Kobe Bryant EXPLAINS The MINDSET Of A WINNER & How To SUCCEED | Lewis Howes

when you play the game you hit a game-winning shot and miss a shot the reactions there you can see how people respond them to it but you can feel it and your energy is there what I do now you don't like I don't see how people are affected by your basketball or you know creating the pew knees and you put it out there like I wish I could see a car ride of a family the first time their daughter hears Lily's lemonade and what she's doing you know she's singing along to it that's not there right it's the best of the challenge that's the one thing that I miss is being able to get down off of the image welcome every one of the school of greatness podcast we have the incredible legendary Kobe Bryant my man it's good to meet you pleasure Congrats on everything you're an icon a legend and the thing I love the most about you is that you really care about other human beings yeah your heart is so big even though you've been known for this focus mentality that is just almost psycho in some ways I care deeply about human beings and I think that's why so many people love you as well so I want to acknowledge you for your kindness their generosity towards humanity my first question for you is I'm curious about who was your greatest teacher growing up because you had any an interesting childhood being in Italy for a while coming back to Philadelphia I think it was yeah who was the greatest teacher for you in those early days it's funny a lot of them my parents were great you know growing up they instilled in me the importance of imagination of curiosity understanding that okay if you want to accomplish something I'm not just gonna sit here and say yes you can do whatever you want yes you can but you have to also put in the work to get there right so they taught me at a really early age man and when you grow up as a kid thinking that the world is your oyster all things are possible if you put in the work to do it you grew up having that fun the middle yeah who was more influential for you your father and mother that both were influential at different points yeah my mom was there on a daily basis my father was really influential at a really critical time where I had a summer where I played basketball when I was like 10 or 11 years old and a very prominent summer league in Philadelphia called the Sun he'll be where my father played my uncle played every like all-time great stuff and Wilt Chamberlain played in league you know or the Pearl Monroe playing lead and yeah come playing and I don't score one point the entire summer really not one how old were you 11 10 11 you're playing against other 10 11 year-old start and you didn't score once not one were you in the game I was in again how'd you not score that was terrible really yeah at 11 years old you were that awful I mean I you know and I had these big knee pads on because I'm growing weak fast I have socks all the way up here and I had like the pot top pity like skinny as hell and I squirt not a free-throw not a nothing not a lucky shot not a breakaway layup zero points and I remember crying about it being upset about it my father's gave me a hug and said listen whether you scored zero scores 60 I'm gonna love you no matter what Wow that is the most important thing that you can say to a child because from there I was like okay that gives me all the confidence in the world to fail I have the security there but to hell with that I'm scoring 60 let's go right hit right in from there I just went to work I just stayed with it I kept practicing kept practicing confronts is that when you think the mentality of hard work started to come in for you at that age when you failed so miserably I guess that's somewhere I think that's when the idea of understanding a long-term view became important because I wasn't gonna catch these kids in a week I wasn't gonna catch him in a year right so that's when I sat down and said okay this is gonna take some father all right we'd all want to work on first all right shooting all right let's knock this out let's focus on this half a year six months do nothing but shoot right after that all right creating your own shot and you focused so you start I started creating a menu of things when I came back the next summer I was a little bit better right it'd make me be like I've got my jump shot from 15 of God yeah I got my jump shot from 15 I got my three-point shot like just open shots not miss open shots right be able to shoot it with speed because those kids are so much more athletic yeah and then the next time I came back is a little better the summer came back a little bit I scored yeah it wasn't much but I scored 12 13 12 13 then 14 came around back half at 13 14 years old and then I was just killing everyone and it happened in two years and I wasn't expecting to happen in two years but it did because what I had to do was work on the basics and the fundamentals while they relied on an athletics ISM and their natural ability and because I stick to the fundamentals it just caught up to him and then my body you know my knees stopped hurting I grew into my frame and then your athleticism once you have the fun of metal exactly the hard work the mindset and you tack on the 11 did it was game Wow so from 13 you're good average I was good I was good about about like the end of my 30 like right when I was trying 14 I became best clear in the state 14 or 14 so from 12 to 14 you went from scoring zero to being the best