever 2 weeks later I'm out with friends for brunch including three people that were at the party and run into her say hi and she just looks me in the eye and tells me I took advantage of her at the party stomach drops right out I'm speechless luckily the other three people were there in the host cuts are often says BS you were all over him we all saw I just shook my head and walked away very terrifying what that could have turned into I had a similar terrifying issue that was all a true misunderstanding I was with a pair of friends who were a couple and wanted to introduce me to a girl I knew about but hadn't really met who we will call B so the introduction goes well we all go back to her place to use the pool and drink my female friend is giving me great advice on how to talk to B while the day turns to night and we are all pretty buzzed things turn frisky my couple friends disappear and so do B and I we go out of her tiny three feet by three feet stand-up shower and start to kiss and touch and have a good time only she is way drunker than I realized and she half sits half falls on her butt in a weird indian style seating position so not realizing I try to help her up and she just starts tugging my dong like she's pull starting a cold lawnmower at this point I'm catching on that she's too drunk and I'm just trying to stand her up so we can get out of the shower she's saying no as in trying to pick her up saying she wants to bang on the floor again three feet by maybe three feet so that's not happening so I'm saying and trying to pick her up B stand up and she's getting more and more insistent saying no let's bang on the floor of course all my friends over here is no my male buddy opens the bathroom door and Charles Bronson me out of the shower B is still just chanting no at this point and I'm realizing how this looks despite the truth that I'm trying to get her up and out of her shower at 1:00 a.m. the truly terrifying thing is B Ella hung out a few more times even legitimately banged sober when we decided we weren't feeling it anymore we got out to a fight and she brought up the time I tried to rape her she's the exact type of girl to go off on a pill bender and make some crazy accusations so I was really truly afraid for a few weeks currently in the middle of it had a kid ten years into a relationship with my girlfriend she started to go crazy after the birth perhaps developing several personality disorders started accusing me of molesting our daughter rape domestic violence etc as a control tactic I stayed for three years trying to tame the Beast still loved her dearly I thought this was just some hormonal thing that would pass I left after she accused my dad of molesting our daughter she claimed full custody and only allows minimal supervised visitation her whole family and half of our mutual friends are convinced that me and my family are abusers I'm currently fighting for full custody lost my house dog business partner child friends and stuff still have my health sanity family and job going to be a hell of a fight wish me luck I'm a cop recently promoted to Detective we've been dealing with a woman falsely accusing men off and on for years every four to six months or so she finds a reason to believe her little girl now three is being molested she brings the child to the ER for an exam the hospital calls the police and we investigate she accuses someone different each time and the type of abuse being alleged changes the only time we ever had physical evidence was when the child had a clear case of diaper rash which the mother mistook for an STD it puts us in such a terrible position we know she's a little crazy we know it's most likely false but we can't ignore any allegations of child sexual abuse we've been working on the whole thing very closely with DCF but we need to get mom mental help without alienating her so she will still be unafraid to call us if she suspects her child is in danger sad all around I'm no psychologist but I'm curious if there is something similar to my Chasen's by proxy we're and parents obsessively think their child is abused I was accused of rape right at the end of college it was a very public event shockwaves were sent through my hometown and headlines reached national newspapers my name was never printed or anything but of course people talk as you can imagine it's a pretty terrible experience it was just chaos incredible amounts of anxiety stress and trauma and so I was scared to death my friends family or anyone at all would actually believe I raped this girl I had no idea how to act and mostly I was so traumatized I didn't really function too well socially I was so broken down psychologically and would freak out over whether or not people would actually think I raped this girl or not I would obsess over who wish me happy birthday or not and try to map out if they were doing it to be nice what the opinions of their social circle was likely to be and I would pay attention to who deleted me on Facebook the first year was the worst as I moved to a new city and isolated myself I wish people reached out more as I never did to anyone myself but I think most of my friends were young and in general people were kind of shocked by the whole thing it brings me to tears just thinking about my old friends and I still struggle to forgive my family for not supporting me better this is now seven years ago the whole situation is just a death spiral to be honest nobody wins a year after the accusation the girl sent me a message saying she knew it was wrong she made a mistake she was in a horrible life situation and that she was sorry my case was dropped after a while of course it's funny because I could tell a real difference in how my family acted towards me after that but while I was too traumatized and I just tend to withdraw which I have done more and more for the last seven years you won't believe how much I wish to just turn back the time so I