How to talk with strangers confidently?

okay i'll give you a star tip very very good very effective tip and the tip is simple the problem is about how to speak with strangers because we all want to polish our skills in english and we do not know how to do that because our circle is so limited and if we keep speaking with people who we are habitual of speaking to we probably will never really learn confidence of speaking with people outside our comfort zone yeah so hi everyone my name is alina reyes and um i'm gonna help you with something today the problem of not being able to speak with strangers okay so let's get started the first thing that i have to mention in this video is that you have to understand that when you're speaking to a stranger what you're really doing is that you are finding a clean slate for yourself this is a person who's coming with absolutely no judgments about you he carries no perception about you but if he actually carries anything about you is the image of a confident person who's willing to come up and speak to him or her okay so if he's at all judging you probably the good chance are that the good chances are that he is actually judging you to be confident okay now that drives me to my second point that is please do not overdo do not try to impress him or her okay when you are trying to start a conversation with someone whom you do not know you um feel obligated to try and impress that person that should not be your concern your primary concern should be to actually get a conversation moving okay and how can you do that let me help you with that okay there are a few things which are very easy to talk about like uh food very easy topic to start with food is something that everyone eats and mostly everyone is interested in right so food is one thing that you can get your conversation to start with then another thing that you could be talking about is movies we we love movies don't we we do right then there is something around netflix that you could pick up okay start talking about a show that you're watching okay then uh what else weather oh my god it's so hot today oh my god i'm feeling so suffocated or oh my god i'm feeling awesome today it's so positive here you love i love the vibes here something like that so just go and sit next to someone and just make just pass a simple remark about how you're feeling okay and then watch how the other person is reacting to your comment it does not matter whom you're speaking with does not matter it's a boy girl older than you younger than you what really matters is that the other person should feel comfortable about speaking with you okay so have confidence it's okay have confidence at the most what can happen is that they may not like speaking with you and they may just withdraw it's okay if that happens it's all right okay but at least you've got to give it a try i used to do that i used to do that a lot with the foreigners and believe me i have done that it's just that okay i did not find too many foreigners on indian streets but whenever i used to i used to try and speak with them and you know just to brush up my confidence these little things really help you a long way just be careful that the other person should feel comfortable about speaking with you they should not feel like withdrawing from you okay and a smile really helps keep a pleasant smile keep a pleasant demeanor and i think that is gonna be good for you okay somehow just get your conversation moving all right and i would say if that goes on for five to seven minutes you've done a good job it's a success okay so if you happen to speak to a stranger for five seven minutes it's a good enough job you've done you don't need to expect too much out of yourself five seven minutes your job is done you can move on to the other person it's all right remember why you're doing this you're doing this because you wanna brush up your confidence okay you wanna um upscale your uh english speaking skills what else can i say okay so these are a few things that i wanted to say what else do i have to say to you about this is that no matter what happens no matter how good you are and no matter how well you behave with someone there are gonna be few people who will always dislike you so be careful that you do not um judge yourself let them judge you but you don't judge yourself because there are gonna be always always gonna be a few people who will always dislike you there are people who dislike me i don't i don't have to care about it if i care about everyone i'm telling you i will end up not caring about myself at all and that would be the worst thing to be in okay so please don't care about everyone if someone does not like you it's okay it's okay there are thousands and lucks and crores of other people whom you would be who would be willing to speak with you and do remember one thing that these are human beings who have their own insecurities who have their own anxieties who have their own drama going on with their lives so even if you don't receive a very good humble response from the other side it's okay just understand that there may be something going on with them and which you're not aware about right you have a few things going on in your head at times when people are willing to speak with you you don't feel like talking to them and that may be something that is going on with them at that time so it's okay okay before you judge yourself just remind yourself that drama is happening with everyone so just cut them a slack okay okay i'll give you a star tip very very good very effective tip and the tip is simple whenever you want someone to trust you all you've got to do is just ask them a little favor a little favor as little as asking them for a glass of water or if they can lend you their phone to make a call or maybe um what else um just ask them if your dress is looking fine if your hair are okay just ask them any little favor and this is a psychological tip it really helps you when you ask someone a favor they trust you that is the most natural and human response that you're gonna receive okay so ask someone a favor and get the conversation moving okay this is gonna help you trust me in the end i would just say one thing before i end this video if you manage to strike a conversation for five minutes just to bare minimum five minutes i believe that you've already built a small repo and then it can just go on and on and on so first five minutes four or five minutes may be difficult for you but taking on from there is gonna be much easier so the first five minutes are gonna be slightly difficult on you but the rest of it is gonna be so easy and once you start doing this start talking to speaking with random people there may be a few opportunities doors opening up to you where you don't know what may just happen you may come across some really nice people and you may be ending up doing some business with them in future you don't know what can happen with a random conversation so just start and develop this habit in you it has helped me i have actually spoken with a lot of strangers though i honestly i am not someone who enjoys doing that a lot but i have done that for my betterment so it's okay to take a little pain for your betterment right that is all that i have to say to you today i hope i haven't missed out anything if i have probably i'll leave you a comment and if i have probably you may leave me a comment so just let me know in the comments if you feel that i've left out something and if there is something that you would want other people to know if i really like your comment and if it is helpful i may just pin your comment okay share this video with someone you care about i will be back and i'll be back more often now since i am back now okay i know i know you know what i mean here okay so i'll see you again you take care of your self and thank you very much for sticking by lots and lots of love bye

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Length: 8min 48sec (528 seconds)

Published: Mon Apr 05 2021