How to Master Your Dark Side | Robert Greene on Impact Theory

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everyone I hope you enjoyed this episode and today it's brought to you by our friends at Wix I don't write books to please my ego to make people laugh or to entertain I want to influence them I want to get inside your skin inside your brain and alter how you look at the world I think this change in your perspective and how you look and socialize and deal with people will radically alter so many aspects in your life everybody welcome to impact theory our goal with this show and company is to introduce you to the people and ideas that will help you actually execute on your dreams alright today's guest is the legendary number one New York Times bestselling author of a string of books on the nature of power itself his writings have become an intellectual buffet for those seeking power and influence as evidenced by the fact that his work has become an integral part of the very fabric of hip-hop culture he's been referenced in songs by jay-z Kanye West and Drake to name but a few and Busta Rhymes used his lessons to resolve a tricky issue with problematic movie producers Fidel Castro has even been reported to read his book and his most famous tome the 48 laws of power is both one of the most requested books in the American prison system and one of the most frequently banned along with one of his other books the 33 strategies for war this may seem an overreaction order ultimately just books but in truth every one of his six books are razor sharp and dripping with useable insights they are dark and powerfully revealing works that look at some of the most often ignored and harder to look at parts of human nature and that's exactly why they have transcended the status of mere books that you read and become among the rare pantheon of books that you study for that very reason his book mastery is on my ultra short list of books that you must read so please help me in welcoming the best-selling author of the laws of human nature the godfather of power dynamics himself Robert Greene dude right writing your intro is about the easiest thing I'm ever gonna do in my life what you've written is so extraordinary and as somebody who I had to toughen up so that was my journey as an entrepreneur so some people I think start to hard don't have enough empathy and they really have to find that and find their love for other humans I led with that but had to like develop the resilience in the internal fortitude to see things through so I love hip-hop culture and the lack of anxiety that they talk about and I like that similar thing in your books where it really just delves into this is sort of an objective look at human nature or power and its really pretty fascinating so the fact that you wrote a book about the laws of human nature is very intriguing I could not wait to dive into this and I want to start with yes you take a default sort of negative view about our aggressions and things like that what is your default stance on human nature but I admit that I have a negative bias but I try and make my books as objective as possible but I think that we consider ourselves human obviously we're human beings but I don't by that definition I think that we're actually animals that we have an animal nature and that we have to become human and we become human by overcoming some of these deep-rooted animal forces within us these forces within us that we can't control such as the fact that we can't control our own emotions our own anger our own frustration or if we feel Envy or were caught up in the emotions of other people I call those forces primal forces human nature and I have 18 of them and they can create sort of negative patterns of behavior the dark side of what we see in the news etc and we all have them ingrained in us because with the way we evolved millions of years ago served a very definite purpose for our survival as a species but the savannas of East Africa is not the offices in Silicon Valley or a 21st century America the world isn't the same we are not built to adapt to this new technological environment we're in we still have that lizard brain those animal parts of our nature so my book is designed to confront you with human nature so you can begin to overcome it so for instance law number one is about how we're basically irrational creatures we think that we're rational but really our emotions governess we feel something before we ever have an idea or think it we have to become rational through this process that live layout in my book so I don't mean to say that we're negative because humans are obviously incredible look at what we've created it's an array giuse if you think about who we were millions of years ago where we are now we're obviously capable of incredible achievements we're also the most brilliant social animal on the planet we're capable of cooperating and working on teams to a level that no other animal has ever reached so there's obviously another side to the story but to become greater to become truly human we have to overcome these forces that I lay out in the book what are some of the other primitive forces that are driving us especially ones that people might not be aware of well I think we're kind of aware of it but we don't see it in the same light so for instance we are built to constantly compare ourselves to other people we're always thinking of what the other person has and how we are in relation to them are we getting as much attention as that other person you started off when we were children are we getting more attention than our siblings from our parents so we're continually comparing ourselves in rank and power and status to the people around us and this is deep force within us and it's constant every day every moment you don't realize it but you're going through that and social media it completely exacerbates this tendency in human nature and it's the source of envy which is I have a whole chapter on in