Letting go is EASY when you do this (Make detaching EASY)

letting go is actually very easy when we allow it to be easy letting go is only hard because we believe that one it has to be hard but the main reason letting go is hard is because we believe that if we were to let go of what we want whether that is an attachment to a person a label an outcome a status or identity or belief we believe that if we let one of these things go and our attachment to it go we believe that if we let it go we won't actually get it this is the funny thing now here's the truth though that is couldn't be further from the truth if you remain attached to these things then what that means is you think that your inner sense of happiness is dependent on a person a label an outcome a belief or an identity that's the fallacy that's the false belief that we believe but what we'll find is that if we remain attached we create resistance if we are unattached and in a way we don't care don't do it not caring does it mean we don't care about people or being narcissistic what not caring means is you're good either way because you're not attached to the outcome that's when you become dangerously authentic and free to be yourself now think about this it hasn't ever actually served you to be really attached to the outcome of anything if you're really attached there's a needy energy there there's almost a desperation and there's this feeling that if you don't get what you want then you won't be happy so it's almost like a scarcity mindset now here's the thing though when you let go of the outcome you have more magnetic energy you're more likely to attract better synchronicity into your life you're more likely to attract love into your life you're more likely to track abundance into your life because you have more magnetic energy you're not attached to the outcome think about it think about it like this a woman goes on a date with two different guys at different times not the same time one guy is very needy i hope you give me validation he's really dependent on the outcome he really cares what this person thinks about them guess what women are extraordinarily intuitive and they can feel into that immediately and what's going to happen is it's going to repel her she's going to say oh this energy seems needy it wants something from me it's trying to control me it wants me to give them validation love and support and what happens though is say that woman that goes on a date with another guy who's just authentically being himself let's say this guy is just doesn't not attach to the outcome he doesn't he's not so agreeable because he doesn't have to be because he realizes that he's worthy already and he doesn't he's not really weighing his sense of worthiness or he's not as attached to the outcome well most likely the energy is going to be very different and she's going to feel that and she's going to feel more magnetized to it you see that's the energy dynamics that i'm talking about here now imagine that that person is also the universe and imagine imagine with the universe we're trying to control things we're being needy we're trying to be attached well guess what that attachment equals resistance and it's rooted in the false belief and premise that something on the outside is going to affect us and make us happy on the inside when that's not the case at all happiness is a state of consciousness happiness is when we're present to the moment and we're doing things for an end of itself it's we're painting because we want to paint not because it's going to make us a lot of money and it's going to give us that might be a side effect but when i first got on youtube i was making youtube videos because i was really passionate about it and i wanted to help people but i was also enjoying the process of it the more i enjoy the process of it the more other people feel into that and the more magnetic my videos became and that's why some people might binge watch my videos i'm in a flow state and even now it's funny as i do podcast episodes as i make more episodes like this i'm starting to love it again i'm starting to feel so alive when i do it and because of that my guess is that more people are feeling that and more people are interested in it than before when i was just kind of going through the motions you see but it's an end of itself right now i'm making this episode this video this podcast whatever it is for you because i want to because i'm present but if i was going to do it because i had to check it off for the day it's an obligation you would feel that too so one of the biggest changes that will the biggest things that will change your life by watching this video is by the end of this video or episode or whatever this is you will understand why you should let go and you will understand exactly how to do that and it will completely tran i believe it will completely transform your life what i share with you in this video because it's going to also involve the different dynamics of the things that have changed within me that have changed my own perspective so first off realize this attachment equals suffering being attached to the outcome of things being attached to other people being attached has never actually really served you attachments can sometimes bring pleasure but they do not bring happiness you can get that thing that relationship you really want you can get it and then you go through a honeymoon stage for the first three or four months and you feel really really good but that's pleasure that's not happiness because as soon as that pleasure gets taken away it is then based on if you have it or not to whether you feel pleasure or not pleasure happiness is a state of consciousness you're present to the moment you're okay you're