Tony: I've Lost My Family (Young Runaway Documentary) | Real Stories

[Music] but my name's Tony everyone calls me Tony I'm 18 years old I'm gay I've been living away from home for about two years since me and my mom had a bit of a falling out I thought walked out into the world on prepared I've had a ever off journey it's horrible having no one to turn to now I would want to see my mum again but I'm too scared so because she's scared of what she'll think about Marielle my life it's just a bit rubbish I've no job I've got nothing to strive for anyway I can eat to get myself a job get myself sorted out first people are see it [Music] I'm gonna try and get a job and I'm gonna go I'm gonna go a theme or mom that's the ultimate girl to see my mom in my dream I'll just walk up the street knock on the door of my mum's everyone who sees me and she ends up well hit Madrid well whenever I actually dream about it she's always like where the hell have you been and the feel like I'm gonna fall off any minute no dear I think I'd like to get down though [Music] it's two o'clock in the afternoon in Leeds and as usual Tony is off to a slow start he's been living on his own since he was 16 that is until his mate John John came to stay the night a month ago Tony has never even tried to get a job before but now he's got some details from the job centre all he's got to do is wait til John John is up and out of the way and then he's going to get started japanese probably going to involve a lot of walking-around a lot of burning up people it'll be pretty stressful so II think I should sit back at every keep this place clean cuz that might either I'd like a day job a day job so afterwards I can just go hard I can just slump up myself and watch Hollyoaks security guard Oh Goblin my full genera being licensed is a shame sure perfect job the writer or an editor a perfect job will be working with box royal marines commander you will be required to draw in the royal live in the road marines are the navy's amphibious infantry and operate at sea on land and from the air as one of the most resilient and flexible fasters in the world Royal Marine Commandos are trained to be tough that's me out [Music] tony spends a lot of time writing stories about his family it's just a way to be close for air like my friend Leon his little brother the manipulative cheeky little sister the kind of miss him just kind of way I've made up these characters I've got an older brother called Mark somewhere he's not in the stories cuz he used to run away alone mum put me into care when I was about 7 no idea what happened to him I never knew my dad he died when I'll borrow my mom got remarried I felt a little bit like an outsider in that family just a little I was always being blamed for everything I was always pushed out a little I remember kissing my mother you know as you do when he a kid but I really remember cuddling in there and I think back to where she did have a lot on a plate she struggled a lot struggled coping with us and I suppose that I took Carl's a bit of stress or when I think about the other times like going on holiday with us some of the stuff that she did I just regret losing contact with my mom she should have be part of their lives again just being back in the Family fold [Music] dawn on Tony's gyro day the boys have got it into their heads that 4:00 a.m. is when the dole pays benefits into bank accounts so for once they're up before lunchtime our live a red ball past me mouthwash John John's maverick approach to dental hygiene doesn't go down too well with Tony John do you have to do that eyes grass honestly look out we're going to bathroom tapas 5:00 in the morning and always wanted to go in so I can do the weekly shop and pay the bills because it's something I do because if I send him he gets crap I at least get stuff the mixers last generally for go shopping at Belle's our last thing on my masters just go straight for food astray for condiments and other sweets well we do it we get food we get bills and if there's money left over then we get some tax [Music] John John and Tony are both living on Tony's benefits but it's John John who manages the money I'm trying to help toward it in my own way and what they call it Tony seems to be happy to me to me to do it so if Tony's happy I'm happy to do it it's got no one else's business to do with it to be quite honest [Music] okay six steal food ten on bills this tampon gets to any of the stuff that shuts him up for a week so I don't kill him ever since John John took up residence on sofa Tony has come to rely heavily on him he's being program in file off of almost like brothers you know ice he's dependable when you really want him to be he is pretty dependable oh you've bollocks you bastard it does kaffir he does makatea in his own way you know it knows a lot more about the well this is what mark trained for the world for me I am sorry your mother once we am all of us I'm never buying again I bought you this do not eat out in the tub because it's disgusting the uses out the tub without boom it's disgusting cuz wife I want some weight smaller fish for mine yeah the wheels are mine the pops mine and the peanut butters mind yeah anything else help yourself to oh yeah there's like stuff that you can play with flesh a bit earlier when I was in my last year of