in the state of all ages yeah but it's simple like if you do the math on this right like if you if you thinking about how often kids are playing all right I'll tell this to my to my daughter and my daughter's team as well that I coach it's a simple thing of math if you want to be a great player if you play every single day to three hours every single day we're course of a year how much better are you getting most kids will play maybe you know hour and a half two days a week right math one it's not gonna get it done get it done right so if you're obsessive obsessive obsessively training to three hours every single day over a year over two years they're decelerate make quantum leaps man just doing a summer camp for two weeks you see a difference I remember playing basketball I mean you see it you get a lot better you back more confident playing on the playground with guys who you beat you yeah and I got I tell the parents with my team I said it's it's when I say your kids are gonna become great basketball players and like really yeah it's not there's no math it's it show up every single day show up every single day do the work but you have this mama mentality your books coming out soon and how did you develop this there's a there's a beautiful story that I love from Jay Williams know if you remember Jay Z alliums where he did an interview a while back and he talked about how when he played you I think the first time one of the first times I played against you he was he was like I'm gonna show up so early to the court to warm up and practice like before anyone shows up at the court I don't know if it was in LA where I was then you were the only one they're already shooting free-throws already doing here fundamentals he goes I'm gonna stay here until Kobe leaves and then he was like an hour and a half two hours later I gotta go I'm tired and Kobe still shooting free throws scored like just going over the thump the fundamentals so it was and then we played that game and you were lights out and he came up to you afterwards and said like dude why were you in there for so long I how'd you do it he said this is what he said you said so I knew you were watching and I wanted to show you I was willing to outwork you right something along those lines yeah yeah I don't know if you remember that I remember your memory oh yeah and I thought that was so powerful that you have this mindset but how did you develop that on an island if that's what you called mom of mindset how did you develop that well when did it start it started in middle school in high school because a lot of the kids that I was playing against were inner-city kids so you're looking at me as if okay this kid is soft right he's from the suburbs of Philadelphia his father played in the NBA played professionally he's got it easy got it easy born on second but you know all this other stuff right and so they felt like they could try to be physical or try to intimidate me and do all sort of stuff which they couldn't right but now I'm saying okay well you're trying to attack me how am I going to attack you how can I mentally figure out ways to bake break you down how can I show you that no I have the edge right and so that's when it first started for me is figuring out how to get the upper hand on an opponent that way and what would you do to mentally break the ball down then well I mean you know like we used to have an all-american camp I used to go to and at the time my first show that I was a sophomore and one of things I would do is everybody would be at the cafeteria where you know eating and doing all sort of stuff I just go back to the Jo they'd be resting and they'd see me leave right but now you're in a tough position he's like okay I want to be like I'm following the kid to go work out but I know he's working he's up early and he's doing all the stuff and so that was my way of shut up showing them yeah maybe on the suburbs but you're not gonna outwork me Wow and I'm mentally gonna did someone teach you that was that just a thing that you decided like I'm gonna get in people's minds I think it's just it's just figuring out ways to to be better and and to win the game and it started as a defense mechanism because you know they were the ones talking trash to me and you know kid from Italy blah blah blah and also the stuff it was like okay I got a I can't let I got to defend myself yeah right and then it became okay you know I'm pretty witty I could say some pretty witty yeah yeah yeah it's interesting you know I never I never was physically gifted to an extreme level I was always really good but I was never like the fastest or biggest strongest but I remember my edge was I'm not going to go party and I'm not gonna drink alcohol right so I've never been drunk still because I was like I need every edge when guys were out partying late at night more better than me and drinking and showing up hungover I was like I'm gonna be more focused and really revision and but I wasn't waking up at 4:00 yeah I'm like you so well that's interesting because light went out when I played one of the things that had to learn is how to get the best out of my teammates yeah and most people think it's a simple thing you know passing the ball you know but that's not how you make guys better you have to really affect their behavior how do you do that so yeah like I would tell guys we got it back to backs you know I don't care for in Miami I don't care if we're in a great city of Chicago you can't go out got your rest