not attached to the outcome so with attachment there's normally this pain pleasure mechanism get a little spike of it that person leaves oh and i don't feel it anymore you see so understand that what you thought was bringing you happiness was actually only bringing you short-term pleasure because if that person were to start loving someone else my guess is that happiness would go away and that love towards them would also go away because that love is not unconditional real love is unconditional you love someone so deeply that even if that thing is not with you then you're still happy about it you're still okay with it same thing with the outcome of different things it's it's it's having a flow of life and really letting go of trying to control things when we try to control things what happens is we are infusing resistance onto things and that resistance is then causing things to be vibrationally butchered up so this is this is a part that that i really wanted to share is the the thing the reason it's hard to let go or the reason you think letting go is not easy is because you think that this is some complicated process it's not letting go is extraordinarily easy it's about the choice of to let go like imagine like a guy and a girl in a relationship love is the easiest analogy for this that's why i'm using it a lot but imagine a guy or girl in the relationship and imagine that it's really really hard for the uh a guy to let go of the girl or the girl let go of the guy and what happens is eventually imagine something happens imagine that guy or girl ends up wrecking your house threatening your family and coming after you well it probably was hard for you to let them go but it probably made it a little bit easier because now the choice to let it go is very clear to you what felt like it was hard was that you were kind of wanting to let it go but kind and not wanting to let it go when you were in this in between zone but the moment that person then threatens you then it's like nope i'm letting go you make the choice and it's much easier you see that it gives it that closure in a way so it's really not letting go that it's hard it's making the choice to let go that is hard and why is the choice hard because it's built in a false premise now a lot of times the false premises that we might have is that if this thing we used to think was going to bring us happiness and now that we if we let go of it we're not going to get it that's the false belief but it's also realizing that why do we want that thing why do we want the person the label the outcome the belief or the status or the identity it's because we believe if we had that thing then we'd be whole and complete so a lot of attachment is pointing us in the direction of our own shadow what is our shadow our shadow is the unconscious part of ourselves we're not aware of for a long time on youtube i was focused on yes helping people but there was a shadow part of me that really liked the significance there was a shadow part of me that really wanted more and more people to like my videos because if more people would like my videos and i would feel worthy and i think a lot of myself i just didn't feel so worthy so i thought more views more subscribers more attention would get me more of that and for years i imagined that youtube play button then i got the youtube play button for a million subscribers or whatever and it didn't feel the way that i glamorized it and i thought it would feel it felt pretty normal pretty natural because i was in making it more important in my mind i was so attached to the outcome and the funny thing was when i really let go of the outcome of how many subs came into the channel all these things that's when the results came because i was letting go of that inner resistance and i was allowing the flow to happen and when i was in the moment of making videos because i was passionate about making videos that's when the best results came but if i was making videos for views and for different for validation then guess what people would feel that but that inner doing it because of that significance and the why is extraordinarily important to this if you want somebody in your life because you believe that person will make you happy then i'm sorry to tell you but you're going to find out that even when you get that person it's going to feel somewhat empty or you're going to attract someone into your life that also feels not whole and complete you see everything in our reality is a reflection of our inner reality and if our inner reality is saying this is not good enough i need something to change on the outside i need to control something we're externalizing our own level of happiness so letting go is extra is is actually very very easy it's just that making the choice to let go is what is difficult now why is it also sometimes more difficult to make the choice to let go because we believe as well there's a lot of times a payoff a payoff for being attached and a lot of times one of the dirtiest payoffs by the way is the payoff to be right so for me for example i remember this one time i've shared this story a couple times before but i remember one time i was coming back from uh with my ex-girlfriend we were traveling this is from it was like last year we were in hawaii traveling back to the united states and we were both booking a ticket and we were booking a ticket we wanted to sit in first class because we just got done traveling for a month and we both were booking at the same exact moment her transaction went through first then my transaction went through and when my transaction went through it said sorry the price has gone up and you have to pay more i'm like why would i pay more we push the button at almost the same time i call