high school do my GCSEs he was a proper nerd all they ever do was I'm not saying don't read but all he ever did was read constantly like he's a good guy but he doesn't know how to hurt himself like dress science and the way he looks like I take a lot of pride in what I wear in the way I look like say if I have a bad hair day I woke up outside Tony it'll just straighten his hair back and just go outside but I think I'm more confident cuz I think I had a lot of people to support me I still keep in contact with all my family as well where Tony was raised I think cuz he told when he's mom she was always shouting and stuff like that and what'd he call it I say it was a lot harder for Tony than it was for me when Tony's relationship with his mom broke down and he left home he was just 16 we were always arguing she was always blaming me for stuff I was always trying to defend myself stuff was also guy missing and you know like money from purse and very sweets and there Vicki said did Nick a few bicky's but as he 11 a never nicked money but stuff were going missing and I got the blame for it for pretty much all of it things just kind of got bigger and bigger and bigger I'm told best clear we just couldn't live in the same house anymore so I just walked out [Music] officer although you know when she won't shower them it was a good laugh this is the neighborhood by toning and grew up it's scary powder cause I don't know if any more months there are not on palette cuz I'm not shy for want to see yeah but on the other hand I really do want to see her it's a bit like that jump instinct you know you get to the edge of a cliff you know you just got this urge to jump in yet you got this other edge just to back away [Applause] [Music] last time walked down the shake like two years ago I think it was when a care bats get all my stuff get the rest of my stuff and then I just left didn't come back he still same straight there and there's someone out there not there some more blonde [Music] I think it's my mom like so I can see my mom's house from here I don't want to go any closer I'm just too scared to [Music] she's kind of too much for scaredy-cat Smith I'm gonna get a job first and then then I'll do it [Music] a weeks past Tony hasn't actually done a thing about finding a job but he's talked about it a lot he says he wants to get a job so he's get a job conferring a few nice guy job right but I fight won't get a job because he was thick but then when we looked at like he's CV and we were right up in his juice s he's he's actually got a really love high school higher what is it it's called hybrid results yeah sorry theses and that could gave me a good like a good job like a liar ah so I don't want to be a lawyer you want to be a librarian that's nothing to be proud of no I just I just like quiet jobs I want to be I just would work just somewhere witbox the librarian like a librarian or even an English teacher do you know what librarians are a convicts are women who Doug get led we're going to the newsagent going to the newsagent it's got a job you have to be outgoing and stuff like that because I like totally can't be when he wants to be because the most of the time he's not it'll just be quiet and he'll just look down and when people talk to him he won't really talk to her back tony is stepping up his job hunting his plan is to really sell himself my name is Anthony dabshe I've just seen a job advertisement for with the where's here to bring me back please are I could bring you a girl shot I'll ring you later no Hazen he's pretty enjoyed um pretty enthusiastic as well I haven't done all recently or something that's media quit college so we're just really stressful Tony has run 20 companies with no luck and all of a sudden he strikes gold yeah happy free to 5 5 p.m. tomorrow yeah okay see ya right I've got a job interview with them I think the company somewhere details not really some people sales and marketing hope that make a good impression hopefully get the job and I'll probably hopefully I'll have a job I like the Jehovah men questions asked you is like what makes you feat you're suitable for this job so you have to think about these questions oh I can work in a group I can also work by myself yeah and I'm very social stuff like that yeah don't touch your face and you have Tony hasn't done any laundry for nearly two months no I can't find any farm or job trousers [Music] a bit faded [Music] the interview is at 2:45 it's now 2:15 but Tony doesn't know where the building is or how long you'll need to get there I'm offered job interview I'm gonna go cashbox [Music] [Applause] how are you gonna do like well but he's gonna assist with this career he always just see how I'm nervous now I'm scared I'm gonna be telling them my hard work and I'm reliable I can work well as a team back and also work on the earth really scared Tony's appointment at the Talley sales center is his first-ever job interview although he has no idea what to expect he thinks will probably take all afternoon minutes later eerie emerges the free-range interview sir because I won't wear ins Matt clubs because I'm wearing jeans at the moment and the boss here has a thing against jeans so I don't see what's wrong with jeans a nice too smart and the durable and they're not stayin easy either [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music] some people family maybe flesh-and-blood to me it's more than that Alsace to be how we relate to each other as well I mean about biological data he's he was never family it was nasty it was a nasty person he used to hurt mob he's they were just that worried do you remember him no I'm glad to say I don't remember him if he were like that if he were just stop horrible I don't really remember much I remember early years I don't always remember Matt that much I was told that he got put into care Tony has decided to track down his older brother Mark who he hasn't seen for 11 years I just want to find my brother because his power at my path really it's just it was part of my life and then he was gone and he's just forgotten past that I want to reclaim really I don't really remember that much about Matt just remember the rule alike and he was a troublemaker you know hopefully it will change for the better but then again it might not I just hope to find him as our half of Lee they'll be like long-lost relatives come to find each other tony has no idea where Martin lives and doesn't really know how to find him hi I'm looking for a Merrick to a be sure I'm just looking for my brother a so I'm trying a milky fit form blocker lost track of him and I'm just looking up for all the m-master apertures in there sorry to bother ya thank you very well don't feel the every Dabish it there so me as well for Taylor it's possible the mark has reverted to his father's name of Taylor oh okay a lot of ends and none of them seem to be max the work this search for your family doesn't yield any joy if I don't find mark and if my mom don't want to see me then I'll just find a new family you know where we've got John John I mean he's not much but he's kind of like a brother and you know I'll just make my own family really [Music] after Tony left home he stayed in a series of hostels this is the first hostel of stayed up waiting for GSA's and it's just a place for homeless people they had drug problems alcohol problems not a nice place to go when he's 16 when I were doing my GCSEs had to study in my room in the hostel I couldn't study downstairs it were too rowdy and we just they seemed everyone was stuck in my room studying until without through them [Music] after first hostel got moved into another hospital which was more for kids 16 to 18 year olds that's pretty much when things went a little downhill I was just basically in a naive little gay boy who was right for the beating they were always going on at me there were always spikes and that think it was just because I was weaker the monthly everything was having to move because just for me on safety rail I from the second one to the third one I was emotionally scattered but it was preferable to live in a home because I thought my mom didn't want me back anywhere so I thought of it as well just keep [Applause] after a brief stay in a training flat Tony was allocated the council flat where he now lives but he's still struggling [Music] Tony's discovered a problem with one of his household bills the water company are threatening court action Tony owes them over 500 pounds and doesn't have any way to pay the apparently the spa's betaine our jobs the best sale so they take out my benefits personal well have a work with benefits first yeah okay thank you oh this is getting annoying I thought I saw it this hour weeks ago I D it's just [Music] three days in the past Tony's rescheduled interview has come around submit does sir and with five hundred pounds to find for the water bill the pressures really on not to mess it up it's probably best just to put light laughs also don't burn the table this time he's taking no chances he's borrowed some formal trousers from John John well I'll [ __ ] I've just ruined his trousers oh dear you just burn and she's looking for another pair of those travels is the only other trousers he can find from his old school uniform tada you look presentable for once you put the I do not know because you will sweat it back please Charlie's down a bit okay that's as far as they'll go down a bit ah oh thanks a lot John John they're not gonna fall down my crotch just jump up and down walk around a little more see y'all gonna do it not any of you is sit down yeah I'm just gonna they're not gonna fall out and still still want to have a bow to sink here's John John once had a job selling cookies so he's quite an expert on the world of work sit fountain and how are we doing massage officers and sale for month over Mac take nines or six or seven Helena so when I was worth do it must do that for an entire month each day for a week that's times seven times stop by for I won't be doing it every day at the wake will oh yeah every day including Saturday and Sunday and also no but your will be working it's a nine-to-five job they'll be worse than school gonna brush my teeth taking Isaiah piercing to get in yeah I put that in there as well why - either of me painting in my ringer just go [Music] this time Tony is gone for half an hour [Music] basically they just taught me about the company asked me about myself and the they've been patting me around for the second round of interviews so basically they're gonna call me at some point tonight about about five or six things might be on the up for Tony if the jobs in