✈️ "Poślubiłam Masaja i zamieszkałam w jego wiosce"

so this is our bulma this is my sister-in-law's house so the wife of my husband's brother this is where my husband's cousin lives this is her small house and then she also has a big house over there this is my third mother-in-law's house so the youngest wife of my father-in-law and this one is the house of my second mother-in-law so the second wife of my father-in-law do you call her a mom yes i call them all mom and this one is my second mother-in-law whose house you just seen also [Music] how many house houses are in the burma i've never counted but i think it must be something close to 20 i'm sure and this one is my mother-in-law's house she's your favorite person right i love her so much she's just the nicest kindest calmest super intelligent person and she supports me in everything i do from the moment i came to this boma she's always by my side i'm going to get like emotional talking about this i love her so much she's amazing and she's like close to 60 but still working so hard you step on the [ __ ] but i must say that's not [ __ ] it's just a coward it's not [ __ ] [Music] one two three [Music] [Music] if you want [Music] this is the one you were expecting yeah i looked at her this morning i was really worried she was going to give birth okay what was the most stupid thing somebody said as a comment i don't know i often hear sometimes people talk um in a disrespecting manner about them that they think oh aren't they really dirty do they wash like how many times do they wash and i'm like what's it to you what does it matter if someone washes or not because for us maybe in the western world having a shower every day is the usual thing because we have access to water here water it's a luxury they have to find really hard to get water so they can't shower everything that's one thing but i oh i would have to think about that because i'm sure there's lots of stupid things that i've heard before but of stupid questions that they asked me or they said oh can i i also want to come and marry a maasai can you help me things like that and i'm like this is my house can we enter your house sure but it's really messy it's fine hey mr fave big has a couple of rooms this is my bedroom okay some privacy let's skip and this is where i cook your kitchen yes i have a gas stove we don't see a lot because it's dark so yes no problem and here and here is where we eat [Music] you eat you don't cook outside it's effort so women sometimes cook outside okay because they cook with the firewood yeah for the smoke when you're cooking inside the house okay to get rid of the smoke thank you [Music] [Music] are really tall right and they do say so but i think many masai women they're not that tall actually but men in general quite tall yeah but the ceiling is so low why they don't build it higher that's a very good question because maybe it's more difficult to build i mean the women are the ones who build the houses and it's a lot of effort so the higher the house the higher your sticks you'd have to cut and also as a matter of getting the right size sticks and stuff some houses are a little bit taller than others this one is quite short did you build your house um i had my first house was a maasai house like this and i had it built with the help of other people because i came here i didn't know how to build a house but now when the women build the house i help them because now i know this is a new house being built for one of my husband's sisters so she's the daughter of the third wife of my husband's father so she's making the house family [Music] she's putting the mud on tower how is she making the mud this is a mixture of cow dung you could see cow and sand and then they mix it together with their feet and also with the with this okay and this is what they plaster the wood [Music] [Music] okay stephanie why why why am i here yeah why am i here because i fell in love with my husband a beautiful masai man and that's why i came here because i thought this was the only way that we could stay together if i followed him here because that's his home and then i stayed even though it was very difficult to adapt to the culture but i stayed because i fell in love with also his family his tribe his culture the way of life the environment everything so how was the first days here you know this is a difficult question because i never kept the diary or anything like that so i have to search back my brain but i remember in one of my first days one of his sisters came to see me because she had heard that he'd come and he has a guest so that's me and i remember one of her sisters she gave me one of these things not these ones but another one that i still have in my house and i looked at her and i thought she was so beautiful and i felt so out of place this white girl with the weird skin that gets sunburned and i looked at all these women and i just thought they were so beautiful and i was just in awe i thought this way of life is perfect the beautiful culture in tune with nature with the animals so this is the first sort of impression that i got that it's so peaceful and in harmony with nature and the people are so welcoming and friendly yeah yeah these are the first impressions that i got i am pretty sure there are some people who still think even though i have lived here now for nearly nine years who still think oh who is this white girl but actually i think 80 percent maybe of the population of our village they know me there are even people who call me by my name who i've never seen before so i think it made the round that so coin this is my husband has this muzungu wife and they know my name and they greet me and they respect me and they treat me like one of their women basically as a whole okay and what about disadvantages of this lifestyle what i'm thinking is for example the balance between the genders okay yeah um there are certain things in maasai culture but i think that's true for every single culture on this planet i don't think marseille culture is perfect and there are aspects within it that are not good for example the way that women are seen to be below men this is a very big aspect of maasai culture because motorbike there's a strict division between the genders and women are seen to be below men on top of that maasai girls who get married off at very young age they don't have a choice who their husband is going to be when they're married off they also have no choice they have no decision making power it's