right back to my game sacked back at ya right Monday Tuesday play Monday and play again Tuesday guys I don't listen right you know you're right so few times said all right we'll all go out we'll go out together really I'll drink with you right but the next morning I'm begging on your dua at 5:00 in the morning let's go they're not going where we going I'll hung out with you now you come hang out with me this is what we do all right let's go you're at the gym we're working out right we hit the bus we go to practice we play that night and they're dead and they're dead they're like lesson learned lesson learned take them out once listen if you're gonna do that do that but don't let that compromise we're here to do right this is why we're here this is why you're here in the first place yeah right and if we're gonna win a championship we have to have that championship mentality sit work ethic that's it so you got to show them no cold can do that and still has the energy to get up and do this so either I got to meet that same energy or I got to keep my butt a little minute early yeah Wow what are some other things you did to rise the level of the your teammates what are some other ways you can and what do you think people don't do in general with the business team or any sports team I think you have to you have to listen you have to pay attention to to which your colleagues or teammates are saying and what are certain things that drive them certain things that motivate them that trigger them and one of my favorite ones pal hates it every time I tell us that but we lost to the Celtics in Hawaii and it was a physical series me they beat the crap yeah and so we go into the Olympic year that year we wanted to play in Spain for the gold medal match and we beat them uh-huh and so now we come back to start training camp and Powell shows up first day of training camp I had my gold medal hanging in his locker oh no and I mean like the one thing that he truly truly loves is this country of course that is like everything to him so it just drove him crazy I said pow listen he said you're an [ __ ] listen pal you lost to the Celtics you lost to us in a gold medal match let's not make this three in a row vicious Wow that's winning now was that was it firm and he probably stepped up a whole nother level well you know POW is a phenomenon to begin with and then for him was just stepping up to a level of physicality yeah that we needed in the gate to which he did and we went on to win back-to-back championships oh man yeah yeah how important is understanding human psychology and human behavior to work with a team as opposed to just relying on your gifts and talents it's probably the most important thing you know when you're in this culture in our society you can do some phenomenal things individually but they'll never reach their full potential unless you do them collectively you have to figure out how to do that and you know Phil Jackson was great at and Phil he wouldn't just coach the team or coach the game but he'd read everything about every single player or anything about your history how you grew up how you were raised where we were were you raised you know he'll read every interview and he'll learn about you and gives him a better understanding of what's motivating you or what your insecurities are right and then it just helps them communicate with you better or even push a button here if he needs to when did you learn that it was important to understand who your teammates are what their likes and dislikes are was that in high school for you or more know is I learned it from Phil there was a stretch in o3 where Shaq was out with an injury and Phil called me up to his office and said okay we need you to really turn on the afterburners to start scoring or you have to win so I did and I wound up scoring I think it was nine straight games for 40-plus points nine straight in our games and then Shaq comes back second it's second to last game of that and then Phil calls me up to his office is it cold okay I need you to dial it back I'm like why I like wait I don't understand is because our goal is to win a championship and we can get through the Western Conference with you playing this way but in the East you know we dominate them inside with Shaq in the post but if you continue to do this we'll lose Shaq will lose him his motivation his exciting what triggers him right so I need you to pull back so we can pull Shaq forward for June and I just looked at him leg smart dude what smart dude man sup who pulled the bag wow yeah what do you think what's been the greatest challenge you've had since leaving the game the greatest challenge I think it's you know I mean you've won an Oscar you're launching podcasts and shows and you got a book coming out yeah but it's it's it's different though like you know we were just talking about it here in the office the other day you know when you play the game you hit a game-winning shot and miss a shot the reactions there you can see how people are responding to it right you can feel it the energy is low energy is there what I do now you don't like I don't see how people are affected by deer basketball or you know creating the pew knees and you put it out there like I wish I could see a car ride of a family the first time their daughter here's Lily's lemonade and what she's doing you know she's singing along to it that's not there right so that's the the challenge that's the one thing that I miss is being able feedbag off of the