my book so that's one force that I that I talked about and has I try and show the roots of that you know in our evolution another is the contagiousness of emotions which is extremely powerful we tend to think of ourselves as autonomous human beings that were independent that we I feel affection or anger or frustration on my own we don't realize how deeply we are affected by the emotions of the people in a group this is the viral effects emotions are extremely contagious and I explained in the book there was an evolutionary reason for that before the invention of language we humans had to be able to communicate to one another through just picking up the moods of other people and if there was a threat to our group or our tribe the ability to feel fear and anger together bonded us and helped us survive but that doesn't serve much function in the world today where viral emotions could be very dangerous and very we see a lot of that on social media so there's are two forces you know I convention there there's several others so you've said that you often write from a place of anger I do what was the anger that was driving this book well I tell you you know I just think I'm really worried about people nowadays so in mastery my worry was couldn't people no longer knew how to build things no longer understood the process for becoming great in excelling at some craft or field but now my worry is that people are so immersed in their smartphones in their technology that they don't understand people they're not observing people and this has been documented in studies that young people for instance levels of self-absorption and narcissism have been growing steadily since the 1970s we are the preeminent social animal on the planet our survival depends on how we relate to other people whether we understand them on some level and I find a lot of people are increasingly in the world are really bad at observing just basic elements in human psychology the position I'm in now I'm a consultant to a lot of very powerful famous people I'm not going to mention any names but people fly me out to consult with CEOs political people who are very powerful and even in other countries and the number one problem I find that they have is an inability to understand the people they're dealing with they hire the wrong partners they hire the worst assistants when de Bruin anair lives these are people who were technically brilliant they understand their field they understand marketing etc but they don't understand basics about people around them and they make terrible hires or they marry absolutely the wrong person for them in their lives their emotions you know their personal relationship bring them down so this is like our Achilles heel and I think it's gotten worse in the world today so my anger was that people are so focused on technology but that we need to focus much more on human nature on understanding people that's the primary skill that you need in life I kind of really interesting so I'm sort of the I get a little mischaracterized as the blank slate guy and admittedly I do want to believe that we're blank slates but I don't believe that I don't think that we are blank slates and I think that there is a certain amount of human nature that's really baked into things one thing that I thought was pretty funny in your book was like the biggest part of human nature is that we deny that there was human nature that that was wonderfully ironic and terrifyingly true and I want to know like how much of this is stuff where we tease out because you said the purpose of the book is to give you a sense of who you are so that you can change who you are but without that self-awareness without going through the process of learning this stuff you're just never gonna be able to make that change so okay operating from the thesis that your book is designed to give me that level of self-awareness as I go through the process of trying to tease out who I really am which is a fascinating journey that your book takes people on if they're willing to acknowledge when they see themselves how much of this is truly like just you were born that way and how much of this is early childhood development well I have a chapter on character which is extremely important chapter and what I'm trying to get at in there is that there is something deeply ingrained in each individual person a particular individual nature that we all have and that causes us to go into compulsive patterns of behavior I have this problem of myself I notice each time I write a book I'm telling myself I'm gonna make this book short I'm not gonna ruin my health I'm not gonna do so much research and every goddamn time I still go through the same process I can't break this pattern okay and everybody has them where does it come from some of it comes from our DNA from our genetics things we can't control that we've inherited from our parents some of it comes from our early attachment and some of it comes as we get older and we interact with teachers and mentors and various people who create a certain way we view ourselves if people keep telling us that were not really worthy that we're not good students we internalize that and we end up becoming like that so it's a mix of things you know each person has a mix of these qualities and you have to kind of and untangle the various strands and your write up what I'm saying is you're a mystery to yourself you don't know who you are you have patterns of behavior and you're not even understanding that you don't know why you're angry you think you're angry because that person said something mean to you or did something wrong but in fact your anger probably stems from things from deep deep within from your childhood and you're not reacting to that person but to actually your parents and what they didn't give you you know the the origin of wisdom according to the Greeks was know thyself right and I believe that very firmly that knowledge about who you are is an end in itself and will help you