the back then are reunion with his mum could be just around the corner [Music] all laughing past and I think it might be the Kalyani Tony's discovered that the Salvation Army run a people finding service he's requested a forum which should help him find his brother mark full name at birth Mark Taylor rich brown hair Cantrell and remember all else are thinking out brown eyes but I'm not sure parents I have no idea father's full name ash know it with Taylor and its deceased employment details have no idea if it works each inquiry is extremely costly almost there file request a registration fee of five pounds for each person saw I've got a pair for it you know that let it hurt my other few if Tony gets the sales and marketing job he's going to have to smarten up Sir John John is going to lend him his washing machine washing machine how was your first John John's washing machine is still at his old flat he's been living here with some mates but the lease is up and they've all moved out there's what she's still in that washer and I had no idea we've belongs to ah screw this brother shitless [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] Oh Loretta John John decides to bring some of his other stuff there's the fridge freezer to the cooker [Music] and anything else they can carry [Applause] thirty clouds that one looks like pear lips clouds look like clouds oh no that one's got Hans you smoking crap no I'm just looking at the clouds [Music] and have a last 99 pink and white [Music] the next day Tony gets a call about the job I was watching Gilmore girl send the wrong guy it's a tiny light said you know the interview well but you to an experienced artist to shining sea or don't know first rejection of ads I guess I'm not taking it well [Music] they will need to fill my mom but I've got a number and everything but it's just I don't know no she won't say for me I just start not and they Li run in the other day and down the number and if his heroes have the look he was her evil all that hoping I'll pray away I was just I wanna Thomas well then I thought and I know she even thinks about me now thing she probably just thinks of me it's a mistake [Music] [Music] profile the punctual hard-working and conscientious person who works well as part of a team and he's also capable of working alone Tony's been up all night working on his CV he's going to drop it off at bars and shops around town all you can do now is sit back and wait I miss Olivia um in a way I didn't have to worry about all the bells and that now I have to worry about other stuff and he's just bit scary I just miss Ben kid I love being a kid you just get away it would be naive exciting to keep you don't really happen to worries all you had to worry about was homework I'm telling you but we got detention don't worry about pretty much everything now [Music] hello okay yes I'm available tomorrow okay thank you okay I've just got a job interview for tomorrow and he's flying a pen it's v's appear to have done the trick tony's got an interview at a bar intern for 2:30 tomorrow he's gonna text me if the address what's the job bartending I think come on where's your dress pull up yeah I'm gonna push you face no babe why should you lots you pissed me off today I just wanted to say that I got the job interview waffle well I just got the phone call you could have still told me earlier on I just got the phone call I just got off the phone I wanted to tell you Oh [Music] annoying The Times we not other one needs to do his time that I got the job interview he's been asleep pretty much all day so he needs to wake up at some point then what's wrong with wanting to have some finished with John John refusing to move off the sofa and nowhere else to go Tony heads to the library [Music] I'm just looking on some a bball town Mark Taylor it just booted me out there's someone who won't stop at me as a friend who's calm a tail at which things real freaky done it again I'm gonna go a lot for an internet cafe [Music] who's 18 same here just me oh no 19 left sorry Vince Capra okay I don't think he's back I can pop the durian but don't really put people that far away from the world say you did her I'm gonna see if can compare the pictures that was me about a year ago your nurse man Taylor we do her she look about like each other but was a no-show send him a message not sound creepy route but you look an awful lot like my older brother my apartments care without seven settled [Applause] while Tony waits to hear back he's got his job interview to think about he's meeting the owner of the bar Terry George hi eight sir I'd need a be sure here for interview well I work hard at something when I once when I really like it and I can work as a team but I also like working on me on somebody profess that before job interviews before then just worn right if you could describe yourself to an animal what would you describe yourself as let's say a bird a bird yeah I am not sure which type of bird probably a small one but just you know I like I like to be free in a way but birds are also hard working it you know the after work hard with the wings to fly also also the nests than that what is your favorite bird blue team all right I'm not seeing the many of them around madam I know I'll be wondering about that [Music] I got the job I got the donut on the