a very patriarchal society but this is also why i do some of the projects that i do and yeah what else did i say okay that's nice that's my hat do you make your husband do the things which normally the maasai man doesn't do to share some um some how to how to say it like a housework yeah yeah um i never forced him to do anything he doesn't want to do because i respect his culture you know with everything you have to find a balance for me also people ask me how do you how do you support the women i support the women with my projects with our reusable scientists projects i support them by talking to them by encouraging them to speak up to open their hearts and their minds and to speak up against stuff that they don't like i do that but within my marriage because it won't serve me anything to fight with my husband all the time because if i had forced upon him those western values of what women are and what women can do in a relationship we would not be together anymore so if i want to live here and i love my husband everyone has their good sides and their bad sides so i have to find balance so in our relationship there are certain things that he does which other maasai men don't do like he's very close to our son for example but when i first held my son also he didn't help me anything he was a proper massaman and that was really really really really really really difficult i knew it was going to be like that but it was still more difficult than i imagined but we got over this and um he is now super involved with our son and in other ways also he helps me a little bit more than other maasai and he doesn't ask me to do things that i don't want to do so in certain ways yes he has adapted a little bit but it was never something that i forced upon him it was something that he saw himself if we are to be together because he loves me also that's also a big difference i love him he loves me so of course you're going to find a way of being together and there's certain little things that he does that he has adopted and you're the only wife of your husband is it going to stay like that i hope so because he is very special my husband and this would actually be one of the reasons why i'm here and why we managed to live together because i think as much as it was hard for me to adapt to the culture i think it was also hard for him to bring this white wife to his family so it also wasn't easy um but he is the sort of person and his brothers taught me this when i first came he said he was told by his heart by his father mary mary bring a wife because he was 27 or so when we met and this is quite old for my side to be married because they do marry quite young and but he said i don't want to marry a woman who i did not choose and then he ended up choosing me what about the number of children oh that's a very good question the number of children that i want to have because i don't want to have eight children and i have one son now he's four and a half and i am being pressured a little bit by my mother-in-law and my husband's grandmother who's close to hundred oh when is the next child coming stephanie and i'm like yeah yeah yeah or i run out out of the hut because i don't know what to say so but my husband doesn't put any pressure on me and actually my birth was a little bit traumatic i had to have emergency cesarean luckily i went to darsland to have my child that was the right decision um so i'm not in any sort of rush to have another child [Music] [Music] [Applause] hey [Music] [Music] um my daily life it's pretty much the same as masaya women but i would say have certain privileges that other maasai women don't have i don't have to go fetch water because we have a water tank we have a motorbike so we sometimes pay someone to go fetch us water i don't have to go and catch wire firewood because i have a gas stove but i cook i clean i look after my child i look after the goats i look after the cows um i do go fetch firewood but i go and take it to my mother-in-law because she's close to 60 and she's tired of all the work that she has to do i do a lot of social media also which obviously is not the traditional maasai life i beat these things i made myself why this is your cow to milk because she is a really nice cow and she got used to it so because cows also get used to the person to milk them why are you putting your head on it because it's comfortable but it creates a connection so that they know you're there we doing but also if you were to pick up the leg i can push so that the leg stays down [Music] do you think the white woman from outside from you're from frankfurt yes they're from the big city so you make like a huge transition in your life you think like the woman like you with your background can actually be like 100 maasai for them no i don't think i would ever be seen by them as completely one of them never but i've had this and i made actually post about this also because someone asked me that question before it's a very interesting question because i don't even feel the need for me to be a hundred percent of my side because i know i won't be i am white i stand out i come from a different culture i have certain ideas that are different for example what it means to be a woman the the status of a woman in a society all that sort of thing but because they know that i respect their culture they respect me and they see me as one of them they like me because i speak their language i live like one of them they see that i respect their culture because i also live within their culture so they see me to a certain extent as being one of them and they treat me as one of them but i know always always always i'll always be also the different one not an outsider but i'll be the different one and i'll always be that but i said also this different doesn't have to be a bad thing i can also use this different to do good and that's what i try to do there's a pink boy behind you hello manueli [Music] i don't like to call it project first of all but i lived with a maasai now for nearly nine years and this i started in the last two years because i realized that really the marseille women have no way of dealing with that period they don't deal with it at all they don't wear anything they don't wear underwear they don't wear clothes maybe if they have to go somewhere during their period maybe they stuff they wear another extra cloth if they have underwear because most of them don't if they have underwear then maybe stuff it with leaves most of the time it's like free