in so many ways become that human being that I think we all have the potential to become so talk to me about self-awareness and how it impacts biases well you have to see this is my book so try to be as practical as possible I don't want to get acted I want you to be able to actually use this knowledge so I'm a great believer in baby steps in learning how to do things on a daily basis so normally when we feel an emotion or we have an idea we don't examine it we just assume that's that's you know it's just natural we came up with that on our own I want you every single day to be examining yourself and to look at yourself why do I have that idea why am I feeling this sudden emotion and it's not easy it takes it can take time and it can take degree of introspection that you're not comfortable with but if you begin to look at yourself in question why do I feel this way and examine it and look at perhaps other sources of it then you can begin this process of understanding instead of just simply accepting that you feel or have this certain idea so when I write the book on human nature I admit that I have a negative bias towards human nature I tend to see the dark side in people I tend to see they're manipulative side what they're trying to hide that was the source for the 48 laws of power that was the anger I felt then that people weren't being honest about how manipulative they can be so I recognized that I have this bias I recognize that that's who I am instead of thinking that well I'm just brilliant and my ideas are always correct I questioned it and I questioned is my negative bias towards human nature is that reality or is it just me and maybe it's just me because of my the way my parents are you know my parents were kind of anxious and worried about a lot of things and I internalized that maybe that gave me my negative view on people so I questioned it and I say maybe it's not real maybe I need to read books that tell me the other side of the story and there are plenty of books you know that say that humans are great so question yourself stop assuming that everything you do is so brilliant and smart it's right and imagine that maybe your ideas don't come from yourself maybe you're feeling some political anger or whatever comes from the fact that you're just assuming it from other people you're following things on Facebook and you're getting swept up in some viral emotion you want to think that you're completely independent and autonomous but maybe you're not as independent as you think so how do you want people to use your book as a tool as they go through what exercises do you want them to do because I think some of a lack of self awareness isn't not just a I don't want to do the work the introspection it's a not understanding the process of what introspection is well some of it also is denial some of it also is a block that people have to look at themselves because it is it is a little bit a confrontation with reality but as far as the process is concerned it's it's a daily thing so first of all the first and most important thing that you have to do is to is to come to admit it's almost like an AAA thing that you have a problem if you go through a life thinking you don't have a problem that you know who you are that your relationships with people are fine that everything is hunky-dory then you're never going to be able to even begin to go into the process so admit you have a problem admit you don't understand the people you deal with even your spouse or your children they're mysteries to him you don't really know what they're thinking so admit that first when you admit that now you're motivated to try and learn they're their little steps you can take I won't go through all of them but the first thing is if you take your wife or your husband if you say to yourself I don't really understand them I think I do but a lot of the times when you think you understand them you're just simply projecting your on to them your own emotions step back and say today I'm gonna observe her let's just say from my point of view in a different way than I normally do and I'm gonna look at her nonverbal communication because I'm a big believer in nonverbal and today I'm gonna glean one truth about my wife or spouse or partner then I had never noticed before and I'm gonna try and see her get to the point where I could begin to understand her perspective so if for instance there's an argument or a disagreement here's another instance where you step back and you go stop being so self-righteous and maybe try and take the step of understanding her point of view so you know so these are sort of baby steps that you've taken in life you can use this in your office where you think you you know your colleagues but you don't know them and they might be having thoughts about you that aren't very pleasant that you don't want to confront step back and start observing them and I have many many examples in the book about how lessons on how you can start observing people observing their body language seeing the subtext behind their words you know seeing their patterns of behavior you know for instance you'll notice sometimes we all go through this that when we see our boss we get a kind of body language and a nervousness that's it's unusual but when we see somebody else like a friend suddenly our face lights up and we're much more relaxed and happy all people are like that so you want to see how somebody reacts to you when you meet them when you come up to them and how they react to other people and notice that there's a great difference when they see you and suddenly they're very nervous around you or they're very excited that will tell you a lot about yourself and about them you're not being observant you mentioned Milton Erickson before we were talking about how incredibly observant he was his what he was fascinated with that was how incredibly unobservant people are let's go deeper into Milton Erickson who is a shared fascination for you and I know seeing him in