let's talk man to man. I don't know you I don't
know what you've been through or what you're going through, but I know you'll have had people wrong
you and situations that have made you want to get back at people. So have I but I would bet Thorffin
has been through far worse than either of us and he shows us both the wrong and right ways to go
about moving on resulting in a scene that taught me how to live beautifully, that showed me how
when you believe you have no enemies you won't and above all that showed me how to stop being your
own enemy. This is perhaps the greatest scene in all of fiction but it doesn't start in episode 21
it starts in episode nine. It's this scene here which is crucial to understanding I have no enemies as
a familiar face greets Thorfinn above a horrific pit of warriors fighting Askeladd tells him this
is the place where "Everyone is your enemy". And you live here without even realizing it you're
burst for when you see people or something online is probably something negative, I mean how
many people do you internally roll your eyes at as you walk past think something negative about
them without them even saying a word to you? How often do you resent people for things they've
done to you or things they're doing just out of jealousy and above all how often do you have
negative thoughts about yourself. I'd bet the answer to all of the above was "often" more often
than you'd like. So how do you escape this place how do you stop being your own enemy? It's
simpler than you'd expect you stop seeing other people as your enemy as I mentioned in my
other video for whatever strange reason it's so much easier to be kind to others than yourself. So
start there because what you'll find is that when you actively start seeing the good in other people
before you even realize it you'll start seeing the good in yourself. There's lots of reasons for
this but Above All We Are creatures of habit seeing the good in other people is a habit and
one little carry over not just to how you see yourself but how you see everything it doesn't take
long before you're automatically seeing the good in everything. To stop being your own enemy,
stop making other people your enemy. Askleadd seems to understand this because as Thorfinn monologues
on about how he ended up above this pit saying "I'm here because this I've done this I never grow "
Askeladd in his unique wisdom almost tauntingly responds saying "me me me me open your eyes something
awful is below you" and as Thorfinn opens his eyes to all those people unnecessarily made his enemy
grabbing at him clawing him down into the hell below although you don't realize it as you sit
there and watch this video the same is happening to you all those people you've made your enemy
often without even realizing you have they're now dragging you down because when you see the bad
in other people you can't escape seeing a negative in yourself but I bet my house you can't name one
time well you've done something good or kind for people and felt bad about yourself afterwards
and it can be the smallest thing a compliment a small little gesture just listening to them
talk that's something they want to when you're kind to others you start to be kind to yourself
of course it's not always that easy as Thorfinn starts climb Askeladd says to him "Climb, leave them dangling
on you and climb" because the reality is even as you begin this climb and become a better person
you're still going to get your person that really tries to drag you down that says something to put
you in a mood, does something you don't like and you're only human so it's natural that sometimes
something will happen to make you step off this path you're trying to walk on and this is I'm
going to come back to at the very end but here's little notice to them as possible and continue
to climb onwards because they are not your enemy of course there are very rare situations where
it won't be enough Thorfinn fully accepts this and back in season one Thor's even said that the
dagger should be used to protect himself, he was aware that possibility can happen but it's only to
protect himself there are certainly times to stand up for yourself but that's all it is standing up
for yourself not trying to get back at them or getting angry with them or anything like that it
simply doesn't accomplish anything and that links in nicely to the next part bite a real battle this
is more of a practical bit of advice because what I've found is these regular annoyances feel a
lot smaller when you have something big you're aiming for when you've got something positive to
work towards a lot of these small annoyances won't even register in your brain I first noticed this at
University when I decided I'd had enough of the way I was living and started going to the gym. All
of a sudden all these little things people would say or do they would normally annoy or upset me
did it matter in the slightest because I had my own personal real battle to focus on. Not only will
you have less enemies when you look this way which is something I'll come back to but none of those
fights are worth winning anyway as Thorfinn wakes up from his dream he looks at Einar who says "we won"
but does this look like a man who's won battered and bloodied he even admits he got nothing out
of that but some temporary satisfaction. I don't know what your real battle is but I promise you
it's not arguing with other people it's not being filled with jealousy or anger and it's certainly
not seeking revenge, for Thorfinn he realizes he spent an entire life filled with anger seeing the whole
world in that enemy he finally decides "enough is enough" these people aren't his enemies he will
never hurt anyone again but instead help them. To atone for his past and save more people than his
heart is his real battle. And with that Thors, now realizing his son fully understood what he meant
on that day turns and walks into the sunset at last able to peacefully move on. We have so much