could get my life back sadly this is reality my step-brother five at the time told his kindergarten teacher I molested him which got me investigated by the police getting home arrested for five days of not being able to be in the same house with him or my mom anymore which ended up on me being forced to move in with my grandparents on the bright side my whole family believed me and I got tested by a lie-detector about a week later that whole thing is behind me now this past school year I was accused of it by a now old friend's girlfriend the entire friend group believed her and left me behind had to go through a three-month long process of telling our sides of the stories turning in evidence and eventually going to a hearing board the board unanimously decided on me not being guilty I was asked to leave student organizations I was in because people heard the rumor most people on campus don't look at me or talk to me anymore and there's just been a lot of emotional and mental stress the hearing ended around six months ago but I still feel the effects as I don't want to really be a social don't have much motivation and I'm legitimately terrified of going back to school I still have a few good friends who stuck by and my family has been super supportive and always believed me but I would be lying if I said it hasn't messed with how I perceive myself how often I wanted to be in public and my overall happiness not physical abuse but I was accused of sexually harassing a neighbor over the phone cops called my parents saying that traced a phone call to my house where a young male verbally harassed of a sexual nature a mom that lived down the street this was the eighties I'm surprised they told my parents who the victim was but they did so I claimed innocence because I didn't do it they believed me but I was really upset because there was probably lingering doubt I kept thinking about it and it turns out the day and time it happened I had the perfect alibi I was at the movies with my dad seeing no escape starring Ray Liotta I don't know if it ever got back to the neighbor she probably still thinks it is me want to know the crazy part it was her son he came over and hung out with my sister and he called his mom from our phone from that point on we avoided them didn't want any more drama eat crap Brian you're a terrible person I was accused of rape by my best friend's girlfriend who came to visit me at university after she had an argument with him she tried to sleep with me I refused she went back to our hometown and told everyone I'd raped her I was threatened with violence on multiple occasions many of my friends stopped talking to me I was verbally abused and called a rapist on many occasions all this even though I was never even arrested I was very lucky this happened before the rise of social media where I would probably have been unable to finish the University and certainly wouldn't have a career it sticks like glue there are still people in my hometown years later who openly say I'm a rapist because everyone knows most rapists get away with it when I was 23 I was working as the director of a summer camp and youth programming for a large organization I hire teenagers as staff for the summer and worked with the same teens 15 to 17 year-olds during the year with their youth programs knowing I was a young man working with mostly girls I was aware and I never ever met with anyone alone my office door was always open at all times I was engaged life was good one day I show up to work and there was a cop a father and my boss and his boss all waiting for me they bring me into a closed office and tell me Mary name made-up told some of her friends that her and I had sex in a closet I sat there in utter shock and said is this a joke after a moment I realized it wasn't so I said that accusation is 100% false I would never do anything of the sort I was then told that I would be on paid leave I protested and said if you do this everyone will think it's true they did this was on a Thursday I met with a lawyer and was getting ready to sue the organization and the family of the girl Friday morning I get a call Mary confessed she made the entire thing up and she wanted to meet to apologize too late the damage was done no one looked at me the same there was always that tiny nugget of doubt worst part my fiancee at the time also had a problem she never said it but I could tell she felt there must have been something inappropriate with the way I was or something we broke up wedding called off my only saving grace was this was before social media thank God I quit sent them a scathing letter but word traveled fast and I was no longer hireable within the greater organization I moved to a different city this was 20 years ago it really bothers me to this day I still get really upset wondering how much different my life would have been if this girl didn't make up a lion if she hadn't told the truth so quickly in the end it always comes down to one person's word versus another but it seems society is always skewed to guilty until proven innocent and then even then not really innocent there should be a much harsher penalty for false accusations I had a girlfriend with four grown kids and a 15 year old daughter over the course of years treated her like my own child and tried to make up for years of lack of parenting knowing she would soon be moving out on her own some great years of camping trips bike rides and other activities my girlfriend was prone to bouts of depression during which she didn't wanted to do anything and went to bed really early every night the daughter and I are on a night person circadian rhythm so we'd sometimes do things together in the evening at some point my girlfriend became insanely jealous of the attention I was giving her daughter she started making remarks about it then swiftly withdrawing them I should have walked away at this point twice I talked her down from this and things