image the instant feedback you get from shoot missing or scoring a shot winning or losing a game it's like either way you're getting up a result right yes yes that's the one thing and I went to uh cuz I spent a lot of time with mentors as well I'll bet Pixar and Disney Studios they've been absolutely wonderful animation Disney Animation and I've talked to him about frozen and wanna and how our kids love them and they're always like oh that's awesome and they want to hear because they don't ever get a chance to see it like it they're not a city movie theater or like oh no and they don't have time to go to Disneyland and walk around the park and see how many families are enjoying the content that they've created because they're busy making the next creating yes yes oh that that's the one thing what do you think the biggest challenges for most athletes after they retire I think it's the fear of starting anew and that was certainly present for me as well really yeah like there's identity you mean or no it's starting from scratch right because when you play for 20 years I play for 20 years you've reached a certain level and like okay wait a minute I have to start again at the base of a mountain and try to climb the top of this mountain first of all what mountain am i climbing I don't even know like what the hell am I gonna be doing it's very it's very scary mmm it's very even for you oh absolutely absolutely and the thing that helped me actually was hurting my Achilles because that forced me to sit there and say okay the day could be today that your career is over at any time when you were playing you mean yeah now what do you do you have these ideas about doing something with your life after basketball but what if today is the day that you they said now what you do so I had all this time sitting there on my Achilles injury and contemplating and thinking and I said I better get to work wow that was that what was the vision for you afterwards that was it to do what you're doing now or did you have other ideas or what is what's the vision I struggle with it at first because the first question I asked which is the wrong question is what's the biggest industry I can get into was it more money thinking money thinking saying okay athletes saying you can't make more revenue when you retire this is your source your income is here it said okay that's the challenge what can I do and I remember is going to launch a fund or something I did I did and so I started I went for a ride and I said okay stop thinking of it that way you're thinking of it the wrong way why did you start playing basketball because I loved it all right would you love to do well I love to tell stories mmm all right let's do that and then that's where it started for me and and then on top of that it became things like we started learning more about the financial industry and about players going broke once they retire and saying okay how can i how can I minimize the chances of that happening what are things that I can do to invest my money smartly also help control some of that outcome to a certain extent right and that's when I called micro Poli Michael Poli was a entrepreneur who build vitaminwater Pirate's Booty and some other companies is sorry learning from him and then from that came the opportunity to invest in body armor yeah and which which forgetting how fallacious but all that came from the injury and really happened to self-assess and you know face that a really dark room of what comes next storytelling is something you're really passionate about what's a story over your life that's been a constant theme that you go back to is there something you heard as a kid that you that really resonates with you or a book or a movie that just feels like this is me yeah that's funny movies are plenty but there's a quote from one of my English teachers a little Marion named mr. Fisk and a great quote that said rest at the end not in the middle and that's something I always lived by you know I'm not gonna rest now I'm gonna keep on pushing now a lot of answers that I don't have even questions that I don't have I'm just gonna keep going it's gonna keep going and I'll figure these things out as we go right and you just continue to build that way so I try to live by that all the time rest at the end rest at the end what's the question that eats you alive the most did you have any answer again the question that eats me alive and haven't answered yet and if you're still I'm still looking for the answer how to tell a good story I'll think oh he has that answer you don't like when I sat down to write to your basketball I was like okay we'd all want to say and you have certain acts and how you can structure certain things right the ebbs and flows of story certain formulas that have been there since the beginning of time but it's such an in that in exact so challenging yeah right and so that one question is really interesting why do you want to tell a great story I think stories is what moves the world whether it's an inspirational story it's an informational one nothing in this world moves without story from the political world sports world noting that we have moves without story and so I think that is the root of everything and if we're going to try to make the world a better place stories the right place most people understand I might let my last year people will come up to me say okay what are you gonna do that would be a storyteller really then they go like what are you talking about so what