your book was very excited and you'd give like this blow-by-blow account of how he comes to what is really almost a superpower his ability to read nonverbal communication is beyond powerful but the way that you tell the story it makes it sort of self-evident how he develops that walk us through you know what happened when you got struck with polio how he leveraged that what some of those realizations were and then how we can all train ourselves and and if you can touch on like what he learned about the word no like I found that really in well Milton Erickson is amazing figure he's the person who created basically hypnotherapy and was the main inspiration between behind NLP and when he was about eighteen years old he suddenly got polio and as his polio spread his entire body was was paralyzed even the only thing that wasn't was his eyeballs he could move he could look at people he had some ability to see move his eyes a little bit and so imagine I can imagine myself I have a very active mind imagine you're paralyzed in bed you can't read you can't watch anything no television no entertainment people can read you stories basically but how incredibly bored you'll become and how frustrating and you can't do anything for yourself you know you'd go crazy so what Milton Erickson did as he was in that state and he was living in his house and people were visiting his him is he decided he would observe people on a much higher level now he couldn't say anything he couldn't communicate because his mouth was paralyzed as well so all he could do was observe and observe people closer and closer and so he noticed that as that hat as he progressed in that there's that there's the second language that people speak and this language is nonverbal it is in gestures it is in tone of voice it isn't just your pop body posture and slowly over months and years of being paralyzed in this position he literally mastered this second language he could tell from the way his sister moved her hair like that or moved her head that she was feeling some resentment towards her other sister he noticed as you said that there were like five different forms of know that someone could say no I don't want that Apple when they were offered to it but they really meant yeah I really do want Appl and so he noticed that there were all these different variations of know depending on the tone of voice he could hear people in another room talking about him and through that the tone of their voice he could understand what they were really trying to say about him and the subtext behind the words that people have and so as people talk and they use words to conceal what they're thinking their bodies reveal what they're actually thinking behind the words through their nervousness their tone of voice their eyes the the eyes and the mouth tell you incredible amounts of information Milton Erickson mastered this language and as he got older he used this in his therapy where he would have patients enter his room he became a psychoanalyst and he deliberately placed his desk at one end of the corner so they would have to walk into the room and he could understand from the way they walked and their gait whether they were nervous whether they were excited whether they wanted to change their lives or not he was so brilliant at it that people later in life people thought he was psychic he could literally read your thoughts it was unbelievable so the point of this story was that humans have this ability to understand master the second language put yourself in the position of our earliest ancestors I mentioned this earlier they don't have language yet their survival depends on getting along with the group and knowing like you're hunting and where where is that leper what's going on and you but you can't say anything you don't have language yet so your ability to pick up fear in the eyes of a fellow group member or to pick up excitement your survival depended on it so I maintain that our ancestors were virtually psychic and their ability to attune themselves to the nonverbal communication that people are constantly emitting so the idea in this book is we humans are all constantly emitting information about our real emotions it comes out non-verbally and you're not picking up these signals you're so focused on people's words that you're missing this other reality which is so incredibly eloquent and I try and instruct you in the book about how you can become superior observer of this for me that Milton Erickson ability really does border on a superpower that came from obviously something very disruptive in his life right and I know recently you had a stroke and the way that you're approaching it has the sort of Milton Erickson written all over it with rebuilding yourself but with a writer's mind and so you're paying attention to what it takes and what you're going through walk us through that like what are you learning about that what principles of the book are you applying to it well um you know I I hate to say it but it was kind of a near-death experience because I was with my wife at the time and she called the ambulance right away I was driving and if she hadn't called right away I would have permanent brain damage right now and I probably would have gotten to in a very bad car accident I might not be alive so you know the last chapter is a chapter about death confronting your greatest fear in life is judge immortality I literally had to confront that so the abstract words that I have about Oken front your death overcome your fear suddenly became very real to me and so that was one aspect of it but literally you lose control of your body I'm a very independent person very willful I like to imagine myself like I can do anything I want and suddenly I'm put in the position of being a baby dependent on people to clothe me to feed me I can't walk very well I have no control over my left side of my body I wasn't an athlete but I loved exercise endurance exercise not all that wiped away so what am I gonna do