flow and it's a major issue because they tell me they told me that they go to ceremonies and then they sit on a motorbike and they get off at the place where they go to the ceremony and there's like a red stain on their cloth so it's a big issue yeah so they don't why they don't use any sanitary kits from the shopper village because first of all they're like far away from shops there's no shops around here maybe now in the last couple of years we've got shops around here that even sell scientists but first of all it's a money issue also they don't have money for it and second of all also i think also they're not very comfortable wearing these because to be honest the cheapest one are also not very good quality they're really bad they if they have money they will buy more important things like food like they it's a luxury to have extra money left over for sunny day pies and especially in maasai society because it's a partial society also the men have the money and because it's a taboo the woman can't go up to the man and tell him hey i want money to buy me cats no way i started this we did this because it's sustainable because the lady knows how to make them herself sando my sister-in-law so she gets an income from this and then we distribute them within the community or we sell them within the community so it's sustainable so we call it a kit because it has eight of these liners or pads whatever you like to call them and then it has two of these clip onto your underwear we also have two pairs of underwear in there because often also this is an issue for the women to get it so you take your liner which you just fold one two [Music] and you put it in here into your pad with clips on two and it sits like this like a normal pad pants you're buying right yes these are we are buying okay and once you use it you just take it out then because you've got a kit a whole bag you just take another one and put it in there even if you can't don't have time to wash it or maybe they have a water issue don't have water right now you can just put it into a bag fold it away somewhere and then use another one and then later you can wash it so you have eight so even if you use two or three you still have five of them so it's enough for your whole period cool you know when i posted that on instagram there were some questions if it's possible to buy them from women in poland is it possible to buy them oh yeah sure what do you send to poland yeah there's no problem we can send anywhere we can say anyway i don't know during cove at times but usually it's not a problem what is the thing you love the most about the masa culture and you make your life here i'm gonna cry when i say this um what i love the most about the masai kacho is the maasai it's the people it's their like really beautiful beautiful hearts and they're like good nature peaceful so calm and so like in tune with themselves yeah so different than so many of us western people that's the first thing like really amazing people second thing is they are one of our planets last remaining indigenous tribes if we need to redo this because i'm crying we can redo this depends of you i like it because it's true yeah so they are one of our planet's last remaining indigenous tribes so just this it gives them because i know what this means but they don't know what it means actually and this is also one of the things oh god i think we have to do this because why are you crying because it means a lot to me so much yeah and because i think they're amazing in so many different ways i'm crying too much but it's like not from the sadness right no because it means it's like it means so much to me it means everything to me because i know what they mean in this world they're conservationists they know how to live in tune with nature so if you gave the world to them the world would still be intact we wouldn't have all the issues that we have if everyone lived like a maasai and everyone had this sort of traditional knowledge that they have to live in tune with nature they respect nature they cherish nature and this by itself makes them also better people [Music] proud mama of 60 plus cows [Music] do you feel sorry for them in some way no no it's not because of that no i don't feel sorry for them in the country i think they like ew no it's the country i think they are far superior to us and their way of life of superiors it was in tune with nature they have land they are rich they have everything that you need to live they have their animals they know how to live sustainably without electricity without running water i don't feel pity for them i feel better for us for our world because we don't know what it means to live a life true to ourselves and a life true to our planet life through to nature so it's not about feeling fitting for them it's feeling free for the fate of our planet where are they going they're going to eat they're going out now to grace so they go out in the morning and they come back at four or five i heard that something happened with the wild dogs yeah can you explain yeah the three last days we've had attacks we have wild dogs kill two baby cows from a neighbor boma and we actually had three we lost three sheeps three days ago and today they found them and they realized that it was the wild dogs who also killed the sheep [Music] [Applause] [Music] for example when you see the videos in internet about the maasai culture made by people what are usual things that you see which are not happening like that in real life one of the big misconception right now is also that they say in order to become a warrior you have to kill a lion not true because one of the funny things that my husband said also and i told him that is that well there aren't enough lines left in the world for each maasai warrior to kill a lion to become a warrior it's like yeah that's a good explanation for that and then another thing also is like i see so many touristy videos um of people learning how to make fire with a stick here it's a beautiful ancient thing of the culture but actually doesn't happen so much anymore they do use matches now you know the tribe i call them a tribe in transition they are very traditional in the way that they think in the way they keep hold to the ancient tradition but at the same time they have been touched by modernity but again this varies from location to location but in general they're not this ancient untouched tribe that some people seem to believe that they still are one two three got the by the way