do you really not do yeah I was gonna happen when you retire is you're gonna go through like a week of depression yeah then the second week is gonna be like denial right I'm like dude seriously I'm good so after a while just got sick of it I just just said I don't know I'll go play golf or something all right just tell the lie I'm not gonna do anything else do whatever I'm just gonna sit around what is losing feel like to you it's exciting why is it exciting because it means you have different ways to get better there are certain things that you can figure out that you can take advantage of all right certain weaknesses that were exposed that you need to shore up right so it was exciting I mean it's sucks to lose right but at the same time their answers there if you just look at them cuz you get the information from losing more than from winning probably yeah yeah I mean the answers are there when you win to you you just have to look at them yeah right so it's a constant process it's exciting when you win it's exciting when you lose because the process should be exactly the same whether you win or you lose is you go back and you look and you find things that you could have done better you find things that you've done well that worked figure out how did they work why did they work how can you make them work again yeah and but the hardest thing is to face that stuff that's a really blue tough Channel you mean face a mean look yourself in the mirror and say okay this is how I showed up or this is what happened and I gave an example so Katy loose Anderson is one of the best college basketball players in the country she plays at UConn ik she's gonna be a senior right now right now yeah and she's from Huntington Beach out here by us and so she comes down and she works with some my girls on the team and she helps coach and and they just had a really tough season last year really lost a Notre Dame in a final that's right really - first loss in the first lakhs years right and so I asked I say have you watched a Notre Dame game I know you don't but you gonna play Notre Dame this year yeah yeah it was the chance as you see them again in the final probably seen me so well you can't show up and play them without knowing why you lost that one right so you know the mistakes that you've made in that game you have to do the hard stuff and watch that game and study that game to not make those mistakes over and over again just because you weren't brave enough to face it so she came down to the office I brought down the office and we sat down we watched that game together alright did you got a you got a deal Ethan got a deal with it face it learn from it wow they must have been cringing for her and she's like oh you playing like we could have won all the things that's exactly it is I just did that one things exactly but I didn't get that foul if I was quite a layup it's exactly right you're looking I said oh there's the mismatch oh there's the gap you know and all those little things and it sucks but but you don't want to have that feeling again do you right so you got to really study it face it and not to say you'll win the next time you fade but your least you give yourself a better a better chance yeah and did you what was your routine and ritual like after every game would you watch almost every game over or certain games all of them every game their watch every game the whole game battle game no yeah so it started with me when I was a when Phil Jackson's his first year here with the Lakers one of assistant coaches his name was Tex winner and I called him Yoda I mean he was like 82 when he got Wow and he was responsible for teaching me the triangle offense how were you that I was 21 so three years four years in the league yeah so my my fourth year look at that and so I go up to his room and this is when your there are no iPads anything like that right so when you're on the road okay you have to call down to the front desk and have to bring up the TV at the whole you know the Rolly thing in a VHS and a cassette tape you pop it in and I thought we were gonna watch we call touches so watch all your touches when we have the ball all the decisions you made good ones and bad no we're watching the start of the game oh my to the end of the game and not like not like the TV feed watching the in arena feed the layup line the timeouts oh my gosh yeah rewinding stopping fast for winding slow motion every little thing every game of that season with the 82 year old yoga oh my gosh who is as brutally honest as you can get what did that teach you that season you know taught me to look at detail hmm all right look I think the things that they're smallest right look at body language look at the energy between players our team in the other team Wow all right look at the tactics look at the overall strategy and they look at how tactically things are manifesting themselves and because I watch so much film then it gave me the ability to see game in real time as if I was watching film wow I can see Bob because a lot of times the game starts moving really fast but if you train yourself to watch hours and hours of film the games not moving that fast anymore you can really recognize who's doing what and why they're you can position guys in the right places in real time hmm seeing it before it happened yes yeah weekend on football we'd watch it once a week game film but not you know after every game it was only one game a week yeah like three oh three weeks of yes yeah you got a yet