expedia or whoever i used as in expedia hey they they upped my price and i was booking at the same time if i would have known it up the price we would have just booked it together and venmo each other or something and um then i was quite angry about i was i was like i was frustrated about it because now i had to pay more and it didn't seem fair to me she explained to me well the price of the first class every time somebody buys it the price goes up we can't change that that's through the airline not us i'm like okay i was mad about it for like literally two hours then i realized it was the most huge epiphany for me i realized that i was attached to being right at the expense of my own happiness that's what we do a lot of times we want to be right we want to control the outcome and if we would just control the outcome or we would just be right if we're attached to that position that perspective that's what's causing unhappiness but the payoff i got to pay off from that the payoff was that i was right but at the expense of being happy that's why we remain attached because we want to be right we're attached because we want certainty and if we're afraid that if we were to let go then we would if we were to let go then we wouldn't actually get that which we want if we were to let go then the universe would give us chaos because at a certain point in our past maybe our childhood was hectic and we thought that if we let go then all this crazy stuff happened so now i got to be in control i think a lot of my own willpower my own success has maybe come from having a certain work ethic and that work ethic i may have had from childhood but also from trying to control things in my life i realized having a nine to five job somebody telling me what to do isn't so pleasurable so if i can control my own destiny that's good but then it's like almost i had this hard work mentality that i was attached to why am i attached to it because it's something certain i know if i work hard i'll have more control over my life rather than now knowing there's a new paradigm where i can let go and allow things to be easy now i wanted to share a couple analogies of this now first off pain and pleasure with letting go we believe that if we let go we're going to get pain we're going to get pain because we're not going to get what we want and remember the way the motivation works within all of us is we will always move towards what we think brings us pleasure and we will always move away from what we believe brings us pain and if we believe letting go is going to bring us pain and we believe falsely that if we remain attached we're going to get pleasure i'll tell you right now that if you're attached to a person a thing an outcome if you're attached to it what happens is you're putting this inner pressure on that person and that inner pressure is then causing them to put up a wall same thing in the universe if you're trying to control things you're putting up this inner pressure and it's almost like it's reflecting back to you that inner pressure but once you realize that your attachment is actually bringing you pain that's when you can flip the script understand that if you want somebody to come around you want someone to change you wanting them to change is trying to manipulate them and it's trying to control them they can feel that and when they feel that they're going to put up an inner wall they're not going to be able to hear it i remember when i first went through my awakening i wanted everyone to understand what i was going through and how powerful meditation was and i wanted them to understand that we're eternal spiritual beings live in temporary human experiences but guess what happened by me wanting them to do that they put up a wall they thought i was going crazy yourself they didn't understand what i was going through and what happened is once i let go of what they thought once i let go of trying to teach them once i let go of trying to manipulate them to understand me guess what they came around that's the way that it works the way this works is when you let go that's when things actually come towards you but the key to this is making the choice to let go by knowing that letting go by being attached you are creating pain you are creating that resistance and you think falsely that if you remain attached then you're going to actually get what you want when actually when you remain attached you are butchering up the vibration you are causing yourself not to have magnetic energy you're literally repelling that from your life and when you do this by the way you will become so free it's crazy one of the things i really had to let go of this year just to be honest with you guys is letting go of my attachment to a past relationship i was so attached to the outcome i was trying to in a way control it because i wanted this person to i was like oh this deep spiritual connection this is how it's supposed to be but i realize that me being attached to it is causing me actually more pain not only that but i'm actually repelling it i'm repelling any future outcomes so what i did i let go and when i let go and realize and did the inner work the inner shadow work and i realized that i'm already whole and complete i don't need anything on the outside to change for me to feel happy i could feel happy just being myself and the more i let go the more free i felt the better i felt and then funny enough now it's like i have a different magnetic energy about me same with creating youtube videos i felt blocked for a long time because i was trying to force videos to get views and i was trying to force people to like me and say the right things but now i've let go i curse sometimes in my video i i just say what i bluntly think and guess what i