am I gonna start feeling sorry for myself and so I applied one of the things in my book which is has to do with the last chapter about death but it's also permeates through the book is just sort of accept things as they are stop judging you know I had to accept that is a fact of life and how can I make it into something strong how can I turn this into a positive I have a chapter on your attitude in life how you can change your circumstances by changing your attitude your attitude towards life will determine what you get if you're avoidant and hostile towards people a hostile person will tend to create hostility around him so how can i alter my attitude and it's a struggle every single day I have to be incredibly patient and I'm not a patient person it takes me 10 minutes to put on a t-shirt to be able to get my left arm through that hole that sleeve damn it I'm not somebody who's patient and I've had to develop patience I've had to overcome all of these sort of negative qualities in myself so if I talk in the book about overcoming your own nature this damn and that was fucking slammed into my face right I had to overcome my frustration my lack of patience my willfulness the fact that I always have to do things myself you know and then I had to confront the fact that I could easily have died but I did I'm alive so I can learn from this I'm learning a lot and I'm gonna rebuild my body I'm gonna rebuild it I've come a long way so like a month ago I was pretty bad I'm able to walk now fairly well in four months from now I'm gonna be swimming again in six months I'm gonna be jogging I'm gonna be back to where I was nothing will stop me but I have to overcome all of my deficiencies and all of these weaknesses that I have built up over the years yeah that is needless to say that's a long difficult Road how do you what tools do you use to reset your mind every day as you're going through this in and paralleling that maybe to that check off story in the book and how what he overcame him is really extraordinary being beaten by his father all the time and that he goes on to be the guy that isn't bitter was pretty extraordinary what mechanisms do you use to reset every day I meditate every morning I doing that for several year for eight years now religiously and in those meditations I confront myself so I'm sitting there meditating and my meditation is all about emptying the mind but it's impossible to empty the mind so as you're meditating thoughts come to you anxieties worries resentments I've trained myself to question where they are each time I feel anger at my sibling or my mother or friend for saying something that I misinterpreted I go that's your ego speaking you these people weren't saying something that was personal you just have your ego which is always getting in your way question it so question my impatience my frustrations etc the meditation has really helped me then a friend of mine wrote saying about the stroke well look at it this way then it's kind of an adventure that you're having to experience things you've never experienced before oh wow you know I think I'm so brilliant but I'm not sometimes people other people have the best ideas I'm always stealing their ideas that was a great idea this is an adventure this is something new I'm having to learn it it can be exciting although really I'm feeling kind of bitter and angry I have to confront that and move past it the Chekhov story is great because Chekhov was born in in Russian the most miserable village in Russia poverty-stricken etc really cold and no streets weren't paved and wild dogs ran through the streets and you could fall into a pothole and drown and his father beat him every morning rat practically and his siblings were a mess and then suddenly they - but the brothers ran off to Moscow and then the father decided to follow them the rest of the family basically abandon anton chekhov at the age of 18 or 16 in this miserable little town and he had to fend for himself and he started becoming really bitter like why did it why me why did I have this awful family this horrible abusive father this mother who won't stand for her up for herself this drunken brother why me he got a and then he's he suddenly got sick of this story in his mind and he goes maybe I need to look at this totally differently you know I don't want to be like this the rest of my life and so he decided that what he would do is he would try and understand his father instead of judging him and he went through a process where my father was born a serf we got freed later on but he was basically a slave his father beat him he was never allowed to go into the kind of work that he wanted to so no wonder he became an alcoholic who beat me he can't help it instead of hating him I'm gonna love my father I'm gonna try and love him for this human being for this fact of nature that can't help himself but is my father for who he is and in that moment he had a total epiphany and transformation that by getting rid of his negative emotions towards people he was like free he was liberated and I've experienced this myself my meditation to go through just an hour or half an hour of freeing yourself from all your negative emotions about people it's as almost as if you're gonna fly in the air you feel so light and suddenly gotten rid of all of your burdens all the things that are weighing you down accepting people and loving them for who they are is an incredibly liberating thing now you can't do that for everyone some people are so toxic and ugly that you're never gonna reach a point where you're gonna love them but you can understand them and an understanding them you don't have to internalize that the pain they inflict on you this is he changed his attitude towards people and towards life and it changed everything that came to him later on he became a successful doctor and later a great writer the two brothers of the same reality the same world that they were looking at the same family one looked at it through this of