ago I don't know what time I know Tom Brady is obsessive over game from as well I mean watching his show that came out Thomas a time was all about him just in there studying even months after the game he's studying to prepare right it's like he's not and that's that's one of the keys you think it's like if you're not watching film whether it be as a speaker on stage or a performer and a musician if you're not watching yourself back you gotta learn man I mean John says same same thing really after her performance she's immediately on her laptop watching the performance oh why yes seeing how to do things better what could we have done differently right missus it's an obsessiveness that comes along with it you want things to be as perfect as they can be understanding that nothing is ever perfect but the challenge is try to get a mess perfect as they can be you know what can you do it's in your control so control what you can I can watch them all day long he's gonna help me get better yes yes now did you have your teammates also follow on this obsessiveness that you had as well or did you just encourage them or what was the no you can't push somebody to do that right but what you can do is is alter behavior and also change the vernacular of how they speak about the game mm-hmm so on team buses team planes and a locker room after practice I would look at the film I'd pull Palomar tea fish pull him aside and say let's look at this right we probably should have done this day and the other so he'll show them the game from a little bit in there then you speak to him in in executional terms it's never come on guys we can do better come on guys we can do better that's rah-rah stuff right leader must give very tactical things that we can do it adjustments ok the defense is doing this then the other that means we should probably do this this this the other by midway through the season through that behavior you start seeing them communicating the same way back to you right and it's like ok cold they're doing this to any other to you maybe we should do this and I'm like ok yeah awesome great let's do it yeah yeah what about season 16 17 18 are you still watching every game film as obsessively as the first 10 no no no well when I was playing when you were playing yeah so when I was playing what I would do is study the film but study our younger players mm-hmm and see what areas do they need to develop it and how can I help them develop I mean as that was the big challenge is you moved from you know being a single dominant player to understanding okay I have to help these other guys how do I lift everyone else up it's tough what do I mean you were so dominant your whole career one of the greatest of all time was there a weakness that you had or did you because obviously you're always trying to master your weaknesses so they came astray but at the end or towards the end did you ever feel like gosh I still haven't like mastered this one part of the game the challenge for me was always compassion and empathy because you're like guys let's go get results shut up don't complain right I want to hear your whining I don't know he uses well tell me how rough the water is just bring the boat in you know III don't I don't want here you know and it's funny it's understanding like okay these guys have lives right side of here they have other things have other things happening to them that may be affecting the way that they are practicing or the way that they're performing and it was hard for me to understand that because nothing nothing bothered me you know anything personally you know never fazed me when I'm compartmentalised it very well but so I couldn't understand how my teammates couldn't do that either until I you know so I had to really work on that aspect of that's hard like you never really had the compassion you wish you end up had like until the last maybe couple years yeah so I think about oh nine things started changing from glass I started really making a conscious effort to better understand and that doesn't mean I mean you have compassion and empathy so you go soft one it's more like you put you put yourself to the side and you put yourself in their shoes and understand what they're feeling and then you have to make certain decisions of okay what buttons do I need to push for this pair to get them to the next level so it's never it's not sit around and all you saw happy-go-lucky type of thing your leader your job is to get the best out of them even if they may not like it at that time yeah Wow what are you most proud of from your 20 seasons honestly whose sounds may sound a little shallow but I got to say beating the Celtics in Game seven that's what I'm most proud of because why it was the hardest you know you're playing with rajon rondo Paul Pierce mm-hmm Kevin Garnett hmm I'll stop Ray Allen and you know there's myself pow and players that other teams then won and you know how do we figure out as a group what to do and the reason why I loved that series so much is that we went down three games to two against ball and now you got two games coming home I remember sitting in the locker room and they beat the crap out of us to that game so we're sitting in a locker room and it's really really quiet I'm sitting there looking around and we just lost the Celtics in no.8 so this is like revenge right now kicking our butt again right so I sit around I just start laughing I start laughing and then I remember Derek Fisher looked at me Leigh and Lamar looked