Influencers are using psych terms loosely

[Music] hey guys what's up and welcome back to my channel so today we are going to be talking about something that's been on my mind since i think over a year now i think the first time it came to mind quite collectively on youtube on social media generally is the verbiage people use the particular terms people use when they're making videos writing articles tweeting whatever and the first example that might come to mind when i think of that is a shane dawson when he did his series about whether jake paul was a sociopath and again i remember a lot of people took issue with the fact that he used the term sociopath right now listen i don't want to talk about jake paul that was just an example so don't worry we're not going to be talking about him but that's kind of what i want to talk about today because we talk a lot about influencers here and i think influencers are a major major reason as to why psychological especially terms are being thrown around by people who don't understand them or just being thrown around too loosely with like the vague definition by people who are accredited to make those diagnoses let alone make those diagnoses online with people you don't know like there's a lot to be said about this kind of new wave and internet influencer culture i suppose you could call it but before we do that i did want to thank today's sponsor which is nordvpn a vpn is a virtual private network and that means you create a secure connection online using nordvpn means that i can browse the internet safely as nord has all of your data safe behind a wall of next generation encryption on top of this nordvpn has a strict no logs policy meaning they don't track collect or share your private data right now you can get a huge discount on a two-year plan if you go to nordvpn.com ready to glare and on top of that you'll get four extra months for free it's risk-free with nordvpn's 30-day money-back guarantee on top of this with just one account you can connect up to six devices 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ethan and keemstar there's just too much of that on twitter but the article does mention content creators such as them then there's shane dawson gabby hannah and jesse smiles also mentioned but i did want to have a discussion about the general culture here so we're going to start with an example from the frenemies podcast and if you didn't know that's the podcast with ethan klein or was should i say the podcast with ethan klein and trisha paytas but we're only going to use that as a diving in point we're not going to be focusing on them at all because i feel like i'm probably not the only one who's sick of all this to and fro so the article begins like i said with an example of the frenemies podcast and they kind of summarize what happens in the last episode of the frenemies podcast and then they go on to say this hades who is non-binary who uses the pronouns they them suggested klein was gaslighting because he insinuated pedes was upset while pedes insisted they were not klein then accused patis of gaslighting him in return which spurred various tick tocks youtube videos and social media comments arguing that neither of them was using the word correctly do vividly remember that there were terms being thrown around it seemed a little bit loosely let's say and i'm using that as an example not to like shame them specifically or whatever it's more the question of i see this a lot and it's not just their podcast it's a little bit everywhere i see it a lot on twitter too where you see disagreements and suddenly people will start throwing out these terms to be clear you can be gaslit on the internet to be clear people can be narcissistic to be clear people can be manipulative that being said in a lot of the cases i see the term is being used not as a descriptor but as a way to shut people down but we'll get into that more later so there's this psychologist named perpetua neo who said she defines gaslighting as when someone screws with your sense of reality to manipulate you causing you to distrust yourself and trust that instead it's a well documented form of psychological abuse and manipulation and this is why i highlighted this bit which is not the same thing as having a difference of opinion from someone else so when someone is accused of abusive behavior such as gaslighting the dynamics of the conflict dramatically change i think this was a very important distinction to make because i feel like pretty much okay we all know twitter is a cesspool but i use twitter as an example because i feel like twitter is short form content unless someone makes a thread with like a million pieces twitter is short form and you see people using those terms almost immediately sometimes to try and shut someone down because they'll prove them wrong or they just disagree and it's kind of exhausting because you then realize does anyone really understand what the term means or are we just all here saying to say and also we need to realize the fact that i think it's very obvious is that the more you use a term in the incorrect way the more it's popularized in the incorrect way the more it gets watered down so then when we hear sociopath narcissistic abuse gaslighting manipulation whatever the meaning kind of is not only watered down but i feel like sometimes people start using these terms interchangeably which i'm concerned about because there is a difference there's a reason that there are different terms for all of these things but like mentioned in the article later on i can't remember if i read it in this video but they do mention that a lot of people just use these terms to mean like bad but really what they mean you're a bad person because you did something but that's the bottom line it's not really about the actual meaning of gaslighting or the actual meaning of narcissistic abuser it's about proving that you are the good person in this situation which might very well be true but that still doesn't justify using the wrong terms right again they mentioned frenemies because obviously like it's a big example since it's a podcast that got millions and millions of views but it said insiders spoke to experts about the long-term implications of this and how such words as gaslighting narcissist and sociopath became part of the influencers lexicon i had to morbidly chuckle at this point because i do think this is a very serious issue about using psychological terms very loosely but it makes me laugh that now morbidly that now the influencer lexicon has turned into well has pivoted into the psychological when the influencer lexicon i usually think of on the immediate is like selfies with saying bestie or like sunday fun day or like chill vibes or some kind of quote that's like been overused but the fact that now we've shifted into like we're not gonna say chill vibes or vibing or whatever anymore and it's now it's gaslighting narcissism is kind of crazy when you think about it the zero to a hundred of it all and that's not to say every influencer i'm assuming that it's mostly influencers who have been in scandals that are starting to use these new terminologies these psychological terminologies but it's almost funny in a terrible way how it went to this lighthearted almost stupid many times lexicon to heavy things that doctors need to determine so then there's another person who weighs in and her name is jenna drenton she's an associate professor of marketing at loyola university chicago who studies digital consumer culture and i think this is one of the most interesting parts in my opinion she says that language evolves obviously as time goes on there's new slang terms we make up whatever that's i think something we can all agree on that doesn't have to be elaborated upon but she said that here it's more complicated because a lot of this terminology is in some way monetized right like if someone is in a scandal and they make a video trying to clear up the scandal if the video itself is being monetized if they use words like narcissistic abuser gaslighting blah blah they're monetizing those words so the implications are different which i think is really interesting because i hadn't really thought about the monetizing aspect of using those words online incorrectly and making money off of them and then she goes on to say influencers are rarely mental health professionals and when they speak about abuse and personality disorders it's wrapped into a digital infrastructure that incentivizes getting clicks disagreements and tensions battled out online words like narcissistic abuse and gaslighting fan the flames it has everything to do with maintaining the interest of the internet attention and with this i completely agree because realistically we know that on youtube clickbait titles are nothing new but i feel like with this new wave of terminology being used or this new lexicon whatever you want to call it i think that those are the new ways to get those clicks i mean imagine if we saw a title saying big youtuber who's loved by everyone pick one is an abuser would you click on that it's a new way to garner attention and i think that maybe the old ways just don't work that much anymore and so people are turning to this psychological way now to be fair i think there will always be a variety in the form of clickbait like it obviously doesn't have to be psychological but because these are buzzwords basically right now i think people are monetizing them and at the same time using them incorrectly and then spreading misinformation which is like a trickle-down system basically that's kind of why i find it interesting not necessarily in a good way but worth talking about anyways you guys can let me know what you think in the comments down below thank you guys so much for watching and thank you to my patrons as always and i'll catch you guys next time [Music] you

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Views: 67,875

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Keywords: influencers, frenemies, psychology, influencer culture, internet culture, content creators, language, entertainment, trisha paytas, ethan klein

Id: 8HFklrOCCSk

Length: 11min 6sec (666 seconds)

Published: Mon Aug 30 2021