let i feel free i feel unattached and because of that i feel like people can feel that energy now something i wanted to talk about as well is think about the scarcity main set that comes in one thousand flowers if you are attached you are assumed you are attaching yourself to just a few of the thousand flowers you're just trying to smell its scent without realizing that there's thousands of them so it's a scarcity mindset when we are attached we're thinking that this is the one thing this is the one thing i can appreciate and i need to control it i can't let it go because if i let it go then i won't have it anymore rather than realizing that there's thousands of flowers everywhere there's an abundance everywhere and if you would just trust the universe to bring you the flowers you wouldn't be attached to just this flower it's a way of relating to life that will completely change your life once you begin to tap into it now the other side of this is realizing first off i have a buddy his name's matt he was telling me this really interesting story he had this like guru guy that he went to and he trained under him for like a couple years i think and this guy had like this magic kundalini ability where he could like touch you in your spine and you'd have this like shakti thing and you'd have this energy run up and down your spine and and my friend matt had this mystical experience with him he went to this like workshop that his friend told him about where this like mystical guru guy was and he didn't really believe in it but this guy came up behind him and like tapped him on his neck or his shoulder on his head or something like that and he had this profound like kundalini awakening experience and it was so profound to him and it was so life-changing that it changed his life forever now what happened is he went home and his whole entire life fell apart he didn't understand it friends relationships he lost his job he broke up with his girlfriend like all this crazy happened he couldn't understand it he went back to that same guy like two or three like weeks later and the guy told him there was an activation that happened within you and everything that was no longer serving was being shed was being purged out so that something new can be brought in literally it was undoing he explained to him it was undoing a lot of the karma and the past ties and attachments that he had and as it let it go he became free and that put set up on his path but that experience to me is very interesting because i'm sure it seems scary to let go of certain things to let go of different attachments it even reminds me of plant medicine i did plant medicine a couple weeks ago actually in costa rica and when you do plant medicine like ayah or you know different plant medicines it brings up this energy within you that you then let go of like a lot you let go of past patterns you become aware of the shadow i became aware of my own shadow i realized i was falling into other people's frames and i i it's a lot of it's because i had the lack of clarity of my own frame and it was a lot of me becoming aware of the shadow but what i realized is since then my life has has completely been reconstructing itself in so many ways for example i now have bought a house in sedona the house that i had before i had with a friend of mine i bought my own house in sedona big change i'm so excited about it though not only that every little piece of this thing because i keep letting go of the outcome it is aligning perfectly we did for example this deal for this house by the way sedona houses are almost impossible to find right now because the market's so hot in sedona because everyone's moving from california to arizona and states like that so i found this house and one day literally one day i went to sedona i saw the house i went to sedona from vegas bought the house the same day they accepted the offer the next day we did a 20-day close because i want to get in the house sooner than later and what happened is very interesting the appraiser and the inspector normally in sedona takes weeks because there's only a few of them i got the perfect slot at the perfect time it's like almost a donut wants me to be there and everything is happening so so smooth it's crazy but in the beginning i was attaching myself to the outcome and i had to keep catching myself and the more i let go the more these things just happen i'm just trusting the universe but it's all happening i believe as well because when i do plant medicine is deconstructing the old identity the old control system and one of the biggest lessons i always get on on plant medicine is to let go let go of control control means you don't trust the universe control means you're infusing resistance control means you're being attached and if you let go you then become free your energy is magnetic people can feel that on you the universe wants to give you things because you are more energetically free whereas the attachment is creating the resistance so remember when it comes to this if you make things an end of itself you are then not attached i'm making this episode with you right now because this is an end of itself i want to make this episode i enjoy the process of making this episode same thing if i'm if i'm doing things every day because i need to make money so that i can do this thing in the future then i'm externalizing happiness and for a long time i was doing things to get somewhere else i lived in the future all the time for like two three years and i saw that the shadow of that like oh once you get to a hundred thousand on youtube then you can relax and feel good then get into a hundred thousand subs on youtube then it was 250 and then after 250 was 500 then after 500 to 700 then after 700 