at me goes but what is funny said do they beat the crap beat the crap up and say I'm missing the part where that's funny that's it man listen if we start this season and they say you know all you have to do is win two games at home and your NBA champ would you take that yeah right that's all we got to do yeah go home b2 into four NBA champions all you gotta do is with to get two games a row that's it we'll take care of the first game and I promise you they're not winning game seven on our home floor is not happening so we all just laughed about it and then we went out and we figured it out but that game seven was we're down 15 points in the fourth quarter right and that's when you have to collectively look at each other and say you know the spirit of your team must be good because at that moment is when teams fracture if the energy amongst each other isn't there that Trust isn't there you're done mmm and we were able to collectively dig deep together and say all right we're gonna figure this thing out Wow and I wasn't playing well I wasn't shooting the ball well at all and so my teammates picked you up and they delivered yes Wow Cashman I want to be respectful your time I know it's go away probably like five to seven minutes left I saw an Instagram that you're up at like 4:00 a.m. lifting by yourself in the dark and again you've had in one of the most incredible careers arguably of all time you know made all the money in the world got a freaking Oscar now you've got all these other things happening and yet you're still waking up or at least you're in the gym and 4:00 a.m. working out and you just turn 40 all right congratulations by the way I hope I look as good why still wake up that early and train at this level in your life right now well I mean there's several factors for that like when I first retired I let myself go a little bit really got a little oh yeah oh yeah chubby line was awesome I enjoyed everything I'm TV but bring it to me let's go steak oh let's go right milkshakes it's good yes do it and then the challenge was okay can I get back in shape oh and it's it's really hard because if there's no end goal there's no game there's no season there's no so how do you motivate yourself to come to you honey and so for me it was like okay I have to have to aim for something so I said I want to aim for size don't aim for bulk right so that's a tangible thing I'm gonna go for that right but then also it's you know my children because like your kids can't see how hard you work you go to office I come in the studio they don't really see the effort right so how can we teach our children what it means to work hard well you do it through training right so when I get up in the morning my daughter goes with me for yeah for him my 15 year old goes with me she goes with me before school and it becomes a daddy-daughter thing that's cool she just got a permit right so she drives in the morning it becomes a cool thing right but through that process she understands the value of hard work and things taking time and the same thing with my 12 year old wife she practices every day so it's through those behaviors is where I find the motivation hmm and what brings you the most joy right now being with my family really that is man that is the most fun it's just you know it's hanging out with the mall summer being able to do things that ordinarily couldn't do yeah because of training because assurance tough like that so being around them and watching Bianca grow up because a lot of things that I missed with Nathalie and Gianna because I was playing so being there every day with them there's so much fun man so it brings me the most joy that's amazing and what does it what does love feel like for you what does love feel like hmm happiness is such a I think I would describe love as happiness I think I'd describe it as a beautiful journey hmm you know it has its ups and downs right whether it's in marriage whether it's in the career you know things are never perfect but through love you continue to persevere and you move from you move through and then through that storm beautiful Sun emerges yeah inevitably another storm comes and guess what you ride that one out too so I think love is a certain determination and persistence to go through the good times and the bad times with the someone or something that you truly love hmm you've got a new podcast out right now called the Pew knees yeah which I started listening to I'd listened the first two episodes it's incredible they're like 13 to 15 minutes episodic storytelling you know cartoons I guess yes for kids and the thing I love about the most is it's it's funny it's entertaining there's original music there's all these different characters you're teaching history like in a way which I like the last one work it's like you know we we talk about history so we don't repeat it right in our own lives and then you teach the lessons about overcoming failure for kids and insecurities and challenges we're facing and I think it's beautiful can you talk about the peonies in the podcast and what it's all about yeah so the peonies came to me from we have our family tradition we watch say a lot every fourth of July constant greatest most events Quincy yeah yeah I know baby do come on s'mores so like that's our family rich like every fourth of July Sandlot Sandlot right and so after watching the Sandlot we all say we need a new sports movie like this right yeah kind of concept in ideas and stuff but nothing not truly loved and