Channel: Globstory

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Keywords: Masajowie, Masai, Maasai, Masajka, biała Masajka, kobieta, podróże, podróżniczka, vlog podróżniczy, Globstory, Tanzania, Afryka, ślub, małżeństwo, wioska masajska

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Length: 27min 11sec (1631 seconds)

Published: Tue Dec 29 2020

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[u/[deleted]]

My friend's parents were the opposite. She was an American White woman in the Red Cross, he was a Bushman (his words) in Botswana "running around in a loin cloth with a spear." He had never been in a car before until he guessed his age to be between 30-33. He moved to DC with her and he became a successful businessman despite learning to read around age 35.

[u/Pangupsumnida]

If you were curious how they met she posted about it on her instagram page here.

"I met Sokoine on 5th January 2011. At Utende village on #mafiaisland off the coats of Tanzania. I was working as a research assistant for a marine #conservation project and he was working as a security guard for a local dive centre. Shortly after I and my fellow volunteers arrived at our #research camp, I went for a walk around the village to check out the surroundings. I had already spent a year on another research camp on mainland Tanzania close to the Selous Game reserve and was fluent in #swahili, the National language of this beautiful country. I had already fallen in love with #tanzania. I had fallen in love with its wonderful #people and amazing wilderness.

As I took a walk, I bumped into a group of #maasai. A people I had heard of before I had come here, but had never been in contact with. An indigenous #tribe which was well known for its rich culture defended by fierce warriors.

There were three of them, but I only saw Sokoine. What attracted me to him were his eyes. His calm steady gaze, which exuded so much #peace and confidence.

I tried to talk to them in Swahili but they seemed to be in a rush.

A few weeks passed and my fascination with Sokoine only grew stronger. But I had too much #respect and awe of him and his fellow tribes men to approach them. I felt that they were not interested in talking to me. They seemed to prefer to stick to themselves. So I let them be. But one day a local friend of mine, told me, as we were sitting in a restaurant in the village, and Sokoine walks through the door: 'Oh look, there comes YOUR Maasai!' And I ask him, astoundend: 'What, why do you call him MY Maasai?!?' And he says: 'Oh , you don't know?!? That's becasue he likes you!'

A few days later Sokoine and I got talking, because I was finally #brave enough to speak to him and tell him how I feel. And 11 months later, I would be moving in with him and his extended family, into his traditional homestead in the midst of the Tanzanian #wilderness.

This is the #story of how we met."

[u/swampmeister]

There is a movie about a Swiss Woman who did this too. Had a child by him, etc. She ran a store in his village for a while, until failure to pay/ non-payment of credit accounts killed it. Was a pretty interesting exhibition by a non-USA/ non-main stream movie writer/ film maker...

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Go find that... and a very pretty look at the countryside/ region too!

[u/vanillabeanlover]

Thank you so much for posting this! I wish it were longer:). I could listen to her talk about her life there forever. Awesome.