Hey guys, welcome to this video and to my
channel! I’m Kate Spring and today I want to help
you to distinguish between whether or not a woman is actually flirting with you or if
she is just being friendly. Before I lay out all of the details, don’t
forget to subscribe to my channel where you’ll be notified every time I release a new video. And you can leave all of your questions in
the comments section below. Now, I’ve been meaning to ask, do you guys
think that women flirt with sexual intentions or just for fun? Take the poll and let’s see what you guys
think. Have you ever been hanging out with a girl
and you think that she’s giving you all the signs that she’s totally into you, but
when you lean in for the kiss she backs away and says that she just sees you as a friend
and that doing anything else would complicate the situation? Ouch. After a reaction like that, you’re embarrassed
and confused as to how you could have misinterpreted her signals that you clearly thought was her
flirting. For women, often times, there is a very thin
line that separates flirting from being friendly. And more often than not, women will flirt
just for the sake of flirting, with no sexual motivation behind it. I know, how annoying! Flirting is actually defined as behaving as
though attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than with serious
intention. Yikes, can you say mixed signals? Women can flirt just for fun without any sexual
intention behind it because women genuinely believe that men and women can be friends. Even when they constantly flip flop between
being friendly and actually flirting. To aid you in making the distinction, I’ve
isolated some ways for you to tell if a woman is flirting with you. I should also mention that you should keep
an eye out for more than one of these examples when trying to decipher if she’s truly flirting
or just being friendly. 1. Find Her Threshold For Flirting:
The first thing that I would suggest you do is to observe her threshold for flirtatious
behavior. Observe her around other men, and especially
her guy friends. If she is touchy feely, joking and overly
playful with them, then chances are that if she is acting the same way around you, she
is just being friendly. Find out her norm first, find out what her
personality is like in other interactions so that you can make a judgment about whether
or not she is flirting or just being friendly. If she treats you like everyone else in her
circle or everyone else that she encounters, then chances are she is just a nice girl who
is trying to be friendly. And, obviously, on the contrary, if she is
acting different around you, laughing more, flipping her hair, touching you whenever she
can, and she’s not like that around her friends, then she could be trying to seduce
you. But find out how she interacts in different
scenarios and with different people before you try and decipher if a woman is flirting
or not. 2. Instigating Conversation:
Another way to tell if a woman is flirting with you is if she is instigating conversation. There is a big difference between answering
questions and prompting questions and conversation. If a woman is just answering questions with
a yes or a no and not adding anything else voluntarily, then she’s just being friendly. Conversation is a big indication into whether
or not a woman is flirting. In this department, I should mention that
if a woman is being overly polite and proper with you, chances are she is just being friendly. Most women don’t take the time to converse
and genuinely get to know men with whom they have no interest. Or if a woman constantly asks you to repeat
yourself, then she’s just not listening to you, which means she not being flirty,
and she’s not even being that friendly. In non- face to face communication, if a woman
responds to your texts or phone calls in a timely manner and with more than one word,
and again, is instigating conversation, then she could be trying to flirt with you and
make a connection. If you want to learn some more secret body
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grab a free copy of my attraction building handbooks, which covers topics on body language
and texting a girl. And you can get your free copy at katespring.com/free. 3. Nervous Habits:
When we’re under stress, our brains require a certain amount of hand to body touching
says author Joe Navarro, a former FBI agent a regular contributor to psychologytoday.com. The touching that he references mostly has
to do with where our hands go to soothe our limbic arousal when we’re under stress. Navarro outlines that neck touching is one
of the most significant pacifiers of stress that we, as humans, use. The neck is a sensitive and vulnerable area,
and when we’re nervous or feel threatened, then our hand will automatically gravitate
to our neck to protect it. This movement happens unconsciously. In courtship, when a woman is feeling nervous,
her hands will play with her necklace and/or touch her neck in some way. And as a woman becomes more and more comfortable
with you, she will begin to tilt her head in a subconscious attempt to reveal more of
her neck, which is a signal of trust. Another pacifier that women use to alleviate
stress is by playing with their hair and or licking their lips. Women also do this to directly draw your attention
to them by their movement. These are all subtle physiological ways to
tell that a woman is flirting with you, and she’s not just being friendly. If she has social anxiety, however, she could
simply be using these pacifiers to alleviate stress, which is why I suggested that you
look for more than one of these indications when trying to decipher if she’s flirting. 4. If She Makes Excuses To Touch You:
The fourth and final way to tell if a woman is flirting with you is if she is constantly
making excuses to touch you. If you’ve watched any of my other videos
on body language and seduction, you’ll know that I advocate for men to touch women in
non-sexual ways to help increase her attraction for you. Well, women do the same. Does the girl that you’re chatting with
brush something off of your shoulder or your arm or your hair? She could be making an excuse to touch you. Typical body parts that a woman will touch
on a man that she is trying to flirt with include face, arms, leg or back. If you’re sitting next to each other, she
could lean over and place her hand of your knee to get your attention in an, “omg! The craziest thing happened to me today!” type of gesture. If a woman is touching you by slapping the
back of her hand on you that’s generally not a good indication of flirting. That’s more of a scolding and/or friendly
touch. Another non-verbal solicitation technique
that is widely used amongst women is for women to caress objects around them. If a woman is holding a glass whilst talking
to you and caressing it, she could be trying to flirt nonverbally. Or if she is playing with her straw in her
drink that is yet another way for her to capture your attention through her movement. Again, this is just learning to read body
language, more specifically, how a woman’s body subconsciously responds to her environment
and certain interactions. Those are four ways that you can tell if a
woman is flirting with you or just being friendly. Again, look for more than one of these examples
before you make your move. And go out there and flirt with confidence. Because you never know, a woman might just
need you to make the first flirtatious move in order for her to feel comfortable enough
to flirt back when she knows that her flirtations will be reciprocated. That’s all I have for you today, YouTube. Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel
where you can stay up to date with my latest videos! And, as always, thank you for your constant
support. I’ll see you in my next video.
