How To Dominate Any Social Situation

ragnar lothbrok is a legendary leader and main character in the show vikings in a time when power and respect meant everything he was able to rise up from being a simple farmer to a ruler to a king in this video we'll break down five different ways ragnar was able to command respect from everyone around him you don't have to do them all so you can pick the ones that you think fit you best and apply them to command respect like ragnar [Applause] [Music] [Applause] quick warning this video has spoilers through season four the first thing that earns ragnar respect is his ambition specifically ragnar has ambitious goals that other people want to be a part of and he pursues them relentlessly for example when invading paris ragnar comes up with a crazy plan to carry boats up a cliff to surprise the enemy no viking has ever tried this before notice in this clip how even rival kings praised him for this specifically because it's such an ambitious plan ragnarok you're insane because this is beautiful it's beautiful we're honored to be here with you doing the impossible most people fear failure to protect their ego they set small goals or they talk a lot about having big goals but do nothing to pursue them if you want to stand out from the crowd and quickly earn respect from the people around you then come up with an ambitious goal and start working to make it a reality ragnar does and because of this even his enemies respect him you respect ragnarok why not he is what i used to be restless ambitious that's the power of pursuing ambitious dreams that other people want to be a part of if you succeed it shows you're capable of something few others are and whether you succeed or not it shows you have the confidence to bet on yourself if you feel like you don't have the resources to pursue your dreams then you're in good company when ragnar starts his rise to power he's just a farmer no one has to follow him unless they choose to so when he suggests that men come with him to sail west to england which no viking has ever done they aren't exactly jumping at the opportunity we'll have to remember though but errol haroldson has ordered us to sail east he could kill us for disobeying his orders many people here would focus on themselves and emphasize how important their dream was to them instead ragnar speaks in you and we watch how he emphasizes that his goal will help everyone he's speaking to to achieve their greatest desires we can offer you a chance to shine in battle and impress the gods and to bring back such plunder that you have never seen before if you want people to follow your lead then explain to them how following you helps them achieve their goals by taking the verbal focus off of yourself you end up getting more respect and more of what you want for example after ragnar returns home as the first viking to successfully raid england he immediately wants to go back but his ruler feels threatened by his success and doesn't want him to go so watch how he gets what he wants it must be true that there are many more such holy places in england and other lands to the west likewise filled with such treasure and to sail there benefit the soul you can see this in our world today many people right now hate the uber wealthy and yet billionaire elon musk is incredibly respected why while most billionaires are associated with greed elon has the same first two traits as ragnar giant ambitious dreams that he positions as good for all of mankind one of the few times in vikings when someone disrespects ragnar's wishes is his own wife she stays with him after he cheats but leaves after he talks to her like this this woman is carrying my child i must take care of her when we lost our unborn son it broke my heart i had failed and i will not fail again i cannot turn this woman away he focused the speech completely on himself and she left him the very next day if instead he had focused on her pain or her desires he might have saved their marriage so in your own life whether you want to get respect from your bosses co-workers friends or family it's important to speak in wii instead of talking about what you want talk about how following you will get people what they want now everyone is a team and you just happen to be the leader they're following the third thing ragnar does that commands respect from everyone around him is project calm in the face of conflict for instance watch how he reacts when enemy soldiers threateningly approach his men during a dinner negotiation [Music] i agree to the terms imagine you're his enemy you have no idea how skilled his men are in battle but that's his reaction when you threaten him terrifying he's completely non-reactive and maintains slow movements and relaxed body language his calm instantly commands respect for another example watch how he reacts when his brother a legendary fighter threatens to kill a man he wants to keep alive and i say he dies does it really mean that much to you brother most people faced with social conflict break eye contact this successfully diffuses tension but can make you seem weak others may try to show strength by raising their voice but this can escalate the conflict ragnar holds eye contact and keeps his voice low this is a great combination your eye contact conveys confidence while speaking calmly and at a low volume helps de-escalate the situation this doesn't mean to put yourself in harm's way to get respect try to avoid physical conflicts when you can but if you find yourself in the face of social conflict this is a great playbook to follow this lack of fear helps ragnar with another habit he has that commands respect he leads from the front if ragnar asks someone to take a risk for him he takes the risk as well for example in almost every fight he's in the thick of things often leaving the safety of the shield wall to win the battle even when other people volunteer to take risks for him ragnar makes sure he carries at least an equal burden watch what he does when his friend floki volunteers to raid an enemy camp and burn their food supplies a few of us will go into the town and destroy the winter grain stores i will do it i will go no my son and i shall go we'll only need a few men compare that to the parisian emperor that hides in his castle while his men die for him and then reacts like this when ragnar sneaks into the city i win you could forgive him for his initial shock but he stays there the entire battle never getting up to help his men they are violated or sitting what is there to say all the angels in heaven are weeping father get up the heathens have gone you can tell even his own daughter no longer respects him if you've ever had a boss that expects you to work long hours while he does nothing you know how repulsive that can be but if you have a boss who works those long hours with you suddenly you're a team and you respect him for it this applies even amongst friends if you ask a friend to help you move and you make sure to do at least as much work as them they'll be happy to help you but if you ask a friend for help and then you slack off they'll resent you for it but ragnar is not just a hardened warrior the respect people have for him comes from his courage but also from his compassion ragnar sees through other people's eyes when making a decision involving someone else he puts himself in that person's shoes for example listen to how the crowd initially reacts to this old man's request but i also have a favor to ask lord what is his favor that the next time you go raiding you take me with you they laugh at him but ragnar does not he gives the old man a chance to explain himself all the friends and companions of my youth are dead and feasting and drinking with the acer in the halls of the gods i beg you lord gift me the chance to die with honor in battle and join my friends in valhalla he's an old man and might be a liability in battle no one there would object if ragnar rejected him but watch the reaction when ragnar gives him his wish this summer we shall have more ships to go west for that is our future when we return to england let's take him with us all in favor making a decision that carries risks for you but helps someone else is a great way to quickly get respect from the people around you ragnar's wife takes us to the next level by applying it even to her enemies my lady lagatha i hope you can find it in your heart to speak to the wife of the late earl of course please sit down and join us wait our house and tried to kill my father i know and if he had succeeded i would be standing where ziggy's standing now it was fairly common in vikings for a cycle of murder and revenge to occur between families by treating siggy as if she was herself lagatha instead earns a friend and ally in your own life you probably follow the golden rule well with people you like and are close to but the most respect is gained when you're in a position of power over strangers competition or people you don't like in those moments ask yourself even though this person is not someone i'm close to what would i want them to do if our positions were reversed when other people see you do that they'll immediately respect you more now a few of these are tricky to pull off if you don't have self-confidence if confidence is something you struggle with or you just want to take yours to the next level i recommend checking out our program charisma university it's the fastest way i know to build your confidence and charisma and is literally guaranteed to work in 30 days or you get your money back you can read all about the details in the link below but i think the best way to let you know what this course is about is to let the members speak for themselves so here are just a few of the things that cu members have written us in email or the course comments the first one comes from a guy promoted to a senior position early in his career and he says i don't even 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Length: 11min 43sec (703 seconds)

Published: Mon Jul 20 2020