job about the job at fiber oh that's my phone that's my phone a cartel job I call the job I work at a fiber it's turning I got the job the really lights may I can now hold my head to higher so yeah okay congratulations sir if they were to go to work it seriously to work in fiber you can have to work on your people skills fiber is where all the rich people go [ __ ] my fiber you don't get the tips up at it [ __ ] there yeah well then they're gonna teach me how to work behind the bar but actually I think I'm probably gonna end up behind the bar well done well seriously start to get a job if either thank you I'll stick it oh well so know what y'all like oh well you can keep me up the backside which Reeve is if you lose a job at fiber tonight is Tony's first shift working at fiber the coolest gay bar in Leeds you know nothing you should be here when I'm most nervous getting this job at the bar I was really I was shocked but I were really proud for him as well because I see Tony is a little brother what'd he call it but I thought Tony wasn't gonna get in the job because he's never been to a giver like ever it'll give him a boost he I'll give him a confident boost as well just to show what gay people do and how the socialize and stuff like that first day working him a little Pam what time is that my first day as working I've gotta be there in eight minutes I'm no longer an implied are able I need I have a working-class person who even that's just about much Tony will be working flat-out till 3:00 in the morning they finished with AIDS the empty glasses thank you I'm telling you by the way [Music] I'm fine [Applause] we only exhausting invar okay it's the next morning and Tony has come back to see if the mysterious Mark Taylor has replied to his message Oh [Music] they sent me a message like 34 minutes ago just to confirm what was your address only the first line basically house number a street name I have also been searching for my brother for 11 years and I have reason to believe it was you I know it sounds weird asking for you I suppose because I have memorized a single address in hopes of finding my brother one day Oh God he's got my mom's name that's my mom's name yeah this yeah I think it's probably him I can't believe it I'm gonna type him a message [Music] I'm really scared he's off he's online again he's in shock he thinks Charlize replied he's in shock oh me too he sent me his number hang on his [Music] number [Music] hi it's Tony possible yeah it's hey I keep going on so fun oh that's families that oh [ __ ] sorry sorry sorry sorry oh yeah [Music] well oh you shoes on edge uh-oh can't believe it good night I've just got a job as well hello just I'm working in a working in a bar I wish I could get job oh I'm only glass collecting well I've also got another job in there Yeah right okay but I'll give you my house phone number okay I'll be home in an hour hey these these phones down I'd hang on phone dad [Music] [Music] Tony and Mark talk again on the phone and decide to meet up straightaway Matt's just hopping on a bus to get here from Scarborough I'm gonna meet him in secret there's a lot Tony doesn't know about his family well my dad's name is hi-yah what's our dad's name David yeah no I just wondered dad's name would David [Music] it's seven o'clock in the evening Tony is about to meet his brother mark for the first time since they were young children [Music] that's my beer [Music] and it'd be it you do a little bit double just just the eyes [Music] [Applause] [Music] I I was really shocked when I saw the favor I just saw a picture of you with the shot I happened there yeah mahat Saylor was just like crap I wish Tony and Mark have discovered that they both write poems I wish that I could say I love your mom so I love you and goodbye Fila rain yeah that is really sad that every single t2 in college reading it stopping the hell yeah when I triumph lost poems you don't work no I wish right when it comes to me yeah me like the star the star and confusion one storm of confusion fills the mind a swirl of thoughts no one can find the scattering wind the pounding rain lightning flashing in fear and pain the rumbling Thunder of impending doom nothing is shining neither Sun nor moon the storm of confusion fills the mind of a so lost nothing left behind everything replaced by the cloud Sophia's the rain crashing down along with tears [Music] [Music] the brothers stay up all night Mark's been talking to Tony about his memories of the past a Halloween careful 11 years well luckily I haven't been in one of what people call foster homes are being with foster carers it wasn't asking my mom that put me into care they actually took him out yeah it well somewhat son had under reported something was happening I think it was one of the teachers I knew well it could bribe me at the time and because she said she knew I was running away of constantly trust at school as long as possible she knew something was wrong social service came to investigate and took me away meaning for me to go back but mom never wanting me back yeah him back it comes to going back and mom says I don't want him mark is collecting photographs of Tony on his laptop well that's one Tony sent me and it's when he stuck halfway up well more than halfway up a tree ad that said from my phone I could show up people at