then over Thanksgiving are other rituals to watch Charlie Brown uh-huh right pumpkin patch right so we watched that and then I go whoa wait a minute let's just put those together put those together right and I already had written some stories individual stories for puny Pete and mbb characters were the characters and the peonies and I said well let's combine those this lists and then from that that's when the the puny started coming to fruition and I started thinking about the characters and you know why does this show need to exist and where are some of the deeper messages that can be there that yeah consciously you may not observe but what you can sense and feel and that's when I started constructing the show and are you part of the whole process for you helping write the script are you helping so we have a great young producer here who actually started here three years ago while he was still at SC and it's since grown it's great edition school greatest film school and so he and I worked together hand-in-hand on outlining every single episode so we outlined each episode the story beats and then we found a great writer named John hollers a great writer and so we gave him the outline and the he just made it a thousand times better Wow and then I just I directed each episode and you oversee it all you at you yeah yeah yeah directed it so you know the other challenge was finding great actors voice acting what difference yes it's a it's a challenging art form yeah you really have to be able to communicate a lot just in your mind yes and so the trick was finding actors that have not lost that childlike quality right I can still imagine themselves being children being at the park and playing right and once we found them they really brought the characters to life and now here we are with the peonies man it's amazing I want you guys to go download it right now subscribe it's the pew knees on Apple podcasts or Spotify and everything anywhere podcasts are out I'm telling you guys there's a lot of parents listen to the show download this listen to it in your car and do me a favor take a video of your kids in the car and send it to me senator tag me on instagram tag Coby on Instagram yes Coby lines that would be because that's what's gonna give you great female oh my gosh that would be a Missy how kids react so put your phone again don't don't film a drive do not have someone else filming it right but make sure you put up a GoPro and just press record yes it's about 15 minutes long take your kids to school it is like there's a park to it like I said we made a most Saturdays that every Saturday it's a new episode because Saturday is normally the day as parents drive our kids to different sporting events the pool is the process that's why every episode it has to be between 12 to you know 15 16 minutes right cuz that's normally the drive yeah right sometimes you may be longer and in that case you play multiple episodes that's something you can listen to on your way to an event it's like many frozen and Malana episodes yeah it's like little original music and stuff it's really cool go download it again take a video and tag Coby on Instagram are you going to scramble I have one Instagram yeah tag especially Lily's lemonade listen to Lily's lemonade and I will love to see kids out there trying to try to do the Lily's lemonade song love it hopefully we'll get a bunch of video clips for you and your book is out in October it's called mom of mine said you want to talk briefly about that well the mentality book is really about process and craft I've broken a book up into two sections and process is really about the process of preparing you know through injury recovery studying of the game and in the craft is the actual performance and the tactics and so a lot of things that I learned through the game were through photos you can look at a photo see like a player making a movie look at the angle of his feet with how I was using his hands on defense and I can really break down things to the smallest detail through that and that's what you'll see in this book I mean it's really a basketball Bible yeah mom momentum but it's also your mindset Bible right yeah yeah I might would you see how I break things down like how I'm looking at things to the smallest of detail yeah and that's the best way to understand how to have that kind of mentality is to ask questions and then find answers and then lead to more questions and you find more answers and that's what a book is I love it make sure you guys get the book you can pre-order right now download the Pew knees follow you on social media the final question is what's your definition of greatness I think the definition of greatness is to inspire the people next to you yeah I think that's what greatness is or should be it's not something that's that that lives and dies with one person it's how can you inspire a person to then in turn inspire another person and then inspires another person and that's how you create something I think lasts forever yeah and I think that's our challenge as people is to is to figure out how our story can impact others and motivate them in a way to create their own greatness why would I acknowledge you again man for the inspiration you're just a symbol of truth and inspiration to so many people thanks man and I just appreciate you as a human so I'm sure the amazement appreciated you

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Length: 44min 34sec (2674 seconds)

Published: Sun Sep 09 2018