million and i was never quite happy because it's externally focused it's a means not an end and the way you make things an end is you do it for the sake of doing it you do it just because not because of what it'll get you that is when you start to become very free that's when you start to feel 100 whole and complete that's when you can start to do the shadow work to realize you're already whole and complete you don't need these things to be happy you don't need the relationship you don't need the money you don't need this at the job you don't need it to be happy but if you're doing it because you enjoy it that's a different thing altogether but realize this you being attached to a person a label an identity an outcome it's only actually causing you pain you think it's going to bring you pleasure you think that being attached to it's going to bring it to you it's going to repel it you can have intention that's one thing but if you are attached to the outcome then you are creating resistance you are then only focusing on one or two flowers not knowing that there's thousands of flowers and in that resistance you are blocking love success abundance from coming into your life but remember this process is extraordinarily easy it is so easy it's just about making the choice the problem is that for you to make the choice to let go of a person to let go of an outcome to let go of an identity of a belief the reason you haven't let go of it is because you believe if you do you won't get it or you believe that if you let go of it not you don't you don't realize there's a payoff there to you remaining attached that payoff could be angry at the past because then you feel this this it justifies why things happen the way it did you could be attached because of your necessity be right that person did that to me yes well maybe they did that to you but maybe if you forgave them you'd let go of that energy but you want to be right you see we we want to be right at the expense of our own level of happiness and the thing is letting go is extraordinarily easy realize that you being attached to trying to control someone else is the reason they are putting up a wall when you realize that you start to associate pain with controlling and manipulating you're good already when you're good already you have a very magnetic energy people feel that off of you and guess what people are more likely to be attracted to you when you don't care what people think guess what you're being your most authentic self and you're very powerful so letting go is extraordinarily easy the only thing that is difficult is you haven't made the choice to let go because you base that in a false premise that if you let go you won't get or that if you the negative payoff thing i was talking about so the thing is is to realize the truth you have attachments these attachments are actually bringing you pain they're making you needy they're making you put out desperate energy they're making you manipulate your environment on the outside to try to manipulate your environment on the inside when instead if you make things an end of itself and you realize that the universe has always given you what you need you can begin to trust the universe more you can then allow these things to come to you because you're in a more abundant state letting go is extraordinarily easy the only thing that is hard is you haven't made the choice to let go yet because you're convinced that if you do let go you're not going to get what you want if you do let go then you're going to uh you're going to you're giving up on this thing when in actuality if you let go that is the ultimate sign of abundance and you're then allowing it to come into your life easier than ever you let go to let in that's just the way this reality works and when you do let go you will feel more free you will feel more whole and complete already you'll feel happiness on the inside and you will have such magnetic energy that you won't be able to it i literally was talking to my friend victor yesterday i feel like there's so many good things coming in my life that it's hard it's difficult because it's like i have to say no to certain things and it's almost overwhelming and over stimulating i just want to take a breath it's a very good problem to have but i'm just letting go of even trying to control that and as i let go i notice i feel more and more powerful and i feel more and more energized by this whole entire process and by the way this is 90 of raising your vibration is letting go that's it when you let go you begin to become free and if you want to calibrate your vibration i don't know if you've done this yet but you go to whatsmyvibration.com you can calibrate your vibration see where you lie on that scale of consciousness and i'll show you how to get to the next level with one meditation that you listen to and when you listen to that over 21 days it's going to completely transform your life so that's what's myvibration.com i'll click it in the link of the below also if you want to binge more episodes on this on youtube you'll see that if you go on youtube and you type in there's a playlist that i'll link below but there's also a playlist that's the magic of letting go or the magic of detachment listen that playlist it'll get you in this this this mindset of letting go and how powerful it is and i think that it'll help you to completely transform your life so listen to that whole playlist listen to that meditation and calibrate your vibration other than that i hope you guys enjoyed this video and as always i'll talk to you guys the next one peace much love and namaste

Channel: Aaron Doughty

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Length: 28min 12sec (1692 seconds)

Published: Mon Jan 04 2021