we can do in one life do not waste your gift on hating others no matter what they've done
your life is worth so so much more than that. So Thorfinn now understanding how valuable a life
is, having come a long way from his scene at the start of the season where he claimed there was nothing good
about living ,finds himself at the end of episode 20 faced with a very difficult choice. Does he
go back and try and stop the fighting or does he leave? With the belief that Kanute is not his enemy
despite their past and a realization that the path he wants to walk begins by helping others Thorfinn makes his decision as he confidently declares even a hundred men couldn't stop him returning
alive he walks back towards the battlefield with no plan no sword or malice he walks towards the
guards and asks to see the king. Beginning the greatest scene in all of fiction. As he approaches
the guards mock provoke and eventually swing at Thorfinn before it's revealed, they've been betting on
many punches he can withstand. The shock of this distracts Thorfinn long enough for a hit to land
but as he rises to his feet he announces that he will bet himself to withstand one hundred
punches. I don't know if this was intentional by the writer but Thorfinn's old fighting style
was a lot of dodging and out maneuvering but this is the complete opposite this is a completely new
Thorfinn. And with that the punches begin and the crowd watches on as 31 hits land on the son of
Thors, who skillfully twists body to minimize the impact but right before the 32nd, snake calls out to
him and this brief distraction is to a heavy punch that sends him flying backwards. Snake runs over
to check on him and says exactly what I was thinking the first time I read this "If This Were a matter
that could be solved by simply talk alone it should have been resolved long ago you're being naive" to
which Thorfinn responds "Did anybody even try to put the effort in to talk it through or did you
simply decide to fight when the other side drew their swords first" I could not take my eyes of this
panel for a while without even realizing it you likely lived this every single day that person you
walk around being so angry with which might even be yourself have you actually tried to resolve
things or did you just respond back the way they treat you letting that resentment fester inside
you? Okay, sure they started it but don't be the one to carry it on be the one to end it because
if you try to argue or fight back it immediately puts people on the defensive if you draw your
sword, as most people do the man, opposite will do the same he will become your enemy but if you
extend a handshake he too will shake yours and you will have no enemies and this is what Thors meant when he says "No one has any enemies" because chances are they don't even see you as an enemy! Humans
are incredibly complicated beings there could be a million reasons why any degree of conflict
between you and someone else started but it's incredible how a single kind gesture could turn
so many enemies into friends. Of course it doesn't apply to all situations and that's something I'll
come back to but the vast majority of fights can only be resolved without fighting because just
for a moment imagine that person who you hate so much that you're angry towards and just think
about them doing something really kind for you helping you out. You can't stay angry at them can
you? But the vast majority of people don't have the strength to do this for whatever reason it's so
much easier to stay angry resentful than to try and fix things hence why Thors saw himself as "Weak
because he needs a sword" so you need to be the one to do it it has to be you to be that incredibly
strong man and once you do before you know it not only will you have no enemies but you'll be kind
to yourself than ever before and so as Thorfinn rises once more to his feet the punches continue
to rain down with the audience in awe after the hundredth punche is thrown there's something very
poetic about the one doing the punching is the one out of breath on the floor because all that anger
in these pointless fights takes so much more out of you than you realize. The only one standing is
the one who for his real battle - a true warrior. the commander of the royal guards then asks Thorfinn
"why didn't you fight back" and the response will be remembered by you and I for as long as we are
blessed to live. "I meet you men for the first time today. I know nothing about you nor do I bear any
grudges. You are not my enemies, I have no enemies at all". And neither do you my friend, of course
this situation is just a tad extreme for real life realistically you're not going to get into
situations where being heit 100 times is going to solve anything but the message is completely
applicable Thorfinn had a literal Army of people who saw him as an enemy but because he didn't
make them his, because he didn't draw a sword in return after just one act he had no enemies as
I said at the start of the video if they're just one friendly act away from turning from enemy
to friend they were never your enemy, but what after that what if I try the peaceful option? If
tried being kind to someone and things still don't work? Here's the thing, can you honestly say you have?
I'm not suggesting you simply become a pushover at all I lived that way for a lot of my life and
yeah there are times where you do need to stand up for yourself and you should be ready for that
but it shouldn't be your first choice to react negatively in any sort of way but rather you're
last. It takes the smallest thing to dissolve the hostility between two people, it takes the smallest
change in Attitude to change how you see the world and yourself, it takes a single act to have no
enemies. Thank you so much for watching bro if you haven't already watch my first Vinland Saga video ,
I've got another in the pipeline coming out soon and a shout out to our first patrons Northstar
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