How to Emotionally Recover When Your Ex Moves On Too Fast... (Matthew Hussey)

what's your name Roy hey how are you good Matthew thinks I've had X talked about you a lot so I thought I'd come check you out but well thank you for being here yeah yeah I enjoy everything you have to say it but I'm a man so I mean I'm just trying to figure out what I can take from the male perspective and also how do I change the way that I like I'm I'm very I guess reserved and I well on my hurt because I mean we're people but like I have a problem with my ex moved on fast and I was trying to it it hurts man you know it's like we were together for like five six years and when they move on fast it makes you feel like you're not good enough and I just want to know how how can I change my way of thinking and it was just they were waiting on me and I was waiting on them and it just they just decided to go one way I mean how do I change my perspective on letting stuff go because that's what I need to do I need to let stuff go or I'm gonna be unhappy for the rest of my life yes [Applause] yeah Roy you're going through an incredible amount of hurt when when was it when when did this happen when did she move on I guess we split up in August of 18 and I would say it was probably good for months after yep so it's incredibly painful part of the pain is you continuing to convince yourself that this must on some level have been the right person and that your right person is now with someone else now I don't believe that I believe that the right person can only be the right person when it's two people choosing each other so part of the pain we hold on to is believing still that we had this jewel that's gone and as much as we may have loved someone as much as we may have thought someone was incredible they may have had wonderful qualities we may have been incredibly attracted to them they may have been all these great things they cannot represent that that true dream relationship if they don't choose you in fact someone not choosing you is just about the biggest departure from your dream relationship you could ever imagine so when we're saying but we were so close not being chosen by someone is should be the greatest turnoff in the world not because there's something wrong with that person but because how on earth when I was a kid and I dreamt about my dream relationship or in my you know last 10 years or 20 years before I met someone when I was dreaming of my dream relationship it couldn't have been the one where someone decides to go be with someone else that wasn't it so this is an it then there's the ego the ego element of somewhat someone chose someone else why not me what what what did that person have why wasn't I good enough and now we take the baggage of that forward the greatest advice I ever received was kill your ego because that [ __ ] has no place in your growth none none I box a lot and when you go into the to the ring and you are worried about getting hurt when you're worried about yourself dasi go when you're worried about the size of the other guy and this guy's skills and that's ego when you're worried about I came in here to do a job what's my job then ego goes out the window and there are certain we're all gonna die many many times in our life we're all gonna die you just die it all right a piece of you has to die right now you're going through [ __ ] hell it's been awful someone ripped your heart out that's hell but I want that version of you that goes through hell and comes out and has something to say at the end of it that's the version of you I want do one want the version of Roy who hasn't been through that [ __ ] it's [ __ ] boring as boring I don't want that Roy I want Roy who's been to hell and back I want I want Roy who had to go die resurrect himself and then come tell the rest of us how to do that I want that Roy that Roy is interesting to me I want weathered scarred Roy who's been through [ __ ] who has interesting things to say that that Roy is much more interesting to me and we learn far more far far more we we become far stronger by what goes wrong in our lives than what goes right far more and so this all this you're going through this is just like you know like a I could greatest you like it's just adding flavor just like it's just making you more and more interesting more and more complex it's gonna make you more compassionate it's gonna make you kinder it's gonna make you more empathic to other people it's gonna give you more to bring to your next relationship it's gonna make you such a strong person and you get through this and you deal with this what the [ __ ] you have to be afraid of I've died [ __ ] you can't scare me all right you see that so there's the ego element kill Yuri go kill that [ __ ] that guy has to die so bigamy comes back right and then there's the morning because you think you've lost the person you're supposed to be with I can promise you you haven't because unless someone chooses you they aren't the person you're supposed to be with you could be disappointed you could be disappointed she wasn't the person but you can't grieve like she was the person because she's not disappointment takes a minute to get over to but it's much easier to get over than true grieving of I've lost the love of my life you didn't lose that that's still to come something better is coming for you I promise you my brother I promise okay [Music]

Channel: Matthew Hussey

Views: 1,091,234

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Id: C5WxLrDnkFg

Length: 7min 37sec (457 seconds)

Published: Sat Feb 22 2020

Reddit Comments

[u/DrJeckill]

I needed this so much thank you

[u/SwimmingLong9]

Omg yesss i watched this video sooo many times, i'm in the same situation as Roy hahaha Btw it helped me so much!

[u/broken_and_shattered]

yeah that guy is exactly how i feel...

[u/CruJonesBeRad]

I launched this video as a tab in the background to get to later. I shut down my PC last night and forgot all about it. Fortunately windows booted this morning and the first thing it started playing was this video. Every single word resonated with me, thank you so much for posting this.