empathy and love the other legit through resentment and bitterness the one person Chekhov got famous and successful and and there fulfilled life the others just descended into suicide and alcoholism so your attitude is will mean what you get in life you know you will sabotage yourself with your attitude so if I got all bitter and railed against fate for making me who I am for this stroke that ruined my life that took away everything that I value I can't travel I can't drive I would become a different person I would become somebody who limited my scope of activity but by accepting it by saying I'm not gonna let this happen I'm going to accept it i widen my scope of activity I do things that I normally wouldn't do if I became all angry and avoidant and anxious amor fati yes exactly tell people what that means well it's a Latin expression that literally means love of fate and it's it was created by the German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche it's one of my great icons in life one of my favorite writers and basically his idea was that we humans normally go through the life kind of not accepting things we want things to be different from the way they are we want to have a better wife or husband we want our children to be better we don't like the political system we want this sort of utopia to suddenly come about we want people to be different we want this we want that and to Nietzsche that men you are anti-life you are against life because life isn't like that life is a series of facts life is what it is we've evolved a certain way your reality is a certain way it is what it is and by putting a guessing you hate life you one love life you one love fate and what fate means things happen to you you can't control you didn't control who your parents are you didn't control what city you were born into what school you went into you didn't control whether you were born rich or poor right there's much you can't control that's fate accept it for what it is stop whining and stop going I want something else embrace your world your life the fear of death is probably the greatest influence on our behavior throughout history we're the only animal that's conscious of our mortality and it's caused an incredible reaction we're a void and we're anxious we invent an afterlife a heaven where we'll all go right or today we never see death we never see people die in hospitals we never see the animals that we being killed we have no confrontation with death personally in our life completely disconnected from it it makes us anxious and fearful and that controls everything about our behavior we become anxious and fearful about everything so the ability to accept death and look at square in the eye and accept this is your reality that you're not going to live forever is very liberating so amor fati is a step from turning your back let's face this way going there's life and I hate it I don't want to turnin running and facing it going I accept it I love it I embrace it and it has a very powerful effect let's go a little deeper on that so with your recent essentially moment where you couldn't help but look at death what have you learned what have you taken away from that knowing as a writer you have shown time and time again that you see things that are offered and counterintuitive so what what was it in that maybe that even surprised you well the experience itself on a physical level was very weird because I didn't experience the stroke as it was happening it was almost an outer-body thing so my wife noticed I was acting very strangely my whole body was full of weird and everything and then I blanked out and I was basically kind of in a coma or not conscious for about 10-15 minutes and and then I was taken out of it at the hospital and I kind of freaked out like what's happening to me where am i what happened to my body so it was a kind of a weird out-of-body experience that I think I'm still kind of recovering from the other thing was I did a book with $0.50 called the 50th love and I hung out with 50 for several months he's a great guy we're still friends 50 had an even worse near-death experience than I was he was shot nine times very close range well it went through his jaw he came this close to dying and he said and I've noticed it in him since then that nothing can faze him after that how can he be afraid of anything in life once he came that close to death so he has this kind of Zen calmness that I've witnessed you don't think of 50 as being Zen and calm you think it was this angry kind of thug like rapper but in real life he's incredibly calm person who never seems to get riled by things well I've had a little bit of that effect myself so I've noticed the people around me like my mother or other people they're all freaking out about what's happened to me my god got a kid you might fall you might do this and I I don't care really I don't feel calm I feel more calm than I felt in a long time so that was kind of a counterintuitive thing that I wasn't expecting now is that because you feel like there's nothing left to take away now every day is a gift or what is it what is the calmness born of it's definitely that and then it's definitely it helps the fact that I've written this is my sixth book the loss of human nature was sort of like my ultimate I like vomited out of everything that I had built over the last 20 years into this one book all the things I've learned all my anger I got it out into this one book so if I die I don't have to run every regrets you know I yeah I'd like to write a seventh and an eighth book I have other ideas but I could die and I'm okay I lived a great life and I talked a lot about that in mastery and in this book that the worst feeling in the world is to be facing death and to think damn and I've wasted my life and I want people out there to realize that if your 20s and your 30s you don't want to reach that point you don't want to waste your time and become 55:58 have a stroke face death and what have you