Is Emotional Neglect a Form of Abuse? | Dr. David Hawkins

foreign [Music] is it possible to be emotionally neglected in your relationship well of course it is of course it is and the impact is unbelievable hello I'm Dr David Hawkins director of the marriage Recovery Center and the emotional abuse Institute and I want to talk to you about emotional neglect another unspoken form of emotional abuse that's right emotional abuse evidenced by emotional neglect neglect now you're going to want to click that subscribe button you're going to want to share this video with others I want to give you five points that I want you to really really think about when it comes to the issue of neglect now by the way let me give you a definition of neglect neglect is when you don't receive the kind of attention affection love and care that you would normally expect in this relationship now we think about neglect with children and and we we wouldn't imagine intentionally neglecting them not giving them the care the love and attention that they deserve and yet if you're an emotionally in an emotionally abusive relationship it is quite likely that you're experiencing one or more of these five different uh aspects of emotional neglect right number one having one's feelings ignored repeatedly neglected dismissed that's right your feelings the feelings you might share them in a way you may talk about feeling hurt you may talk about feeling uh irritated you may be you may talk about feeling frustrated and if you are in a healthy relationship your partner listens to those feelings they care about those feelings they give attention to those feelings because those feelings signify something troubling much like a physical symptom if you were to neglect your own physical symptoms you would get sicker wouldn't you of course you would and if you were with someone and they neglected your physical symptoms that would add to the trauma well such is the case with emotional neglect neglect Point number two being held to unreasonable standards being told that you need to do this you need to do that and again let's talk about children if you were to demand unreasonable expectations from them that would create an unhealthy environment where they could not prosper they couldn't grow in a healthy way could they well the same is true in an adult relationship in an abusive emotionally abusive relationship the expectations are high the demands are high the standards are high the control is high the criticism is high and it creates a neglectful environment where you can't grow and you can't prosper Point number three another aspect of an emotional neglect is being refused attention affection validation I did another video on this one of the Hallmarks of emotional abuse is the lack of validation now think about the importance of validation again to a prospering growing relationship in a healthy relationship I know that my concerns will be addressed I know that my feelings will be attended to I know that I will be cared for I can grow I can prosper I can give my attention to other things because I feel safe and cared for oh but not so in an emotionally abusive relationship that has all the Hallmarks of emotional neglect neglect neglect neglect not receiving the care and attention love and affection one deserves in this kind of relationship all right Point number four your requests your bids for attention they're ignored perhaps important dates are ignored for perhaps certain requests certain Agreements are not capped and there is in a sense emotional chaos and you learn that you you can't you can't count on this individual and again folks remember a healthy relationship is built upon this kind of structure knowing I Can Count On You I Can Count On You boy if you're taking notes write that down a healthy relationship consists of I Can Count On You not so in an emotionally neglectful environment I can't count on you I can't count on you and point number five there's a lack of genuine caring now we know in a relationship that is healthy there's a there's a smile when the other one smiles there's there's a there's connection there's a life blood that flows back and forth hey how are you I am fine how are you how was your day I talked to you you talked to me there there's there's genuine caring we feel it we know it we know that our mate cares about us and is in tune or attuned with us all right in a neglectful environment caring we feel uncared for all right again this is an unspoken I don't hear this talked about I'm going to do some more videos on this topic of emotional neglect so if this resonates with you I'd like to hear from you I want you to give me your comments give me your impressions what do you think about this do you think it's a thing I think it's a thing emotional neglect another unspoken form of emotional abuse where our feelings are disregarded are are there's a lack of genuine caring where there's a lack of attention to the concerns that we bring to this person we're refused attention and validation warmth and you can see that the impact of this is a withering of the spirit and as with all of these issues folks we've got to own that this is this is occurring we've got to name it we got to identify it and then we've got to intervene upon it all right I hope this has been helpful again click subscribe share your comments with me and if we can be of further help to you contact our client care team and we will get an appointment set up with you and help you on the path of healing all right as always take care and God bless [Music]

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Length: 9min 14sec (554 seconds)

Published: Sun Jul 23 2023