were okay for a few months then she'd start up with the passive-aggressive insinuations again finally she found a hustler magazine under my couch and was instantly and completely convinced that it meant I have a thing for young girls pointing out that the magazine was dated years before we even met made no difference I left for good now it's 12 years later the daughter is in failing health and probably won't live much beyond 30 she is extremely grateful for all the activities we did together back then which she is no longer able to do I am on barely cordial terms with my ex-girlfriend but to this day she doesn't understand why I made such a big deal about it last year I started dating someone and several months in the topic of false accusations came up I reacted rather strongly then when asked said I had been falsely accused in the past my girlfriend did a poor job of concealing that she assumed there was some truth to the allegation and that she was now palpably suspicious of me let that sink in a dozen years later a completely baseless suspicion by a clinically depressed woman is assumed to have an element of truth by a complete stranger with months of time getting to know me false accusers need to be socially shunned and criminally charged I really can't stand hearing the argument that doing so will make it harder for real rape victims I was accused recently in college police dropped charges a day after my interview with them but the college Ethics Board found me guilty of violating title 9 I won't speak in much detail about the incident but briefly she claims to have been blacked out drunk and doesn't remember anything witnesses who were with her all night claims she didn't drink as much as she said I didn't think she was drunk and knew it had been at least four hours since her last drink and she wasn't acting drunk but her word against mine in the college board vector I definitely didn't force her she was on top of me when it happened so this is all about intoxications effect on consent the official sanctions against mere academic probation my presence on campus is restricted to academics only and I'm supposed to stay far away from couple thousand dollars on lawyers got me this instead of getting expelled and suspended it was a six month long process of investigation from the school honestly I like to pretend that I'm fine but since this is a throw away I can say it all I've experienced some serious depression since had a couple stints of a borderline eating disorder and my social life has suffered intramural sports were a huge part of my life and well-being and I can't do those anymore professionally I'm a hopeful pre-medical student but it hurts knowing that there's a good chance my application will be rejected because of the mark on my disciplinary record every time that I've started to think about being in a romantic relationship again it's horrible to decide when to have the conversation about it I can't date someone without telling them that just seems dishonest all of my friends knew what I was going through during the investigation and I lost probably two to three very close friends because of it I was on OkCupid for a while and one night I was talking to this woman it was a profile for a woman but I don't know or think it actually was a woman after what happened and she was into cyber sex I figured it's late and I've got nothing better to do so we connected on skype she's got video and she's pretty attractive so I'm good to go and she keeps asking me to point the camera down so she can see what's going on like an idiot I do and after a few minutes her video feed changes to my own and it's from a few minutes earlier then it changes to my mother's Facebook page then my alma mater --zz Facebook page where I was teaching then to my old boss's Facebook page and then to my LinkedIn page it keeps cycling through these different tabs and the person starts typing messages to each of these places messages like my name tried to rape me and I'm really scared for my life and a link to a YouTube video of my video feed from a few minutes earlier the person says that if I don't go to a link and vote for her for some sort of contest that she'll start sending these messages and that I'll probably kill myself because she's going to ruin my life I'm sitting there frantically googling what's happening and how to get out of it my bank account was empty so I couldn't give this person money and I explained that but I'm still terrified that these messages are going to go through I closed my LinkedIn account I remove all contact information and business associations from Facebook and noticed that I've got all of the privacy settings set to the most extreme levels possible so much for Facebook security I report the Skype account in the OkCupid account I even found someone on reddit who went through an almost identical situation while I'm doing all of this I'm stalling for time with a person because she's saying if I closed out of the chat session she'll post everything anyway I tell her that I'm a bad mark because I have no money in the first place I even searched the link she gave me on a virtual machine with a VPN but nothing comes up eventually I think she gave up because the Kol ended and I spent the rest of the night looking through all of my contacts Facebook pages for any indication that the messages had gone through but nothing did I looked on YouTube to see if I could find the video of me but that didn't come up either it was terrifying but fortunately nothing came of it thanks for listening to radio TTS hit the subscribe button and activate the bell for more controversial videos like this check out the movie the hunt with Mads Mikkelsen if you are interested in this topic this is honestly one of the best movies I have seen and I can only recommend it find the link in the video description [Music]

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Published: Fri Jul 05 2019