done nothing you've moved from job to job you try this you tried that with half an energy you really have nothing to look back on that's the worst feeling so you know I don't have that problem I don't think so that's part of how I'm able to stay calm but the other thing is you say bring it on what worse can happen I've already experienced it you know I'm somebody who has a great deal of fear of death and now I had to deal with it so yeah it's alright it's not that bad I can handle it that is amazing thank you for sharing that yeah all right before I ask my last question yeah these guys where they can find you online well I have my old website that I've kept together which is WWD our seduction and war.com the and is spelled out so power seduction and war calm and on there you'll find links to the mastery my pages on mastery and to my new book the laws of human nature for some reason I've just kept the old address so that's where you can find everything all right perfect my last question yes what's the impact that you want to have on the world well I want to have the largest impact possible so I'm grandiose you know which is one of the chapters in the book you know I don't I'm going ambitious person I don't write books to please my ego to make people laugh or to entertain I want to influence them I want to get inside your skin inside your brain and alter how you look at the world and so I believe from the emails I've gotten from lots of readers and people I've talked to that my books have had that effect that you don't don't read my books they get under your skin and you're thinking about them years later and I consciously design that for that reason I seduce you into following me I tell you stories I don't preach or tell you this is what it is I tell you a story each chapter is begin with a story to gently bring you into my world and into my ideas I want to get under your skin I want to change how you look at the world because I don't think I'm not doing that for evil purposes I think my way of looking at the world will help you I know because I get a lot of email from people from mastery mastery has helped a lot of people find their way in life find their path to a career that is fulfilling and to know how to discipline themselves so I think that my perspective will have a beneficial effect on you maybe I'm just deluding myself but I think that and so I want the biggest impact possible I want to change how you look at the world and so with the laws of human nature I want to change how you look at people normally everything is personal oh they said that oh they don't like me oh he likes me she I'm not getting attention cut that off I want you to look at people as facts of nature as things that like a rock or a stone or a plant this is who they are and I want you to observe them and accept them for who they are and deal with them as individuals you will be free of all that emotional baggage that you carry when you take everything so personally I think altering your perspective how you look at people well a radical influence on all aspects of your life so I want to have the biggest impact that I possibly can and that's how I write try and design my books for all right guys read this book in fact read everything this man has ever written I'm telling you he is absolutely right these are books that get under your skin they will change the way that you look at the world they will change the way that you look at human nature and most importantly if you let it they will change the way you look at yourself and we didn't even get into some of the extraordinary stuff that he talked about in the book about how you develop self-esteem the story that you tell yourself how you construct your sense of self how it's used both as a mask and as a way to reflect back on yourself it is incredibly extraordinary and as you go on the journey of reading the book if you're open to it you will see yourself in many of the darker elements of human nature I am sad to say that I think all of us will see bits and pieces of ourselves through all of the 18 laws of human nature not all of them are flattering but if you're willing to really get that level of understanding like he said from there you can change yourself but if you don't first understand yourself then that is absolutely hopeless and that has really been the extraordinary journey that he's taken us on as readers are are through all six of his books is to just understand as he called other people facts of nature I think that's so interesting and to see yourself in that pantheon as well to understand that there are parts of you that are just facts of nature and to really come to understand those is to come to understand yourself is to be a master of yourself and that journey is something that I'm extraordinary really grateful to him for laying out in this book so eloquently I think it is worth every second that you'll spend on it I cannot highly recommend it enough all right guys if you haven't already be sure to subscribe and until next time my friends be legendary [Applause] hey impact this I hope you loved that episode with Robert Greene and now I want to take a moment to share with you about our friends at Wix it is no secret Wix is an awesome website building platform that lets you create your own amazing site with ease with 20:19 right around the corner you may be looking to find a more fulfilling job start your own business create a blog YouTube channel whatever even put a portfolio of work together whatever your plan is to execute it starts with an amazing website so the world can get excited about what you're doing and what you're building and Lisa and I know this firsthand our very first business Billy Photography was built around our own website so we know 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Channel: Tom Bilyeu

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Length: 49min 24sec (2964 seconds)

Published: Tue Dec 18 2018

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