possible brother even though no it is brother yeah then how many times I've looked at the picture like best thing about fighting my brother knowing that I've got got my family back basically yeah I can now say don't be up me might be brother could be yeah black belt kickboxer and you learn in judo as well set on that with flowers on mr. square died only 30 years old definitely died too young I see Amanda we never really knew but it should have and someone that should also be happy and jolly but I think picture was tick and probably at last few months of his life mom's never really said all about him or said was that his name was Taylor and there used to be a man and said he would never lay a finger on anyone the first nun always used that he died of a broken her dad tried to commit suicide it basically just saw our world crumbling around him it written two letters I believe warm it was fir grandad and nun and the afore much was for our mom and then he'd gone into garbage and it made like a funnel thing to cut from the exhaust in through the sunroof and turned the engine on [Music] then granddad granddad and none did know anything until morning when they can find him and then this other liar [Music] just wishing they'd win [Music] Misha Adam him alive [Music] markers back to Scarborough and Tony discovers there's been a party going on while he was answering oh not good I've left me with a mess John John some of his mates he's a he had a bit of a PI which involved some weed and some care it's ketamine it's pinkies I think it's harsh tranquilizer or something yeah it's my whole mind it's a bit annoying let's have him try this I don't mind sharing my house or just mint some control just a little bit of control well they respect as well it's true earlier the warning would it's 9:00 a.m. on payday Tony has had enough of the state of the house he's dragging John John to the shops to buy some paint so they can decorate the money let's go shopping it's a nice base color they set the offense a pattern where I've chose the whole house would be black mm yeah which is not happening me maybe a little bit in the bedroom about say it is a good idea I'm not bitching you are I'm not you complain about it that's [ __ ] I'm not complaining about it stop murder case I'm not warning you are [Music] [Applause] [Music] don't waste up their facility we go [Music] we're gonna wear a dress six-mile problem they'll know I've tried to impress them but don't wanna stress too scruffy either because then they'll think of what they're made of effort Tony is getting ready to go and see his nan his dad's mom and to meet some other members from his dad's side of the family for the first time this this is actually gonna see a family that adding even know existed I'm scared excited and scared a couple here I hate wasps I don't mind bees because if the rest of Tony's family have been living close by all this time they're gonna be gone yeah class anteriorly and then had an ally on the phone [Music] thank you just just my percent is luckily we can complete again and it's like having the their own father back again because there's so much liking both gets both it'll get ruined it gets spoiled sir it's captain or prison there there's a lot of catch in everyone anybody I think is there's a little bit of both he's going to need his own space to think and catch up on things and like we've said will always be a Thor in thee he knows where we are and you'll always be welcome last Christmas outstayed Omni on Ashley had a locate I'll have some beer next Christmas will probably be a lot different than that I'll probably him by a to Christmas dinner and everything probably have a fair few presents as well [Music] I still gotta get to know I'm first I probably don't get a lot of Christmas presents as well I'll have a job now I can get out and buy him now I could have followed it well maybe not really expensive ones but kinda far to that few things if I'd been born again he's like being bad they've got all they said well a beat I was little embryo now on the earth and how come all these scary [Music] the Explorer our perspective changes back then home and mom back then he met mom and he's changed no home she's basically this is home now now this is how he's wearing ladies I have money I pay the bills here this is my home and I don't regret leaving my mom right [Music] the lion sleeps doing that oh wait boy I win the way I win the way I went the way I win I win I win I've changed a fair bit of it month I've changed love my adult I'm all grown up I'm less of a kid you know as a kid youth living your imagination as an adult you live in the real world and you find there's a lot of things are different in yeah he's not really that day for all you know instead of battling monsters you have to find that when you know instead of going school you got work but it's the same difference rarely you've learn and fiims you have to each struggle I think the life just looks a lot more decided in a way it's a lot more in control gonna just grab it it looks more like looks more like a gnarly bookcase and the pile of books on the floor you're still getting there still got some tweaking stood over um yeah I'm getting there [Music]

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Length: 56min 44sec (3404 seconds)

Published: Fri Oct 06 2017